Why is the Aqua so overly Glorified

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by pisces on Tuesday, January 15, 2008 and has 30 replies.
My appologies in advance for the below comments but I have to vent!
Why do so many women thing so highly of the Aqua? I think they put put you under some sort of stupid spell making you think they are oh so wonderful but really once you get to know them you see how selfish, manipulitive, untrustworthy, gutless and irrational they really are.
Best sex? Yeah right! So untrue. You may get a different experience out of them & thats why u think its so great but when the honey moon period is over they have no energy & if anything a lower sex drive than normal guys (I am sure they will dispute this. And then they are prone to sharing there loving with other women because its for 'the good of all' & they were trying to make them happy because they felt sorry for them - whatever!
Have a seat....what has he done now??
I am best at everything.
That is all.
UnusualCancer- "I don't think aquas really like the process of a relationship and that's the problem they have with women, but they don't mind if there is a someone they feel comfortable with who can actually put up with them. I believe they can and will appreciate such a person if they are lucky enough to find her."
Exactly. I think this statement sums it all up about Aquas. Just be there for them. They aren't so complicated after all. smile
It goes without saying that not all aqua's are good in bed. Not all of them are good people, some of them are in fact "selfish, manipulitive, untrustworthy, gutless and irrational." Just like any group of men, there are some that know how to respect others and some that don't.
I have met both kinds of men and both kinds of Aquas. The ugly Aqua is no fun, but my oh my, you'll never hear me change my mind about the goodness of a good Aqua. I don't see them being overly glorified, they are one of the biggest mysteries in the zodiac and a lot of people are intrigued by that. People are drawn to them.
"Have a seat....what has he done now??"
Lol, you beat me to the punch. =D What has one of my brethern done now?
It's not just the sign, it's character. Character is key. Along with age and experience, but for the most part it's character.
You will meet one person that acts quite a bit like another person you know with the same sign and gender, but will have different character.
Character changes, signs don't.
Unusualcancer is spot-on. Even us women are kind of like that. An egg is an egg but there are good and bad ones.
(( but really once you get to know them you see how selfish, manipulitive, untrustworthy, gutless and irrational they really are. ))
you are a pisces. what else you expect? its like mixing oil and water and complaining itss not mixing well.
pffft^^
Cheers. I get what ur all saying - its not the sign just the man.
We have been together for 2+ years & living together (on our own) for the last 6 months. I guess some of his nastier traits are are coming out. He belches & farts constantly! that doesnt bother me so much as does the double standard - Like if I dont clean the bathroom for a week & he cleans it he'll make out like he should get a medal & I am such a terrible GF for not doing it!(he maybe cleans once a month if that - & thats not including vacumming or bathrooms.)
Anyways, I just had to vent cause he made a few nasty comment & has been behaving poorly as of late. He was a total ass to me for the first year we were together so I moved interstate for awhile to figure myself out & he called every day (most times 2ce to three times a day) & visited every couple of weeks while I was away. He talked me into moving back up & in with him so I did - What I mean by talked me back is that (like a typical Aqua not trying to take responsibility for 'your decision')is he said he would move down & he wouldnt let me go if I didnt move back.
It has been great 80% of the time as we are good friends (he says im his only real friend - awww Tongue cheesy) I just think he has gotten so comfortable he forgets that I am also a woman & his girlfriend and things he does sometimes will offend me.
Sometimes he just out right insults me.
Then there are the things I do for him that he expects & takes for granted - Like me cooking - I am going to be studying at night & working full time during the day & what does he have to say about this? "who's going to cook for me?" Grrrrr
I get paraniod too because of his womanising ways of the past - hes changed allot & I just find it hard to believe he's changed completely. That scares me. & when I think about it I go quiet cause I dont want him to think I am paraniod - makes me look insecure. & I cant talk to him about it Sad
now.
Was that so hard??
He sound like a man plain and simple.
My suggestion is shake things up a bit...he needs to get uncomfortable again.Winking
Yeah I feel beta Now Big Grin
He is a bratt!!! Ill sort that out! Think Ill go on a little weekender with my mate - AWAY from him smile
"^^mean"
No, ust doing my civic duty. smile
*just
Lady M is right.
Get your high heels on and go clubbing. Do it to remember how many guys were chasing you before Aqua came along -- don't try and make him jealous.
As for the cleaning, all men are like that. They never clean, OR complain if they do. My ex-husband did the dishes, but complained so much about it, it would have been better if I had done them. We used to alternate, and he still complained, and finally I said "If we divorce, then you'll be doing them every day, not every other day."
True true girl friends smile Boys will be Boys - I have to say the Aqua boy is 'specially' difficult thou! & he thinks he is gods gift sometimes i swear the man can be so irresponsible! grrr ARRRGGG
Ommm Ommmm Om Shanthi Serenity now Serenity now!!
Anyways .... Thing is I am laying off the booze & will be hard to do if I hit the town Sad I am hoping for a yoga reteat with my little Sagittarian buddy!! Then maybe a bit of boy viewing at a trendy cafe somewhere near the beach could be good Winkingor maybe a bit of a gamble at the casino!!! OoOoOOO this is sounding better & better by the second!
Opps hee hee *retreat NOT reteat
(( He is a bratt!!! Ill sort that out! ))
get a baseball bat and hang it somewhere he can see with a nice caption which explains it alternate use.
You need to Out-Aquarian him! Lift yourself up like SuperGirl and sail out into the air! Go do something charitable, help a group or something, something that will not benefit you but benefit mankind. Get outside of yourself and you will see that this silly aquarian man is but a grain of sand compared to the big, huge world that is out there waiting for you to conquer it.
Then give him a good dose of ignoring and think up a good clueless look when he asks why nobody has cleaned the bathroom. "Huh? I thought you were going to do it? I gotta go help homeless kids learn to read, on my way out the door, see ya!"
I LOVE IT!!! Mermaid!!! Ok - Time for doing & less tralking
The Aqua trait I am referring to isnt the belching & farting but the double standard with everything and the way he can make me feel bad when he should be the one in the sh1t! The Aqua is always better than everyone else because most people to them are Idiots!
Heres some more ranting about Man traits that svck!
If I get mad at him he'll get mad at me for getting mad at him - I cant insult him but he thinks its fun to insult me (ie telling me I am not qualified enough for a position I got offered & pointing out a good Terry White diet while patting my bum), He can pull a all nighter on the town but if I did he would be furious, he can flirt because he says he is just trying to cheer the girl up but if I even start talking to a guy at a BBQ he'll be over there in a sec sniffing out the dude Im talking to & tell me Im being a flirt, if I spend my $ $ he'll get pissed if he spends his on something random he thinks im nagging if I say what did you do that for, if I whinge about work he'll tell me to chill out & Im being a psycho but when he comes home ranting about his drunk ass boss I am expected to to be really interested & supportive, if I dont clean the house he'll give me looks & tell me off but then he barely lifts a finger to clean & when he does he wants a medal, he told me to shut all the windows when I leave for work in the morning in case it rains & then if its too hot he'll be like why didnt you leave the windows open just a little bit ... the list goes on & on! This is any man really - but hey still grates your nerves!!
I mentioned b4 UC that we have been living together on our own for the last 6 months (we lived together with flatmates prior to this) & so his nastier traits are coming out - the ones you dont notice as much when you dont live together alone. He is getting comfortable which leads to boredom in my books & I fear he will get a wandering eye if I don't shake things up.
I was with a guy for 4 years (living together for 3 years) he was clean, cooked, took me out to dinner and gave me massages - didnt belch or fart in my face & brought me a rose in the mornings - he had other sh!t things going for him thou and I dont think we were really in Love Love.
At least I do really Love him so Ill find a blind eye to turn at him. Its just hard with a bratt Aqua cause they really want a perfect woman & I am far from that! Dont worry I could come up with a page of the good stuff he does as well Winking but I am ranting rite now!
I did say UC that I could give you a page of the good stuff he does Big Grin He is a good man & trust me I have already left his ass once for being a tool & since then he has done a U turn with his life - think we both just needed to see what we wanted & to grow up. This worked & we have a better love & understanding of one another now. The things I mentioned are trivial things that clock up in any relationship that a mature person should have the sense to overlook but it is good to vent & perhaps a chance to stir things up in a relationship.
SOME Aquarian guys can be quite frustrating in a relationship, even they know this.
The reason I say its an Aqua trait is cause I do have to say that allot of Aquas think extraordinarily well. I have noticed (in my experience) alot of My Aqua mates, ex's & BF have exhibited the same behaviour. Allot of people are pretty stupid but Aquas tend to have very little tolerance for people they see as "stupid people who should know better" & this can be annoying!
ROFL @ bijou!!! One crazy wench coming up!
WOW...... reading these coments i sense a little bit of hate coming from kielbasa.
Its infair and ignorant to belieive that all men born under the aquarius sign are going to behave alike according to other peoples experiences and assuming that these stories are accurate and true.
I have been with my aqua for 7 years now and have known him for over 11 years and believe me, its been amazing! We were friends first for over 4 years and then our attraction got the better of us and decided to make a go of it. I believe that the strenght of our relationship is built on the trust we have for each other as well as the deep love we hold and this is not formed over night. He is still unpredictable but that makes things exciting, it would be boring without!
I hope things work out for you pisces but sometimes, regardless of star signs, things are just not ment to be.
Look, Pisces, if someone says something insulting to you, even if they are completely clueless that it insults you, YOU are to blame for NOT SAYING ANYTHING!
Trust me, I've been in the same boat. One of the things I love about being an Aqua is my honesty. I've had times, when I was much younger, when I would refrain from saying anything. WHAT is the point? IF you want a solid foundation with your Aqua, you owe it to yourself, and him, to say something and overcome your fear. You can tell him you don't like something he said without being a bitch about it. "That insults me, I don't like it, nothing personal, I'm not mad, just please don't say that to me anymore." Let him chew on that. Being an aqua, he'll get it. If you get emotional, then he won't.
Trust and honesty are key here. Tension is going to build and you will harbor bad feelings if you keep from saying what bothers you (I'm referring to insults, here). Some stuff I think IS better left unsaid, but certain particular things such as feeling insulted by something he said should be brought up and dealt with. Remember, you are an independent woman, and while you love him and put up with his shit, you are NOT SCARED to let him know you don't like something he says or does that is insulting to you. It's possible he may be oblivious to it, however it is equally possible he is not and is like "haha I said X and Y to her and I could tell it made her mad but she won't say anything."
Say it. But not with emotion.
Your Aqua friend,
Mermaid
pisces...just remember it is easy to LOVE someone, but not so easy to LIKE someone!
not that i should really talk, since i am about to start living with my aqua for the first time and i am sure i will encounter a lot of what you are talking about on this board Winking
?And I will repeat, cheating, jealousy, abusiveness, hyposcrisy, etc., are not classic aquarian traits. That doesn't mean there are no aquas who possess these traits, but they would be due to influences from other signs in their chart that do possess these traits.?
Don't think I said cheating, jealousy, abusiveness and hypocrisy were standard Aquarian Traits hey. Maybe a bit of hypocrisy Tongue Cant remember everything I said - HA - I was angry.
Um I dont know how long you have know your Aqua mates for or how close you are to them UC but aqua's saying allot of people are idiots does strike me as an Aqua trait - especially in the work place. Mostly because Aqua's are forward thinkers & can see what needs to be done in advance in order to get something done right. I don't think allot of the ones I know really think there boss is on to it and can usually get something done more efficiently than the boss but the boss never listens (especially around here because there are allot of bosses with huge egos & not much upstairs). Of course they want everyone to work as a team & be happy aswel which in itself is a mission! I could talk about this for ages so Ill stop there.
Now please, I have had my share of relationships, I can tell a trait from typical Male behaviour & from Arshol behaviour too (had my share of nasty guys) The traits you mentioned above are kinda typical Aqua ones however the Mr I am with doesnt have allot of those traits (when he was younger he did) - For instance he was the one to initiate the "relationship" and tell me he loved me very early in the relationship & I was the one to not say it back - he doesnt spend (nor likes to) much time away from me and he is the one telling me to tell him how I feel (Why he would want to know that??)He loves hugs & can be very romantic (when he wants to be) - So I dont know.
I mean My Mum is an Aqua & she is very different - but then again I think male & female signs are different. My best mates dad is an Aqua & he is totally in his own planet, very nerdy, drags his huge family around when he travels & is very selfish. My ex Aqua was an alcoholic who didnt like hugs (at all!!!) & never shared his feelings. Then there was another guy I was seeing who was also seeing half the town. I dont know. What is an Aqua trait.
kielbasa.... these things have happened in my relationship with Mr Aqua. He has never not cheated on anyone of his gfs. I told him when I decided to love him that I would take him for who is was - unfortuately at that stage I thought he was one thing when really he wasnt. I moved interstate to get away from him. I am not perfect either, I have done some seriously nasty things but the things he did ripped my little heart out.
When I left him I told him he didnt have to change but the person he was, was not the person I wanted to be with anymore and that I had changed so I had to leave. It wasnt till I saw some serious change in his life (that took months & months and that was because he didnt like the person he was anymore nothing to do with me)not just pretty words out his mouth that I took him back. I just think now he is comfy again he is slipping back to his old ways.
I think I am a bit confussed - trying to see both sides of the story with Mr Aqua man & myself.

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