Why would he call after 7 months!!

I dated an Aquarius guy a year ago. He chased me for four years, we dated for about a month, he got what he wanted, then ignored me for two months. We talked for about another month and a half, then I cut him out completely and stop talking to him in February. I unfriended him on Facebook and disconnected on all social media in May. He's reached out only a few times with a Facebook like or a stupid IM and I've ignored every single one. So basically, seven months since any mutual contact. He knows I'm mad and don't want to talk to him. So yesterday, he calls me and leaves me a message for my birthday and asks me to call him back, which of course I didn't. He's the one who ignored me for months on end and pushed me away, so I give him what he wants and walk. Why is he even calling me??

Dont let men chase you for 4 years, because no living human being wants to waste their precious time n somebody who would rather dgaf. And set your "expectations" straight before you sleep with anybody ever, especially if you want a commitment. Nobody is a mind reader.

I didn't make him do anything. I was married and didn't agree to date him until well after I got divorced.

Posted by RamOfPeace
Dont let men chase you for 4 years, because no living human being wants to waste their precious time n somebody who would rather dgaf. And set your "expectations" straight before you sleep with anybody ever, especially if you want a commitment. Nobody is a mind reader.

Again, I was married and didn't date him until well after I was divorced. There were no expectations while we dated, and I didn't want anything serious. I don't even referred to whatever we were doing even dating. I knew all about Aquas, and certainly didn't plan to scare him off. Either way, this isn't answering my question. He's the one who blew me off, and I'm curious why he's contacting me seven months after I broke off all contact with him.

Posted by dolluxe
The reason why he's calling you shouldn't be important. You've moved on haven't you? Why bother knowing the intention behind his actions? Just keep ignoring and live your life without him. Simple.

Because I'm a Libra and an analyst. My strong curiosity drives me to know the motivations behind everyone's behavior. And believe it or not, some people like to have some sense of closure when it comes to relationships that ended badly or mysteriously. Not many people get that. And I came here hoping to get some insight from Aquas, not questions or judgments over why I'm asking this question.

There could be a multitude of reasons he's contacting you...

He's bored and passing the time.

He's testing the waters to see if your amendable for something more.

The other women he was pursuing fell through.

He has an opening in his weekly line up he wants you to fill.

One thing you can count on, he doesn't see you as a priority.

I highly believe that he wants to test the waters just like ladyneptune said.

always pay attention to guys who disappear and reappear out of a sudden, they know that a little sweet talk, some lame excuse and some fake effort gets them down into panties.

if you moved on for good then keep it that way. I know it tickles us ladies if a guy reappears again like "omg why does he come back, could he be serious this time?" but no... 9/10 times if a guy disppears on you then he wasn't serious to begin with. had something like that with a leo for YEARS and I was too stupid to realize that the only times he came back after ignoring me was when his other chicks turned him down lol lame

Posted by AquaNextDoor
I highly believe that he wants to test the waters just like ladyneptune said.

always pay attention to guys who disappear and reappear out of a sudden, they know that a little sweet talk, some lame excuse and some fake effort gets them down into panties.

if you moved on for good then keep it that way. I know it tickles us ladies if a guy reappears again like "omg why does he come back, could he be serious this time?" but no... 9/10 times if a guy disppears on you then he wasn't serious to begin with. had something like that with a leo for YEARS and I was too stupid to realize that the only times he came back after ignoring me was when his other chicks turned him down lol lame

*Rolling my eyes*

What you guys say totally makes sense, especially since it turns out it looks like he's going to be in my city (he lives across the country) in a couple of weeks. What an ass.

Posted by Spooky926

Posted by dolluxe
The reason why he's calling you shouldn't be important. You've moved on haven't you? Why bother knowing the intention behind his actions? Just keep ignoring and live your life without him. Simple.

Because I'm a Libra and an analyst. My strong curiosity drives me to know the motivations behind everyone's behavior. And believe it or not, some people like to have some sense of closure when it comes to relationships that ended badly or mysteriously. Not many people get that. And I came here hoping to get some insight from Aquas, not questions or judgments over why I'm asking this question.

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As a Libra I get what you saying.... However was the closure you speak of not when you cut him out of your life? It just makes no sense what you are saying there. Do you want him to validate your closure?

If your life has been good without him in it the past 7 months, why go back and change it?

If you want to rekindle a friendship, then hear him out, but don't let him get under your skin.

Sex.