Will he come back?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by HoneyHaunting_ on Wednesday, July 25, 2018 and has 8 replies.
My aqua ex broke up with me a few months ago. We kept talking for a bit and he was down to get back together once his life calmed down but the thing is...

he KEPT talking to me afterwards like it was fine. After a few days of being just friends with him, joking casually I was like uhh. I don't appreciate being in this grey area so I need an answer. Do you want to be with me yes or no? He said no. He can't handle arguments with me but is more than willing to support me as a friend. I said no fucking way. It's all or nothing with me. I still love you so be with me or never again.

He begged me to stay his friend. He didn't even want to block me initially when I asked him too, but he did. I noticed a few weeks ago he unblocked me probably just to snoop. I don't expect him to ever reach out first, but I really want him to. Organically, without me having to fuel things. I kinda promised myself I would never make the first move with him again, but should I? I really love and miss him and I wanted to sit down and repair things. I had a logical plan put in place to do such but we split up before I got a chance to do it with him. I think we are a great match if we just fine tuned a few things.
First you need to fix your attitudes.
I don't think you should. He has already made it crystal clear to you that he doesn't wanna get back.. until he changes his mind (if he does) don't reach out to him otherwise you'll seem desperate and that will drive him further away. In the meantime just work on being the best version of yourself and on being content with or without him
Posted by Waterbearerwearer

This reach out first bs. GAaammmes.

Aqua won’t buy into this kind of exchange cos it’s baseless.

I don't know what you mean.
Posted by AerialView

First you need to fix your attitudes.
My attitude is fine though tbh.
Posted by ubuntu888

I don't think you should. He has already made it crystal clear to you that he doesn't wanna get back.. until he changes his mind (if he does) don't reach out to him otherwise you'll seem desperate and that will drive him further away. In the meantime just work on being the best version of yourself and on being content with or without him
The thing is it's not super crystal clear. I agree that I shouldn't reach out to him either but at the same time I'm thinking. I have thought long and hard about the situation and am making strides to better myself. I hope he has too because he definitely needed work. Just seems like such a waste that we couldn't work out.
Posted by Waterbearerwearer

Posted by HoneyHaunting_

Posted by Waterbearerwearer

This reach out first bs. GAaammmes.

Aqua won’t buy into this kind of exchange cos it’s baseless.

I don't know what you mean.
If you are pining for him

Tell him.

That’s it. That simple.

Then you walk away knowing you left no stone unturned and you’ll feel free to explore other interests.

The blockades fall.

His reaction is irrelevant. Your actions are though so keep your words short sharp and to the point.

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Oh I see. Idk man. I'm kinda tired of always making the first move all the time... I'll think about it.
Posted by ACsquarepluto

No reason to worry whether your communication is logical or whether you come off desperate. If you express appreciation for him and say you're willing to compromise the dynamic should take a positive turn
Thank you for your optimism. I appreciate this a lot. I'll think more about it.