Would aquas like if someone disappears on them?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Nouran20 on Saturday, March 9, 2013 and has 33 replies.
Hi aquas
since aquas are famous for the disappearing act and the whole being aloof thing. Needing time and space and hate partners that suffocate them and limit their options.
What would happen if we flip the whole thing and instead of u disappearing, u suddenly discover that ur partner is going missing
busy with a million things other than u
not talking that much to u
not giving u the enough care/time u want
disappearing for couple of days then re apearing outa no wer
asking u to give them space
spending too much time on their own or with their friends but NOT with u for like weeks!!
being told by ur partner that he/she loves u so much but their actions show the opposite
getting confused of whether they wana marry u or just wana stay friends (this has been a major complain from everyone towards aquas especially aqua guys)
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY if your partner suddenly shows signs that they r scared of commitment even though they have asked u to move in or proposed or anything like that earlier?
Would u understand? would u move on? or would u wait or go ANGRY NUTS on them?????
just say how u would feel if all that has been done to u
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You do know that Aquas are actually attracted to each other as well right?
Are you frustrated today?
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They'd either not notice and if they did they'd assume you we're busy
Or they'd assume you we're playing games. They don't like that.
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A healthy aqua (I don't know about jerks, and they exist in every sign) does love its independence and freedom but doesn't disappear completely. We like being able to live our own life, see our friends a lot, be busy with our work or an activity or a hobby, etc. And then see the person we love. It doesn't mean we're gonna disappear on them, it just means we want both worlds, and seperately smile We will always come back to the person we love.
Now if that happens to me, well it depends. If a guy tells me "I'm gonna be real busy with this thing" I understand he will disappear for a while and won't bother him with it. If he doesn't tell me anything on the other hand, and doesn't answer my texts or whatever, that's different, and I won't like it. But as long as you have a logical explanation, we're forgiving people. If it's a mind game or just because you're not interested anymore, however... well then we might just disappear too and for good this time smile
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Posted by Galyn
A healthy aqua (I don't know about jerks, and they exist in every sign) does love its independence and freedom but doesn't disappear completely. We like being able to live our own life, see our friends a lot, be busy with our work or an activity or a hobby, etc. And then see the person we love. It doesn't mean we're gonna disappear on them, it just means we want both worlds, and seperately smile We will always come back to the person we love.
Now if that happens to me, well it depends. If a guy tells me "I'm gonna be real busy with this thing" I understand he will disappear for a while and won't bother him with it. If he doesn't tell me anything on the other hand, and doesn't answer my texts or whatever, that's different, and I won't like it. But as long as you have a logical explanation, we're forgiving people. If it's a mind game or just because you're not interested anymore, however... well then we might just disappear too and for good this time smile


What's annoying is the spend a lot of time with people who don't matter than those who do
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I'm sure they'd either hate it or leave it, those that play these kind of games anyway. Can't say I've had it happen or had it happen to me though but I can imagine if someone did that to me I'd probably be pissed off, confront them about it and then up and leave if they're being wishy washy about it.
Thing is though I can stay friends and maybe that's the most basic truth about Aquas as long as no boundaries are stepped on or if the situation is resolved, there won't be grudges, it'll just never be the same again.
As for the commitment part I've never really thought about it whether they are scared or not. In fact the idea of a marriage to me is just that, an idea. I don't need to get married but I'll do it if my partner wanted to, it's just a legal binding contract after all it doesn't say how much I love them. So in that sense maybe, I have in the past talked about marriage and kids but most of the time it's just an idea... an idea that I can be with you for the rest of my life etc.
Anyway cheer up! There are bad Aquas there are good Aquas!
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Posted by ScorpioFemale79
Posted by Galyn
A healthy aqua (I don't know about jerks, and they exist in every sign) does love its independence and freedom but doesn't disappear completely. We like being able to live our own life, see our friends a lot, be busy with our work or an activity or a hobby, etc. And then see the person we love. It doesn't mean we're gonna disappear on them, it just means we want both worlds, and seperately smile We will always come back to the person we love.
Now if that happens to me, well it depends. If a guy tells me "I'm gonna be real busy with this thing" I understand he will disappear for a while and won't bother him with it. If he doesn't tell me anything on the other hand, and doesn't answer my texts or whatever, that's different, and I won't like it. But as long as you have a logical explanation, we're forgiving people. If it's a mind game or just because you're not interested anymore, however... well then we might just disappear too and for good this time smile


What's annoying is the spend a lot of time with people who don't matter than those who do
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I totally disagree. My friends matter just as much as my boyfriend when I have one, even if I love him. If a guy tells me to chose between him and them, he can get lost.
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I would continue with my life haha
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Posted by Galyn
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
Posted by Galyn
A healthy aqua (I don't know about jerks, and they exist in every sign) does love its independence and freedom but doesn't disappear completely. We like being able to live our own life, see our friends a lot, be busy with our work or an activity or a hobby, etc. And then see the person we love. It doesn't mean we're gonna disappear on them, it just means we want both worlds, and seperately smile We will always come back to the person we love.
Now if that happens to me, well it depends. If a guy tells me "I'm gonna be real busy with this thing" I understand he will disappear for a while and won't bother him with it. If he doesn't tell me anything on the other hand, and doesn't answer my texts or whatever, that's different, and I won't like it. But as long as you have a logical explanation, we're forgiving people. If it's a mind game or just because you're not interested anymore, however... well then we might just disappear too and for good this time smile


What's annoying is the spend a lot of time with people who don't matter than those who do


I totally disagree. My friends matter just as much as my boyfriend when I have one, even if I love him. If a guy tells me to chose between him and them, he can get lost.
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I think I love Galyn. My type of girl lol. *give Galyn a high-five*
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Posted by Galyn
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
Posted by Galyn
A healthy aqua (I don't know about jerks, and they exist in every sign) does love its independence and freedom but doesn't disappear completely. We like being able to live our own life, see our friends a lot, be busy with our work or an activity or a hobby, etc. And then see the person we love. It doesn't mean we're gonna disappear on them, it just means we want both worlds, and seperately smile We will always come back to the person we love.
Now if that happens to me, well it depends. If a guy tells me "I'm gonna be real busy with this thing" I understand he will disappear for a while and won't bother him with it. If he doesn't tell me anything on the other hand, and doesn't answer my texts or whatever, that's different, and I won't like it. But as long as you have a logical explanation, we're forgiving people. If it's a mind game or just because you're not interested anymore, however... well then we might just disappear too and for good this time smile


What's annoying is the spend a lot of time with people who don't matter than those who do


I totally disagree. My friends matter just as much as my boyfriend when I have one, even if I love him. If a guy tells me to chose between him and them, he can get lost.
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well what if u had a friend that has bothered/hurt or annoyed ur partner and ur partner is tellin u that u shouldnt talk to ur friend again. what would u do?
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Posted by Nouran20
Hi aquas
since aquas are famous for the disappearing act and the whole being aloof thing. Needing time and space and hate partners that suffocate them and limit their options.
What would happen if we flip the whole thing and instead of u disappearing, u suddenly discover that ur partner is going missing
busy with a million things other than u
not talking that much to u
not giving u the enough care/time u want
disappearing for couple of days then re apearing outa no wer
asking u to give them space
spending too much time on their own or with their friends but NOT with u for like weeks!!
being told by ur partner that he/she loves u so much but their actions show the opposite
getting confused of whether they wana marry u or just wana stay friends (this has been a major complain from everyone towards aquas especially aqua guys)
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY if your partner suddenly shows signs that they r scared of commitment even though they have asked u to move in or proposed or anything like that earlier?
Would u understand? would u move on? or would u wait or go ANGRY NUTS on them?????
just say how u would feel if all that has been done to u







I would marry him. I love my space. Lol I'm dating a fire sign exclusively and he's perfect for me. All the space yet attention I need. smile
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lol so ur actually saying u like it if someone did all the above things to u? WOW!
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Posted by WaterCup
I think I love Galyn. My type of girl lol. *give Galyn a high-five*


*High-five! + secret aquarius handshake (I'm sure there's one)*
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Posted by Nouran20
Posted by Galyn
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
Posted by Galyn
A healthy aqua (I don't know about jerks, and they exist in every sign) does love its independence and freedom but doesn't disappear completely. We like being able to live our own life, see our friends a lot, be busy with our work or an activity or a hobby, etc. And then see the person we love. It doesn't mean we're gonna disappear on them, it just means we want both worlds, and seperately smile We will always come back to the person we love.
Now if that happens to me, well it depends. If a guy tells me "I'm gonna be real busy with this thing" I understand he will disappear for a while and won't bother him with it. If he doesn't tell me anything on the other hand, and doesn't answer my texts or whatever, that's different, and I won't like it. But as long as you have a logical explanation, we're forgiving people. If it's a mind game or just because you're not interested anymore, however... well then we might just disappear too and for good this time smile


What's annoying is the spend a lot of time with people who don't matter than those who do


I totally disagree. My friends matter just as much as my boyfriend when I have one, even if I love him. If a guy tells me to chose between him and them, he can get lost.


well what if u had a friend that has bothered/hurt or annoyed ur partner and ur partner is tellin u that u shouldnt talk to ur friend again. what would u do?
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I see it like that: chicks befor dicks.
Haha but to be more serious: I would talk about it, try to understand the problem, etc etc. I don't believe there's only one side to every story. My ex understood that, because even though he got jealous of a guy-friend I had, he knew better than to make me chose. My friends are VERY important to me, and making me chose would only make me run away. You have to trust me. If you don't, it's just an unhealthy relationship. And obviously, I'd try my best to reassure you as well.
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Relating myself to this topic, I've decided to take a step back and move on from the Aqua guy in my life. He doesn??t seem to show any interest in me. Since the Valentines day thing I did for him (and for me that was the first time ever to do something special for someone), I have had no contact with him. I messaged him once and he chose not to respond. I realised the only time he wants to talk to me is when he??s horny. lol.. But if I want to chat to him he??s got no time to chat to me.
Its about him someone made effort with me for a change.
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Disappearing thing can be sort out easily only if u are able to stimulate his intellectual mind otherwise he'll be looking elsewhere for that. Talk something about whats happening around the world and how can it be sorted (even if he cant) rather than talking about your shoes or clothes. And he is not gona care if you started disappearing because they are the least possessive signs in the zodiac. so you want him with you all the time, then start reading reader's digest and spit a pool of information for him, let him think and he'll be horny all the time.
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Relating myself to this topic, I've decided to take a step back and move on from the Aqua guy in my life. He doesn??t seem to show any interest in me. Since the Valentines day thing I did for him (and for me that was the first time ever to do something special for someone), I have had no contact with him. I messaged him once and he chose not to respond. I realised the only time he wants to talk to me is when he??s horny. lol.. But if I want to chat to him he??s got no time to chat to me.
Its about him someone made effort with me for a change.



I'm so sorry. Hate to hear that.
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My aqua hasn't done any of that to me. I think someone that really cares about you wouldn't be that way. Look at it this way - you'll definitely appreciate the next guy more so than you would have had you not been with the aqua (unless you allow him to treat you the same). Yep, there's always a positive side to focus on!
Now, he has spent a lot of time with his family and I am totally okay with and support that!!! I don't need to see him everyday and I would never crowd him. Of course, he doesn't mind when I spend time with my friends either. It is a two way street, of which I am grateful.
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I think I'm also going to be so bold as to say this:
If you are not okay with spending time apart, doing separate things, as a couple, you are not cut out to date an Aquarious.
It's all about the quality of time spent, not the quantity.
Wait, or am I just quoting the cap motto (quality over quantity?). lol!! Either way, if you can't adopt this attitude, you won't make it with the aqua personality.
Just sayin'
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Posted by Angeleyes17
Relating myself to this topic, I've decided to take a step back and move on from the Aqua guy in my life. He doesn??t seem to show any interest in me. Since the Valentines day thing I did for him (and for me that was the first time ever to do something special for someone), I have had no contact with him. I messaged him once and he chose not to respond. I realised the only time he wants to talk to me is when he??s horny. lol.. But if I want to chat to him he??s got no time to chat to me.
Its about him someone made effort with me for a change.



I may suggest for u to do this but again its optional and it depends on how u feel. Personally I feel really angry for u that u did somethin special for him and he never even contacted u after that. I mean obviously u both have feelings and he knows it. But I may say maybe he got a little shocked realising maybe that u might be too serious about him and that he needs time to think. However u said he would only talk to u when hes horny. well I guess its very wise of u to leave any guy who does such a thing. That means he doesnt truely appreciate u as a person he just appreciates sex!
I think its a VERY good thing that u stopped any further texts cuz that will just make him think low of u and he will run away even faster. Im sayin that frm experience.
BUT............. I think if u caaaaaant stop thinking y he did that..just send him JUST one more text sayin "i dunno y ur acting like I dont exist anymore, not something i respect after spending some time together and sharing some good moments. But its ok I get it if u dont appreciate my feelings for u I guess Im gona have to stop annoying u and good luck with u life..BYE"
I guess that will get him thinking a lot about ur message and could encourage him to reply to justify himself blah blah..but DONT and i mean it when i say DONT text him anything after that. just wait and watch how he reacts and THINK b4 u do or say anything. Guess that applies to any guy not jus aquas
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Posted by Galyn
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Posted by ScorpioFemale79
Posted by Galyn
A healthy aqua (I don't know about jerks, and they exist in every sign) does love its independence and freedom but doesn't disappear completely. We like being able to live our own life, see our friends a lot, be busy with our work or an activity or a hobby, etc. And then see the person we love. It doesn't mean we're gonna disappear on them, it just means we want both worlds, and seperately smile We will always come back to the person we love.
Now if that happens to me, well it depends. If a guy tells me "I'm gonna be real busy with this thing" I understand he will disappear for a while and won't bother him with it. If he doesn't tell me anything on the other hand, and doesn't answer my texts or whatever, that's different, and I won't like it. But as long as you have a logical explanation, we're forgiving people. If it's a mind game or just because you're not interested anymore, however... well then we might just disappear too and for good this time smile


What's annoying is the spend a lot of time with people who don't matter than those who do


I totally disagree. My friends matter just as much as my boyfriend when I have one, even if I love him. If a guy tells me to chose between him and them, he can get lost.


well what if u had a friend that has bothered/hurt or annoyed ur partner and ur partner is tellin u that u shouldnt talk to ur friend again. what would u do?



I see it like that: chicks befor dicks.
Haha but to be more serious: I would talk about it, try to understand the problem, etc etc. I don't believe there's only one side to every story. My ex understood that, because even though he got jealous of a guy-friend I had, he knew better than to make me chose. My friends are VERY important to me, and making me chose would only make me run away. You have to trust me. If you don't, it's just an unhealthy relationship. And obviously, I'd try my best to reassure you as well.

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Well Galyn ur a good aqua and i like ur way of thinking so far
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^^^prophecy. & hey, chin up scorp. At least you tried. Love is waiting for you elsewhere.
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I think she ought to leave it alone. No text, no call, all cold shoulder.
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Damn, I'm slow, well +1 on what truecap said. The above post was to her & angeleyes.
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Posted by Angeleyes17
Relating myself to this topic, I've decided to take a step back and move on from the Aqua guy in my life. He doesn??t seem to show any interest in me. Since the Valentines day thing I did for him (and for me that was the first time ever to do something special for someone), I have had no contact with him. I messaged him once and he chose not to respond. I realised the only time he wants to talk to me is when he??s horny. lol.. But if I want to chat to him he??s got no time to chat to me.
Its about him someone made effort with me for a change.



I'm so sorry. Hate to hear that.
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I know it sucks!! I wanted it to work. And deep down I actually do hope some sense does come to him.. but I'm tired of keeping a hold on something that isnt happening.
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^^^prophecy. & hey, chin up scorp. At least you tried. Love is waiting for you elsewhere.


Thanks I hope so! x
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Nouran20
I think you are right. Its something I don??t think he??s ever got or received from anyone and its caught him off guard maybe. I actually do feel that he watches my moves via Twitter and instagram but doesn??t show it. He??s done this other times as well. Randomly out of the blue he will message me, and I??ll just melt and give in. I hate that.. something about him. I don??t think I can open up to him like that to be honest. Feel as if he??s going to run a mile because it??s the mushy emotional stuff and drama.
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@Angeleyes17
I feel so horrible Sad You shouldn't feel bad in the least bit about anything.... MAYBE one thing in that you let him have the goodies before he proved he was ever worthy of them! I'm not judging either everyone has thier own form of love language and method of courting someone they are interested in. Beleive it or not despite being an Aqua my love language is physical touch as well. You will attract me and keep me by your brain, strength, independence, charm, and originality BUT for some damn reason the only thing that truly makes me feel loved is physical touch. Maybe, because I am rarely touched or touch anyone in real life who knows.... funny shit no lie growing up the only person who touched me much at all as a child growing up was probably my dad and my grandma who ironically is an Aquarius. Hmm *starting to wonder if he he made it sound like daddy and grandma molested him or something* hahah Tongue Anyways, I try to hold off on that stuff as long as I can and I'm a guy... is that weird??
And as far as what Nouron20 said... yes, that is a possibility... a very very plausible possibility and is very much in keeping with an anquaruin personality as well as how we sometimes process things.... But I feel that thinking that way is just giving him an excuse to act like that because he is an Aquarius. It is one of our negative attributes for a reason; don't try to excuse it, and you being a scorpio in some ways should be able to relate to it when ya'll do roughly the same thing when you don't know how you feel about a person or situation or w/e. Basically, the topic of that Scorpio member R1g4m0rt1us's
(or however you spell that cocktail mix numbers/letters of a name) thread on the scorpio board. Just know over all I think you have done all one can do... If he really isn't a douchebag I'm sure you will hear from him and if you do I would not let him have your precious lady pumps until he agrees to commit to a serious relationship! Don't force feed that down his throat just don't make yourself available in that way and it will have a duel beneficial effect for you. Actually triple: (1)you will learn a lot about him by how he responds to it and How much he really thinks of you 'if he really likes you more than just a booty call' yada yada (2) No matter if he is a douchebag or not it will auto-make you more attractive to him because you are not just catering to him and your reason for it is quite logical (3)It will feel damn good.
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Posted by Angeleyes17
Relating myself to this topic, I've decided to take a step back and move on from the Aqua guy in my life. He doesn??t seem to show any interest in me. Since the Valentines day thing I did for him (and for me that was the first time ever to do something special for someone), I have had no contact with him. I messaged him once and he chose not to respond. I realised the only time he wants to talk to me is when he??s horny. lol.. But if I want to chat to him he??s got no time to chat to me.
Its about him someone made effort with me for a change.



what the?? only when he's....?
(shakes head) your guy sounds horrible! (no not trying to be mean, but jesus, only contacts when he's feeling like he needs to watch porn?)
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it's all the pisces planets in the sky.....making me feel sarcastic (loving the feeling)
/sorry....random.
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NotYourAverageAquarius,
Don??t be its just one of those things. I really hoped it would work because the spark with an Aqua is really refreshing, fun and exciting. Yeh I think I may have scared him with the gift stuff. He??s not used to the lovely mushy stuff. I??m sure someday he will be.. mature up a bit in time lol.. Yeh im the same too.. its something about stimulating the mind and that mysteriousness lol.. makes you want them even more. Id want to be physically around my partner which he obviously isn??t that is what maybe he??s trying to keep his distance from me, because we are far away from each other

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Posted by Angeleyes17
Relating myself to this topic, I've decided to take a step back and move on from the Aqua guy in my life. He doesn??t seem to show any interest in me. Since the Valentines day thing I did for him (and for me that was the first time ever to do something special for someone), I have had no contact with him. I messaged him once and he chose not to respond. I realised the only time he wants to talk to me is when he??s horny. lol.. But if I want to chat to him he??s got no time to chat to me.
Its about him someone made effort with me for a change.



what the?? only when he's....?
(shakes head) your guy sounds horrible! (no not trying to be mean, but jesus, only contacts when he's feeling like he needs to watch porn?)

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Yeah I know, One time I joked about that too.. Its not too difficult to have access to porn these days lol.. He??s not a bad guy, just isn??t good with the mushy love relationship stuff..lol
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It really depends on how they view you. If you are just a fall back person or late night visitor. They might be annoyed for awhile. But, they convince themselves that they probably should just move onto something more "worthy" of their time. If you truly have their heart, mind, and soul. Then, they will go cray-cray and start doing that hurricainey thing that Aquas do when they feel as though their world is irrevocably falling apart.
That's why it's important not to get too caught up in the idea of taming an Aqua. Just enjoy the wave, let it crest, and when it dies down swim back to shore. smile
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