I dont know what to do.
This topic was created in the Aries Men forum by ScorpsxAce08 on Tuesday, February 5, 2019 and has 17 replies.
I know.. Actually this is my first time trying out an LDR. He was the one who convinced me to it.. And i feel like because he got me already it was like "im just someone he talks to whenever its suitable for him" kind of thing..
Although he knows i can come visit any time.. so we both know its not really an issue when it comes to seeing each other.
Although he knows i can come visit any time.. so we both know its not really an issue when it comes to seeing each other.
Posted by ScorpsxAce08
I know.. Actually this is my first time trying out an LDR. He was the one who convinced me to it.. And i feel like because he got me already it was like "im just someone he talks to whenever its suitable for him" kind of thing..
Although he knows i can come visit any time.. so we both know its not really an issue when it comes to seeing each other.
You two sounds like FWBs. It sounds like your young and not used to being used. It's ok you will learn and grow to handle the next ship or arrangement better.
Well, im not sure about that.. He did tell me he love me and all. And because of the family issue on both our side, he actually showed how much he does by protecting and defending me to his family. And he would talk about how much he cares and loves me and stuff.. and then all of a sudden became cold towards me.
So LDRs are bad enough even if you’ve built a good connection and understand each other. I’d just take this as a sign that you should move on a find someone else. Loads of guys out there. Ghost him and see if you are really that bothered..
I don't do LDRs either! (Not EVEN if he lives an hour and a 1/2 from me; Cancer). I want to wake up at 3:00 am, reach over to my man, and grab him for "Morning sex!". I want him to say, "Hon, I'm going on a grocery run, what do you want for dinner?" (salmon). If I hear a loud noise I want to wake up my man to reach for the gun and run downstairs!
cyber hugs! Love,
Eva
Aries loves their freedom and to have fun, you have to always remember that.
LDR's requires alot of trust in both people. In a way, i know that what you are looking for, is that assurance of knowing that he still feels the same as before. Even if it means *asking the same thing everyday*.
And Aries, is actualy one of those signs you can trust his word on this things, we are usualy very blunt about everything. And i've been in a LDR, so i know that it requires alot because we simply just forget about stuff because we are immersed on something else lol
But if you look at his side of things...whenever you talk to him or call him, it's to *nag* about something. (just try to place yourself in his shoes). So every recent *memory* that he have of you...it's neither fun or freedom...and that's bad.
You have 2 options out of this...you either decide to trust him and try to be a bit *less pushover*, trying to understand that this situation will require alot of efort (especialy on your side from what i can see), or you move your own way.
The good news about it all, is that it is your choice
LDR's requires alot of trust in both people. In a way, i know that what you are looking for, is that assurance of knowing that he still feels the same as before. Even if it means *asking the same thing everyday*.
And Aries, is actualy one of those signs you can trust his word on this things, we are usualy very blunt about everything. And i've been in a LDR, so i know that it requires alot because we simply just forget about stuff because we are immersed on something else lol
But if you look at his side of things...whenever you talk to him or call him, it's to *nag* about something. (just try to place yourself in his shoes). So every recent *memory* that he have of you...it's neither fun or freedom...and that's bad.
You have 2 options out of this...you either decide to trust him and try to be a bit *less pushover*, trying to understand that this situation will require alot of efort (especialy on your side from what i can see), or you move your own way.
The good news about it all, is that it is your choice
Notice the pattern here...
He amps up the communication before/after he sees you in person. Then goes cold once he goes back to his country.
He wants to keep you on his fuck rotation for when he's in town. Don't invest any feels into this one.
He amps up the communication before/after he sees you in person. Then goes cold once he goes back to his country.
He wants to keep you on his fuck rotation for when he's in town. Don't invest any feels into this one.
Posted by LadyNeptuneWold you keep a constant distant contact with a *fuck budy*, if he wasn't a *fun* person ?
Notice the pattern here...
He amps up the communication before/after he sees you in person. Then goes cold once he goes back to his country.
He wants to keep you on his fuck rotation for when he's in town. Don't invest any feels into this one.
Do you think you wold ever develop true feelings for him any time soon ?
He said he liked her.
You know, what i noticed the most here on this place is that people easily point fingers, but they rarely notice their own mistakes.
And most of the times that's realy the problem. In relationships you either change, adapt, develop or you move on. You know that as well.
Posted by IamTheRamIts not a relationship. There isn't 'constant communication'.Posted by LadyNeptuneWold you keep a constant distant contact with a *fuck budy*, if he wasn't a *fun* person ?
Notice the pattern here...
He amps up the communication before/after he sees you in person. Then goes cold once he goes back to his country.
He wants to keep you on his fuck rotation for when he's in town. Don't invest any feels into this one.
Do you think you wold ever develop true feelings for him any time soon ?
He said he liked her.
You know, what i noticed the most here on this place is that people easily point fingers, but they rarely notice their own mistakes.
And most of the times that's realy the problem. In relationships you either change, adapt, develop or you move on. You know that as well.click to expand
She thinks their dating for the last 2.5 months. When in reality they've hung out 2xs when hes been in town, fucked. When he's back home he goes ghost on communication.
Thats not a relationship. Thats convenience.
Posted by LadyNeptuneIt's what they both made out of it.Posted by IamTheRamIts not a relationship. There isn't 'constant communication'.Posted by LadyNeptuneWold you keep a constant distant contact with a *fuck budy*, if he wasn't a *fun* person ?
Notice the pattern here...
He amps up the communication before/after he sees you in person. Then goes cold once he goes back to his country.
He wants to keep you on his fuck rotation for when he's in town. Don't invest any feels into this one.
Do you think you wold ever develop true feelings for him any time soon ?
He said he liked her.
You know, what i noticed the most here on this place is that people easily point fingers, but they rarely notice their own mistakes.
And most of the times that's realy the problem. In relationships you either change, adapt, develop or you move on. You know that as well.
She thinks their dating for the last 2.5 months. When in reality they've hung out 2xs when hes been in town, fucked. When he's back home he goes ghost on communication.
Thats not a relationship. Thats convenience.click to expand
She had a saying on it also. It's 2 people.
I am just telling her what she should do next time, not to end up in a situation like this again.
Posted by IamTheRamsamePosted by LadyNeptuneIt's what they both made out of it.Posted by IamTheRamIts not a relationship. There isn't 'constant communication'.Posted by LadyNeptuneWold you keep a constant distant contact with a *fuck budy*, if he wasn't a *fun* person ?
Notice the pattern here...
He amps up the communication before/after he sees you in person. Then goes cold once he goes back to his country.
He wants to keep you on his fuck rotation for when he's in town. Don't invest any feels into this one.
Do you think you wold ever develop true feelings for him any time soon ?
He said he liked her.
You know, what i noticed the most here on this place is that people easily point fingers, but they rarely notice their own mistakes.
And most of the times that's realy the problem. In relationships you either change, adapt, develop or you move on. You know that as well.
She thinks their dating for the last 2.5 months. When in reality they've hung out 2xs when hes been in town, fucked. When he's back home he goes ghost on communication.
Thats not a relationship. Thats convenience.
She had a saying on it also. It's 2 people.
I am just telling her what she should do next time, not to end up in a situation like this again.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptuneLady...i realy don't want to be that guy, but you just pointed fingers, you gave no advice in there.Posted by IamTheRamsamePosted by LadyNeptuneIt's what they both made out of it.Posted by IamTheRamIts not a relationship. There isn't 'constant communication'.Posted by LadyNeptuneWold you keep a constant distant contact with a *fuck budy*, if he wasn't a *fun* person ?
Notice the pattern here...
He amps up the communication before/after he sees you in person. Then goes cold once he goes back to his country.
He wants to keep you on his fuck rotation for when he's in town. Don't invest any feels into this one.
Do you think you wold ever develop true feelings for him any time soon ?
He said he liked her.
You know, what i noticed the most here on this place is that people easily point fingers, but they rarely notice their own mistakes.
And most of the times that's realy the problem. In relationships you either change, adapt, develop or you move on. You know that as well.
She thinks their dating for the last 2.5 months. When in reality they've hung out 2xs when hes been in town, fucked. When he's back home he goes ghost on communication.
Thats not a relationship. Thats convenience.
She had a saying on it also. It's 2 people.
I am just telling her what she should do next time, not to end up in a situation like this again.click to expand
But i get your point.
Posted by IamTheRam"Don't invest any feels into this one."Posted by LadyNeptuneLady...i realy don't want to be that guy, but you just pointed fingers, you gave no advice in there.Posted by IamTheRamsamePosted by LadyNeptuneIt's what they both made out of it.Posted by IamTheRamIts not a relationship. There isn't 'constant communication'.Posted by LadyNeptuneWold you keep a constant distant contact with a *fuck budy*, if he wasn't a *fun* person ?
Notice the pattern here...
He amps up the communication before/after he sees you in person. Then goes cold once he goes back to his country.
He wants to keep you on his fuck rotation for when he's in town. Don't invest any feels into this one.
Do you think you wold ever develop true feelings for him any time soon ?
He said he liked her.
You know, what i noticed the most here on this place is that people easily point fingers, but they rarely notice their own mistakes.
And most of the times that's realy the problem. In relationships you either change, adapt, develop or you move on. You know that as well.
She thinks their dating for the last 2.5 months. When in reality they've hung out 2xs when hes been in town, fucked. When he's back home he goes ghost on communication.
Thats not a relationship. Thats convenience.
She had a saying on it also. It's 2 people.
I am just telling her what she should do next time, not to end up in a situation like this again.
But i get your point.click to expand
Advice.
Posted by LadyNeptunelolPosted by IamTheRam"Don't invest any feels into this one."Posted by LadyNeptuneLady...i realy don't want to be that guy, but you just pointed fingers, you gave no advice in there.Posted by IamTheRamsamePosted by LadyNeptuneIt's what they both made out of it.Posted by IamTheRamIts not a relationship. There isn't 'constant communication'.Posted by LadyNeptuneWold you keep a constant distant contact with a *fuck budy*, if he wasn't a *fun* person ?
Notice the pattern here...
He amps up the communication before/after he sees you in person. Then goes cold once he goes back to his country.
He wants to keep you on his fuck rotation for when he's in town. Don't invest any feels into this one.
Do you think you wold ever develop true feelings for him any time soon ?
He said he liked her.
You know, what i noticed the most here on this place is that people easily point fingers, but they rarely notice their own mistakes.
And most of the times that's realy the problem. In relationships you either change, adapt, develop or you move on. You know that as well.
She thinks their dating for the last 2.5 months. When in reality they've hung out 2xs when hes been in town, fucked. When he's back home he goes ghost on communication.
Thats not a relationship. Thats convenience.
She had a saying on it also. It's 2 people.
I am just telling her what she should do next time, not to end up in a situation like this again.
But i get your point.
Advice.click to expand
Fair enough
Soo.. if i ghost this aries man. It wont really affect him right?
Waste of time unless one of u is planning on moving to the other ones country
Posted by ScorpsxAce08First, you should worry about yourself, not him.
Soo.. if i ghost this aries man. It wont really affect him right?
Second, *ghosting* him is the best thing you could do. Because if he wants you, he will be back and this time you are the one that can set the *rules*. And if he doesn't come back ?...You are already on the right path for yourself.
Win-Win for you. Just remember to change some things about yourself *here* and *there* and you're good to go
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