a non-agressive aries male—?

hi, im new!!! im a sagittarius, and have been fascinated with aries people both male and female since i can remember. my best friend is an aries, known her now since 2nd grade. and i notice that the people im most attracted to from 1st meetings,or from a distance, have been aries.
recently ive been completely head over heels for an this april fools baby with an aqarius moon. ive dated 2 aqua(sun) men before one of which im still crazy about...
anyways not the point.
ive hung out with him (april fools baby) a few times and we have great conversations,hes funny, outspoken, and caring. very considerate with his family especially his mom. and for what i know he fits the aries profile to a tee... well sorta...
see we decided to make the most of an oportune moment the other night and me- never having been with an aries, romantically before, read alot or tried to read up on the aries male and what to expect.
they say hes supposed to be domineering,manly,romantic,and strong. that, he is, but ive came to realize that night that hes not as domineering as i thought.
personally i was excited to have any kind of relationship with him because of the thought that he would be that agressive lover im looking for. agressive but loving.
but he failed, in part of my expectations... im just curious if it is possible for an aries male to not be an "agressive aries" like they say....

seaclover
you are a sagittarius right? so you say he wasnt domineering enough for your expectations?
what do you mean by that? he didnt take you on top of the car in the parking lot,or didnt give you a passionate kiss goodnight or he is not going aggressively after you?
maybe he is just a little shy and intimidated .i get like that too sometimes abut it doesnt last long.....if he is like that TRUST me his mind right now is going in circles around you like a NASCAR race car, lol
how many times have you been out with this guy?
my advice give him some signs that you interested.... by being a sagtt it shouldnt be too hard for you, than back off just a little bit (not to much so he thinks that you are unavailable or rejecting him) but enough to make him want to chase you .........
and you got your self an aries man lol

How old are you 2?

I've noticed that Aries tend to mellow with age.
They realize that being rough and aggressive can actually turn a lot of women OFF - so they curb it to better please the women that they're with.

I, for one, used to LOVE the Aries guy being rough, aggressive, and dominating. 🙂
Now he's older and is all gentle and thoughtful. 😢

prringLeo,
thanks so much for the comments!!! and personally i dont know what his birht time or place is. all i know is his birthday is april 1, 1986.
and as for a libra being a good balancer, yes you are completely right about that. i just got out of a relationship with a libra.
problem was, is that ive never fought with someone so much as him. we dated for almost 6 months and after the first 2 months i wanted to call it quits. im actually still trying to be friends with him at the moment but it seems i hurt him pretty bad...
as for a libra, hes been the first and only guy i can truely say has made me a better person... it sucks having him point out how something i say or do hurts him so much.. and so on...
hes encouraged me to becoe a better person then i was before, being very careless with my words and or actions. so he is a good balancer but not for me...

leo/virgo75,
thanks so much for responding,
um well im 19-> 11/24/87
and hes 21-> 04/01/86
like i was telling prringLeo earlier, ive been in a very "serious", romantic relationship before with a libra who is the quinessential romantic, but it was too.... "soft" and boring for me...
i loved how he was considerate of my feelings, and my wellbeing, and intimately we meshed well... but moreso for the romantic side of me rather than the... fiesty lover i can be... hahaha which is why i was so excited about dating an aries.
hopeing he might be able to fuel that part of me like my libra man couldnt... lol
now i know not all aries's are alike, but for some reason the way he is when he talk and hang out fits the discription to a tee, but... his lovemaking was a little off from what i was expecting... hence why im confused... but im guessing there are more aspects to this then just him being an aries. lol 🙂

class-act-aries!
hey!!
thanks for the post!
well... we actually talked about this the other night-> me telling him that ive never really waited as long as i have with him to become intimate, beyond kissing,with anyone before-> hopeing that he might take it that i really really like him... and that whenever i know im about to see him/ hang out with him i become very nervous, which i thought was an interesting little sign.. and so forth. we exchanged that we both like each other but are on the same page as for not wanting anything serious right now...
i understand that there is a good possibility that his intentions of us hanging out would be to have his "needs" fulfilled...
because it was kinda awkward that night-> after our little rendevous on the beach... i made sure to let him know that im one of the most forgiving people he may ever meet... haha... and to know that i could never be mad at him for anything that happened. and for him to promise me he wouldnt be mad at himself... and yada yada yada... lol
anyways well i havent called him in almost 2 days... im almost afraid to... i do want to give him his space, but im also afraid that when we talk now it may be awkward and yeah...
should i wait for him to call me.. or no?

seaclovers - Not sure, but this just might be his "way." Like Purringleo said, he may have some water in his chart. I feel like the Aries I've been dealing with is being taken over by his Mercury in Pisces. He thinks, and thinks, and thinks, doesn't really "act" as much as he used to, and is just more logical/philosophical and conscious in general. But not as aggressive as he used to be. 😢

But I definitely feel your pain of wanting a more "fiery, aggressive" lover and not being satisfied by someone who is too "soft." Might be my moon in Aries, but I crave the same thing. 🙂

i say send him a short txt msg, nothing serious...hey whats up or hows it going should be good enough
and dont worry, sagit an aries in my opinion are like two magnets, sparks will fly, just give it time,if he didnt call you in two days im sure he has some watery signs in him, maybe cancer moon
get his chart and put it up her and someone will give it more light

leo/virgo75,
hahahaha yup. lol you know actually im pretty sure now that i think of it that he probablly does have a lot of water signs withen the rest of his chart. it wouldnt surprise me... hes told me how mellow he is compared to alot of other people-> which i thought was weird, cause my best friend is soooooooo much more firey than he, and he would comment on how easily i would become frustrated, even though it was a spark of frustration, then i would laugh...
i always did think it was a little weird for him to be so relaxed being an aries that he is....
i think your right...
damn!
hahahahaha

hahahaha archer,
i think i love you. hahahaha j/k!!!!
yeah... you know i did give him credit for not being what i thought he could have been because it was our first time with each other.. so im not expecting him to be completely knowledgeable of me and vis versa. hahaha
maybe in the future i can "gently"(haha) tell him of my secret passions hahahahaha.
hopefully then he may have a chance to change my mind of this mellow april fools baby. 🙂

hahahaahahahahaha
wow. lol
yup he is very considerate of the family and people he cares about. has even stated that at times he doesnt care about any one but himself.. lol
i know from just talking to him that he has a pretty high sex drive... i think im just blaming the whole awkwardness of that night on it being our little first time with each other lol...
i know it sounded weird even to myself considering him as a "mellow" ram...
maybe it was just a faulty mishap. hahahaha
thats so amazing that even though he had a long list of things to do, he was willing to stay with you because you asked. lol see this is why i love rams. 🙂 dispite thier dirty agendas hahahaha

2nd what Archer said about taking him seriously when he says, "he doesn't care about anyone but himself.."

He's telling you the truth. 😛

It only phases me sometimes. Most of the time, I don't care because I'm more of a "giver" than a "taker". I often find it amusing. Especially when he throws a tantrum because he didn't get what he wanted. Now THAT is hilarious. lol

hahahaha yeah i totally know what it is to be the role of the giver rather than the taker, although sometimes its nice to be the opposite...hahaha
and i dont know if these were subtile hints or not but i do recall him telling me how he thought it was funny when his mom made the announcment -> sorta anyway hahaha- that he was her favorite(between 3 other children), which pissed off his dad who is a sagittarius, knowing that hes her favorite, kinda gives me the inclination that thats what hes looking for in someone hes seeing. for him to be thier "favorite"..
i have this gut feeling because he treats his mom like a queen....
oh geez....
hahahaha

It is up to you to fuel that part of yourself.

* Now he's older and is all gentle and thoughtful.

This mirrors my experiences with Aries men. They are very gentle, thoughtful, and want to make you happy. They dislike hurting people.

If you want rougher sex, be rougher with him. He just doesn't want to hurt you.

hahaha thanks!!!