Aires & Aquarius - what's next?

Hello fellow Aires - I posted this same message on the Aquarius site, but thought I'd post here in hopes of getting any of your perspectives with your dealings with a male aquarius.
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I'm so hoping I can get some some help and advice from you on this - or at the least, a better perspective here. A little background is probably warranted here so please forgive the long post upfront......

I'm a female Aires totally enchanted by a male Aquarius. He's bright, unique, sincere and honest - something very 'rare' to find these days. The attraction when we first met was instant, yet not just on a physical level but mentally as well. I've always been used to guys that hit hard and fast, come on strong, and found Mr. Aquarius to be a refreshing and intoxicating change!

We met at a Club so altho the attraction was instant, I didn't want to jump into anything because he seemed to 'good to be true' - and with all that happens around some of these clubs - I just didn't trust the 'environment' we met under so I put off his advances twice, and spoke honestly about why I was putting him off. He respected my wishes, and was always his usual friendly and respectful self whenever our paths crossed at the Club. He never pushed for more than friendship we had established at the Club, and never came on strong, yet we always had fun flirting, dancing and talking.

To make a long story short - after knowing each other (only at the club) for several months, he walked me to my car one night & 'asked' if he could kiss me good night. ASKED?? WOW what a gentleman! As I said earlier, I'm more used to guys just plunging into things and found him so refreshingly intriguing. From that moment, we exchanged #'s and maintained a friendship via phone, yet we still didn't go out. He went on vacation a short while after we engaged in phone contact - and when he returned (3 weeks later) things picked up where they left off, lots of phone conversation, information sharing, talking about our past, our futures, and goals (he is a very ambitious & hard working guy) and things slowly progressed to an intimate connection as well. We saw each other every weekend for about a month and a half (we spent more hours together in that month & half than most people do in a year), and we talked on the phone for hours in between our get togethers about everything & anything under the sun. He was working on a new business venture that he wasn't sure about and told me it was important to him that I come with him to one of his meetings with these fellow 'prospects' as he respected my opinion and wanted to get my views on the whole business concept. I was THRILLED that he wanted to include me in this and quickly agreed. Had I known that things would change from that moment on - I never would have gone!

After attending the meeting with him, I could see why he was excited about the idea - yet found too many phonies and superficial people to be involved that were ultimately after making a quick buck - at HIS expense. At least that's the way "I" saw it. I was honest with him about my views (not in an insulting way) - I told him I understood why he was excited about it, but also voiced why I had concerns - again, in a respectful way. After that night - he stopped calling me. I called him a few days later to find out what he had decided to do, to which he indicated he was venturing forward with this business idea. I continued to offer my support and offered any help I could provide. When I asked if we were getting together that weekend - he said he didn't think so, alot on the go, and that he ultimately had to focus on achieving his goals and getting this business deal off the ground. I was devestated! Altho he indicated my friendship was valuable to him, he had never met anyone like me, he appreciated all the support, encouragement and insirpiration to follow his dreams, that he would maintain contact, we would get together etc etc

perhaps your just boring.

Hey girl, let me just tell you something. If you sum up this letter here, is that you should feel good about the fact that you were honest with him. Maybe he is just not strong enough for you, ok. Or too crabby. Or just too wimpy? Shouldn't probably say that, but you must find someone who can take your good boldness. Not too mention if you are an aries, then you should act like an aries, and spread some of that magnetic energy in his way (if and only if you decide he is strong enough) for you. Otherwise you'll find plenty more.

Aires & Aquarius whats next? ILL TELL YOU WHAT IS NEXT. The two a's agony and agaric.

Once again, JT YOU are "spot on!" with your wise knowledge. 😉

I went through a very similar "relationship" Natasha. My summation after reading your story is that however strong the attraction is, basically Aquarian men are self-absorbed and find "turning their backs" on a woman effortless. They seem sincere and taken with you, but I think they are taken with themselves, and only interested in new romances and new excitement. I do not think it was anything you did or did not do. It is all about him. What is so crazy-making is the surgical coldness after what felt like a strong, mutually connected bond. It still hurts after two years. It was okay to take, but when it came time to give of himself, support me, or share - he was gone. In short, he was a user, a player. But does that mean all Aquarian men are that way? Who knows? I have learned to be more cautious, and less trusting. One clue to a self-centered person, male or female, of any sign, is that he or she loves to talk about themselves, enjoys your empathy and support, but has little or no real interest in your life. So what were the red-flags you chose to blind yourself to from the beginning girl? After putting a hundred percent of yourself in, it stings badly to be shortchanged, and makes no logical sense, does it Aries lady?

The guys came in with one-liners!

Sorry to hear about your experience with aquarian guy Jess - so sorry......but you are dead right really about aquarians being basically selfish..and self-cnetred...I know I am to quite a degree....and we do love being in love....there's nothing better I like than meeting someone new and fascinating and going out the first few times on dates..but then I get bored quite easily...and want to return to my lover - very few lovers will actually touch an aquarian's heart...very few indeed....I am 38 now....and in all my conquests over the years....there are only 3 but for each of these persons, I would go to the ends of the earth..do almost anything for, beg, steal or borrow for them....if someone has moved me intensely, I truly will never forget them....but they SO think that I have....cold surgical swabs I guess is our middle name but remember that's only to hide the vulnerability factor....
Bye for now J.
A x

only three out of thousands? so sad so bad so many have tried and failed.

Yep only 3 Jamesey!!!! As for the thousand number....cuh!!I wish....:-) You could be No. 4, if you ever cum in Dublin:-).....you've already touched something somewhere in my mind and body!!!:-) - now it's time to make your way to my heart - cum honey cum!
A x

When people ask me are you comeing, my standard answer is no but I am breathing heavy. I will come to Dublin someday but I will let you know when I have more than a few hours for it should take a few days of drinking and you showing me around, or two days of you rejecting me to put me in my place. ye have no relation to the scot clan camron do ye.

It's funny, here I thought I was the only one having a hard time reading an Aquarius man! I am an Aries lady who has had a crush on an Aquarian friend for years. Recently we started to become closer, hanging out after work and talking about life and love. I honestly thought it was going somewhere interesting until I realized that it really was all about him and not me! He has told me numerous times that he loves the thrill of the chase, but the conquest eventually leaves him bored and in search of something new. He too is a gentleman, very polite, etc.,.but can be very crass and boorish at times as well. I personally think he likes collecting women that love him, so that he always has somebody boosting his ego, but I suppose that doesn't really shed any light on your situation. I have since moved on, mostly because I hate being on an emotional roller coaster, but then I've been through the wringer with my fair share of "players" and don't have time for mind games.

Omg you poor girl im an Aries to and my ex is an Aquarius! Seriously thank god above that he saved you from a relationship from this man! I got involved with the exact same type of man. Let men break it down for you: They find you interesting "you and aries!" So they want to know more then they test you by asking you losts of questions about your past to size you up! Then he took you on that business venture and asked your "honest" opinion sorry girl but he meant for you to tell him what he wanted to hear not your honest opinion! In aquarius eyes there opinion is always the right one even if you prove them wrong. I dateD one for a while and he owned his own business and would always ask me my opinion and when i would tell him he is making a mistake all i was told was i was wrong and funny enough in the end i was right! Aries are Way to strong for Aquarius men they want puppets! Not strong women! I have been withOut my aquarius man for 6 months now and im still dwellng on it because mine did the same thing jUst ended it oUt of the blue and poof he was gone. I still get random messages and shit but nothing comes of it. Pray to god tonight and thank him from sparing you the heart break that i am gong through. I can honestly say i will never date another Aquarius agian they get in your head! THEY ARE SELFISH, NEAT FREAKS AND STUBBORN YOU ARE BETTER OF ALONE PLEASE LET IT GO! I really do feel your pain u will be ok he oviously knew you were right thats why at the club he said hi and stared at you but did not wana be involved with you, he felt stupid and you ended up being right. Aquarius men always want to be rich and will do crazy schemes to do it but always fail. Girl i promise you look this guy p in 10 years an u will be light years ahead of him!

wow blast form the past