Hi everyone!
I created an account here five years ago when dealing with a nasty heartbreak with a Pisces- back again to understand an aries in my life who for whatever reason, has captured my attention. (I’ve been dating and happy to say I’ve put the Pisces behind me.)
I’m a Taurus, 9 May. She’s 24 March, and unfortunately I don’t know much else regarding her sign (nor mine).
We work together in the same organization, different offices. We’ve circled each other for close to a year, strictly in work capacities. I had actually met her in another work organization prior to this, and her impression on me was that she was attractive and nice. I also remember that as I was leaving her office that day, we locked eyes.
Last year, she was hired into my organization and we’ve worked together on some projects. She’s very task focused and doesn’t really joke around while working (I certainly do, it’s stressful when I don’t!). I’d catch her in the hallway or across from me in meetings staring- and when I looked back at her, she wouldn’t break her gaze nor smile. I would be the shy one and look away, feeling like my face was on fire!
Several months ago, there was this moment when she rounded a corner and we saw each other right at the same time. The word that comes to mind when I think about her body language after she saw me was... strut... super sexy, and even now makes me laugh. She completely played it cool, strutted right by me and gave me a casual hello while she connected with another coworker down the hall, and I literally sprinted down to the other end. Way to play it cool, Killjoy.
I will constantly see her across the room in meetings from the corner of my eye, staring at me. My eyes give a lot away, so I don’t usually look back. This woman strikes some serious curiosity/fear in me, haha.
The last two weeks- don’t know if something is in the air or what- it’s like someone cranked up the heat on us. She laughs around me a lot. A few days ago, we were walking to another meeting together and it was like she lost all her words- it was the first time I’d seen her act shy around me, as normally she is bold and assertive. And the staring- always the staring. It doesn’t bother me at all- it makes me feel curious. And certainly interested.
Yesterday, we were in another meeting and I didn’t know that she saw me there. Afterwards, she playfully asked me, “why didn’t you look at me? I know you weren’t looking at me on purpose!” And I had no idea what to say because in typical Taurus fashion, I am feeling this crush with every fiber however I’m afraid that I’m looking at this through a hopeful lens and not a realistic one.
There’s just something about her eyes. She stares, and sometimes she smiles a little when she does but her eyes are very intense. I’m normally fairly assured, but when she looks at me, I dissolve internally. I feel like a teenager all over again, clumsy and inarticulate.
After a meeting yesterday, she came to my office and I could see her studying everything I had on the walls, on the shelves. I was watching her studying me. I do not see her interact with anyone else this way, but again not sure what this means, if anything.
So to sum up, lots of meetings and lots of staring, haha. Or rather- I sit in a lot of meeting with her where she stares. And the last few days, she has sat right next to me even when the other side of the table is unoccupied. Anytime I see her (outside of meetings, too), she normally just talks to me and no one else around us. And her eyes, I feel like they’re aware of everything I’m thinking.
You Aries women... wow. I would not say I’m the typical Taurus with the jealousy and possessiveness, but certainly with the cluelessness at times. Can anyone give this 40-year old teenager some wisdom in what to do, say or how to perceive this?
Crushing like crazy,
Killjoy
Well, definitely here because I’m having trouble deciphering language with non-verbals! ... always feel it’s better to share the details that stood out to me versus leaving it to the imagination 😉
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Nov 10, 2010Comments: 285 · Posts: 30788 · Topics: 649
Ask her out for drinks after work with a few other people.
See if theres a vibe
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Nov 10, 2010Comments: 285 · Posts: 30788 · Topics: 649
Stop looking for signals and start talking
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Aug 16, 2011Comments: 3 · Posts: 7849 · Topics: 52
Put yourself out there in a subtle way.
Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I like learning about th signs, different ways we show things or express ideas. It helps in dealing with some of the complexities of humans and relationships. Yes I am a Taurus and slow to move, however I am dealing with an over cautious heart (who isn’t?) and don’t want to scare this beauty away. It’s been a year of the staring, haha. But like I said it’s like someone cranked up the heat in recent days and it’s thrown me for a loop. So I’m tripping over my own feet here... adult teenager, like I said. Lol.
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Jul 15, 2019Comments: 3 · Posts: 299 · Topics: 25
Yes I agree x ask her out for a drink. She's definitely flirting around you. Don't over think just do it...I hope it goes well. Sounds promising tbh.
On a side note...some comments on here are so shit. Seriously just help the guy out instead of giving useless opinions.
A year of staring? That's unheard of. And you know her from before that!? Nows the time if you feel the heat is cranking up. Just play with her and see how she responds if you're not sure about asking her out bluntly. Her response will put you on track. Also it is summer so heat usually cranks up literally as much as sexually at that period of the year....
All right... quick update. Spent quite a few hours with... let’s call her J today. Great conversation, pretty much intoxicated on her scent, loved making her laugh. She even invited my boss and I over to her place to have drinks on her patio in the coming weeks. During our last conference call practically both of us were sitting in my chair, lol.
Come to find out though- she’s either married or in a relationship. She never says we, us, ours. Always singular... we were even talking about future retirement plans and it was all “I” and such.
She doesn’t wear a ring, has pictures of her kids on her desk but no spouse. So that was a bit of a surprise! So I’m a little disappointed that this crush may never go beyond just that. She’s incredible, and there’s no doubt that I’m beyond attracted. But I suppose, even if that’s where all signs are pointing, that’s where it needs to stay.
All right... quick update. Spent quite a few hours with... let’s call her J today. Great conversation, pretty much intoxicated on her scent, loved making her laugh. She even invited my boss and I over to her place to have drinks on her patio in the coming weeks. During our last conference call practically both of us were sitting in my chair, lol.
Come to find out though- she’s either married or in a relationship. She never says we, us, ours. Always singular... we were even talking about future retirement plans and it was all “I” and such.
She doesn’t wear a ring, has pictures of her kids on her desk but no spouse. So that was a bit of a surprise! So I’m a little disappointed that this crush may never go beyond just that. She’s incredible, and there’s no doubt that I’m beyond attracted. But I suppose, even if that’s where all signs are pointing, that’s where it needs to stay.
Really just posting as I’m punch drunk on this Aries and curious to hear from people at some point who have had the same experiences. I’ll try to keep it short for my Gemini friend lol.
I’d found out a few days ago that she is either married or in a relationship, which is a non-starter for me. Previously I’d posted on here about an affair I had with a Pisces, lessons learned and tough ones at that.
My boss actually attends the same church as this Aries and said she has never seen her with a partner, just her two kids. And she doesn’t wear a wedding ring. She told me that at one time, the Aries made a comment about how her and her SO don’t celebrate Valentines Day. To each their own, I love that day.
Again with the staring. Except yesterday, I did catch her eye and when she saw me looking at her, she raised her eyebrows really quick and sort of smirked at me. Got my blood going immediately! Helps that’s she’s always got a pen near her mouth too lol. She’s stunning.
She won an award yesterday and I sought her out to congratulate her post-ceremony. I do admire her for many reasons but her work ethic is attractive regardless of how I feel about her in other ways. She pulled me close and gave me a hug, even in the middle of the group.
Biting my lip later, I sent her a congratulatory note and told her we could not do what we do without her and her team. She replied and said it was my turn to make her blush. My heart jumped in my throat as I did not think she noticed or picked up on how shy I am.
It’s like there’s drugs in the air when I’m around her. Holy shit lol.
Treading lightly, to be continued...
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Aug 20, 2018Comments: 3863 · Posts: 2108 · Topics: 3
You seem to be living in your head and I'm afraid reality may someday soon bite you in the azz. You need to ask her if she is in a relationship. She may have meant that "we" as she and her children. Who knows what is going on with her and that is why you need to ask up front soon. Pick a good day/time and just get it out somehow. You don't want this to go on the point that if it doesn't end well, it will be another black cloud over your head. My mother used to say "sheet or get off the pot" lol that's what I'm saying - for your sake. Plus work relationships are difficult. I'm a Taurus female. I have Aries in my chart and was in a long relationship with an Aries but that was a total bust. Good luck and keep us posted.
I do agree... and I feel on the fence about my own feelings about this. Turns out- she is indeed married, though a mutual friend said it was more like “co-habitating” for the sake of their kids more than a relationship. She said it’s virtually platonic.
Aye. Confusing, exciting, scary as shit.
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well now you know and what pray tell do you do about that - she might be a good time but that's about as far as it goes