taurusgirl9000
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Aries as mothers
What is her moon and what is yours?
I'm an Aries and was married to a Taurus for many years. Our personalities clashed after time, we definitely see the world much different.
I have 2 kids, a Gem (magical cusp) daughter and a 2nd Decan Leo son.
They wouldn't trade me for any of their friends moms. Lol
My daughter is my air and grounder, and we have a fantastic relationship. I'm very about my kids and making sure they are ok and have everything they need. I go out of my way to be very open with them on every subject and always make sure they know they are loved every day. When they were younger I drove them to school every day and picked them up even though they had a bus. I did it to make sure they were safe. My thought has always been Aries were born to be mothers, they see the world through the eyes of a child and are extremely excepting of life's ups and downs. Yes we can be very emotional, Taurus sometimes doesn't understand our level of empathy. My Leo and I are a lot a like. If the fire is flaming for both of us, we can clash. But at the same time we get each other and why we do what we do. So the balance is there. I was gifted with my two favorite signs for kids.
I'm an Aries and was married to a Taurus for many years. Our personalities clashed after time, we definitely see the world much different.
I have 2 kids, a Gem (magical cusp) daughter and a 2nd Decan Leo son.
They wouldn't trade me for any of their friends moms. Lol
My daughter is my air and grounder, and we have a fantastic relationship. I'm very about my kids and making sure they are ok and have everything they need. I go out of my way to be very open with them on every subject and always make sure they know they are loved every day. When they were younger I drove them to school every day and picked them up even though they had a bus. I did it to make sure they were safe. My thought has always been Aries were born to be mothers, they see the world through the eyes of a child and are extremely excepting of life's ups and downs. Yes we can be very emotional, Taurus sometimes doesn't understand our level of empathy. My Leo and I are a lot a like. If the fire is flaming for both of us, we can clash. But at the same time we get each other and why we do what we do. So the balance is there. I was gifted with my two favorite signs for kids.
Dang..........serious mom bashing thread
Aries likes productivity and as a slow moving bull, I'm sure you procrastinated enough to ruffle her feathers on the daily. All I heard was lots of blame. Guess you must have been innocent in all this
Aries likes productivity and as a slow moving bull, I'm sure you procrastinated enough to ruffle her feathers on the daily. All I heard was lots of blame. Guess you must have been innocent in all this
Posted by SsupermanSo true, slow is not our style . ?
Dang..........serious mom bashing thread
Aries likes productivity and as a slow moving bull, I'm sure you procrastinated enough to ruffle her feathers on the daily. All I heard was lots of blame. Guess you must have been innocent in all this
This could be my own mother, but shes cap! Keep patient 🙂
Posted by bebelouIt's often hard to deal with parents who believe they know better than their kids...
This could be my own mother, but shes cap! Keep patient 🙂
Posted by RedbullWhen I say moving.......I'm saying that like being motivated and productive. Not physically moving away.Posted by SsupermanI dont know if thats the issue. Not moving. In fact op said she moved to another Country...I dont have an Aries mother but other family member. Maybe Taurus productivity (believe it or not we "produce" and arent here to have nothing and not enjoy life) and Aries productivity are different things,but that doesnt seem like the biggest issue here. Moving to another Country takes a lot and is not something someone who has done nothing can affors to, or even has the necessary drive and ambition to do. Of course there are 2 sides to a story but I have experiences Aries absolute refusal to "make sense" myself. And the proof is in the pudding. Not painting all with that brush though.
Dang..........serious mom bashing thread
Aries likes productivity and as a slow moving bull, I'm sure you procrastinated enough to ruffle her feathers on the daily. All I heard was lots of blame. Guess you must have been innocent in all this
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Aries is a great motivator but not always soft and nurturing which some children need
Bette Davis and Joan Crawford were both Aries suns ......
Bette Davis and Joan Crawford were both Aries suns ......
Posted by RedbullLol. Bro, I'm coming at this from the moms perspective (fire).Posted by SsupermanYeah that too.I pace myself but we are definitely about being productive. That house didnt pay for itself. Taurus arent trying to be homeless with nothing. Slow and steady doesnt mean doing nothing. But I do get there are those who dont understand. The reality is...the reality. I work for mine...so I can have it not show off. Your a Leo right. haha I can see where you wouldnt get this part. Well no matter you do you and I'll do me. You dont have Taurus figured out but I actually am one...so again I dont see where her somehow not being sufficiently productive is the real issue. Living on your own in another country pretty much eliminates that. Uh, to do that and feed yourself and pay bills etc.takes a lot of "productivity". People should realize we dont just get stuff easy and free because we are Tauruses (I know, what? I feel the same way where is my automatic fortune for life I was born in May haha) but really its work and all that for us too. Plus some secret ingredients-patience, perserverence, focus (not getting distracted) not something Leos or other signs are built to understand and thats cool but Sorry reality clashes with...whatever inaccuracies you are trying to say.Posted by RedbullWhen I say moving.......I'm saying that like being motivated and productive. Not physically moving away.Posted by SsupermanI dont know if thats the issue. Not moving. In fact op said she moved to another Country...I dont have an Aries mother but other family member. Maybe Taurus productivity (believe it or not we "produce" and arent here to have nothing and not enjoy life) and Aries productivity are different things,but that doesnt seem like the biggest issue here. Moving to another Country takes a lot and is not something someone who has done nothing can affors to, or even has the necessary drive and ambition to do. Of course there are 2 sides to a story but I have experiences Aries absolute refusal to "make sense" myself. And the proof is in the pudding. Not painting all with that brush though.
Dang..........serious mom bashing thread
Aries likes productivity and as a slow moving bull, I'm sure you procrastinated enough to ruffle her feathers on the daily. All I heard was lots of blame. Guess you must have been innocent in all this
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Posted by SsupermanI'm not slow-moving. I moved out when I was 18 and have been working steadily since age 14. I have a Master's degree and have lived in cities all over the US, and now abroad. I am motivated and successful. Even if I wasn't, that wouldn't be a reason for her to treat me the way she does. I really don't understand your point.
Dang..........serious mom bashing thread
Aries likes productivity and as a slow moving bull, I'm sure you procrastinated enough to ruffle her feathers on the daily. All I heard was lots of blame. Guess you must have been innocent in all this
Posted by taurusgirl9000Sounds like you are doing great! Does your mum ever tell you how proud she is of you?Posted by SsupermanI'm not slow-moving. I moved out when I was 18 and have been working steadily since age 14. I have a Master's degree and have lived in cities all over the US, and now abroad. I am motivated and successful. Even if I wasn't, that wouldn't be a reason for her to treat me the way she does. I really don't understand your point.
Dang..........serious mom bashing thread
Aries likes productivity and as a slow moving bull, I'm sure you procrastinated enough to ruffle her feathers on the daily. All I heard was lots of blame. Guess you must have been innocent in all thisclick to expand
Posted by RedbullYou're right. But she is my mother and I really wish we could just be more comfortable. We have polar opposite interests and views of the world. I suppose we will just never be able to see eye to eye.Posted by taurusgirl9000I would try not to let any "guilt trip" make you different from what you are. You have to live your life and thats amazing you moved to another country. Your grown and nobody else can live your life for you. I have an Aries family member and we straight up dont talk. That person hasnt worked in over a decade and is just negative. Anything could turn into an argument and I have things to do/enjoy life and accomplish things. What can you do except whats right for you?
TL;DR: Is there typically tension between Taurus children and Aries parents?
My mom is an Aries; she is very quick to anger, childish, and very emotional. I am noting the negative qualities because these are the things that have caused a strain in our relationship over the years. I find it very hard to be around her and even talking to her over the phone. I constantly have to exercise patience. We can never have just a normal conversation.
She can also be very passive aggressive and it's hurtful to me.
I know she loves me, but our relationship has always been tense. She smothers me and I feel the need to have space as a result.
Now we live in different countries (I moved away). She says things like, "Well, it's not like you'll be here to help me" (when she's elderly). And now the smothering is even worse, since I live far away, when I return to visit her she expects me to live with her for a month at least. This time I couldn't stay that long, only three weeks, and she constantly references that I am "only here for 21 days." She still has my dad and I know they love each other.
This trip was very expensive for me, I stopped everything to come visit, and I feel that it isn't enough. And that nothing seems to be enough for her, she is never happy. She would probably be happy if I had a house, a husband, kids, and lived down the street from her. That will never happen.
I don't feel like that's something she should be doing to me. Anyone else have similar experience with an Aries mom?click to expand
" And that nothing seems to be enough for her, she is never happy. She would probably be happy if I had a house, a husband, kids, and lived down the street from her. That will never happen".
My mother was like this too.....I also moved away to a different country. She never forgave me. Some people never learn how to let go and grow up
It's her issue, not yours....
My mother was like this too.....I also moved away to a different country. She never forgave me. Some people never learn how to let go and grow up
It's her issue, not yours....
Posted by MyStarsShineShe does but it always comes with a caveat: "We're proud of you but we wish you at least lived nearby..." "We're proud of you but, you could be living here and making much more money than you are there..." To me, success isn't based in how much money I make, but how happy I am. And currently I am very happy in my new situation abroad.... She doesn't get it...Posted by taurusgirl9000Sounds like you are doing great! Does your mum ever tell you how proud she is of you?Posted by SsupermanI'm not slow-moving. I moved out when I was 18 and have been working steadily since age 14. I have a Master's degree and have lived in cities all over the US, and now abroad. I am motivated and successful. Even if I wasn't, that wouldn't be a reason for her to treat me the way she does. I really don't understand your point.
Dang..........serious mom bashing thread
Aries likes productivity and as a slow moving bull, I'm sure you procrastinated enough to ruffle her feathers on the daily. All I heard was lots of blame. Guess you must have been innocent in all this
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Posted by MyStarsShineThank you. And of course now that I'm in a relationship, she finds every reason to not support it, even though he's a great guy that treats me like gold, because it means I may get married one day and stay abroad for life. As it is, I don't see myself returning to the US anytime soon... I recently chose to stop talking about my bf with her because I'm tired of hearing it...
" And that nothing seems to be enough for her, she is never happy. She would probably be happy if I had a house, a husband, kids, and lived down the street from her. That will never happen".
My mother was like this too.....I also moved away to a different country. She never forgave me. Some people never learn how to let go and grow up
It's her issue, not yours....
Posted by taurusgirl9000JesusPosted by MyStarsShineThank you. And of course now that I'm in a relationship, she finds every reason to not support it, even though he's a great guy that treats me like gold, because it means I may get married one day and stay abroad for life. As it is, I don't see myself returning to the US anytime soon... I recently chose to stop talking about my bf with her because I'm tired of hearing it...
" And that nothing seems to be enough for her, she is never happy. She would probably be happy if I had a house, a husband, kids, and lived down the street from her. That will never happen".
My mother was like this too.....I also moved away to a different country. She never forgave me. Some people never learn how to let go and grow up
It's her issue, not yours....
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She sounds like the Bette Davis and Joan Crawford type of mother......
She will push you right away....
Re the staying with her thing, tell her "mother, guests are like fish, they go off after three days"
I would rather our kid be honest with us.....up to now he has been.....I want him to be happy and free not chained or burdened by me
Some people, hey?
Posted by taurusgirl9000So it's a pride with conditions ......Posted by MyStarsShineShe does but it always comes with a caveat: "We're proud of you but we wish you at least lived nearby..." "We're proud of you but, you could be living here and making much more money than you are there..." To me, success isn't based in how much money I make, but how happy I am. And currently I am very happy in my new situation abroad.... She doesn't get it...Posted by taurusgirl9000Sounds like you are doing great! Does your mum ever tell you how proud she is of you?Posted by SsupermanI'm not slow-moving. I moved out when I was 18 and have been working steadily since age 14. I have a Master's degree and have lived in cities all over the US, and now abroad. I am motivated and successful. Even if I wasn't, that wouldn't be a reason for her to treat me the way she does. I really don't understand your point.
Dang..........serious mom bashing thread
Aries likes productivity and as a slow moving bull, I'm sure you procrastinated enough to ruffle her feathers on the daily. All I heard was lots of blame. Guess you must have been innocent in all this
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What about what YOU want. It's your life, not hers
Posted by RedbullThanks @RedBull, you're seriously a delight 🙂 Good to know you!Posted by taurusgirl9000Yeah that was my point. As if moving to another country doesnt take a lot. That says a lot to even have the will to make that happen. And all the things that go into paying bills and making it work. I dont think being slow moving is a problem but that attests that you have done productive things that was my point. Like how could anybody get you are less productive? Doesnt make sense. Im always looking at things in practical sense like well those things dont happen automatically. I could stay home from work but go to pay bills and make progress. Its just how it is.Posted by SsupermanI'm not slow-moving. I moved out when I was 18 and have been working steadily since age 14. I have a Master's degree and have lived in cities all over the US, and now abroad. I am motivated and successful. Even if I wasn't, that wouldn't be a reason for her to treat me the way she does. I really don't understand your point.
Dang..........serious mom bashing thread
Aries likes productivity and as a slow moving bull, I'm sure you procrastinated enough to ruffle her feathers on the daily. All I heard was lots of blame. Guess you must have been innocent in all this
I think he clarified that in part he was talking about difference in outlooks and speeds between the two. Fair enough but you have obviously been productive so thats not the issue. As I said you have to do whats right for you. Taurus is the fixed Earth sign. This is our home turf. Its the sign most in tuned to living in this world we were made for this. Spring comes when it comes cant rush it and make it come in the middle of January. Things happen in their time. We are made to understand this. We just have to do our part as it seems you are doing. Its the other signs that would be well served and save themselves a lot of stress to understand it.
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Posted by RedbullGood for you. I know that probably wasn't easy. Some good advice I got recently was: "You can't live for your parents."Posted by taurusgirl9000Yep and I know it can be tough. Im just now the last few years fully becoming independent from my dad's philosophies and such. I bought a house in another city because i finally realized this place may be for him doesnt mean its for me. Etc. Im picking up steam in it now though. The "doing it my way" thing.Going through that, I realize the mammoth task moving out of country could be. But I also can understand the rewards.Feels like Im finally getting it right. You dont have to...you can come and visit your mom and everything, but you have to do whats right for you.Posted by RedbullYou're right. But she is my mother and I really wish we could just be more comfortable. We have polar opposite interests and views of the world. I suppose we will just never be able to see eye to eye.Posted by taurusgirl9000I would try not to let any "guilt trip" make you different from what you are. You have to live your life and thats amazing you moved to another country. Your grown and nobody else can live your life for you. I have an Aries family member and we straight up dont talk. That person hasnt worked in over a decade and is just negative. Anything could turn into an argument and I have things to do/enjoy life and accomplish things. What can you do except whats right for you?
TL;DR: Is there typically tension between Taurus children and Aries parents?
My mom is an Aries; she is very quick to anger, childish, and very emotional. I am noting the negative qualities because these are the things that have caused a strain in our relationship over the years. I find it very hard to be around her and even talking to her over the phone. I constantly have to exercise patience. We can never have just a normal conversation.
She can also be very passive aggressive and it's hurtful to me.
I know she loves me, but our relationship has always been tense. She smothers me and I feel the need to have space as a result.
Now we live in different countries (I moved away). She says things like, "Well, it's not like you'll be here to help me" (when she's elderly). And now the smothering is even worse, since I live far away, when I return to visit her she expects me to live with her for a month at least. This time I couldn't stay that long, only three weeks, and she constantly references that I am "only here for 21 days." She still has my dad and I know they love each other.
This trip was very expensive for me, I stopped everything to come visit, and I feel that it isn't enough. And that nothing seems to be enough for her, she is never happy. She would probably be happy if I had a house, a husband, kids, and lived down the street from her. That will never happen.
I don't feel like that's something she should be doing to me. Anyone else have similar experience with an Aries mom?
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Based on what you've said, your mother misses you. You became independent very early on. And, if you are the only child, it probably really pains her.
I am an Aries with a Taurus son.
The sun sign... eh, I would have to know your moon, her moon, your 1st house and 4th... for an astrological perspective.
I am an Aries with a Taurus son.
The sun sign... eh, I would have to know your moon, her moon, your 1st house and 4th... for an astrological perspective.
Posted by EffervescentAries needs a Cancer Moon... That' rockyroad's placements...
Aries needs a Cancer Moonor some kind of softer placements when it comes to parenting. They are known as the child's zodiac and think they always have to be right and won't listen to their children's perspective. So doesn't surprise me you said your mom was "childish." There's no compromise with an Aries. Not even with a Taurus but Tauruses have this natural parental instinct where they love so much they are actually willing to listen and compromise but not an Aries! lol
sun square moon
Posted by DatariesgirlWow. This is interesting you guys are all cardinal, I know you love them but do you find it hard to understand them with one square you and the other your opposite?
Sorry you are experiencing this with you mother.
I have two daughters, Cancer and Libra. They are the loves of my life and we are very close.
Do their natural personality get in your nerves... What is your moin and their moons?
Posted by VenusAquariusI have a brother, but he's a total fuck-up and they had to kick him out of the house to save themselves. They tried for ten years to have him living here and he did so much to harm them. We actually no longer speak because of his actions, which he has never bothered owning or apologizing for.
Based on what you've said, your mother misses you. You became independent very early on. And, if you are the only child, it probably really pains her.
I am an Aries with a Taurus son.
The sun sign... eh, I would have to know your moon, her moon, your 1st house and 4th... for an astrological perspective.
I think she often feels like a bad mother because of him. She absolutely enables him and is making his problem worse. She knows it, has admitted it, and continues to do it... And similarly, I feel like everything "rides" on me, like I have to be perfect and please them because he sure as hell won't. My brother has caused a lot of strife in my family and we really have no "family unit" because of what he has done.
Posted by taurusgirl9000Yes, I guess you can see why she clings to you. Can you be sympathetic when knowing where her angst is coming from? Take pride in all of this? "Enablers," as you describe her, are often clingy.Posted by VenusAquariusI have a brother, but he's a total fuck-up and they had to kick him out of the house to save themselves. They tried for ten years to have him living here and he did so much to harm them. We actually no longer speak because of his actions, which he has never bothered owning or apologizing for.
Based on what you've said, your mother misses you. You became independent very early on. And, if you are the only child, it probably really pains her.
I am an Aries with a Taurus son.
The sun sign... eh, I would have to know your moon, her moon, your 1st house and 4th... for an astrological perspective.
I think she often feels like a bad mother because of him. She absolutely enables him and is making his problem worse. She knows it, has admitted it, and continues to do it... And similarly, I feel like everything "rides" on me, like I have to be perfect and please them because he sure as hell won't. My brother has caused a lot of strife in my family and we really have no "family unit" because of what he has done.click to expand
I don't know how much you know about astrology. But, as I said, I'm an Aries with a Taurus son. We get along very well...so well, he has no plans of leaving home (which also fits his generation).
Me and my children all have mutable Moons, me Gemini, my Taurus son - Sag Moon, my Pisces daughter - Pisces Moon.
So, it's not all about son signs. Mother/child relationship involves the Moon. My Pisces threatens to leave all the time... we have Moon opposition Pluto and Mars.
Here are some conjunctions with my son.. notice the Moon aspects....
Taurus son/Me
Mercury Conjunction Moon
Neptune Conjunction AS
Mercury Conjunction Mars
Jupiter Conjunction Neptune
MC Conjunction Mars
MC Conjunction Moon
Uranus Conjunction AS
Node Conjunction MC
MC Conjunction Saturn
Node Conjunction Uranus
Edit: Taurus used to threaten to leave home. I got sick of it. So, we were all at a restaurant with his last declaration. I told him fine, me and your dad will be right here enjoying our meal and newspaper while you take on the world. That Taurus put down his fork, looked us both in the eye, and paused. LOL! That's were I messed up. Since then, he's been with us, restaurant and all... LOL!
Posted by VenusAquariusI'm new to astrology 🙂Posted by taurusgirl9000Yes, I guess you can see why she clings to you. Can you be sympathetic when knowing where her angst is coming from? Take pride in all of this? "Enablers," as you describe her, are often clingy.Posted by VenusAquariusI have a brother, but he's a total fuck-up and they had to kick him out of the house to save themselves. They tried for ten years to have him living here and he did so much to harm them. We actually no longer speak because of his actions, which he has never bothered owning or apologizing for.
Based on what you've said, your mother misses you. You became independent very early on. And, if you are the only child, it probably really pains her.
I am an Aries with a Taurus son.
The sun sign... eh, I would have to know your moon, her moon, your 1st house and 4th... for an astrological perspective.
I think she often feels like a bad mother because of him. She absolutely enables him and is making his problem worse. She knows it, has admitted it, and continues to do it... And similarly, I feel like everything "rides" on me, like I have to be perfect and please them because he sure as hell won't. My brother has caused a lot of strife in my family and we really have no "family unit" because of what he has done.
I don't know how much you know about astrology. But, as I said, I'm an Aries with a Taurus son. We get along very well...so well, he has no plans of leaving home (which also fits his generation).
Me and my children all have mutable Moons, me Gemini, my Taurus son - Sag Moon, my Pisces daughter - Pisces Moon.
So, it's not all about son signs. My Pisces threatens to leave all the time... we have Moon opposition Pluto and Mars.
Here are some conjunctions with my son.. notice the Moon aspects....
Taurus son/Me
Mercury Conjunction Moon
Neptune Conjunction AS
Mercury Conjunction Mars
Jupiter Conjunction Neptune
MC Conjunction Mars
MC Conjunction Moon
Uranus Conjunction AS
Node Conjunction MC
MC Conjunction Saturn
Node Conjunction Uranus
Edit: Taurus used to threaten to leave home. I got sick of it. So, we were all at a restuarant with his last declaration. I told him fine, me and your dad will be right here enjoying our meal and newspaper while you take on the world. That Taurus put down his fork, looked us both in the eye, and paused. LOL! That's were I messed up. Since then, he's been with us, restuarant and all... LOL!
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Here are her placements, she has a Sag Moon and I have an Aqua Moon:
Sun Conjunction Mercury 4°37' 503
Moon Trine Jupiter 2°21' 99
Moon Trine Pluto 2°09' 73
Mercury Trine Saturn 4°52' 47
Venus Trine Mars 5°51' 68
Venus Square Jupiter 5°25' -17
Venus Opposition Saturn 5°10' -141
Venus Sextile Uranus 0°55' 245
Venus Square Pluto 0°55' -102
Mars Opposition Uranus 6°46' -58
Jupiter Conjunction Pluto 4°30' 132
Saturn Trine Uranus 4°15' 33
Uranus Square Neptune 1°18' -39
Neptune Sextile Pluto 3°09' 22
And my placements:
Sun Conjunction Mercury 4°10' 420
Sun Trine Neptune 3°24' 69
Sun Opposition Pluto 4°04' -181
Moon Sextile Venus 2°32' 110
Moon Square Mars 2°44' -123
Moon Trine Pluto 7°18' 13
Mercury Conjunction Venus 9°44' 11
Mercury Trine Neptune 0°47' 90
Mercury Opposition Pluto 0°06' -267
Venus Trine Uranus 7°48' 2
Jupiter Sextile Saturn 0°48' 76
Neptune Sextile Pluto 0°40' 78
My aunt is an Aries and oh man, she'd love nothing else than to have her kids live with her forever. She'd even pay all their bills if she could. (As long as they loved her and cooked for her.) Lol
My other Aunt is a Taurus and they don't get along as well...both can be extremely stubborn (from an outsider's view.) Which is where they clash, both want things their way.
Growing up I would not call my aries aunt sweet or loving, but I could see where she was coming from when she did or said certain things. My Taurus aunt was nonexistent, always doing her own thing.
Aries parents can be tough on their kids (from what I've seen), but they do love to have them around. My best friend's Mom is also an Aries...again not super loving with her words, but likes to have her kids around her and is there for them.
Seems as though your Mom's words hurt you...I have a lot of Taurus in my life, and words truly hurt a Taurus in my opinion. You all can take a lot to heart, whereas Fire signs do, but then let it go fast. Taurus also like to do things their way, so I can see how someone as strong minded as an Aries can rub you the wrong way often.
I think honestly, she just misses you.
My other Aunt is a Taurus and they don't get along as well...both can be extremely stubborn (from an outsider's view.) Which is where they clash, both want things their way.
Growing up I would not call my aries aunt sweet or loving, but I could see where she was coming from when she did or said certain things. My Taurus aunt was nonexistent, always doing her own thing.
Aries parents can be tough on their kids (from what I've seen), but they do love to have them around. My best friend's Mom is also an Aries...again not super loving with her words, but likes to have her kids around her and is there for them.
Seems as though your Mom's words hurt you...I have a lot of Taurus in my life, and words truly hurt a Taurus in my opinion. You all can take a lot to heart, whereas Fire signs do, but then let it go fast. Taurus also like to do things their way, so I can see how someone as strong minded as an Aries can rub you the wrong way often.
I think honestly, she just misses you.
We all miss our kids when they leave
Not all of us guilt trip them though
It's not about us.....it's about the children we raised, loved without conditions and then let them free
Not all of us guilt trip them though
It's not about us.....it's about the children we raised, loved without conditions and then let them free
Posted by taurusgirl9000Mannn. I'm a Scorpio with an Aries mother. Your words are exactly what I would have written and added on to. I've been wanting to ask about Aries mothers for a while now as well.
TL;DR: Is there typically tension between Taurus children and Aries parents?
My mom is an Aries; she is very quick to anger, childish, and very emotional. I am noting the negative qualities because these are the things that have caused a strain in our relationship over the years. I find it very hard to be around her and even talking to her over the phone. I constantly have to exercise patience. We can never have just a normal conversation.
She can also be very passive aggressive and it's hurtful to me.
I know she loves me, but our relationship has always been tense. She smothers me and I feel the need to have space as a result.
Now we live in different countries (I moved away). She says things like, "Well, it's not like you'll be here to help me" (when she's elderly). And now the smothering is even worse, since I live far away, when I return to visit her she expects me to live with her for a month at least. This time I couldn't stay that long, only three weeks, and she constantly references that I am "only here for 21 days." She still has my dad and I know they love each other.
This trip was very expensive for me, I stopped everything to come visit, and I feel that it isn't enough. And that nothing seems to be enough for her, she is never happy. She would probably be happy if I had a house, a husband, kids, and lived down the street from her. That will never happen.
I don't feel like that's something she should be doing to me. Anyone else have similar experience with an Aries mom?
My relationship with my mother is like a love hate, and a lot of times I've felt like the mother.. or more mature one in a way. I, like you, moved away to another state years ago. Through recent counseling to review my relationship with my parents, heal and understand I've come to learn that I always felt like I lived in the shadow of my mother for some reason. Like she had a power over me, where I never was able to know who I was. It's crazy because typically I am not that person. Like you said, yes, they can smother in some way.
Honestly I've come to learn that as bad as it sounds it has been a difficult karma to have my Aries mother. The lesson I have learned from her is acceptance. I must accept her as she is, because if you mother is anything like my stubborn Aries mother, she will not change but I can change the way I view her and our relationships. I've also learned and am working on setting boundaries with her (which I will not outwardly inform her about). Finally, I have learned that I have to drop my "expectation" of what my mother will be -this relates to the acceptance- because she ain't changing lol.
It's been a long hard road between my mom and I (a lot of times I've felt like the crazy one) and I must say I am thankful that I don't live close to her. I am also thankful for the motherhood she has provided me, although it was never what I wanted. I can only continue to work on myself and hope that it will bring a healthier relationship with her moving forward.
If your mom is making you feel guilty don't allow it. If you know you are doing your best that's all you can do. I'd suggest setting up a boundary like being stern and saying something like "mom, I and doing my best to see you. This is as much as I can do" something along those lines. Also seek professional advice if you really need. It was hard for me to figure it out alone and I was so glad to get a professional opinion.
Posted by DatariesgirlOh wow. They are lucky to have such a sweet understanding mom like you. 🙂Posted by Cancan26My Cancer daughter is a cancer/leo cusps with Aquarius moon, Leo risingÂPosted by DatariesgirlWow. This is interesting you guys are all cardinal, I know you love them but do you find it hard to understand them with one square you and the other your opposite?
Sorry you are experiencing this with you mother.
I have two daughters, Cancer and Libra. They are the loves of my life and we are very close.
Do their natural personality get in your nerves... What is your moin and their moons?
She is so similar to me... I do have to step away when she is going through issues because she is VERY private. That's hard for me because I feel the need to solve all of her provlems. But that irritates her.
My youngest Libra, Pisces moon, sag rising... my total opposite. She is stuck to me like glue. She knows me better than I know myself. She is really sociable and needs to have friends and loved ones around. She makes me emotionally softer, they both do...Â
Aries sun, Virgo moonclick to expand
Posted by taurusgirl9000Without knowing all the placements, here is what I can say. Your mother has been good to you. The place where you guys fall apart are your actions. The emotions or the way you feel about your mother "she is very quick to anger, childish, " she feels about you but, add "very sensitive" in exchange for "very emotional."Posted by VenusAquariusI'm new to astrology 🙂Posted by taurusgirl9000Yes, I guess you can see why she clings to you. Can you be sympathetic when knowing where her angst is coming from? Take pride in all of this? "Enablers," as you describe her, are often clingy.Posted by VenusAquariusI have a brother, but he's a total fuck-up and they had to kick him out of the house to save themselves. They tried for ten years to have him living here and he did so much to harm them. We actually no longer speak because of his actions, which he has never bothered owning or apologizing for.
Based on what you've said, your mother misses you. You became independent very early on. And, if you are the only child, it probably really pains her.
I am an Aries with a Taurus son.
The sun sign... eh, I would have to know your moon, her moon, your 1st house and 4th... for an astrological perspective.
I think she often feels like a bad mother because of him. She absolutely enables him and is making his problem worse. She knows it, has admitted it, and continues to do it... And similarly, I feel like everything "rides" on me, like I have to be perfect and please them because he sure as hell won't. My brother has caused a lot of strife in my family and we really have no "family unit" because of what he has done.
I don't know how much you know about astrology. But, as I said, I'm an Aries with a Taurus son. We get along very well...so well, he has no plans of leaving home (which also fits his generation).
Me and my children all have mutable Moons, me Gemini, my Taurus son - Sag Moon, my Pisces daughter - Pisces Moon.
So, it's not all about son signs. My Pisces threatens to leave all the time... we have Moon opposition Pluto and Mars.
Here are some conjunctions with my son.. notice the Moon aspects....
Taurus son/Me
Mercury Conjunction Moon
Neptune Conjunction AS
Mercury Conjunction Mars
Jupiter Conjunction Neptune
MC Conjunction Mars
MC Conjunction Moon
Uranus Conjunction AS
Node Conjunction MC
MC Conjunction Saturn
Node Conjunction Uranus
Edit: Taurus used to threaten to leave home. I got sick of it. So, we were all at a restuarant with his last declaration. I told him fine, me and your dad will be right here enjoying our meal and newspaper while you take on the world. That Taurus put down his fork, looked us both in the eye, and paused. LOL! That's were I messed up. Since then, he's been with us, restuarant and all... LOL!
Here are her placements, she has a Sag Moon and I have an Aqua Moon:
Sun Conjunction Mercury 4°37' 503
Moon Trine Jupiter 2°21' 99
Moon Trine Pluto 2°09' 73
Mercury Trine Saturn 4°52' 47
Venus Trine Mars 5°51' 68
Venus Square Jupiter 5°25' -17
Venus Opposition Saturn 5°10' -141
Venus Sextile Uranus 0°55' 245
Venus Square Pluto 0°55' -102
Mars Opposition Uranus 6°46' -58
Jupiter Conjunction Pluto 4°30' 132
Saturn Trine Uranus 4°15' 33
Uranus Square Neptune 1°18' -39
Neptune Sextile Pluto 3°09' 22
And my placements:
Sun Conjunction Mercury 4°10' 420
Sun Trine Neptune 3°24' 69
Sun Opposition Pluto 4°04' -181
Moon Sextile Venus 2°32' 110
Moon Square Mars 2°44' -123
Moon Trine Pluto 7°18' 13
Mercury Conjunction Venus 9°44' 11
Mercury Trine Neptune 0°47' 90
Mercury Opposition Pluto 0°06' -267
Venus Trine Uranus 7°48' 2
Jupiter Sextile Saturn 0°48' 76
Neptune Sextile Pluto 0°40' 78
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You both have Sun Conjunct Mercury... ego associated or reflective of your thought processes and communication style s. So, your communication is a battle of wills, ego... Look up Moon square Mars to see how you come off and maybe, you find ways to satisify your mom without feeling like you're giving up your personal freedom. Find solace that you are really in control.
Posted by aNEWdayYes, she is extremely stubborn. A huge problem with us is also that I feel more mature than she is, and I have always felt that way. Here is an example:Posted by taurusgirl9000Mannn. I'm a Scorpio with an Aries mother. Your words are exactly what I would have written and added on to. I've been wanting to ask about Aries mothers for a while now as well.
TL;DR: Is there typically tension between Taurus children and Aries parents?
My mom is an Aries; she is very quick to anger, childish, and very emotional. I am noting the negative qualities because these are the things that have caused a strain in our relationship over the years. I find it very hard to be around her and even talking to her over the phone. I constantly have to exercise patience. We can never have just a normal conversation.
She can also be very passive aggressive and it's hurtful to me.
I know she loves me, but our relationship has always been tense. She smothers me and I feel the need to have space as a result.
Now we live in different countries (I moved away). She says things like, "Well, it's not like you'll be here to help me" (when she's elderly). And now the smothering is even worse, since I live far away, when I return to visit her she expects me to live with her for a month at least. This time I couldn't stay that long, only three weeks, and she constantly references that I am "only here for 21 days." She still has my dad and I know they love each other.
This trip was very expensive for me, I stopped everything to come visit, and I feel that it isn't enough. And that nothing seems to be enough for her, she is never happy. She would probably be happy if I had a house, a husband, kids, and lived down the street from her. That will never happen.
I don't feel like that's something she should be doing to me. Anyone else have similar experience with an Aries mom?
My relationship with my mother is like a love hate, and a lot of times I've felt like the mother.. or more mature one in a way. I, like you, moved away to another state years ago. Through recent counseling to review my relationship with my parents, heal and understand I've come to learn that I always felt like I lived in the shadow of my mother for some reason. Like she had a power over me, where I never was able to know who I was. It's crazy because typically I am not that person. Like you said, yes, they can smother in some way.
Honestly I've come to learn that as bad as it sounds it has been a difficult karma to have my Aries mother. The lesson I have learned from her is acceptance. I must accept her as she is, because if you mother is anything like my stubborn Aries mother, she will not change but I can change the way I view her and our relationships. I've also learned and am working on setting boundaries with her (which I will not outwardly inform her about). Finally, I have learned that I have to drop my "expectation" of what my mother will be -this relates to the acceptance- because she ain't changing lol.
It's been a long hard road between my mom and I (a lot of times I've felt like the crazy one) and I must say I am thankful that I don't live close to her. I am also thankful for the motherhood she has provided me, although it was never what I wanted. I can only continue to work on myself and hope that it will bring a healthier relationship with her moving forward.
If your mom is making you feel guilty don't allow it. If you know you are doing your best that's all you can do. I'd suggest setting up a boundary like being stern and saying something like "mom, I and doing my best to see you. This is as much as I can do" something along those lines. Also seek professional advice if you really need. It was hard for me to figure it out alone and I was so glad to get a professional opinion.click to expand
She is the type of person that claims she wants to lose weight ("I know I'd feel better if I could get this weight off"), asks me for advice on healthful eating, and then it ends with her tearing my head off because I said something she didn't like, or she perceived that I was criticizing her (which I know damn well better than to do). She told me later that she reacted this way because she doesn't really want to change, she just feels she has to SAY she wants to change. Meanwhile she criticizes my overweight family members behind their backs as a way to make herself feel better: "At least I'm not that heavy..."
I get frustrated because I want her to be healthy so that she can age more comfortably and painlessly. Lately I stopped talking about her completely. I never engage in any discussion anymore about her life. I just listen and say, "Yeah," etc.... I guess with some people you just can't engage. It's taken me years to realize that, but there is still tension between us.
Posted by WolfInRamsClothingYes. When our children are born, my husband whispers, "Stay with me forever."
I think almost every mother would want you to have a husband, family and live next door. My Leo mom is the same, but she doesn't have anyone but me around, so it's hard for her to let me go. And my Leo mom is very quick in everything and acts like a child, no kidding.
He's from the country part of US... where family own land and build houses next to one another.
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My mom is an Aries; she is very quick to anger, childish, and very emotional. I am noting the negative qualities because these are the things that have caused a strain in our relationship over the years. I find it very hard to be around her and even talking to her over the phone. I constantly have to exercise patience. We can never have just a normal conversation.
She can also be very passive aggressive and it's hurtful to me.
I know she loves me, but our relationship has always been tense. She smothers me and I feel the need to have space as a result.
Now we live in different countries (I moved away). She says things like, "Well, it's not like you'll be here to help me" (when she's elderly). And now the smothering is even worse, since I live far away, when I return to visit her she expects me to live with her for a month at least. This time I couldn't stay that long, only three weeks, and she constantly references that I am "only here for 21 days." She still has my dad and I know they love each other.
This trip was very expensive for me, I stopped everything to come visit, and I feel that it isn't enough. And that nothing seems to be enough for her, she is never happy. She would probably be happy if I had a house, a husband, kids, and lived down the street from her. That will never happen.
I don't feel like that's something she should be doing to me. Anyone else have similar experience with an Aries mom?