Aries confusion.. Good girl vs. Bad b****

So I'm at a new phase in my life, and I don't quite know how to handle it lol I need your help..

I am a fiery Aries - very flirtatious and a highly sexual being by nature, but at the same time I like to think of myself as an intelligent and "high-value" woman.

In relationships I used to rather have sex from early on, sometimes even on first dates (feel free to judge I don't mind), and I never had problems with "keeping" the men. In fact, my relationship of 4-years started w/sex on the first date.

However, I decided to change my habits and not let guys, who I am only dating have the benefits of a boyfriend. So now not only am I celibate till I have a real bf again, but also I'm completely cutting out sexting. This is particularly hard for me, because I've been doing this for the past 3 years with multiple guys at the same time. My motto has always been: keep more guys warm, so that you don't get too emotionally attached to just one too soon and suffocate him. This has been working out just great for me.

Now, while putting my new "rules" out there to the guys I've been flirting with for years I realized - I have NO idea how to do that lol

It's horrible, it feels like I am playing the Holy Virgin -.- I went from being very cool, fun and flirtatious to "Yeah, we're cool, but don't ask me for pictures! I won't even respond to your sexy messages! Who do you think I am?"

Basically, I would like to increase my standards, but hardly know how. I feel like I come off as stuck up, stiff, boring and trying to prove something for no reason. It doesn't feel like me, because I'm not used to it. Am I wrong for wanting to LIVE the "high-value woman" life and not just think that of myself? How do I approach it?

No you're not wrong. Just cut out the sluttiness and only be slutty to one person, (whoever you want to be your bf)

I avoid this type of woman... as now you are hitting 26 and 27... want to settle down with someone you could see yourself with in the long run. Normally want the "bad boys" that don't have jobs... or are good father figures... You wasted your time and even some of you best years just having fun. I am not saying it is ok to have some fun but to be constantly in mult relationships to become emotionally detached... this changes people.

6 months of 10 years is 5 percent.... 25 to 35 are some of a woman most important years. As it is their real child baring years... Every year after 27 a woman become less attractive... on an animal level... because fertility. I tell all women this because they wake up one day and go I better get this family thing together... and sharing/mixing that much Auric energy is not a good thing... Unless you are open with them about being sexually active with more then one person... Which is still not good. Often people say that and the other partner gets emotionally attached when they start sleeping with different people...

I hope you can repair your aura first... so you can mix your energies to have a better connection... You may have messed with it to much... This is my personal thoughts don't take them personally... I am sure you are not a bad person.

PM

Lol thanks, Murray. Even though I wouldn't call it "sluttiness", because even though it was direct, it was still subtle and tasteful. I appreciate your opinion though!

Great input, Piscesmoon! I am in the middle of purifying..

Without wanting to sound dramatic: nobody taught me how to value myself and how to operate on a certain level. Only now during my University years and being on my own for 3 years I have started to learn growth and spirituality. It was never a a part of my reality until I started to teach myself.

I counted as a great gain however, instead of a loss, due to my age. Finding yourself at 26 is better than getting married and having children for all the wrong reasons (because your bilogical clock is ticking) and THEN finding yourself at 40..

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Aries 04 I could not agree more with you... I don't think you will have a problem then as you seem like you are set on your course of action. I would recommend sage oil... and Rose quarts to help heal your aura. Put the rose quarts under your pillow as you sleep and maybe even a pendent.

I recommend Onyx to really cut any other type of bond from there side... so no drifting thoughts come back to you. I would say also say non sexually involved for 6 months... even if there are guys you would normally be interested in around... and you will or should have no rips in your aura anymore or others auric energy from past lovers. I know this does not sound like fun... but done this myself... and yes it is hard not to want to sleep with the bouncing 22 year old here in college town of chico... but I know it would not be anything substantial

PM

Okay, I don't know much about gemstones and I'm not really sure whether this is something I believe in. But thanks a lot for this info PM..

It definitely doesn't sound like fun, you're right lol this is exactly what I have a problem with. This seems so counter me, because I'm a really cool girl and I enjoy all emotions, whether it's balance, joy, love or lust. I LIVE it.. I find it hard to be a "high value" woman and staying relaxed and cool. Somehow I see a discontinuation in these two :/

I guess I need role models and examples until I'm comfortable with this role myself.

Aries04

I am sure you will be fine... you are most likely focusing on this because the Aries moon made you emotional and think about this even more... I an an Aries sun... but In the 3rd house so mine was more about my extended family.

What house is your Aries Sun?

PM

I am not sure how to find out my houses.. My chart is on my profile if it helps, PM? How does this influence my decision-making or my emotional feelings?


Tiziani, what do you mean you would have guessed 28, rather than 26? I don't think I get it..

Posted by starlover
Aries in the 3rd ~~ isnt the 3rd more about study and communiation..i thought the 4th was family and home..no?

I believe communication of extended family... second house is father... or direct family...

I could always be wrong... I don't always double check and go from memory...

PM

Thank you Tiziani, I take is as a big compliment! 🙂

Aries women are warrior queens. You don't have to come across as a Holy Virgin to get the message across that you value yourself. When a man starts getting out of pocket, I glance at him serenely and he gets the message and usually apologizes profusely. Some men want to keep testing my boundaries and I tell them "This conversation is now over." and I leave. The End. That doesn't happen too often usually the serene look and the silence are enough to stop BS behavior. In my 20's, I used to say things like "Run along and find some low hanging fruit to date." Alas, I have mellowed out in my old age. 🙂