aries guy, saggie girl..........grrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!

This topic was created in the Aries forum by seaclovers on Friday, January 18, 2008 and has 10 replies.
ok.. heres the low down on whats up:
him: march 28
me:nov 24
we work together, ive liked him for THE longest time, finally after an argument with him early december last year (argument consisted of me being pissed cause he would ditch his friends...i.e.-> me, when he would become infatuated with some other girl; unaware i liked him) and told him i liked him.
he responded and said he liked me too, but didnt think anything of it and we remained friends.
until the 23rd of dec, when we kissed and he asked me to be his. to make things
short:
--> i had the best christmas of my life and the worst new years. kissing me.
basically for the last few weeks ive been completely and utterly confused and depressed and all the crap in between. ive felt sooo bad about everything and i felt like b/c i told him i liked him that i messed things up. like its all my fault for everything.
by the way we were really close friends before all of this.
today i asked him flat out(well through a text cause he was somewhere else) if me waiting for him is really worth it.
and he said no.
i asked him why
he said b/c i was "smothering" him with my apologies.
my point of view->>>> what else could i do but apologise w
when the one person i want to be with wont
really talk to me about anything and he claims to still feel the same way but acts differently? i was soo taken by him that i fell head over heels for him, to have him sweep me off my feet, give me that perfect fairytale dream for a moment and take it away from me and leave me confused..
i told him, and everyone around that i would do anything for him and was willing to wait for him, just as long as he gave me a reason that me waiting would be worth it.
we got in a huge fight, and now i feel he doesnt want anything to do with me...
problem is: we still work together.i still love him utterly

question-:::::>>>
is there any chance he would ever feel that way again towards me? is there really no glimmer of hope for the two of us in the future?
was it really my fault for apologizing the way i did, although he didnt help by not really talking to me???
i dont know what to do.
please help!!!!!
thanks!!!
you two should talk it out when the ice melts.....
maybe you shouldnt have asked him if he,s worth waiting for,or apologised so much,he knows he,s got you where he wants you,they need to be kept guessing,ignore him and sure he,ll be back .been through same situation.
Yes. You need to ignore him. Aries loves being wanted, but if they feel they're the only thing you see, they lose interest. We are the kings/queens of mind games. Lol.
Let him think about how much he misses/needs you. Aries NEEDS to be the one doing the chasing... If you chase him too much, he will run... and we've established that he in fact, is.
Give it time. It will be difficult but if you really want him, you need to pretend like you haven't lost a thing.
Yes, quit paying him any attention. If he really likes you, this will drive him absolutely insane and he'll be after you in no time. He wants to be the one doing the chasing. If you're chasing him, then it's boring to him.
one minute your his girlfriend then next your just his friend {yawn] dissapears for awhile with {ONE OF HIS EXES}your supposed to be mad and jealous get mad and jealous at first then cotton on, use all your strength not to contact him lo and behold he,s back,but your still just a friend he,ll phone you dont phone him,show a little bit of interest {after all dont want to lose him has a friend]good news is hes supposedly attached,your free so get out there and play and party and{WHEN]you see him again ,enjoy telling him about your life,been there done that,
awaiting next installment ,cant wait to see what happens next,known him three years and after going through this now you see him now you dont, each phase of seeing him has brought us more closer.
i think he has to sort his head out these phases are like tests,i think you haveto be a strong person to go through this ,i will give him a couple of years then make my conclusions .and by the way these phases are every six months.
I read ur post... and i gotta say i personally hate the 'im sorrys', apologising is great... but if it happens to often its pointless. dont apologise, just stop doing whatever it is that you're doing! i mean apologises mean ur sry and ur not gonna do whatever it was again, am i correct? than stop doing it! and granted aries are fairly clingy, but dont cling to much on us... we need to bounce around. give him space, he'll be back for sure
thanks so much!!!
and actually ive done what you guys said only cause i felt there was nothing else to do but let him be, and ive noticed a complete change in him. he's back to the way he was and im not nearly as concerned with him and his life than i was before.
i now realize we cant date because of work, and so even at work, i act normal and hes the one giving me gentle caresses during work whenever he gets a chance and talks to me in double meanings and just the things he used to do.
i really loved that
so now i see things for what they are, and we are better like this i guess. maybe later on down the road something may spark up again, but for now, im content with the ways things are now. smile
thanks everyone!!!!!
careful!
he wont let you be content for long. soon enough he will make his move, and trust me when i say SOON! lol better hold on to your boot straps hehe, the longer you act just content but response and let him give you the carrasing his blood will boil ever so hot for you ahahahahaha now you've done it lol

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