ARIES IN CRISIS

Aloha All.

I know that Aries are suppose to be OPEN, HONEST, BLUNT, OUT SPOKEN, COMMUNICATORS, just to name a few, but what happens when that special woman comes around and you loose all those traits??

FEAR.

how do we deal with true fear?
I mean, what do we really do when in a situation when your back is up against a wall?

in love that is? a forbidden love?

aloha

Oh Gosh, Aloha.

Well.....you can follow your heart and risk the consequences. Just ask yourself if she's really worth it.

Or, you can distance yourself, be mean to her and just let it go.

Or, you can be secretive, have your cake and eat it too...but believe me, that's hard to maintain for longer than like, a day!! lol

i don't know. If you love her, and she loves you, and you are 100% sure that she is the one (and vice versa) well then I say, follow your heart. No matter what the consequences....unless she is like, your bro's woman or something...then be prepared to die!! lol

"how do we deal with true fear?
I mean, what do we really do when in a situation when your back is up against a wall?"

Trust Urself. Is shez ever gonna remain by Ur side ..then it will only happen when U defeat that feeling of fear. Easier said than done...But we shud never go overboard trying to please somebody.

Being in real true love kinda sucks, doesn't it? It's like all rationality goes right out the damn window and you find yourself doing ridiculous things..crazy things...things you could only dream of.

it's really a powerful thing. all those songs you hear about the power of love. they are so freakin true.

you could move mountains with it....or at least risk your damn life, and not bat a damn eyelash....

crazy really

"Being in real true love kinda sucks, doesn't it? "

Do U think itz actually true Jenna ? I feel that itz escapism.

Yeah, I really do seriously wish it were that way, but for me it wasn't.

It was like a drug, like a dream, I guess if you wanted to, you could compare it to a form of escapism....to lose yourself in someone so completely that you absolutely lose all your damn sense.

Thats why I think that it kinda sucks. It makes you do stupid shizznit, and a lot of the time, you are the one that loses in the end for your stupid actions.

But don't tell that to someone in true love, cuz it just won't matter to them. Like I said, all sense and sensibility goes out the window, and you become one of those stupid characters you read about in those retarded old epic love stories.

What's "forbidden" about this love—

That's really great you're able to realize the need to overcome your fear. Most of the time we move quickly as to avoid seeing our flaws. Which is stupid, really, because ignoring problems makes them grow larger..hmm...

My Pisces does it for me, too. I literally feel like I'm dying. I start falling into he'll catch me. But it's not painful. And yet it's the most frigtening thing I've tried to do. But it's exciting. Challenging. And ultimately, should I succeed, will be very rewarding.

So while you're with her, just try not to think about it. Go inside your head where you keep your dreams. And realize you'll only get what you want if you take a risk. Like JennaT said, forget the consequences. Go full-out, dude!

But I'm curious, my fellow Arians: Does it take being ignored or doubted to make you rise to action?

"Does it take being ignored or doubted to make you rise to action?
"

Certainly holds for me. I am inspired to deliver the best when ppl assume that I can not.

aloha & mahalo for your interest.
If you haven't been reading all my posts on this site, for the past few months,
the forbidden love is self induced, I guess, because of my own principles like
not getting involved with friends sisters or someone 15 years younger than me.

I felt a sweet vibe between us since we met the first time. she seemed to have a crush on me but I stalled it and played dumb because I thought she needed to mature a bit more or I was just too scared to hand my heart over to someone that MIGHT not know how to handle it. I was IN LOVE only once before, and it hurt like hell when we broke up, 8 years, from age 18-26. Very important years.

anyways. my tactics have been right on. Being patient and just relying on communicating through indirect manners. mainly eye contact & vibes, which I feel are the true form of love communication. There's no need to talk excpet at the beginning when you need to establish your feelings and the rest of the time you should be in sync.

I feel I am almost there. been waiting/stalling for a year or so. she has come along so well. It seems to me that she is a huge romantic and wishes to fall in love in that traditional & Old English romantic way. where the union is based on several factors & rooted in the strong attraction.

I feel I owe the family & her the respect that it takes to be careful. she has never been in love before and I have. Now, I truely know, since I have grown up & matured a great deal, what TRUE LOVE takes to accomplish.

I always feel a bit distant/uncomfortable when I am around her because there is always family around, so I am super respectful. We rarely have any time alone for reasons beyond our control. But tonight, its different. I think I will have a chance that I have been waiting for, for a long time, not only a year & a half but almost 10 years since my last real relationship.

I am a hopeless romantic & and have never been in another real relationship since. I have had my fun and small/short relations but feel I am ready and that she would be the best thing for me. she will add to my life all that I need, all that I don't have or don't know how to get. as well as me, her, since we are considered opposites since she is a virgo & I am an aries. but she shares a lot of other planets & signs as I.

Basically, I feel chemistry which is the most important. She also does too, which I found out from one of her friends after I tied her down and made her share some info.

well, that could've gone a lot better. the place we met up at was too crowded and could barely talk but we danced alot. We only had a couple of hours and she was designated driver so no drinking. whuch us good but would've helped a bit.

so, patience us a virtue...🙂

will keep trying.

aloha & mahalo.

Keep trying, maui. It sounds deep and true. Worth trying, my friend.

When all else fails, empty the magazine. That's how i deal with fear. 😉

When all else fails, empty the magazine. That's how i deal with fear. 😉

aloha & mahalo.

I thought patience was my worst trait.....and I didn't know fear was even a trait...🙂

why does valentines need to be around? so much pressure....aaaaaaaaaaaa.

aloha

maui', you're so right. Valentines puts SO much pressure on ALL of us! NOT fair!

It seems EVERY valuable relationship I've had tests my patience---that's my two cents telling you you're probably on track and it's worth it.

g'fox, I'm considering celebrating Valentine's Day either the day before, the day after or at NOON on the 14th. Ha! I still think a woman likes things to be subtle and would actually prefer a big statement (i.e. a dozen red roses) when not expected. What do you think?

mahalo guys.

I knew I wasn't alone.

I'd much rather let true love form naturally & at its own pace and not be pressured by any human created holiday, or anything for that matter.

I gues if she is the one she will agree with me, right.

sticking to my guns.

aloha