Aries Love Triangle. Aries Male Libra & Virgo females

I'm the Libra. I'd like advice about my Aries Ex. I'm wondering if he's rebounding and expecting us to eventually get back together or what he's most likely doing.

Okay. We were friends for 4 years before we even dated. I always had this "trance" over him. Even when he had other girlfriends, He put me 1st. He was so persistent. When we started dating he was obsessed with me. He let everyone know I was his and he had a gf. made it very public. Everyone knew he wasn't this "relationship type" so saw me as the real thing. We went everywhere together. He is very good looking--always the most handsome of the group. He loved my charm and sweet demeanor and grace but also he loved the chase. We always had a good time together as friends so we based our relationship on the friend foundation. Right away we always fought. It was mostly his jealousy and me being the social butterfly at a party. So, I stopped going out and expected him to stop too and that's where we clashed. He doesn't like to be controlled and he allowed me to control him to make it work. But it would push him to Lie.

The passion never stopped and the sex was always amazing.but jealousy got really bad and He broke up with me bc he felt suffocated. I instantly started talking to someone from the past (as Aries was breaking up with me) and told him I loved him the same day, my Aries guy went thru my phone and saw it and freaked out in a rage and we didn't end on good terms.

A week later I found out I was pregnant. he begged for a chance for a family. we were off and on our whole pregnancy and when the baby was born he came around but I had then gotten fat and insecure and just couldn't let the fact go that he'd talk to other girls when we were "off". The whole two years we never had space or had time to get over anything so it was all built up. I broke up with him and moved out. He said if I left it was over but he couldn't let go.

Some (ugly) girl came around and I know for a fact he just used her for $ in the beginning but when I blocked his # and he saw someone bought me flowers for Valentine's Day--he started "dating her". I found out bc he didn't sign off fb on an old laptop and I read messages. He told her he loved her but in the same breath asked her to buy him a phone and help pay his rent. After a month of NC he begged me to spend family time before custody court bc he saw me and I lost all my weight and saw guys trying to date me. He didn't even mention he had a gf and tried hiding it. He was trying to get back together and tried kissing on me and I told him I knew about her and that I was dating someone too. He then got jealous and now throws her in my face.

Nobody even knows about her and he even asked me if He could take me on vacation---just us. He does nothing for her. Constantly trying to make excuses to speak to me. He never goes out with her--only has her pick him up at bar close. Is he just keeping her around to make me want him back? how do I get him to

...want me back?? Like I'm trying to ignore him and now he's trying to act like he's serious about her. He only acts that way to me tho like none of his friends acknowledge her....seriously. She's a Virgo and he said she's more of a women then me (which is a lie bc she was a one night stand to many of his friend) and looks matter to him and she's nothing compared to me. But that's not even the factor it's bc she lets him walk all over her like she's weak and he would never be with someone like that. He said she's not on his fb bc he wants to be private but I think he's just telling me that but really he's just usin her to make me jealous bc he's always like "u left me, u should of never moved out" line what's he really doing. I feel like when I ignored him that month that's when he was realizing she was just a rebound but when I told him I had a Bf now too--I think that pushed him away. Idk what to do to bc I feel like I pushed him towards wanting to be with her now out of trying to seem like he moved on.

I know he misses me. It's so obvious. But it's his pride. What do I do to make him want me back? Or do u think now he's going to really be with her?

My bday 10-2-90
His 04-07-90
Hers 08-24-88

Posted by VirgowScorpiMoon
WOW...the games you and him are playing with each other...my goodness. Shouldn't it be more about the baby right now and co-parenting? and less about the push and pull you guys seem to be playing? I don't know why you focus so much on the other girl. You need to sit him down and have A SERIOUS CHAT about where the two of you stand right now.

The baby is good. He's well taken care of...we're going to court to just have it on paper. But he doesn't see him as much unless I'm involved too. But we agree on everything when it comes to the baby anyways. That's not an issue.

Idk I feel like that could happen but his ego prevents him to speak from the heart. especially since this is recent

But I guess i acknowledge her because she's involved. And idk if she's actually a factor or not. I feel like she isn't but I second guess myself

Posted by VirgowScorpiMoon
And as a Virgo, I have to say when we like someone, we become like the best assistants. Their relationship might be working as of right now but I really do think Libras bring more fun. But if he is thinking really logically right now, the Virgo could possibly be someone he ends up with just because there are less issues. So if you can, try not to create arguments between the two of you right now otherwise it's just going downhill.

Ahh. That's kind of my fear. I know he desires me and in a perfect world he'd pick me but she literally does everything for him.....as in pays for everything for him. Her convenience is definitively a plus on her end. She drives 40 min to and from to bring him to work. She even calls in... To the point that she makes herself seem like she's being used. And she's okay with it? I did those things too to an extent but I hated the fact I felt like he wanted to have that man role but yet I'm helpin him to be a man??! Idk. I'm hoping if I just don't argue...like u said....he will see the relationship for what it is....just convenience....idk. What drives an Aries? I know she feels threatened by me tho bc I've saw her drive by my house many time looking to see if he was here. (She knows he tried getting back with me and that he asked to take me on vacation)

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Posted by VirgowScorpiMoon
And as a Virgo, I have to say when we like someone, we become like the best assistants. Their relationship might be working as of right now but I really do think Libras bring more fun. But if he is thinking really logically right now, the Virgo could possibly be someone he ends up with just because there are less issues. So if you can, try not to create arguments between the two of you right now otherwise it's just going downhill.

Ahh. That's kind of my fear. I know he desires me and in a perfect world he'd pick me but she literally does everything for him.....as in pays for everything for him. Her convenience is definitively a plus on her end. She drives 40 min to and from to bring him to work. She even calls in... To the point that she makes herself seem like she's being used. And she's okay with it? I did those things too to an extent but I hated the fact I felt like he wanted to have that man role but yet I'm helpin him to be a man??! Idk. I'm hoping if I just don't argue...like u said....he will see the relationship for what it is....just convenience....idk. What drives an Aries? I know she feels threatened by me tho bc I've saw her drive by my house many time looking to see if he was here. (She knows he tried getting back with me and that he asked to take me on vacation)

That sounds like a confused girl right there... She might not feel like she's getting used at the moment. I'm not saying not arguing will bring him back but for sure but it helps to not add fuel to the fire. I think Aries are drawn to fun and exciting atmosphere and a good/warm family life (if he grew up with parents that are good models). I think he has to be able to picture that kind of lifestyle in order to consider the possibilities with you again.

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She definitely has no idea. I feel bad for her bc I think she thought she won the jackpot with him. He literally looks like a celebrity and she probably was shocked that a guy like this is getting intimate with her. Anddd I mean that in the most respectful way. I'm just trying to give detail of the situation. And she's older then us but she's legit head over heels for him so she's literally doing whatever bc she knows he isn't honest about how involved he still tries to be with me. But yeah I definitely see him needing to visualize us being that happy family before considering trying to make it work again.

Posted by VirgowScorpiMoon
WOW...the games you and him are playing with each other...my goodness. Shouldn't it be more about the baby right now and co-parenting? and less about the push and pull you guys seem to be playing? I don't know why you focus so much on the other girl. You need to sit him down and have A SERIOUS CHAT about where the two of you stand right now.

Because shes young and confused.

This isnt a Love Triangle. He already chose the person he wants to be with and thats not you. Sorry for the harsh reality check but why would you want to get back with him if you guys werent in a functional relationship? Yall are gunna fvck up your babies psyche growing up watching mom and dad in a dysfunctional relationship. Let him co-parent with you and take responsibility for the child you guys have. Idk, he sounds like an idiot who is just playing games. And I think part of the reason you want him back (aside from him being your baby daddy) is to prove to the "ugly Virgo" that you can have him back whenever you want so youre trying to teach her a lesson in fallin back cus you and your Aries have a stronger bond obvi (your kid).

This all means nothing.

Ask yourself why do you want him back despite the headaches? What can he provide for you that another man cant? What will he provide for you that YOU cant provide for yourself? Think about your kid and the environment youd like for him to grow up in. I know its tough cus you want him to have a dad but if hes going to be an asshat of a dad then Id think twice about it.

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Posted by VirgowScorpiMoon
WOW...the games you and him are playing with each other...my goodness. Shouldn't it be more about the baby right now and co-parenting? and less about the push and pull you guys seem to be playing? I don't know why you focus so much on the other girl. You need to sit him down and have A SERIOUS CHAT about where the two of you stand right now.

Because shes young and confused.

This isnt a Love Triangle. He already chose the person he wants to be with and thats not you. Sorry for the harsh reality check but why would you want to get back with him if you guys werent in a functional relationship? Yall are gunna fvck up your babies psyche growing up watching mom and dad in a dysfunctional relationship. Let him co-parent with you and take responsibility for the child you guys have. Idk, he sounds like an idiot who is just playing games. And I think part of the reason you want him back (aside from him being your baby daddy) is to prove to the "ugly Virgo" that you can have him back whenever you want so youre trying to teach her a lesson in fallin back cus you and your Aries have a stronger bond obvi (your kid).

This all means nothing.

Ask yourself why do you want him back despite the headaches? What can he provide for you that another man cant? What will he provide for you that YOU cant provide for yourself? Think about your kid and the environment youd like for him to grow up in. I know its tough cus you want him to have a dad but if hes going to be an asshat of a dad then Id think twice about it.

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Uhmmm did u read the same post as I wrote? I never once said he was a asshat of a dad or even a bad father. Our coparenting relationship is good. Healthy. Functional...

Which is why I would want to get back in a relationship with him because as far as our family goes....it was a good thing. We had our "roles" and we liked them. I left because I couldn't get over things in the past. And he made multiple attempts to reconcile but I kept throwing my "Bf" at him to make him jealous and that's when he admitted to being with the "ugly Virgo" and now try's to throw her in my face but as far as choosing her....yeah he's definitely made it clear she comes after me regardless. What I was wondering is what my next action should be since he is such a irrational person.

And yes a big part I have to admit is just to prove a point to this girl. But the main thing is how to speak to my Aries ex about the situation without being emotional. How long should I wait to initiate the conversation?

Posted by LibraLady612
And yes a big part I have to admit is just to prove a point to this girl. But the main thing is how to speak to my Aries ex about the situation without being emotional. How long should I wait to initiate the conversation?

Don't be spiteful, it will only hurt you in the end.

🙄© I suppose....you're right...

I'm just aware of who I am. Possibly lost this battle but he asked me today to try one more time on trying to make our family work. After hearing what U all have to say though I feel like maybe it's time for both of us to move on.

Excellent selection for a father, I am sure your child will grow up & be real proud of your responsible choices.

Hmm. Makes a lot of sense @arieslady8

Libralady--uh he is a good dad. Don't project now..

Butttt yeah idk I mean I'm a libra. I like to just know that I can have them. I wouldn't say I lack "willing participants" for the future either. Aries are just dicks during break ups I had to end it "winning" which I did.

Reason being....my Aries loves the chase soooo much. And his ego....man. It runs him. And he doesn't have to "work" for her--she offered it all up the first day, I friend zoned him for 4 years before we actually dated. Then made him wait a year for sex. If he gets in a bad mood and is insensitive I stand up to him. He's 6ft 5 I'm 5 ft 3....what can I really do but I know he loves that about me. He hates weak minded girls and literally this girl falls to his feet. Which he also likes but....he loves the chase more. I ignore him which I know will just make him go crazy. She's at his beckon call. Plus as shallow as it sounds...I'm prettier than her. Which really he is caring and sees the best in people regardless of looks but it's him....he cares about his friends opinions and just feeling like "that guy" with the girl with "it all" Me.