Posted by ScooneyNeeding a breather told him you can't handle a serious relationship.
So I told my Aries man I didn't want to see him over the weekend because I was stressed out and just needed space but kept in contact with him, talking to him everyday. Now that I want to see him he is saying he took the break as an actual break up and that he now feels his feelings have lessened for me and only sees me as a friend. Even though I have explained that was never my intention just wanted to take a breather he says his feelings haven't switched back. What can I possibly do? And why would something as small as not seeing someone for a weekend cause this?
Posted by leowwwThats the first thing I thought-how old is this dude? Very childish/petty behaviour if that's exactly how it went down.Posted by ScooneyIf you made it clear that all you needed was time to yourself and his feelings changed because of that... He sounds immature and petty af. He never had strong feelings for you to begin with.
So I told my Aries man I didn't want to see him over the weekend because I was stressed out and just needed space but kept in contact with him, talking to him everyday. Now that I want to see him he is saying he took the break as an actual break up and that he now feels his feelings have lessened for me and only sees me as a friend. Even though I have explained that was never my intention just wanted to take a breather he says his feelings haven't switched back. What can I possibly do? And why would something as small as not seeing someone for a weekend cause this?
On top of that you kept contact daily?
As someone looking at your situation from the outside... You're better off.click to expand
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100That's exactly right. Needing a break is saying you can't handle it. Shows weakness. I can't be with a weak or insecure person.Posted by SsupermanCorrect above ^^^Posted by ScooneyNeeding a breather told him you can't handle a serious relationship.
So I told my Aries man I didn't want to see him over the weekend because I was stressed out and just needed space but kept in contact with him, talking to him everyday. Now that I want to see him he is saying he took the break as an actual break up and that he now feels his feelings have lessened for me and only sees me as a friend. Even though I have explained that was never my intention just wanted to take a breather he says his feelings haven't switched back. What can I possibly do? And why would something as small as not seeing someone for a weekend cause this?
Surely you can make space for yourself without having to "officially" tell your bf you need "space"...
When someone says that it means they want a break from the relationship so he has given you what you asked for but obviously it backfired on you as you thought you could drop him and "pick him up" when you felt like it.... WRONG..
The balls in his court now... You have all the space in the world now so you better keep it moving or he will "head fuck you"....click to expand
Posted by Ssuperman...but she didn't....she was still talking to himPosted by JohnTheBaptist100That's exactly right. Needing a break is saying you can't handle it. Shows weakness. I can't be with a weak or insecure person.Posted by SsupermanCorrect above ^^^Posted by ScooneyNeeding a breather told him you can't handle a serious relationship.
So I told my Aries man I didn't want to see him over the weekend because I was stressed out and just needed space but kept in contact with him, talking to him everyday. Now that I want to see him he is saying he took the break as an actual break up and that he now feels his feelings have lessened for me and only sees me as a friend. Even though I have explained that was never my intention just wanted to take a breather he says his feelings haven't switched back. What can I possibly do? And why would something as small as not seeing someone for a weekend cause this?
Surely you can make space for yourself without having to "officially" tell your bf you need "space"...
When someone says that it means they want a break from the relationship so he has given you what you asked for but obviously it backfired on you as you thought you could drop him and "pick him up" when you felt like it.... WRONG..
The balls in his court now... You have all the space in the world now so you better keep it moving or he will "head fuck you"....click to expand
Posted by leowwwTrue....Posted by MyStarsShineYup.Posted by Ssuperman...but she didn't....she was still talking to himPosted by JohnTheBaptist100That's exactly right. Needing a break is saying you can't handle it. Shows weakness. I can't be with a weak or insecure person.Posted by SsupermanCorrect above ^^^Posted by ScooneyNeeding a breather told him you can't handle a serious relationship.
So I told my Aries man I didn't want to see him over the weekend because I was stressed out and just needed space but kept in contact with him, talking to him everyday. Now that I want to see him he is saying he took the break as an actual break up and that he now feels his feelings have lessened for me and only sees me as a friend. Even though I have explained that was never my intention just wanted to take a breather he says his feelings haven't switched back. What can I possibly do? And why would something as small as not seeing someone for a weekend cause this?
Surely you can make space for yourself without having to "officially" tell your bf you need "space"...
When someone says that it means they want a break from the relationship so he has given you what you asked for but obviously it backfired on you as you thought you could drop him and "pick him up" when you felt like it.... WRONG..
The balls in his court now... You have all the space in the world now so you better keep it moving or he will "head fuck you"....
The guy sounds like a selfish big baby
There's a clear difference between...A break from the relationship all together .. And time apart / keeping contact.
How do feelings change so fast?
Surely the superficial kind.click to expand
Posted by MyStarsShineNope, she's flip flopping. I wanna see you and then I don't. I need some space to a man is like a kick to the nuts.Posted by Ssuperman...but she didn't....she was still talking to himPosted by JohnTheBaptist100That's exactly right. Needing a break is saying you can't handle it. Shows weakness. I can't be with a weak or insecure person.Posted by SsupermanCorrect above ^^^Posted by ScooneyNeeding a breather told him you can't handle a serious relationship.
So I told my Aries man I didn't want to see him over the weekend because I was stressed out and just needed space but kept in contact with him, talking to him everyday. Now that I want to see him he is saying he took the break as an actual break up and that he now feels his feelings have lessened for me and only sees me as a friend. Even though I have explained that was never my intention just wanted to take a breather he says his feelings haven't switched back. What can I possibly do? And why would something as small as not seeing someone for a weekend cause this?
Surely you can make space for yourself without having to "officially" tell your bf you need "space"...
When someone says that it means they want a break from the relationship so he has given you what you asked for but obviously it backfired on you as you thought you could drop him and "pick him up" when you felt like it.... WRONG..
The balls in his court now... You have all the space in the world now so you better keep it moving or he will "head fuck you"....
The guy sounds like a selfish big babyclick to expand
Posted by SsupermanNeeding your space is not necessarily a sign of insecurity, imo. To me it makes more sense that those who can handle being by themselves and don't need others' company or support at all times are fairly self-confident. As concerns OP, it's simply how she deals with stress. Do you have to be together every single day anyway... Then the guy would start accusing her of being clingy lolPosted by MyStarsShineNope, she's flip flopping. I wanna see you and then I don't. I need some space to a man is like a kick to the nuts.Posted by Ssuperman...but she didn't....she was still talking to himPosted by JohnTheBaptist100That's exactly right. Needing a break is saying you can't handle it. Shows weakness. I can't be with a weak or insecure person.Posted by SsupermanCorrect above ^^^Posted by ScooneyNeeding a breather told him you can't handle a serious relationship.
So I told my Aries man I didn't want to see him over the weekend because I was stressed out and just needed space but kept in contact with him, talking to him everyday. Now that I want to see him he is saying he took the break as an actual break up and that he now feels his feelings have lessened for me and only sees me as a friend. Even though I have explained that was never my intention just wanted to take a breather he says his feelings haven't switched back. What can I possibly do? And why would something as small as not seeing someone for a weekend cause this?
Surely you can make space for yourself without having to "officially" tell your bf you need "space"...
When someone says that it means they want a break from the relationship so he has given you what you asked for but obviously it backfired on you as you thought you could drop him and "pick him up" when you felt like it.... WRONG..
The balls in his court now... You have all the space in the world now so you better keep it moving or he will "head fuck you"....
The guy sounds like a selfish big baby
That's the difference between someone who knows their worth and someone who dosent.click to expand
Posted by Ssuperman*I want to have the weekend to get my energy back as i am stressed*Posted by MyStarsShineNope, she's flip flopping. I wanna see you and then I don't. I need some space to a man is like a kick to the nuts.Posted by Ssuperman...but she didn't....she was still talking to himPosted by JohnTheBaptist100That's exactly right. Needing a break is saying you can't handle it. Shows weakness. I can't be with a weak or insecure person.Posted by SsupermanCorrect above ^^^Posted by ScooneyNeeding a breather told him you can't handle a serious relationship.
So I told my Aries man I didn't want to see him over the weekend because I was stressed out and just needed space but kept in contact with him, talking to him everyday. Now that I want to see him he is saying he took the break as an actual break up and that he now feels his feelings have lessened for me and only sees me as a friend. Even though I have explained that was never my intention just wanted to take a breather he says his feelings haven't switched back. What can I possibly do? And why would something as small as not seeing someone for a weekend cause this?
Surely you can make space for yourself without having to "officially" tell your bf you need "space"...
When someone says that it means they want a break from the relationship so he has given you what you asked for but obviously it backfired on you as you thought you could drop him and "pick him up" when you felt like it.... WRONG..
The balls in his court now... You have all the space in the world now so you better keep it moving or he will "head fuck you"....
The guy sounds like a selfish big baby
That's the difference between someone who knows their worth and someone who dosent.click to expand
Posted by MyStarsShineNo, I personally wouldn't. What's she gonna say 5-10 years down the road when there's kids involved, a mortgage to pay, someone gets laid off? Is she gonna need "a break"? That's not how relationships work.Posted by Ssuperman*I want to have the weekend to get my energy back as i am stressed*Posted by MyStarsShineNope, she's flip flopping. I wanna see you and then I don't. I need some space to a man is like a kick to the nuts.Posted by Ssuperman...but she didn't....she was still talking to himPosted by JohnTheBaptist100That's exactly right. Needing a break is saying you can't handle it. Shows weakness. I can't be with a weak or insecure person.Posted by SsupermanCorrect above ^^^Posted by ScooneyNeeding a breather told him you can't handle a serious relationship.
So I told my Aries man I didn't want to see him over the weekend because I was stressed out and just needed space but kept in contact with him, talking to him everyday. Now that I want to see him he is saying he took the break as an actual break up and that he now feels his feelings have lessened for me and only sees me as a friend. Even though I have explained that was never my intention just wanted to take a breather he says his feelings haven't switched back. What can I possibly do? And why would something as small as not seeing someone for a weekend cause this?
Surely you can make space for yourself without having to "officially" tell your bf you need "space"...
When someone says that it means they want a break from the relationship so he has given you what you asked for but obviously it backfired on you as you thought you could drop him and "pick him up" when you felt like it.... WRONG..
The balls in his court now... You have all the space in the world now so you better keep it moving or he will "head fuck you"....
The guy sounds like a selfish big baby
That's the difference between someone who knows their worth and someone who dosent.
Really....would you take offense at that?click to expand
Posted by FragranceI should have left the insecure part out of my reply.Posted by SsupermanNeeding your space is not necessarily a sign of insecurity, imo. To me it makes more sense that those who can handle being by themselves and don't need others' company or support at all times are fairly self-confident. As concerns OP, it's simply how she deals with stress. Do you have to be together every single day anyway... Then the guy would start accusing her of being clingy lolPosted by MyStarsShineNope, she's flip flopping. I wanna see you and then I don't. I need some space to a man is like a kick to the nuts.Posted by Ssuperman...but she didn't....she was still talking to himPosted by JohnTheBaptist100That's exactly right. Needing a break is saying you can't handle it. Shows weakness. I can't be with a weak or insecure person.Posted by SsupermanCorrect above ^^^Posted by ScooneyNeeding a breather told him you can't handle a serious relationship.
So I told my Aries man I didn't want to see him over the weekend because I was stressed out and just needed space but kept in contact with him, talking to him everyday. Now that I want to see him he is saying he took the break as an actual break up and that he now feels his feelings have lessened for me and only sees me as a friend. Even though I have explained that was never my intention just wanted to take a breather he says his feelings haven't switched back. What can I possibly do? And why would something as small as not seeing someone for a weekend cause this?
Surely you can make space for yourself without having to "officially" tell your bf you need "space"...
When someone says that it means they want a break from the relationship so he has given you what you asked for but obviously it backfired on you as you thought you could drop him and "pick him up" when you felt like it.... WRONG..
The balls in his court now... You have all the space in the world now so you better keep it moving or he will "head fuck you"....
The guy sounds like a selfish big baby
That's the difference between someone who knows their worth and someone who dosent.click to expand
Posted by Pandora101Exactly
I am amazed how many of the commentors condems the poor guy without knowing him, just because of the opening post.... or are you familiar with the whole situation? were there other posts before this to say he is immature?
I would be very offended, if my love told me he wants a break for the weekend, because of stress
I would think: You dont thin I am here to help you? I am not your partner to help you overcome your stress?
And the conversation during the weekend.... so you are not too stressed to conversate, but you are too stressed to see me? and let me help you? by beeing here, cuddle you, give you advice or just chill, no need to talk at all
I am not sure we are beeing fair to this guy
Posted by Pandora101I get where you're coming from, but i still think there's nothing wrong with her trying to sort things out on her own. Of course if "i'm stressed so i don't want to see you" is the way she said it, then yeah, the guy must have felt like butter, but if she decently asked for a little alone time to sort some crazy stuff out, he shouldn't have felt neglected.
I am amazed how many of the commentors condems the poor guy without knowing him, just because of the opening post.... or are you familiar with the whole situation? were there other posts before this to say he is immature?
I would be very offended, if my love told me he wants a break for the weekend, because of stress
I would think: You dont thin I am here to help you? I am not your partner to help you overcome your stress?
And the conversation during the weekend.... so you are not too stressed to conversate, but you are too stressed to see me? and let me help you? by beeing here, cuddle you, give you advice or just chill, no need to talk at all
I am not sure we are beeing fair to this guy
Posted by AriesJoExactly it depends on how you explained. If you tell most fire signs this without the right explanation first it's going to end up bad.
This is definitely a break-up line "I need space...", you could have also said:
"it's not you, it's me"
"I love you.. but I'm just not in love with you"
"maybe we should take a break"
"I don't feel like it's the right time for us right now"
and possibly "I need time to find myself"
you know, any of the classics would have done.
Right now, the aftermath, I don't think you can do anything. Maybe tell yourself that it was your sub-conscious really speaking, you did say it after all, and your sub-conscious will know best. If it's one thing as Aries man hates, it's in-decisive people, we don't have the patience for it. You could try and say you didn't know what "I need space" meant, but I doubt he would believe it, his last GF probably broke up with him that way.
And if you're still talking to him now, I'm not sure, it's kinda good you still have the conversation, and maybe you could get something back. But then a lot of women might just talk to the guy after a breakup because they want to check he is ok, or cos they feel guilty, bad etc. And that's the worst. I'm speaking in general terms of course because I don't know the details, but if you wanted to meet the weekend after... was it really for a date, or cos you feel bad about breaking up, or you still want some control over him (are you a control-freak), or you want him to be one of those man-friends who have all the hassle of having a GF but none of the benefit. This is just a possibility of course, I don't know for sure what he's thinking, but I think most guys would consider this, maybe you wanted to break-up and now you feel bad?
Posted by AriesJo
This is definitely a break-up line "I need space...", you could have also said:
"it's not you, it's me"
"I love you.. but I'm just not in love with you"
"maybe we should take a break"
"I don't feel like it's the right time for us right now"
and possibly "I need time to find myself"
you know, any of the classics would have done.
Right now, the aftermath, I don't think you can do anything. Maybe tell yourself that it was your sub-conscious really speaking, you did say it after all, and your sub-conscious will know best. If it's one thing as Aries man hates, it's in-decisive people, we don't have the patience for it. You could try and say you didn't know what "I need space" meant, but I doubt he would believe it, his last GF probably broke up with him that way.
And if you're still talking to him now, I'm not sure, it's kinda good you still have the conversation, and maybe you could get something back. But then a lot of women might just talk to the guy after a breakup because they want to check he is ok, or cos they feel guilty, bad etc. And that's the worst. I'm speaking in general terms of course because I don't know the details, but if you wanted to meet the weekend after... was it really for a date, or cos you feel bad about breaking up, or you still want some control over him (are you a control-freak), or you want him to be one of those man-friends who have all the hassle of having a GF but none of the benefit. This is just a possibility of course, I don't know for sure what he's thinking, but I think most guys would consider this, maybe you wanted to break-up and now you feel bad?
Posted by poison_ivy
You were mature enough to let him know that you needed some space, because you were going through.. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.. I think he's just being selfish & immature.. & Like some of the others say, if this simple weekend breather was enough for him to lose his feelings for you, then he had none to begin with... I don't lose feelings for ppl THAT fast even in a "let's break up" situation..
If you wanna make it work, the best thing I can suggest is try seeing if you can meet & talk face to face.. Express yourself to him.. Let him know what's going on and why you needed the space and that your feelings never changed for him. Ask him if you guys can start over fresh and make things work.. Next time you are going through something, maybe involve him the next time & see if he can be by your side to help you get through it.
Good luck!
Posted by Pandora101This would stress me even more.
I am amazed how many of the commentors condems the poor guy without knowing him, just because of the opening post.... or are you familiar with the whole situation? were there other posts before this to say he is immature?
I would be very offended, if my love told me he wants a break for the weekend, because of stress
I would think: You dont thin I am here to help you? I am not your partner to help you overcome your stress?
And the conversation during the weekend.... so you are not too stressed to conversate, but you are too stressed to see me? and let me help you? by beeing here, cuddle you, give you advice or just chill, no need to talk at all
I am not sure we are beeing fair to this guy
Posted by ScooneyWay to go girl!! Get your man!Posted by poison_ivy
You were mature enough to let him know that you needed some space, because you were going through.. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.. I think he's just being selfish & immature.. & Like some of the others say, if this simple weekend breather was enough for him to lose his feelings for you, then he had none to begin with... I don't lose feelings for ppl THAT fast even in a "let's break up" situation..
If you wanna make it work, the best thing I can suggest is try seeing if you can meet & talk face to face.. Express yourself to him.. Let him know what's going on and why you needed the space and that your feelings never changed for him. Ask him if you guys can start over fresh and make things work.. Next time you are going through something, maybe involve him the next time & see if he can be by your side to help you get through it.
Good luck!
Thank you! He has actually asked to talk to me in person more, and I mentioned I only want to further discuss this if you're interested in moving forward from this as a couple and he has agreed to talk with me knowing this so I'm nervous for sure.click to expand