Aries man completely disappeared for 9 days

I know an Aries man born on March 29 for last 11 years.We were in an intense relation during our college but due to his family issues we could not get married.Im married now and he reappeared 3 months back.I kinda love him still now.we shared some special moments last month.But after a week suddenly, he is ignoring me.no texts,no calls. Neither responded not communicated to broke up completely.According to him,I was d only gal he wanted to b with in his lifetime.Now d sudden disappear is bothering me.Should I wait for him or move on?

Posted by aquarius_beauty
What do you mean wait for him? you're married!



Aries men no matter how much he may want you is not going to want to come between you and your marriage. What guarantees that you won't do the same to him?

My marriage is on the verge of break up.Even he knows that.There comes the question should I wait for him

Posted by Scorpiogal85
I know an Aries man born on March 29 for last 11 years.We were in an intense relation during our college but due to his family issues we could not get married.Im married now and he reappeared 3 months back.I kinda love him still now.we shared some special moments last month.But after a week suddenly, he is ignoring me.no texts,no calls. Neither responded not communicated to broke up completely.According to him,I was d only gal he wanted to b with in his lifetime.Now d sudden disappear is bothering me.Should I wait for him or move on?

He let his family come between you?

Have you told him you are leaving your marriage?

Yes he did have him family first priority in his life

He knows that I will be filing a divorce..That was the reason we came closer 2nd time.

Posted by Scorpiogal85
Yes he did have him family first priority in his life

.....and has that changed now he is older. Can he assert himself with them ?

Posted by Scorpiogal85
He knows that I will be filing a divorce..That was the reason we came closer 2nd time.

And he still disappeared knowing you were available?

lol fuckin' Scorps.

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Posted by aquarius_beauty
What do you mean wait for him? you're married!



Aries men no matter how much he may want you is not going to want to come between you and your marriage. What guarantees that you won't do the same to him?

My marriage is on the verge of break up.Even he knows that.There comes the question should I wait for him

Him knowing is worse.. Does your husband know is the real question..

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No ,there were issues between us.Thats why we proceed for divorce.May b there was a void between us

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My marriage is on the verge of break up.Even he knows that.There comes the question should I wait for him

wait for him? no. I don't believe you should wait on anyone. What you could do is focus on yourself and whether your marriage is repairable. If it's not then separate and follow through the divorce proceedings. You can keep in contact with the Aries but I'd suggest doing so until AFTER you've filed or been divorced. Having him there can be a really big temptation for you.

But based on my experience. What I'd do is give yourself time. Divorce is so heartbreaking, despite the reason for it. I wouldn't jump from one relationship onto the next. Frankly because you'll be very vulnerable and what you'll portray this onto the Aries as desperation, neediness, clingyness. It's just part of our nature to want to feel loved. Projecting our fears will be inevitable. This is why I would advice that you remain single a month for every year you've been married.

I've been single a year and I can say my mind is so much clearer than it was 9 months ago. I even feel more emotionally stable than I did back then.

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Thanks dear..I never thought I could even text a man who ignored me.Dats so not me u know..But yes as u said need to clear now what I want.

Well you should wait - but not for him, but for you. Get your divorce and get your head straight and then you can see things clearer and then you will know what to do.

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I know an Aries man born on March 29 for last 11 years.We were in an intense relation during our college but due to his family issues we could not get married.Im married now and he reappeared 3 months back.I kinda love him still now.we shared some special moments last month.But after a week suddenly, he is ignoring me.no texts,no calls. Neither responded not communicated to broke up completely.According to him,I was d only gal he wanted to b with in his lifetime.Now d sudden disappear is bothering me.Should I wait for him or move on?

He wanted to have sex

It wasn't what he expected

You're married he realized he doesn't wanna be with you anymore

If he gets horny he will be back on his own

Forget him and live your married life!

Weigh both relationships

He will never take your husbands place nor the time invested

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I think you are absolutely correct.With the passing days even I began to believe that.Greatest wonder how can a man change so much in just 3weeks of time.I dnt wanna generalise but Aries might b born dis way.Also he was not a random guy I was close with.Above all he was a friend.If he didn't want to continue he could have just made it clear.I would never have hold him bak.But dis disappearance n not coming in contact is killing me.

1) He was in it for the sex, and/or to see if you two had any chemistry left.

2) He left because he probably figured if you could leave your husband for another man, you'd probably do the same to him.

Posted by Ram416
1) He was in it for the sex, and/or to see if you two had any chemistry left.

2) He left because he probably figured if you could leave your husband for another man, you'd probably do the same to him.

I was in an abusive relationship with my husband that was the reason I wanted to come out of it.He knows it quite well.Had he been not there I would have done d same..N yes if he wanted to go he could have done dat telling me.why these mind games..

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Posted by Ram416
1) He was in it for the sex, and/or to see if you two had any chemistry left.

2) He left because he probably figured if you could leave your husband for another man, you'd probably do the same to him.

I was in an abusive relationship with my husband that was the reason I wanted to come out of it.He knows it quite well.Had he been not there I would have done d same..N yes if he wanted to go he could have done dat telling me.why these mind games..

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WHAT MIND GAMES?

He left. Who is playing?

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Posted by Ram416
1) He was in it for the sex, and/or to see if you two had any chemistry left.

2) He left because he probably figured if you could leave your husband for another man, you'd probably do the same to him.

I was in an abusive relationship with my husband that was the reason I wanted to come out of it.He knows it quite well.Had he been not there I would have done d same..N yes if he wanted to go he could have done dat telling me.why these mind games..

WHAT MIND GAMES?

He left. Who is playing?

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You might b correct he left.Earlier he did d same n came bak..But yes disappearance this time s quite longer..

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Posted by Ram416
1) He was in it for the sex, and/or to see if you two had any chemistry left.

2) He left because he probably figured if you could leave your husband for another man, you'd probably do the same to him.

I was in an abusive relationship with my husband that was the reason I wanted to come out of it.He knows it quite well.Had he been not there I would have done d same..N yes if he wanted to go he could have done dat telling me.why these mind games..

WHAT MIND GAMES?

He left. Who is playing?

You might b correct he left.Earlier he did d same n came bak..But yes disappearance this time s quite longer..

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Are you talking same way as you writing?

Maybe that is the prolem?

Now dat may b an issue..Yes I do talk this way..Never analysed dat u know

Posted by Scorpiogal85
Now dat may b an issue..Yes I do talk this way..Never analysed dat u know

Dat cool you zing dat!

Zing mo'

He b back in 9 zaiz!

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Posted by Scorpiogal85
I know an Aries man born on March 29 for last 11 years.We were in an intense relation during our college but due to his family issues we could not get married.Im married now and he reappeared 3 months back.I kinda love him still now.we shared some special moments last month.But after a week suddenly, he is ignoring me.no texts,no calls. Neither responded not communicated to broke up completely.According to him,I was d only gal he wanted to b with in his lifetime.Now d sudden disappear is bothering me.Should I wait for him or move on?

He wanted to have sex

It wasn't what he expected

You're married he realized he doesn't wanna be with you anymore

If he gets horny he will be back on his own

Forget him and live your married life!

Weigh both relationships

He will never take your husbands place nor the time invested

I think you are absolutely correct.With the passing days even I began to believe that.Greatest wonder how can a man change so much in just 3weeks of time.I dnt wanna generalise but Aries might b born dis way.Also he was not a random guy I was close with.Above all he was a friend.If he didn't want to continue he could have just made it clear.I would never have hold him bak.But dis disappearance n not coming in contact is killing me.

Breathe.

Some people have no words and rather go away silent. Tell yourself that your good. Your alive. You have 1 life. Live it. Enjoy it. Tomorrow is another day. Life doesn't end because he's gone. Let things be what they are. Let him go. What was keep it as a memory. Be thankful for the experience and keep reminding yourself that your good. You'll survive! Don't hate him don't hate you for what you did. Accept it. And let it go. See it as a life experience. When you get weak, breathe and say "I'm good" smile and keep going. Stay busy focus on you and your spouse, be happy again. That's the advice I give you...

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Thanks you so much..I mean it dear..I won't wait for him.If he can't see my pain being my friend foremost n walked away just like that ,I should not wait.Its difficult..very difficult..But I will for sure.

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Posted by Ram416
1) He was in it for the sex, and/or to see if you two had any chemistry left.

2) He left because he probably figured if you could leave your husband for another man, you'd probably do the same to him.

I was in an abusive relationship with my husband that was the reason I wanted to come out of it.He knows it quite well.Had he been not there I would have done d same..N yes if he wanted to go he could have done dat telling me.why these mind games..

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No mind games, from what I see. He simply left. Probably didn't want to tell you, in case you tried to persuade him not to.