Aries man got really upset

This topic was created in the Aries Men forum by Zetarose on Monday, February 15, 2016 and has 42 replies.
So we've been talking LDR for two-three months. I have been having a hard time and he knows this. Insecurity, trust issues.. Need for attention, etc. last week I snapped and said this isn't working AGAIN. He just went off and basically said when you are ready to treat me as you would want tone treated then ill be here. But his last message was ok you've made up your mind I can't do anything I've said all I can say.... He is clearly frustrated with me. He didn't even message me for V day yesterday. Idk what to do....
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Posted by Zetarose
So we've been talking LDR for two-three months. I have been having a hard time and he knows this. Insecurity, trust issues.. Need for attention, etc. last week I snapped and said this isn't working AGAIN. He just went off and basically said when you are ready to treat me as you would want tone treated then ill be here. But his last message was ok you've made up your mind I can't do anything I've said all I can say.... He is clearly frustrated with me. He didn't even message me for V day yesterday. Idk what to do....


Stop doing the stuff that's pissing him off. That's what you should do. He's an Aries so he's been crystal clear and direct with you about what he doesn't like. Listen or lose him. It's not very complicated.
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I know but I can't help my issues I have in relationships and need constant encouragement it seems; esp. In new relationships. He has told me he loves me, has talked about the future w me I just can't help I get so insecure feelings sometimes... Do Aries always say what they mean? Should I trust him.? When he tells me he loves me?
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So we've been talking LDR for two-three months. I have been having a hard time and he knows this. Insecurity, trust issues.. Need for attention, etc. last week I snapped and said this isn't working AGAIN. He just went off and basically said when you are ready to treat me as you would want tone treated then ill be here. But his last message was ok you've made up your mind I can't do anything I've said all I can say.... He is clearly frustrated with me. He didn't even message me for V day yesterday. Idk what to do....


Stop doing the stuff that's pissing him off. That's what you should do. He's an Aries so he's been crystal clear and direct with you about what he doesn't like. Listen or lose him. It's not very complicated.


I know but I can't help my issues I have in relationships and need constant encouragement it seems; esp. In new relationships. He has told me he loves me, has talked about the future w me I just can't help I get so insecure feelings sometimes... Do Aries always say what they mean? Should I trust him.? When he tells me he loves me?



We are the most straightforward out of all the signs. We mean what we say and say what we mean without filters. Of course there are liars in every sign though. If it's coming from an Aries, it's most likely true.
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Thank you 😊!
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So we've been talking LDR for two-three months. I have been having a hard time and he knows this. Insecurity, trust issues.. Need for attention, etc. last week I snapped and said this isn't working AGAIN. He just went off and basically said when you are ready to treat me as you would want tone treated then ill be here. But his last message was ok you've made up your mind I can't do anything I've said all I can say.... He is clearly frustrated with me. He didn't even message me for V day yesterday. Idk what to do....


Stop doing the stuff that's pissing him off. That's what you should do. He's an Aries so he's been crystal clear and direct with you about what he doesn't like. Listen or lose him. It's not very complicated.


I know but I can't help my issues I have in relationships and need constant encouragement it seems; esp. In new relationships. He has told me he loves me, has talked about the future w me I just can't help I get so insecure feelings sometimes... Do Aries always say what they mean? Should I trust him.? When he tells me he loves me?



We are the most straightforward out of all the signs. We mean what we say and say what we mean without filters. Of course there are liars in every sign though. If it's coming from an Aries, it's most likely true.


Thank you 😊!


No problem, but a word of advice, if there are significant signs that he's lying or something is wrong do not ignore them. Like I said, there are liars in every zodiac sign. Being a certain zodiac sign doesn't mean all people behave the same way. Good luck with your relationship. smile
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Right, I hear ya.. He has given me no reason really to not trust him. I just have issues lol
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it sounds like he likes you but you are pushing him away. LDR's aren't for everybody, and you seem to really hate the distance issue. the decision seems up to you if he really is doing everything he can.


In a perfect world..(me being a Virgo-perfectionist. Especially in relationships; so in a perfect world, it'd be him saying I will give you all the reassurance you need,. And I will never break your heart.. Although he had said he would never intentionally hurt me. Well of course not, I know he wouldn't just hurt me on purpose. I see his Aries selfishness sometimes and that hurts me... I just want him to like fight for my love.. But , that's just not reality, people don't do that... That's like a movie or a romance Novel not real life I guess..
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it sounds like he likes you but you are pushing him away. LDR's aren't for everybody, and you seem to really hate the distance issue. the decision seems up to you if he really is doing everything he can.


But why wouldn't he at least contact me yesterday for V day.?!!! We last spoke Friday... Maybe he thought I didn't want him to? Idk... I'm very sad he didn't
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I don't know much about aries but I imagine them (loudly) fighting for all things they want out of life, including love. If you need him to step up to the plate more, tell him. its hard for me to gauge exactly whats going on bc told you that hes said everything he could say to you already, yet you say you need reassurance so maybe tell him specifically like I need you to call me before you go to bed tonight or facetime with me tomorrow or whatever. IDK why he didn't call you yesterday im sorry sweetie, maybe like you said he is frustrated. You guys could plan a weekend together or something soon where you can see each other in person to revive the spark.


Posted by Zetarose
Posted by brandyp
it sounds like he likes you but you are pushing him away. LDR's aren't for everybody, and you seem to really hate the distance issue. the decision seems up to you if he really is doing everything he can.


In a perfect world..(me being a Virgo-perfectionist. Especially in relationships; so in a perfect world, it'd be him saying I will give you all the reassurance you need,. And I will never break your heart.. Although he had said he would never intentionally hurt me. Well of course not, I know he wouldn't just hurt me on purpose. I see his Aries selfishness sometimes and that hurts me... I just want him to like fight for my love.. But , that's just not reality, people don't do that... That's like a movie or a romance Novel not real life I guess..


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Thank you I will if he ever contacts me again... Idk if I will initiate. I'm scared..
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I hope he does, keep us posted ok!!



Thanks! Will dosmile!
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I hope he does, keep us posted ok!!



But I have a feeling he won't.. Cuz last we spoke he said "if you don't message me again, I'll know why... " and also said "ill be here When you are ready To treat me as you want to be treated..."
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I hope he does, keep us posted ok!!



But I have a feeling he won't.. Cuz last we spoke he said "if you don't message me again, I'll know why... " and also said "ill be here When you are ready To treat me as you want to be treated..."
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So we've been talking LDR for two-three months. I have been having a hard time and he knows this. Insecurity, trust issues.. Need for attention, etc. last week I snapped and said this isn't working AGAIN. He just went off and basically said when you are ready to treat me as you would want tone treated then ill be here. But his last message was ok you've made up your mind I can't do anything I've said all I can say.... He is clearly frustrated with me. He didn't even message me for V day yesterday. Idk what to do....


Could it be that he got frustrated because he believes he doesn't know how to make you happy?
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Possibly, but if he loves me as much as he says.. Then I'd think he'd do all he can to try n make it work... I mean cmon not even messaging me at lest on valentine day?!! Wtf
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Did you message him?
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it sounds like he likes you but you are pushing him away. LDR's aren't for everybody, and you seem to really hate the distance issue. the decision seems up to you if he really is doing everything he can.


In a perfect world..(me being a Virgo-perfectionist. Especially in relationships; so in a perfect world, it'd be him saying I will give you all the reassurance you need,. And I will never break your heart.. Although he had said he would never intentionally hurt me. Well of course not, I know he wouldn't just hurt me on purpose. I see his Aries selfishness sometimes and that hurts me... I just want him to like fight for my love.. But , that's just not reality, people don't do that... That's like a movie or a romance Novel not real life I guess..


Is that what you ideally like from him? For him to fight for your love without you saying anything to him

I've made it clear since day one I am like this.. I say stuff I communicate my needs.
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So we've been talking LDR for two-three months. I have been having a hard time and he knows this. Insecurity, trust issues.. Need for attention, etc. last week I snapped and said this isn't working AGAIN. He just went off and basically said when you are ready to treat me as you would want tone treated then ill be here. But his last message was ok you've made up your mind I can't do anything I've said all I can say.... He is clearly frustrated with me. He didn't even message me for V day yesterday. Idk what to do....


Could it be that he got frustrated because he believes he doesn't know how to make you happy?


Possibly, but if he loves me as much as he says.. Then I'd think he'd do all he can to try n make it work... I mean cmon not even messaging me at lest on valentine day?!! Wtf
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It's Valentine's Day, it's not that critical. Chill. If you cared as much as you say you do, you wouldn't keep saying things that make him mad. If you have insecurities regarding your relationships, that's not his problem. That's something you need to work on. It's now or never, girl. Quit blaming him.
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So we've been talking LDR for two-three months. I have been having a hard time and he knows this. Insecurity, trust issues.. Need for attention, etc. last week I snapped and said this isn't working AGAIN. He just went off and basically said when you are ready to treat me as you would want tone treated then ill be here. But his last message was ok you've made up your mind I can't do anything I've said all I can say.... He is clearly frustrated with me. He didn't even message me for V day yesterday. Idk what to do....


Could it be that he got frustrated because he believes he doesn't know how to make you happy?


Possibly, but if he loves me as much as he says.. Then I'd think he'd do all he can to try n make it work... I mean cmon not even messaging me at lest on valentine day?!! Wtf


It's Valentine's Day, it's not that critical. Chill. If you cared as much as you say you do, you wouldn't keep saying things that make him mad. If you have insecurities regarding your relationships, that's not his problem. That's something you need to work on. It's now or never, girl. Quit


I hear ya believe me I am ridiculous.. I can't help myself tho. I do need to work on my issues
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So we've been talking LDR for two-three months. I have been having a hard time and he knows this. Insecurity, trust issues.. Need for attention, etc. last week I snapped and said this isn't working AGAIN. He just went off and basically said when you are ready to treat me as you would want tone treated then ill be here. But his last message was ok you've made up your mind I can't do anything I've said all I can say.... He is clearly frustrated with me. He didn't even message me for V day yesterday. Idk what to do....


Could it be that he got frustrated because he believes he doesn't know how to make you happy?


Possibly, but if he loves me as much as he says.. Then I'd think he'd do all he can to try n make it work... I mean cmon not even messaging me at lest on valentine day?!! Wtf


Maybe he kind of dreads messaging you if he feels like he's walking on eggshells.
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Yeah I'm sure that has some part to do with it.. Damn I just don't know WTF to do
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So we've been talking LDR for two-three months. I have been having a hard time and he knows this. Insecurity, trust issues.. Need for attention, etc. last week I snapped and said this isn't working AGAIN. He just went off and basically said when you are ready to treat me as you would want tone treated then ill be here. But his last message was ok you've made up your mind I can't do anything I've said all I can say.... He is clearly frustrated with me. He didn't even message me for V day yesterday. Idk what to do....


Could it be that he got frustrated because he believes he doesn't know how to make you happy?


Possibly, but if he loves me as much as he says.. Then I'd think he'd do all he can to try n make it work... I mean cmon not even messaging me at lest on valentine day?!! Wtf


Maybe he kind of dreads messaging you if he feels like he's walking on eggshells.


Yeah I'm sure that has some part to do with it.. Damn I just don't know WTF to do


Is there anything he does that makes you happy? Or anything that puts a smile to your face?
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Yea that's why I fell in love with him.. I constantly think about him. From the moment I wake up to til my head hits the pillow. Im all about him.. I am just overcome with these negative thoughts and worries especially cuz it's LDR
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He will come back around, and when he does, just be cool
about it. Take his word at face value.
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So we've been talking LDR for two-three months. I have been having a hard time and he knows this. Insecurity, trust issues.. Need for attention, etc. last week I snapped and said this isn't working AGAIN. He just went off and basically said when you are ready to treat me as you would want tone treated then ill be here. But his last message was ok you've made up your mind I can't do anything I've said all I can say.... He is clearly frustrated with me. He didn't even message me for V day yesterday. Idk what to do....


Could it be that he got frustrated because he believes he doesn't know how to make you happy?


Possibly, but if he loves me as much as he says.. Then I'd think he'd do all he can to try n make it work... I mean cmon not even messaging me at lest on valentine day?!! Wtf


Maybe he kind of dreads messaging you if he feels like he's walking on eggshells.


Yeah I'm sure that has some part to do with it.. Damn I just don't know WTF to do


Is there anything he does that makes you happy? Or anything that puts a smile to your face?



Yea that's why I fell in love with him.. I constantly think about him. From the moment I wake up to til my head hits the pillow. Im all about him.. I am just overcome with these negative thoughts and worries especially cuz it's LDR

Maybe let him know the things he does that makes you happy? Let him know of his achievements that you're proud of? smile Don't make it up though. If you decide to do this, be honest. If there's something you would really like him to change, also tell him that.
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Thank you for your advice- I will if he contacts me.. I am too scared to reach out right now... I hope he does. Last time this happened it was the fourth day and I gave in and initiated... And that pissed me off.. He didn't even try. But then the time before that he initiated.. So we shall see.... But yea I will do that.. Like tell him I acknowledge what a hard worker he is and that he makes me smile whenever he messages me or says certain things .. Thank you
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Because ... I think, in some ways, he doesn't feel like you respect him ...
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Posted by AriesIntrovert16
He will come back around, and when he does, just be cool
about it. Take his word at face value.


Thanks .. Ok I will try..!
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Again, did you message him?

He could saying the same thing about you. That you dont care either.

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Again, did you message him?

He could saying the same thing about you. That you dont care either.




No I'm too afraid right now.. I need to cool off first and he prob does too. Yea I guess he could say that but why would I stress so much over us if I didn't care.. And he knows I do
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Posted by brandyp
I don't know much about aries but I imagine them (loudly) fighting for all things they want out of life, including love. If you need him to step up to the plate more, tell him. its hard for me to gauge exactly whats going on bc told you that hes said everything he could say to you already, yet you say you need reassurance so maybe tell him specifically like I need you to call me before you go to bed tonight or facetime with me tomorrow or whatever. IDK why he didn't call you yesterday im sorry sweetie, maybe like you said he is frustrated. You guys could plan a weekend together or something soon where you can see each other in person to revive the spark.


Posted by Zetarose
Posted by brandyp
it sounds like he likes you but you are pushing him away. LDR's aren't for everybody, and you seem to really hate the distance issue. the decision seems up to you if he really is doing everything he can.


In a perfect world..(me being a Virgo-perfectionist. Especially in relationships; so in a perfect world, it'd be him saying I will give you all the reassurance you need,. And I will never break your heart.. Although he had said he would never intentionally hurt me. Well of course not, I know he wouldn't just hurt me on purpose. I see his Aries selfishness sometimes and that hurts me... I just want him to like fight for my love.. But , that's just not reality, people don't do that... That's like a movie or a romance Novel not real life I guess..




Thank you I will if he ever contacts me again... Idk if I will initiate. I'm scared..


So because you're scared, you expect him to initiate?

Girl, the ball is in your court now. If you really love him and want him back, you'll do what it takes.

That is why he said,"ready to treat me like I treat you."

If you're not willing to fight for him then you have to let him go.
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Ya he said when you're ready to treat me the way you want to be treated... Idk what to do... I rly do love him. But keep getting disappointed
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Good luck! smile


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Again, did you message him?

He could saying the same thing about you. That you dont care either.




No I'm too afraid right now.. I need to cool off first and he prob does too. Yea I guess he could say that but why would I stress so much over us if I didn't care.. And he knows I do
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You didnt tell him Happy Valentine either.

For all we know, the same reason you didnt wish him well is the same reason he hasnt.

Im 100% sure he thought of you. BUT something made him decide not to reach out. And vice versa.

You could have easily called him and wished him well.

Dont put all of this on him.
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You didnt treat him how you want to be treated.
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Again, did you message him?

He could saying the same thing about you. That you dont care either.




No I'm too afraid right now.. I need to cool off first and he prob does too. Yea I guess he could say that but why would I stress so much over us if I didn't care.. And he knows I do


You didnt tell him Happy Valentine either.

For all we know, the same reason you didnt wish him well is the same reason he hasnt.

Im 100% sure he thought of you. BUT something made him decide not to reach out. And vice versa.

You could have easily called him and wished him well.

Dont put all of this on him.
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Yes I hear ya.. Idk why I just feel like the guy should reach out and try and make it work first. But I am clueless on dating and relationships
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Message him right now.

Right the hell now.

Tell him you miss him and sweet dreams.

How can you be clueless? Treat him how you would want to be treated. He gave you clear directions
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Give me his number. I will message him
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Give me his number. I will message him


What?! Lol he'll be like wth is this?!!
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Well why do I keep becoming disappointed?!! Is this internal voice guiding me in the right direction?!! Or am I just overthinking things... See I don't know-- it's just so hard with LDR
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He's in Canada im in US.. We just use fb messenger right now.
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Youre kind exhausting op
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Why are you being such a stupid asshole toward him?

Sorry, but that's what you're doing here. You're being one of those lunatic chicks. You wore out his very slim patience. You sound like too much work and any guy would run from that shit.

Fix yourself before you date honey. Insecurity is a disgusting trait to let control your life.

Also, take some goddamned xanax. Reading all your replies made me want to ditch your ass, too. You are being one high maintenance ho. Get a grip woman.
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Youre kind exhausting op



Well what should I do then? Still message him
Or leave it and just work on myself?
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Posted by DMV
Give me his number. I will message him



We'll messged him and apologized all he said is it's ok it is what is is I guess.. And nothing else.. Does that mean he's done with me?? I didn't reply to that cuz sounds like he doesn't wanna talk to me
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Ask him dammit. We cant read his mind.
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I did he does but he's really sick so he's napping then gonna message me
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But he said he was pretty pissed and doesn't have much to say... That doesn't sound good. And h stopped saying "I love you"
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Let him go OP. You're probably a great woman, but not for him. In the end, it won't work and you will end up wasting his time and yours. Reach out when you have more idealistic views on life, relationships and people.Nothing is perfect and there are two things in life that are guaranteed: people hurting you and death. Relationships come with love and pain. It's just a matter of what form of pain you can tolerate. Your perspective of things aren't real and because of that, YOU are disappointing yourself. You aren't ready for a ldr or a relationship in general.
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Let him go OP. You're probably a great woman, but not for him. In the end, it won't work and you will end up wasting his time and yours. Reach out when you have more idealistic views on life, relationships and people.Nothing is perfect and there are two things in life that are guaranteed: people hurting you and death. Relationships come with love and pain. It's just a matter of what form of pain you can tolerate. Your perspective of things aren't real and because of that, YOU are disappointing yourself. You aren't ready for a ldr or a relationship in general.



You're right...
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