Aries men idealism, desire for princess

Posted by feby16aqua
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I agree. Plus that little princess stuff can be great fun...then snap back to reality. Just be YOURSELF

Posted by Woody123
No. I'm not. I'm a Leo and I never said he treated me like gold, he doesnt and I just said he treats me very different than other women. My complaint is he neglects me a lot. He put me on the pedestal and leaves me there for very long periods, assumes I will wait patiently and faithfully like a good little girl and comes back to dust me off and takes me down to play with. I'm getting the feeling than he's wanting a "trophy" girlfriend more than an equal partnership. With the other women in his life he sends them congrats on their work accomplishments,asks about their life, goals, dreams, likes their posts on SM, includes them in his work etc...they also have access to info about him as a normal man.
But since he and I met I've been on a strict need to know basis with him bragging non stop about his wins, hiding anything less than perfect about himself and even trashy girls hes had brief flings with, he will joke and banter with, no problem but with me he is serious, ultra sensitive, easily offended and his ego is paper thin around me. When we are together he is weirdly sentimental, emotional (and hes very alpha male)and a while back he actually stopped talking to me for several months when his work stuff went down hill (I found out secretly, no other woman just work related).
Since we met 9 months ago, even when we stopped talking..didn't date or touch a woman once.So its like hes decided I'm "the one" but hes leaving me for some future plan with out telling me anything and sees me as more as an object of pleasure or a reward for a job well done....its the most bizarre beavior I have ver seen from a guy and hes not saying a damn thing about it.

Posted by tiziani
That's the thing about women. You often come across as making little sense. One breath you're talking about being treated as equal partners, the next breath you're talking about being "won" or "lost" forever as though you do like to be objectified like some kind of troohy. It's like you want to inflict the pain of inconsistency on yourselves. Which is why most men run on their own schedule as they get older. At least that way they can treat you consistently. It helps breed trust and routine.

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Posted by tiziani
That's the thing about women. You often come across as making little sense. One breath you're talking about being treated as equal partners, the next breath you're talking about being "won" or "lost" forever as though you do like to be objectified like some kind of troohy. It's like you want to inflict the pain of inconsistency on yourselves. Which is why most men run on their own schedule as they get older. At least that way they can treat you consistently. It helps breed trust and routine.

Well someone's gotta change, and it's not going to be me

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Posted by piscesmoon2

A true Aries man would hope you think of him as your troohy... he would want you to be shown of to your friends and talked about well by you... relish in the fact that you have amazing sex... and trust... He looks at it like you own eachother equally and exclusively.... It takes trust to know you man has to go to battle... as if you don't know how to swing the sword you... are not a man and can't provide.
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So you should only encourage an aries man, even if you know that he has no chance of fighting any better than you do? I'm just asking because it's a tug I've faced a few times in the past. Honesty vs feeding a false bravado?

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Posted by feby16aqua

Posted by piscesmoon2

See if you read above that is why Aqu go good with Aries... they like to be thought of the ways I described...
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Yeah well I mean, who wouldn't mind being shown around proudly and lusted after by an aries man?

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Posted by Woody123
No. I'm not. I'm a Leo and I never said he treated me like gold, he doesnt and I just said he treats me very different than other women. My complaint is he neglects me a lot. He put me on the pedestal and leaves me there for very long periods, assumes I will wait patiently and faithfully like a good little girl and comes back to dust me off and takes me down to play with. I'm getting the feeling than he's wanting a "trophy" girlfriend more than an equal partnership. With the other women in his life he sends them congrats on their work accomplishments,asks about their life, goals, dreams, likes their posts on SM, includes them in his work etc...they also have access to info about him as a normal man.
But since he and I met I've been on a strict need to know basis with him bragging non stop about his wins, hiding anything less than perfect about himself and even trashy girls hes had brief flings with, he will joke and banter with, no problem but with me he is serious, ultra sensitive, easily offended and his ego is paper thin around me. When we are together he is weirdly sentimental, emotional (and hes very alpha male)and a while back he actually stopped talking to me for several months when his work stuff went down hill (I found out secretly, no other woman just work related).
Since we met 9 months ago, even when we stopped talking..didn't date or touch a woman once.So its like hes decided I'm "the one" but hes leaving me for some future plan with out telling me anything and sees me as more as an object of pleasure or a reward for a job well done....its the most bizarre beavior I have ver seen from a guy and hes not saying a damn thing about it.

Posted by Woody123
Greetings,
Dating an Aries man for the first time and I'm having some difficulty dealing with this mans extreme idealism. Now, I've read many times that Aries men especially have the need to put the woman on a pedestal, to see her as sort of a mythical princess, pure, angelic and perfect I feel that the Aries I'm with has put me into a very separate category I am not used to being in. Absolutely NOT like his other female friends,colleagues,relatives or even flings. He keeps me on a pedestal and apart from any aspect of his life he deems imperfect. I'm only allowed to know about his successes.
His idealism romantically shocks me, its like a 7 year old girl's....like he sees me as the Princess waiting to be rescued by him, the warrior after he fights his battles (work projects)...in the meantime Im left alone on my pedestal...anyone else see or experience this with Aries man or if you are an Aries....do you feel this way about your love interests? I also get the feeling he wants me to play that role of the demanding, hard to please princess.....oy