Aries woman Virgo man

This topic was created in the Aries and Virgo Compatibility forum by Laniyaravonn on Wednesday, July 22, 2015 and has 21 replies.
Sooooo I recently started dating this Virgo guy & he's quite interesting to me.. But I keep feeling like he's just not too interested in me as much as I'm interested in him. Any comments?
virgo men are sweet, and understanding. I think it takes them a while to show how they truly feel...whats the entire story, and what made you come to this conclusion?
From personal experience with Aries dates/mates, you guys require a lot of demonstrative acts to feel secure in love. I'm not saying that's a bad thing, but Virgos aren't like that upfront. It usually takes them time to get to that point. That doesn't mean that they're not FEELING it, but they need to feel like everything is going to remain in tact and not fall apart before they can act on those feelings.
Posted by Twodrinkminimum
Yeah, it takes them a long while to open up and then they usually show their affection through acts of service...like pumping your gas or cleaning your car lol. Doing things for you rather than telling you how they feel. They are usually good gift givers though.

Yes!!! This. Now that I think of it, my female Aries cousin has been driving herself crazy over what she feels like is lack of interest on a Virgo man's part. The thing is, this guy is always doing stuff FOR her. She just doesn't get it. She wants more physical passion and declarations of love or declarations of how he feels. I kept trying to tell her that she wasn't going to get that for some time, but that this man really really likes her. She couldn't understand it and decided to move on to date someone else. smh....sad, because she says that she really likes the guy and he seems like a sweetheart. If only she could understand how the Virgo man shows interest and learn how to translate his acts of service into expressions of his affection.
Posted by BlackMamba
My Ex dated an Aries after he disappeared on me. She blows up his phone all the time and texts him. She's obviously not over him.

lol, you're back. yay for dxp and humanity! -_-
yeah i agree with what was said above about virgos showing that they care with action. I find Capricorns to be similar in this sense...they will do things for you without you asking them. I don't think Virgo men are vocally expressive about how they feel. What are both of your birth charts...can you post them?
LOL @ blackmamba. that must really suck.
Posted by wecarealot
Wait, how do you guys know that's CC? lol

yep lol. Who else would have a name called blackmamba?
oh and she hates virgos^
OMG.....CC is back????? Yessssss!!!! We just highjacked this thread to make it all about CC.
I just don't have the patience for these dudes Sad my virguy just seems to annoy me intensely lol. Very irritating he is.
Totally get this, dated one for a while, to laid back, no energy or passion for life, I got bored.....not one of my better qualities smile
Me and my Virgo friend have a love/hate friendship, he does my head in, we find it very hard to get along sometimes... but when we do get along, we get along pretty well.
Posted by derpette
Posted by Laniyaravonn
Sooooo I recently started dating this Virgo guy & he's quite interesting to me.. But I keep feeling like he's just not too interested in me as much as I'm interested in him. Any comments?

Your interest in him will probably be more pronounced, than his for you. Also, it may feel challenging at first, but if you're patient with him and give him space, you will see that he is interested (and cares) and will show it in his own way. Slowly he will open up, and it will be the most exciting, exhilarating, unfolding...like a million presents you can unwrap.

Your situation is the same experience that brought me to join this site. It's been 9 months since my Virgo guy and I started talking. There were a lot of moment of insecurities initially because the way we express ourselves are different. I suggest try not to think too much of it, appreciate every moment with him, and remind yourself he wouldn't be with you if he wasn't interested.
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What I don't understand is the patience thing... I mean where do you draw the line between having patience yet waiting too long for them to come through and communicate that you realise it's a play? Mine disappears only to come through eventually with "I'm really sorry, I thought you were going to contact me?"
Like...REALLY?????!!!
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Posted by AriesGirl74
What I don't understand is the patience thing... I mean where do you draw the line between having patience yet waiting too long for them to come through and communicate that you realise it's a play? Mine disappears only to come through eventually with "I'm really sorry, I thought you were going to contact me?"
Like...REALLY?????!!!

One of the characteristics that I find compatible (as an Aries) with my Virgo man is that we're both independent. A lesson I learned is that I don't have to wait for him idly, I can do my own thing and he will come to me. His aloofness used to deter me from speaking to him first, now I just go with the flow. If there's something I wish to share with him, I don't hesitate. But if I don't hear from him, then it doesn't make a difference since there are other things that need to be done. Eventually he will come around as you mentioned...and that's the time you know he misses you.

It's been said that Arians hate beating around the bush, playing games, or when people are not forthright. Personally, I agree with this. Before I used to see my Virgo lover's "hot-cold", "detached-attached" moments as playing games. They are very loyal if they decide that you are someone important to them. When they're recluse, it doesn't mean they stop caring.

Ultimately, it's based on your discretion. If you feel like communication with him is straining and feels like he is playing a game, then it's probably not worth sweating over and just let it go.
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I could use some advice!

My Virgo crush has been out of the state for a summer program. We stayed in slight contact, but not as much as I had hoped. I relate to him being busy because I didn't really stay in contact with anyone during my summer program. So he came home on Monday, and Tuesday morning texted me to see what I'm doing this week.

As much as I try to reason with myself...I am a little put off by the disconnect I felt. And he didn't make plans...he just asked "What are you up to this week?" Should I suggest going out with him? If so, should I mention how it would've been nice to talk to him more while he was away?
Jo March,

Just keep it sexy and sweet. Leave the past behind... it apparently doesn't matter... it didn't dampen your crush none, right?

You're at crush stage... not really the stage of expectations.

If you miss the man, show him.

Posted by VenusAquarius
Jo March,

Just keep it sexy and sweet. Leave the past behind... it apparently doesn't matter... it didn't dampen your crush none, right?

You're at crush stage... not really the stage of expectations.

If you miss the man, show him.



Thanks, VenusAquarius! Your advice really resonates with me. I'm hanging out with him tonight so will keep it sexy and sweet and just enjoy the company. smile)
We had a great time last night! He invited me to stop by his best friend's place for drinks, so I took my sister along. (We all go to the same church so are good friends.) We just sat and talked on the porch for a couple of hours.

Gave him a huge hug and said that even though I hadn't seen him in two months it felt like no time had passed now that he was in front of me. He agreed and said, "It's weird right? It's like I just saw you." He was really quiet at first and on his phone, which would have made me withdraw, but I took your advice and just let myself be happy to see him.

He ended up sharing videos, photos and stories of his trip with me when I asked about it, which meant a lot. Right before leaving he hugged me and I whispered "I really missed you." And, he said "I definitely missed you" over and over three or four times and rested his chin on my head! It was a sweet "butterflies" moment.

So today, I sent him a text saying how much fun I had and he text me back an article about how to fix an ipad screen because last night I mentioned I dropped my ipad and it cracked. Made me laugh a little. But....I'm still hoping for a one-on-one date!
I'm so happy you had a great time.

I've been with a Virgo for over 20 years now and have two Virgo male brothers.

Remember, this is "the Virgin." The ego, the Sun leads at first... so he will be conservative and appear rather perfunctory for a while. You will get glimpses of affection, then a window, a door, a room, and finally a house.

Sometimes, I liken my husband to Hank Hill from the animated show "King of the Hill." This morning he was singing the praises of a cold glass of milk. He loves mowing the lawn and detailing the cars. Gets excited really. I like it. Cause when he's hot, it's a refreshing surprise everytime... and feels just as hot as the first time. Always feels like a secret. And, because he thinks it's dirty, it is.

Remember the Virgin...

Our first date lasted four days (his Mars is in Taurus). Then, I didn't hear from him for a week or two. He actually felt guilty for "keeping me" for four days.
Posted by VenusAquarius
You will get glimpses of affection, then a window, a door, a room, and finally a house.