Do Aries men say SORRY?
This topic was created in the Aries forum by CapyWife on Monday, September 24, 2007 and has 20 replies.
I have been with my hubby for a long time now and we have been married almost a year. I can count on one hand how many times I've heard him apologize to me. I feel like I'm constantly the only one apologizing for my actions. Even if he is wrong he doesn't apologize. This is so hurtful. IS this common? And Aries men...if so why don't you all say sorry?
Because apparantly they are never wrong..you can only apologise if you human..seeing as they apparantly think they are god, they don't need to!..
lol..I had an argument with my man quite a while back where he accused me of not giving him enough affection and being cold towards him...I said, well I think its you seeing it that way, because as far as I am concerned, I care for you so much..I am hurt you don't actually see that...so if you feel slighted, then i guess you only have yourself to blame....He didn't like that..said to me "funny how your always the victim"..so I said "honey, please don't project your own feelings onto me"
I was given a weeks silent treatment..you have to be careful not to hurt their precious egos...
lol..I had an argument with my man quite a while back where he accused me of not giving him enough affection and being cold towards him...I said, well I think its you seeing it that way, because as far as I am concerned, I care for you so much..I am hurt you don't actually see that...so if you feel slighted, then i guess you only have yourself to blame....He didn't like that..said to me "funny how your always the victim"..so I said "honey, please don't project your own feelings onto me"
I was given a weeks silent treatment..you have to be careful not to hurt their precious egos...
Mine appologizes all the time and is very sensitive. I blame his Libra moon. lol! 
An Aries with venus in pisces is the perfect combination of softness and hardness. He'll say sorry if it's his fault, but only to loved ones, methinks
No...Aries men never say sorry. I had the hardest time trying to explain the importance of "I'm sorry" to my EX-aries (see that P and FB...i'm free!!!) They don't do it for the exact reasons mentioned by missmorals. If they don't FEEL sorry for something they did, they're not going to say it...it's that simple. They see it as being honest, others see it as being selfish. take your pick.
And yes, they always try to make themselves out to be the victim (at least my aries did...don't want to generalize all aries cuz I know a few, including freebird, that are good people).
they can be difficult to work with, but they are the child of the zodiac.
And yes, they always try to make themselves out to be the victim (at least my aries did...don't want to generalize all aries cuz I know a few, including freebird, that are good people).
they can be difficult to work with, but they are the child of the zodiac.
"said to me "funny how your always the victim"..so I said "honey, please don't project your own feelings onto me"
I was given a weeks silent treatment..you have to be careful not to hurt their precious egos..."
Morals this is exactly what i'm talking about. That's what he says to me. That i'm the victim and if my feelings are really hurt and I start crying then he says that I'm trying to take advantage of him with my tears. I've been given that silent treatment in the past several times for being a "BAD GIRL"....
I was given a weeks silent treatment..you have to be careful not to hurt their precious egos..."
Morals this is exactly what i'm talking about. That's what he says to me. That i'm the victim and if my feelings are really hurt and I start crying then he says that I'm trying to take advantage of him with my tears. I've been given that silent treatment in the past several times for being a "BAD GIRL"....
"And yes, they always try to make themselves out to be the victim "
Well my hubby is guilty of this too. He is ALWAYS the victum.. He is right and I am wrong. Almost 98% of the time this is his belief if somethings wrong then I started it. first. It's almost like they don't really take into consideration other peoples feelings or atleast try and meet you half way to show that they care. I have to just KNOW that he cares...because like he always says "If I didn't care I wouldn't be here" we all know this to be true for Aries men because if they don't want to be somewhere they will JET on you in a hurry, but still a little TLC would be nice.........SHIT rub my ego for once...
Well my hubby is guilty of this too. He is ALWAYS the victum.. He is right and I am wrong. Almost 98% of the time this is his belief if somethings wrong then I started it. first. It's almost like they don't really take into consideration other peoples feelings or atleast try and meet you half way to show that they care. I have to just KNOW that he cares...because like he always says "If I didn't care I wouldn't be here" we all know this to be true for Aries men because if they don't want to be somewhere they will JET on you in a hurry, but still a little TLC would be nice.........SHIT rub my ego for once...
"not only do aries men never say sorry but they never discuss things after a fight...and so it becomes a repetetive cycle of fight/sulk, fight/sul"
This is the part I truly hate the most. The things we argue about are the same things that we argued about when we first met each other because he refuses to talk about the reasons why we argue in the first place.
Aries men where are you???? We need some understanding as to why you all are like this?
I'm tired of arguing over the same things and i'm tired of hurting because things never get resolved. If I dare say something about wanting to talk about the argument after we have made up and are on the good foot again... he turns it back into another argument about why we have to talk about why we argued in the first place. Oh and....THAT'S MY FAULT TOO!!!
This is the part I truly hate the most. The things we argue about are the same things that we argued about when we first met each other because he refuses to talk about the reasons why we argue in the first place.
Aries men where are you???? We need some understanding as to why you all are like this?
I'm tired of arguing over the same things and i'm tired of hurting because things never get resolved. If I dare say something about wanting to talk about the argument after we have made up and are on the good foot again... he turns it back into another argument about why we have to talk about why we argued in the first place. Oh and....THAT'S MY FAULT TOO!!!
I know he is sorry for something that he has done when he rubs up on me and acts like a child towards me...trying to get on my good side. But why not just say sorry. My man must not have a venus in pisces cause he ain't saying sorry. He is all ARIES all his planets are Aries!!! ALL OF THEM.
I mean he has his ways of letting me know how he feels but it's so much nicer to hear it sometimes. Like for example. I called him on my way home from work on Friday and he was watching ESPN....(he is an ESPN junky..he needs his fix everyday) well while i was talking he wasn't listening. I'd ask him a question and his responce was "HUH?" so I found myself repeating what I was saying over and over. I told him in a joking but serious way that I'd let him be with his girlfriend and finish his fling and that I was really hurt that I had been thinking of him all day and when I call him his concern is on the football updates. I told him he was neglecting me and that I was going to spank him when I got home then I hung up. When I walked in the door he ran up to me like a little child and dipped me over and kissed me and kissed me all over my face.... It worked i wasn't upset anymore...lol
Still there is something so bitter sweet about these men. So much to appreciate and adore and then somethings that are so irritating. I love him more then words can say.... just wish that he enjoyed the arts and poetry and the deep things in life. Guess that's just the Cap in me.
I mean he has his ways of letting me know how he feels but it's so much nicer to hear it sometimes. Like for example. I called him on my way home from work on Friday and he was watching ESPN....(he is an ESPN junky..he needs his fix everyday) well while i was talking he wasn't listening. I'd ask him a question and his responce was "HUH?" so I found myself repeating what I was saying over and over. I told him in a joking but serious way that I'd let him be with his girlfriend and finish his fling and that I was really hurt that I had been thinking of him all day and when I call him his concern is on the football updates. I told him he was neglecting me and that I was going to spank him when I got home then I hung up. When I walked in the door he ran up to me like a little child and dipped me over and kissed me and kissed me all over my face.... It worked i wasn't upset anymore...lol
Still there is something so bitter sweet about these men. So much to appreciate and adore and then somethings that are so irritating. I love him more then words can say.... just wish that he enjoyed the arts and poetry and the deep things in life. Guess that's just the Cap in me.
Hmm, my Aries "friend" is/was always full of damn apologies!
But I FUCKING HATE APOLOGIES!!!!
If I never hear, "I'm sorry" ever again I would be happy.
Just don't repeat the action, change whatever the problem is.
I don't need to hear it.(am I the only woman who can't stand hearing apologies?)
He will grovel and tell me how he feels so horrible every time there's a problem that he has to "humble himself" to me and beg me to still deal with him. Wah, wah, wah. I really don't care about that shit. Just stop repeating the same dumb mistakes and you won't have to!!!
The only thing he's ever blamed *me* for is our separations when I get tired of his shit and walk away from him, ignore his calls, change my number, move, etc. I'll take responsibility for that but he still thinks that it's "everything/body else's fault" that he doesn't do what he needs to do for me to stay in contact with him. Other than that he takes on everything and apologizes for it. I just don't give a shit.
But I FUCKING HATE APOLOGIES!!!!
If I never hear, "I'm sorry" ever again I would be happy.
Just don't repeat the action, change whatever the problem is.
I don't need to hear it.(am I the only woman who can't stand hearing apologies?)
He will grovel and tell me how he feels so horrible every time there's a problem that he has to "humble himself" to me and beg me to still deal with him. Wah, wah, wah. I really don't care about that shit. Just stop repeating the same dumb mistakes and you won't have to!!!
The only thing he's ever blamed *me* for is our separations when I get tired of his shit and walk away from him, ignore his calls, change my number, move, etc. I'll take responsibility for that but he still thinks that it's "everything/body else's fault" that he doesn't do what he needs to do for me to stay in contact with him. Other than that he takes on everything and apologizes for it. I just don't give a shit.
well i checked and the funny thing is that my hubbys venus is in pisces. he must be flawed. lol
Watz the point in apologizing if U can't decriminalize Urself. Yes, itz a crime when in a relationship U bring situation to such a point that the other person is deeply hurt and U are overcome with guilt-ridden grief. A string of apologies and no visible improvement in conduct is no genuine consolation. Maybe itz easy to befool women with this ? Or is it that women have allowed themselves to be befooled since ages ?
In my opinion, U are pampering and spoiling the person ( in the current context mostly Aries ) if U are not punishing those who refuse to listen ( for their own good ). Truthseeker has done the right thing. Personally, my heart will ache to death if am caught is such a situation, but the right solution must be implemented to set right examples.
In my opinion, U are pampering and spoiling the person ( in the current context mostly Aries ) if U are not punishing those who refuse to listen ( for their own good ). Truthseeker has done the right thing. Personally, my heart will ache to death if am caught is such a situation, but the right solution must be implemented to set right examples.
Capywife, maybe he apologises through actions, or expects you to forget about it?
For example, if you make mistakes, he also forgets about it.
He will probably make up for it by being extra nice in something else he does.
My dad is Aries, and he does apologise to me, but I'm not sure to my mum.
I see the way he apologises is to keep quiet and then follow what the other party says.
It's an apology already, because Aries likes to lead.
Gemfox, I think his venus matches your moon very well. You're both softies at heart
For example, if you make mistakes, he also forgets about it.
He will probably make up for it by being extra nice in something else he does.
My dad is Aries, and he does apologise to me, but I'm not sure to my mum.
I see the way he apologises is to keep quiet and then follow what the other party says.
It's an apology already, because Aries likes to lead.
Gemfox, I think his venus matches your moon very well. You're both softies at heart
He does say sorry through actions I guess. He'll be extra nice to me or do his 101 kisses thing. Just seems like admiting the wrong is so hard as far as verbalization. I'll have to find out what his moon is.
"In my opinion, U are pampering and spoiling the person ( in the current context mostly Aries ) if U are not punishing those who refuse to listen ( for their own good )"
Wow, GU...I can't believe this came from an Aries...you must be one of the few cool ones LOL! The rest of your post described one of the many repetitions found w/in my relationship. Whenever we fought, I would explain to him why he was wrong (if he was wrong, of course), then he would say sorry, things would be great for a few weeks, then the shit would hit the fan...AGAIN! It got tiring! I must agree w/ GU.
Domestication in the U.S. has taught us that an apology goes a long way. I do agree w/ that. But what's the point of an apology if you don't really see the error in your ways (which was ALWAYS the case w/ my ex and could be a possible explanation of why Aries never apologize). Your behavior would continue, which would inevitably lead to necessary action on the part of the wronged, and no more words!
Wow, GU...I can't believe this came from an Aries...you must be one of the few cool ones LOL! The rest of your post described one of the many repetitions found w/in my relationship. Whenever we fought, I would explain to him why he was wrong (if he was wrong, of course), then he would say sorry, things would be great for a few weeks, then the shit would hit the fan...AGAIN! It got tiring! I must agree w/ GU.
Domestication in the U.S. has taught us that an apology goes a long way. I do agree w/ that. But what's the point of an apology if you don't really see the error in your ways (which was ALWAYS the case w/ my ex and could be a possible explanation of why Aries never apologize). Your behavior would continue, which would inevitably lead to necessary action on the part of the wronged, and no more words!
Well my man has a Capricorn moon and venus in Pisces..actually he has quite a bit of Pisces & Cancer in his chart..prolly why he is hypersensitive..My venus is in Sag..so I am rather blunt and aloof with emotions..but that doesn't mean I care any less..
But Roxi and truthseeker are right..too much of the same repetitive arguments will become dull and boring and you would want out..that shit gets tiresome..
My mans way of annoying me/making me feel guilty would be to say "I guess sending one text message a week is you trying".....the bastard..how dare he..it was way more then that and at least I sent them which is more than what could be said for him..he was annoyed why I didn't phone him every waking hour of the day..well hello..I didn't really need to..and besides I get bored of speaking to people every day..
But Roxi and truthseeker are right..too much of the same repetitive arguments will become dull and boring and you would want out..that shit gets tiresome..
My mans way of annoying me/making me feel guilty would be to say "I guess sending one text message a week is you trying".....the bastard..how dare he..it was way more then that and at least I sent them which is more than what could be said for him..he was annoyed why I didn't phone him every waking hour of the day..well hello..I didn't really need to..and besides I get bored of speaking to people every day..
missmorals, your areis is that insecure? that he wants you to call him every waking hour of the day? lol
when i was with a virgo she would call me so much 5,6,7 times a day ....SHIT! get a hobby WTF! leve me be..that was way more than i was used to...im perfectly good if i dont hear from you in a day or two....we all got lives
but back to the question at hand
i will only say sorry if i know with out a doubt that i was wrong and if i really want to change my ways and do better....and/or if i hurt someone very close to me
but to be honest i think the only reason that i apologize is that if i was wrong or did something bad makes me feel miserable and and i want the feeling ot go away and hope that if the perosno accepts the apology its going to make me feel better
to say sorry i have to feel it and i seldom do. And if someone is making me apologize than forget it! i was put in a situation once where i had to apologize in front of a lot of people and it wasnt my idea or how i wanted to do it so i did the total opsotie of what everyone was expecting and pretty much gave them a middle finger...uffff....that was bad! bad bad bad
by admiting faults and saying sorry we feel like our manhood, pride, ego, is being taken away and we will defend it
i do say sorry for small insignificant things because i dont have to mean it and makes a life easier but when it comes to bigger issue thats another story
when i was with a virgo she would call me so much 5,6,7 times a day ....SHIT! get a hobby WTF! leve me be..that was way more than i was used to...im perfectly good if i dont hear from you in a day or two....we all got lives
but back to the question at hand
i will only say sorry if i know with out a doubt that i was wrong and if i really want to change my ways and do better....and/or if i hurt someone very close to me
but to be honest i think the only reason that i apologize is that if i was wrong or did something bad makes me feel miserable and and i want the feeling ot go away and hope that if the perosno accepts the apology its going to make me feel better
to say sorry i have to feel it and i seldom do. And if someone is making me apologize than forget it! i was put in a situation once where i had to apologize in front of a lot of people and it wasnt my idea or how i wanted to do it so i did the total opsotie of what everyone was expecting and pretty much gave them a middle finger...uffff....that was bad! bad bad bad
by admiting faults and saying sorry we feel like our manhood, pride, ego, is being taken away and we will defend it
i do say sorry for small insignificant things because i dont have to mean it and makes a life easier but when it comes to bigger issue thats another story
Like here is a new case... When I got home from work yesterday I was sooooo sick i had caught a stomach virus from somewhere and so when i got home I went straight to bed I didn't get up til this morning. Well while I'm sleep none of the things that needed to get done got done. The kids still had on their clothes on from the night before when I woke up this morning and when the baby cried in the middle of the night there weren't any bottles made. He didn't even bother to put the kids in the tub and my daughter said that she didn't eat anything but what I gave her when we first got home.
I mean dammmmmmmmmmmnnnnnnnnnnn I can't even be sick!!!!! It's not rocket science to know that the baby needs bottles, the kids need to eat, and they need a bath. If he wasn't going to do it all he had to do was wake me up and I would have done it. I am so furious about this whole damned thing mainly because when he is sick he goes straight to bed and i make sure all is taken care of I even go to him and see if he is hungry or if he needs anything. As soon as I'm sick as a dog the things that always get taken care of don't .... Is this a man thing?
He was wrong for this.. I'm not even sure he knows it or not...or thinks that he has done anything wrong. I wouldn't so much say he did anything wrong it's just that I didn't feel like I had his help. Now I want to tell him about this but will he even recognize this is a problem in the first place? I haven't called him all day and this morning he kissed me good-bye and said I love you and I said it back but I was so mad inside.
I mean dammmmmmmmmmmnnnnnnnnnnn I can't even be sick!!!!! It's not rocket science to know that the baby needs bottles, the kids need to eat, and they need a bath. If he wasn't going to do it all he had to do was wake me up and I would have done it. I am so furious about this whole damned thing mainly because when he is sick he goes straight to bed and i make sure all is taken care of I even go to him and see if he is hungry or if he needs anything. As soon as I'm sick as a dog the things that always get taken care of don't .... Is this a man thing?
He was wrong for this.. I'm not even sure he knows it or not...or thinks that he has done anything wrong. I wouldn't so much say he did anything wrong it's just that I didn't feel like I had his help. Now I want to tell him about this but will he even recognize this is a problem in the first place? I haven't called him all day and this morning he kissed me good-bye and said I love you and I said it back but I was so mad inside.
LOL @ Class Act Aries....every waking hour of the day is just a figure of speech...I guess he was annoyed I didn't actually call him much...to be honest, I get bored of speaking to people..I sent him a few text messages and phoned him maybe once or twice a week..remember he's in the US and I am in UK..so couldn't afford calling every day..besides I didn't want to..He did annoy me with the comment though..And I realised it was always when he was pissed off at something, frustrated that he decided to take it out on me...
Now that he's in the army, he calls once a week..has written a letter also and soon to send pictures..
Are Aries great conversationalists?...he's fine sometimes..but at times its a struggle to get any conversation out of him..I find myself doing the talking, then I get bored and can't be bothered..He's not the loud type..he's quite reserved and shy as it happens..which I much prefer..Hmmmm..
Now that he's in the army, he calls once a week..has written a letter also and soon to send pictures..
Are Aries great conversationalists?...he's fine sometimes..but at times its a struggle to get any conversation out of him..I find myself doing the talking, then I get bored and can't be bothered..He's not the loud type..he's quite reserved and shy as it happens..which I much prefer..Hmmmm..
It's nice to see it's not just me. Sometimes I feel like i do so much around the house and for everyone...but it seems taken for granted.. Does he even notice? or is that just my job? The house goes to shambles when I'm sick or not there.
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