Exploring the Psyche of the Fire Signs with Thought-Provoking Questions – Aries

This topic was created in the Aries forum by themagnetoreborn on Monday, November 28, 2016 and has 31 replies.
A few questions I'd like to ask those who fall under the fiery zodiac sign Aries. ? The purpose is to basically learn more about your self-image and the way you navigate through your life.

1. As a fire sign, especially as an Aries, how do you view failure? Does the possibility of failure and the consequences of it serve as an incentive to work hard and succeed in all your first attempts at something? Or is failure, to you, something that doesn't quite cross your mind when you eagerly set out to do something?

Essentially, is the fear of failing to succeed at something the first time a motivator for an Aries, or is it the invigorating possibility to succeed at something the first, second, or third time (disregarding the idea of failure and the negative emotion it may elicit)?

2. If you had to choose one, what do you think makes an individual's life more difficult? Their interpretation of negative events or obstacles, difficult circumstances, or their environment. Why?

3. As an Aries man/woman, what is man/womanhood to you? How does that dictate the way you approach life and deal with others?

4. As an Aries, what would be the one word you'd say that isn't in your vocabulary?For example, would it be "dependence", "defeat", "sumbissive", "insecure", "failure"?

5. As an Aries, which of the following do you have more difficulty saying to another individual (particularly in person): "I'm sorry," or, "I love you"? Are these profound phrases that, once said, make you vulnerable and threaten your autonomy/the power you have over yourself? Or do you simply think they're more appropriate for certain individuals (ie. family members or significant others) and certain situations?
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Posted by lavaliquid
I'm sorry, but none of these questions pertain to aries.....

You ask this question in a holistic way.
They don't have to pertain to Aries. These are questions that are /directed/ to them, as are many of the questions you see on the Aries board.
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Though I will say, I probably should have done one question at a time.
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Can I answer?

Not an Aries but 5 planets stellium in Aries (moon, venus, mercury, jupiter, NN) and 80% of my chart is in fire...

1) I have a "can do it all attitude" i feel safe over estimating my qualities sometimes. I hate to fail, i view it as a learning experience (i try). But even when i fail, it makes want to succeed even more.

2) Their interpretation of negative events mostly.

3) Starting a familly and keeping it happy (with the right person)

4) Delusion

5) i love you
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1. As a fire sign, especially as an Aries, how do you view failure? Does the possibility of failure and the consequences of it, to you, serve as an incentive to work hard and succeed in all your first attempts at something you deem very important? Or is failure, to you, something that doesn't quite cross your mind when you eagerly set out to do something?

Essentially, is the fear of failing to succeed at something the first time a primary motivator for an Aries, or is the invigorating possibility to succeed at something the first, second, or third time a primary motivator for an Aries (disregarding the idea of failure and the negative emotion it may elicit)?

A: Failure is information. If I wanted to attempt something I was mildly interested in, and that attempt failed, I would use that information to assess whether or not it's worth attempting a second time given that I'm only mildly interested.

I make all things work for me, even if it is failure. If it's something I want, like the creation of a good artwork, and it failed, I assess why it failed and try again with a new approach. If it's something I didn't care about, but displayed information that was relevant to a similar circumstance, I might carry along my understanding of what failed while approaching the next event.

Failures happen, but they don't mean much beyond something not working, and when you know you can make anything work, you pick the battles you want to win and you seek the right solution. Think of the ram, climbing up the side of steep mountain ridges - there is rarely a straight path to the top.

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2. If you had to choose one, what do you think makes an individual's life more difficult? Their interpretation of negative events or obstacles, difficult circumstances, or their environment. Why?

A: Their interpretation of negative events or obstacles and difficult circumstances. Why? Because we're not in control of the world, the people who surround us, the universal physical laws that define us. But, we're in control of ourselves, and if there is one thing I've learned through my experiences and the people I've met, perspective on life is not just subjective, but malleable and able to be controlled by the individual when one finally realizes it. My shift in perspective (and faith in God) has transformed my life for the better, even if my circumstances weren't ideal.

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3. As an Aries man/woman, what is man/womanhood to you? How does that dictate the way you approach life and deal with others?

A: I can't anwer this in a way that would be beneficial to you because this is more determined by one's worldview and upbringing more than it is determined by your charts.

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4. As an Aries, what would be the one word you'd say that isn't in your vocabulary?For example, would it be "dependence", "defeat", "sumbissive", "insecure", "failure"?

A: Unforgiveness.

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5. As an Aries, which of the following do you have more difficulty saying to another individual (particularly in person): "I'm sorry," or, "I love you"? Are these profound phrases that, once said, make you vulnerable and threaten your autonomy/the power you have over yourself? Or do you simply think they're more appropriate for certain individuals (ie. family members or significant others) and certain situations?

A: These are phrases that are to be said with truth, and if we are speaking in terms of truth, one must detach themselves from feelings of subjectivity. Unlike a Scorpio, per se, one shouldn't speak these phrases because one feels good or guilty - they are not proclamations of present feelings - but only after an assessment of the truth. Like wise, these phrases are not tools to manipulate others. Words only have as much meaning as the credibility of the tongue which utters them.
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Posted by themagnetoreborn
Though I will say, I probably should have done one question at a time.



Yeah, because an "Aries" attention span is shot.

Your passive aggressiveness is interesting.

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The irony of this statement alone is mind blowing.

But aside from that and the fact that it makes no sense given the context, I wouldn't call your obvious inability to answer any of the questions "interesting" per se. Rather, I'd either call it sheer, mental laziness or plain incompetence...especially seeing as how you took the time to respond to my post not once, but /twice/, and both of your responses are devoid of any real significance.

Now /that/, whoever you are, would not classify as "passive-aggressiveness" - that's what I would call the cold, unvarnished truth served to you on a silver platter. Eat it on your way out.
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I will respond to this thread after work.
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1. As a fire sign, especially as an Aries, how do you view failure? Does the possibility of failure and the consequences of it, to you, serve as an incentive to work hard and succeed in all your first attempts at something you deem very important? Or is failure, to you, something that doesn't quite cross your mind when you eagerly set out to do something?

Essentially, is the fear of failing to succeed at something the first time a primary motivator for an Aries, or is the invigorating possibility to succeed at something the first, second, or third time a primary motivator for an Aries (disregarding the idea of failure and the negative emotion it may elicit)?

A: Failure is information. If I wanted to attempt something I was mildly interested in, and that attempt failed, I would use that information to assess whether or not it's worth attempting a second time given that I'm only mildly interested.

I make all things work for me, even if it is failure. If it's something I want, like the creation of a good artwork, and it failed, I assess why it failed and try again with a new approach. If it's something I didn't care about, but displayed information that was relevant to a similar circumstance, I might carry along my understanding of what failed while approaching the next event.

Failures happen, but they don't mean much beyond something not working, and when you know you can make anything work, you pick the battles you want to win and you seek the right solution. Think of the ram, climbing up the side of steep mountain ridges - there is rarely a straight path to the top.

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2. If you had to choose one, what do you think makes an individual's life more difficult? Their interpretation of negative events or obstacles, difficult circumstances, or their environment. Why?

A: Their interpretation of negative events or obstacles and difficult circumstances. Why? Because we're not in control of the world, the people who surround us, the universal physical laws that define us. But, we're in control of ourselves, and if there is one thing I've learned through my experiences and the people I've met, perspective on life is not just subjective, but malleable and able to be controlled by the individual when one finally realizes it. My shift in perspective (and faith in God) has transformed my life for the better, even if my circumstances weren't ideal.

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3. As an Aries man/woman, what is man/womanhood to you? How does that dictate the way you approach life and deal with others?

A: I can't anwer this in a way that would be beneficial to you because this is more determined by one's worldview and upbringing more than it is determined by your charts.

^^^^Fair enough^^^^

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4. As an Aries, what would be the one word you'd say that isn't in your vocabulary?For example, would it be "dependence", "defeat", "sumbissive", "insecure", "failure"?

A: Unforgiveness.

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5. As an Aries, which of the following do you have more difficulty saying to another individual (particularly in person): "I'm sorry," or, "I love you"? Are these profound phrases that, once said, make you vulnerable and threaten your autonomy/the power you have over yourself? Or do you simply think they're more appropriate for certain individuals (ie. family members or significant others) and certain situations?

A: These are phrases that are to be said with truth, and if we are speaking in terms of truth, one must detach themselves from feelings of subjectivity. Unlike a Scorpio, per se, one shouldn't speak these phrases because one feels good or guilty - they are not proclamations of present feelings - but only after an assessment of the truth. Like wise, these phrases are not tools to manipulate others. Words only have as much meaning as the credibility of the tongue which utters them.
Wow!

I'm thoroughly pleased with all your responses. They're all very revealing and thoughtful.

I'll bold the parts that resonated with me the most when I get the chance. But I definitely enjoyed reading what you had to say, for sure

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Can I answer?

Not an Aries but 5 planets stellium in Aries (moon, venus, mercury, jupiter, NN) and 80% of my chart is in fire...

1) I have a "can do it all attitude" i feel safe over estimating my qualities sometimes. I hate to fail, i view it as a learning experience (i try). But even when i fail, it makes want to succeed even more.

2) Their interpretation of negative events mostly.

3) Starting a familly and keeping it happy (with the right person)

4) Delusion

5) i love you
Forgot to say this, but, thanks for responding!

I have a follow up question for you: when you notice other people lacking the same initiative as you, or the guts you have to try and fail at something (only to rebound and try again), do you think less of them? Or is your focus generally on yourself and your own trajectory to success?
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A few questions I'd like to ask those who fall under the fiery zodiac sign Aries. ? The purpose is to basically learn more about your self-image and the way you navigate through your life.

1. As a fire sign, especially as an Aries, how do you view failure? Does the possibility of failure and the consequences of it, to you, serve as an incentive to work hard and succeed in all your first attempts at something you deem very important? Or is failure, to you, something that doesn't quite cross your mind when you eagerly set out to do something?

Essentially, is the fear of failing to succeed at something the first time a primary motivator for an Aries, or is the invigorating possibility to succeed at something the first, second, or third time a primary motivator for an Aries (disregarding the idea of failure and the negative emotion it may elicit)?

2. If you had to choose one, what do you think makes an individual's life more difficult? Their interpretation of negative events or obstacles, difficult circumstances, or their environment. Why?

3. As an Aries man/woman, what is man/womanhood to you? How does that dictate the way you approach life and deal with others?

4. As an Aries, what would be the one word you'd say that isn't in your vocabulary?For example, would it be "dependence", "defeat", "sumbissive", "insecure", "failure"?

5. As an Aries, which of the following do you have more difficulty saying to another individual (particularly in person): "I'm sorry," or, "I love you"? Are these profound phrases that, once said, make you vulnerable and threaten your autonomy/the power you have over yourself? Or do you simply think they're more appropriate for certain individuals (ie. family members or significant others) and certain situations?
1) Failure is a necessary process in life in order to flourish and grow as an individual.

2) The first because life's circumstances and environment can always be difficult but out of your control for the most part. So mental obstacles can be unnecessary burdens but they also teach you a lot about yourself once you overcome them.

3) I dont define it. Although I realize my limitations as a person I feel like defining myself in that way limits me to my fullest potential. Therefore I don't define my worth around it nor on how I interact with others. I try to live my life by my core values. I find it very useful because then I'm not dangerously attaching my worth to people's fickle whims and nature. How I treat others and myself are based around my principles and beliefs.

4) I don't like to not use any words. But if I had to choose narrow-mindedness comes to mind.

5) I have no issues using either phrases if the occasion calls for it.
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@mission, As I said before, all your answers were extremely compelling to me. But I wanted to challenge one of your responses by asking you a question: so to you, failure is information that you use to determine whether or not to continue pursuing something. That is, depending on your level of interest in it. But what if the failure you experienced was so great that, despite your large investment in that something you failed at, you decided to try your hand at something entirely different? Does having that idea of failure make you less persistent or stubborn in a pursuit of a large goal? In other words, does it make you say, "I spent all this time working towards this goal but I still, somehow, came up short. Clearly, this outcome is telling me that this - whatever this is - is not for me, and I'm moving on."
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@mission, As I said before, all your answers were extremely compelling to me. But I wanted to challenge one of your responses by asking you a question: so to you, failure is information that you use to determine whether or not to continue pursuing something. That is, depending on your level of interest in it. But what if the failure you experienced was so great that, despite your large investment in that something you failed at, you decided to try your hand at something entirely different? Does having that idea of failure make you less persistent or stubborn in a pursuit of a large goal? In other words, does it make you say, "I spent all this time working towards this goal but I still, somehow, came up short. Clearly, this outcome is telling me that this - whatever this is - is not for me, and I'm moving on."


It's an economy of will, I suppose. I've failed at many things before, and eventually gave up because I lacked the willpower to continue have many a failure, only to be drawn back to the challenge once again down the road. It's in these arenas where one returns after many losses that one will eventually win.

Some desires are simply not that strong, and I'll quit even if I haven't yet failed. One summer I decided that I've had a minor interest in coding and web design for several years, so I spent two months teaching myself and learned quite a bit. The most important thing I learned was that coding was not something I wanted to do, even if it came fairly naturally to me.

This all being said, I think my Capricorn moon keeps me dedicated.
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@xtina, you and @mission had similar responses to the manhood/womanhood question. And I have to say, I'm surprised that the both of you chose not to define it. Maybe that goes to show your rejection of the idea of a standard, and how you truly identify with the Aries motto (one even made famous by an Aries), "I am."

I especially like how you said defining it would be limiting you and the expression of your full potential. And how you choose to lead your life by your own core values, principles and beliefs instead. It sounds like you're very individualistic by nature, and that you're maybe a nonconformist (?)
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@mission, As I said before, all your answers were extremely compelling to me. But I wanted to challenge one of your responses by asking you a question: so to you, failure is information that you use to determine whether or not to continue pursuing something. That is, depending on your level of interest in it. But what if the failure you experienced was so great that, despite your large investment in that something you failed at, you decided to try your hand at something entirely different? Does having that idea of failure make you less persistent or stubborn in a pursuit of a large goal? In other words, does it make you say, "I spent all this time working towards this goal but I still, somehow, came up short. Clearly, this outcome is telling me that this - whatever this is - is not for me, and I'm moving on."


It's an economy of will, I suppose. I've failed at many things before, and eventually gave up because I lacked the willpower to continue have many a failure, only to be drawn back to the challenge once again down the road. It's in these arenas where one returns after many losses that one will eventually win.

Some desires are simply not that strong, and I'll quit even if I haven't yet failed. One summer I decided that I've had a minor interest in coding and web design for several years, so I spent two months teaching myself and learned quite a bit. The most important thing I learned was that coding was not something I wanted to do, even if it came fairly naturally to me.

This all being said, I think my Capricorn moon keeps me dedicated.
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Ahh ok...spending or not spending using that analogy...picking and choosing your battles like you said before, especially the ones worth fighting for.

Edit: just realized you mentioned having a Capricorn moon - I could see how that could,

perhaps, make you more realistic and practical about the things you go for.
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@mission, As I said before, all your answers were extremely compelling to me. But I wanted to challenge one of your responses by asking you a question: so to you, failure is information that you use to determine whether or not to continue pursuing something. That is, depending on your level of interest in it. But what if the failure you experienced was so great that, despite your large investment in that something you failed at, you decided to try your hand at something entirely different? Does having that idea of failure make you less persistent or stubborn in a pursuit of a large goal? In other words, does it make you say, "I spent all this time working towards this goal but I still, somehow, came up short. Clearly, this outcome is telling me that this - whatever this is - is not for me, and I'm moving on."


It's an economy of will, I suppose. I've failed at many things before, and eventually gave up because I lacked the willpower to continue have many a failure, only to be drawn back to the challenge once again down the road. It's in these arenas where one returns after many losses that one will eventually win.

Some desires are simply not that strong, and I'll quit even if I haven't yet failed. One summer I decided that I've had a minor interest in coding and web design for several years, so I spent two months teaching myself and learned quite a bit. The most important thing I learned was that coding was not something I wanted to do, even if it came fairly naturally to me.

This all being said, I think my Capricorn moon keeps me dedicated.
Ahh ok...spending or not spending using that analogy...picking and choosing your battles like you said before, especially the ones worth fighting for.

Edit: just realized you mentioned having a Capricorn moon - I could see how that could,

perhaps, make you more realistic and practical about the things you go for.
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Perhaps not realistic or practical in the traditional sense - all my dreams are big - but realistic in figuring out what its takes to make them a reality. My Aries nature sees a star and says "I need to be there," and then my Capricorn moon says, "..and this is everything it's going to take to build a rocket ship to get there." I've wanted to be a fine art photographer since 2007. I gave up due to failures in 2011, sold my camera, etc. Then in 2014 I decided to go to school for photography while waiting for my (now ex) to graduate so we could move away together. We graduated in 2016, and I created a lot of successful pieces that make me enough income from either selling prints in art galleries or selling rights to businesses that want to use the photographs for some commercial purpose. I make my entire income off of fine art photography now, and just this past autumn I wrote a successful proposal for an interest free business loan to be paid back in five years, and was also paid a nice grant from an art collector to help me focus my time on making my artwork. I believe this was given to me due to God's favor in my life.

I very much believe that life is what you make it. One of my favorite personal life lessons of this decade was learning that anything humanly possible is within my realm of achievement, so long as I just work for it.

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@mission, As I said before, all your answers were extremely compelling to me. But I wanted to challenge one of your responses by asking you a question: so to you, failure is information that you use to determine whether or not to continue pursuing something. That is, depending on your level of interest in it. But what if the failure you experienced was so great that, despite your large investment in that something you failed at, you decided to try your hand at something entirely different? Does having that idea of failure make you less persistent or stubborn in a pursuit of a large goal? In other words, does it make you say, "I spent all this time working towards this goal but I still, somehow, came up short. Clearly, this outcome is telling me that this - whatever this is - is not for me, and I'm moving on."


It's an economy of will, I suppose. I've failed at many things before, and eventually gave up because I lacked the willpower to continue have many a failure, only to be drawn back to the challenge once again down the road. It's in these arenas where one returns after many losses that one will eventually win.

Some desires are simply not that strong, and I'll quit even if I haven't yet failed. One summer I decided that I've had a minor interest in coding and web design for several years, so I spent two months teaching myself and learned quite a bit. The most important thing I learned was that coding was not something I wanted to do, even if it came fairly naturally to me.

This all being said, I think my Capricorn moon keeps me dedicated.
Ahh ok...spending or not spending using that analogy...picking and choosing your battles like you said before, especially the ones worth fighting for.

Edit: just realized you mentioned having a Capricorn moon - I could see how that could,

perhaps, make you more realistic and practical about the things you go for.
Perhaps not realistic or practical in the traditional sense - all my dreams are big - but realistic in figuring out what its takes to make them a reality. My Aries nature sees a star and says "I need to be there," and then my Capricorn moon says, "..and this is everything it's going to take to build a rocket ship to get there." I've wanted to be a fine art photographer since 2007. I gave up due to failures in 2011, sold my camera, etc. Then in 2014 I decided to go to school for photography while waiting for my (now ex) to graduate so we could move away together. We graduated in 2016, and I created a lot of successful pieces that make me enough income from either selling prints in art galleries or selling rights to businesses that want to use the photographs for some commercial purpose. I make my entire income off of fine art photography now, and just this past autumn I wrote a successful proposal for an interest free business loan to be paid back in five years, and was also paid a nice grant from an art collector to help me focus my time on making my artwork. I believe this was given to me due to God's favor in my life.

I very much believe that life is what you make it. One of my favorite personal life lessons of this decade was learning that anything humanly possible is within my realm of achievement, so long as I just work for it.

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Ahh, well-said. Thanks for clarifying!

I always enjoy seeing the different perspectives of other people on things like this.


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@mission, actually, I have one more question for you (last question, I swear lol.) In light of everything you've said regarding failure, success, and your reinforced faith, do you have a favorite quote in mind that captures the essence of your experiences thus far or what you've ultimately learned from them?
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@mission, actually, I have one more question for you (last question, I swear lol.) In light of everything you've said regarding failure, success, and your reinforced faith, do you have a favorite quote in mind that captures the essence of your experiences thus far or what you've ultimately learned from them?
Current favorite quote that has actually made a difference in my life:

"The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek." - Joseph Campbell
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@mission, actually, I have one more question for you (last question, I swear lol.) In light of everything you've said regarding failure, success, and your reinforced faith, do you have a favorite quote in mind that captures the essence of your experiences thus far or what you've ultimately learned from them?
Current favorite quote that has actually made a difference in my life:

"The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek." - Joseph Campbell
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Love it.
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OP, so many questions to us, reputed for our short attention span and impatience :p

JK... Will come back and edit this later! smile
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OP, so many questions to us, reputed for our short attention span and impatience :p

JK... Will come back and edit this later! smile
The one I did for Leo was a little longer lol

But no prob. Take your time, 'cause I'll check back when I get back on here
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Though I will say, I probably should have done one question at a time.



Yeah, because an "Aries" attention span is shot.

Your passive aggressiveness is interesting.

The irony of this statement alone is mind blowing.

But aside from that and the fact that it makes no sense given the context, I wouldn't call your obvious inability to answer any of the questions "interesting" per se. Rather, I'd either call it sheer, mental laziness or plain incompetence...especially seeing as how you took the time to respond to my post not once, but /twice/, and both of your responses are devoid of any real significance.

Now /that/, whoever you are, would not classify as "passive-aggressiveness" - that's what I would call the cold, unvarnished truth served to you on a silver platter. Eat it on your way out.


Rawr,

What zodiac sign are you?

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Why do you want to know?

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A few questions I'd like to ask those who fall under the fiery zodiac sign Aries. ? The purpose is to basically learn more about your self-image and the way you navigate through your life.

1. As a fire sign, especially as an Aries, how do you view failure? Does the possibility of failure and the consequences of it, to you, serve as an incentive to work hard and succeed in all your first attempts at something you deem very important? Or is failure, to you, something that doesn't quite cross your mind when you eagerly set out to do something?

Essentially, is the fear of failing to succeed at something the first time a primary motivator for an Aries, or is the invigorating possibility to succeed at something the first, second, or third time a primary motivator for an Aries (disregarding the idea of failure and the negative emotion it may elicit)?

2. If you had to choose one, what do you think makes an individual's life more difficult? Their interpretation of negative events or obstacles, difficult circumstances, or their environment. Why?

3. As an Aries man/woman, what is man/womanhood to you? How does that dictate the way you approach life and deal with others?

4. As an Aries, what would be the one word you'd say that isn't in your vocabulary?For example, would it be "dependence", "defeat", "sumbissive", "insecure", "failure"?

5. As an Aries, which of the following do you have more difficulty saying to another individual (particularly in person): "I'm sorry," or, "I love you"? Are these profound phrases that, once said, make you vulnerable and threaten your autonomy/the power you have over yourself? Or do you simply think they're more appropriate for certain individuals (ie. family members or significant others) and certain situations?


1) Yes, fear of failure does serve as an incentive(like when you are losing focus/motivation) but that's only regarding few issues and is a fleeting moment in mind.. It is, more importantly, and basically - i want to do my best, give my all with sincerity. I grew up listening to a saying which I will translate in English - "Do your work, think not of the results" .

Failure, is TBH, not in our hands.. We cannot always control the result/fate. But, what is in our hands is putting efforts, giving yourself to what you are supposed to do.


2) Health problems.

That is a layered question with a very huge scope, I'd end up writing pages if I started ....depends on which sphere of life is having problems -- spiritual, personal, financial, emotional, physical or combination or two or more.. Problems in life aren't simple, one cannot point at one reason..

3) Adulthood started getting real when I realised my parents were getting old, aging and having health problems. When I started looking after home, issues, dealing with relatives, being the comfort for parents, at the same time trying hard to balancing my studies, personal interests, my health.. Future looks uncertain, I am unable to *know* if im going on the right path ( my attitude towards everything and life, way of thinking, opinions on various crucial things, habits, my personal development, studies, career). Am I looking at the clock ticking? Apparently not.

4) All the words are there in my vocabulary. That way, life is tasty smile

5) hmm... Confused .. I do say sorry, and IDK about I love you, they're just words but they have meaning and value when there is the intention and sincerity. Personally, if I say(I will never say I love you to my future husband), sorry I mean it. If someone says sorry, i take it ad they mean it, whether they mean it or not, is their business, at least they said.

For I love you, its not the question of vulnerability, it's just that I find it silly to say those words when you are baring your soul before your husband in unspoken ways already :p ..maybe I will say when I'm being silly who knows.
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A few questions I'd like to ask those who fall under the fiery zodiac sign Aries. ? The purpose is to basically learn more about your self-image and the way you navigate through your life.

1. As a fire sign, especially as an Aries, how do you view failure? Does the possibility of failure and the consequences of it, to you, serve as an incentive to work hard and succeed in all your first attempts at something you deem very important? Or is failure, to you, something that doesn't quite cross your mind when you eagerly set out to do something?

Essentially, is the fear of failing to succeed at something the first time a primary motivator for an Aries, or is the invigorating possibility to succeed at something the first, second, or third time a primary motivator for an Aries (disregarding the idea of failure and the negative emotion it may elicit)?

2. If you had to choose one, what do you think makes an individual's life more difficult? Their interpretation of negative events or obstacles, difficult circumstances, or their environment. Why?

3. As an Aries man/woman, what is man/womanhood to you? How does that dictate the way you approach life and deal with others?

4. As an Aries, what would be the one word you'd say that isn't in your vocabulary?For example, would it be "dependence", "defeat", "sumbissive", "insecure", "failure"?

5. As an Aries, which of the following do you have more difficulty saying to another individual (particularly in person): "I'm sorry," or, "I love you"? Are these profound phrases that, once said, make you vulnerable and threaten your autonomy/the power you have over yourself? Or do you simply think they're more appropriate for certain individuals (ie. family members or significant others) and certain situations?


1) Yes, fear of failure does serve as an incentive(like when you are losing focus/motivation) but that's only regarding few issues and is a fleeting moment in mind.. It is, more importantly, and basically - i want to do my best, give my all with sincerity. I grew up listening to a saying which I will translate in English - "Do your work, think not of the results" .

Failure, is TBH, not in our hands.. We cannot always control the result/fate. But, what is in our hands is putting efforts, giving yourself to what you are supposed to do.


2) Health problems.

That is a layered question with a very huge scope, I'd end up writing pages if I started ....depends on which sphere of life is having problems -- spiritual, personal, financial, emotional, physical or combination or two or more.. Problems in life aren't simple, one cannot point at one reason.

3) Adulthood started getting real when I realised my parents were getting old, aging and having health problems. When I started looking after home, issues, dealing with relatives, being the comfort for parents, at the same time trying hard to balancing my studies, personal interests, my health.. Future looks uncertain, I am unable to *know* if im going on the right path ( my attitude towards everything and life, way of thinking, opinions on various crucial things, habits, my personal development, studies, career). Am I looking at the clock ticking? Apparently not.

4) All the words are there in my vocabulary. That way, life is tasty smile

5) hmm... Confused .. I do say sorry, and IDK about I love you, they're just words but they have meaning and value when there is the intention and sincerity. Personally, if I say(I will never say I love you to my future husband), sorry I mean it. If someone says sorry, i take it ad they mean it, whether they mean it or not, is their business, at least they said.

For I love you, its not the question of vulnerability, it's just that I find it silly to say those words when you are baring your soul before your husband in unspoken ways already :p ..maybe I will say when I'm being silly who knows.
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Hey Rumi. I wanted to let you know that I did read your responses, and that I thoroughly enjoyed going through all of them.

Your honesty, especially in questions 2 and 4, is quite refreshing... You give me the impression that your fair share of difficulties in life haven't made you a hard, hateful, or bitter person. Instead, you've somehow been able to learn how to fully embrace the good things that happen in life along with the bad, ultimately becoming more responsible, but all the while keeping your spirit, or sweetness, in tact. I think that goes to show the fairly balanced outlook on life that you've been able to develop, and not many people have. So hats off to you. Furthermore, I think that there's a hopefulness to the way you write. And that hopefulness is probably how you rebound from setbacks, recover from difficulties, and ultimately move forward in life.

It essentially sounds as if there's a quiet strength to you, and a resilience. And, if I may say so myself, those are very admirable qualities to have.

Thank you for taking the time to respond, and I sincerely apologize for getting back to you so late. ?
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Posted by themagnetoreborn
A few questions I'd like to ask those who fall under the fiery zodiac sign Aries. ? The purpose is to basically learn more about your self-image and the way you navigate through your life.

1. As a fire sign, especially as an Aries, how do you view failure? Does the possibility of failure and the consequences of it, to you, serve as an incentive to work hard and succeed in all your first attempts at something you deem very important? Or is failure, to you, something that doesn't quite cross your mind when you eagerly set out to do something?

Essentially, is the fear of failing to succeed at something the first time a primary motivator for an Aries, or is the invigorating possibility to succeed at something the first, second, or third time a primary motivator for an Aries (disregarding the idea of failure and the negative emotion it may elicit)?

2. If you had to choose one, what do you think makes an individual's life more difficult? Their interpretation of negative events or obstacles, difficult circumstances, or their environment. Why?

3. As an Aries man/woman, what is man/womanhood to you? How does that dictate the way you approach life and deal with others?

4. As an Aries, what would be the one word you'd say that isn't in your vocabulary?For example, would it be "dependence", "defeat", "sumbissive", "insecure", "failure"?

5. As an Aries, which of the following do you have more difficulty saying to another individual (particularly in person): "I'm sorry," or, "I love you"? Are these profound phrases that, once said, make you vulnerable and threaten your autonomy/the power you have over yourself? Or do you simply think they're more appropriate for certain individuals (ie. family members or significant others) and certain situations?
1.Hmm usually we expect failure before success we like digging into the functions of what does and doesn't work. So not succeeding can be good for us as we like the challenge. However on the flip side sometimes after a lot of effort we can get frustrated. When that happens its best at least for me to take a step back and return later with a clearer head. So failure is not a problem really. It just drives us to succeed more.

2.Negative events, I find we can be hyper-focused on those and become bitter very easily as people in general. Since I have put more faith in the universe that it will provide me with what I need and what I ask for. it has given me that ten fold. The level of confidence I have now is just insane. So while we cannot control others. We do have freedom of choice to decide in our minds what to do, what to think about. We can think about how we don't have enough money to pay our bills. Or we can think about how we will have money soon to pay our bills. So it is really a matter of personal perspective.

3. Manhood is when you can walk away from a situation knowing it isn't right for you, and wait for that person that is right for you to build a family that you're proud of. To have the patience and the calmness to handle any situation without losing your temper too easy.

4.None of those. I am trying to think of a word. I guess I agree with the other poster. I can usually forgive someone for something even years later. As long as they are willing to admit to it.

5. I love you is more difficult to say because it is more difficult to find then situations where Sorry is a typical response. It is more likely that a person will mess up then it is they will find love. However I also agree with that other poster. These things should only be said if you really mean them. I know when I was younger and very insecure I would say sorry for things. I should have never said sorry for, because the person in general was making me feel guilty for things I should not have felt guilty for. In anycase, sorry should only be said if you plan to not do something again. If you think that you may repeat the same thing in the future than sorry is not a word that should be used. We all I think do that from time to time though, but it is a mindset I personally focus on.

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Magnetoreborn --- omg *blush* .. thankyou so much for the kind, encouraging words! smile

Happy holidays to you and your near and dear ones, Magneto! smile
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1. I don't like failure since I see it as a reflection of myself, and when I start out to do something I don't really consider it. But in the back of my mind I know it could happen, and if it does it is something I can't be too hard on myself with. Because dealing with failure is also a part of life. Also it depends on what I am going after and how interested in it I am. I have had some tough relationships in the last couple of years that have left some marks. But I continue to date even if those marks are more apparent than they were before and even if I might not find that special person. Because I think it is important to date while I'm young and meet a lot of people , mostly because I don't want to have regrets later in life.

2. Definitely someone's interpretation of events, somethings that life throws at you are difficult. But to me it can all be dealt with, with the correct attitude.

3. Womanhood is important to me especially since I don't come off as the most girly all the time (doubly ruled by Mars) So I always am seeking to improve my womanhood and I admire women who are naturally very feminine.

4. Defeat for me, No matter how many time I fall down I will get back up. It may take me longer sometimes in different scenarios. But I will always try again even if something is difficult or painful.

5. I have a problem with neither, It's more that some people don't think I am being sincere when I say sorry. But I definitely always am because I wouldn't say it at all if I didn't mean it. No one is perfect do apologizing in my opinion, to someone is a form of respect and is a necessary part of life.
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Magnetoreborn --- omg *blush* .. thankyou so much for the kind, encouraging words! smile

Happy holidays to you and your near and dear ones, Magneto! smile
Happy holidays/Merry Christmas to you and your family too!

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Posted by sakuraflowers
1. As a fire sign, especially as an Aries, how do you view failure?

For me, it's better to understand why it didn't go as planned, than to just dwell on the thought of failure. It's also the opposite of persistence and sometimes the only missing requirement to reach an end goal is time.

2. If you had to choose one, what do you think makes an individual's life more difficult? Their interpretation of negative events or obstacles, difficult circumstances, or their environment.

Interpretation

If there's one person who I am into competition with, it is with myself and my limitations.

3. As an Aries man/woman, what is man/womanhood to you?

I think manhood or womanhood is a reflection of social expectations upon gender, and not necessarily a reflection of the individual.

4. As an Aries, what would be the one word you'd say that isn't in your vocabulary?

Failure

Growth is a process that's made up of millions of small stepping stones of where things don't happen the way you want them to.

5. As an Aries, which of the following do you have more difficulty saying to another individual (particularly in person): "I'm sorry," or, "I love you"?

"I love you"
So you're saying that, to you, the opposite of failure is mostly the action of persistence. And depending on the amount of time you have pursuing a goal, you may or may not experience success. But that's fine because failure forces you to perhaps take up something sooner after learning and growing from previous mistakes. Does that sound right?

Also, if failure isn't in your vocabulary, is it more difficult for you to take full responsibility for something that falls apart completely? Something like a project at work, led by you, that you directly had a hand in?
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Oh. To the onlookers/lurkers: I'm closing this board right after I get to Smidge, spur, FieryAries9108, and Ram416's responses. I must tend to the Q and A board I started on the Libra forum.
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Please note : I am very different now compared to, say, 10-20 years ago.

1. As a fire sign, especially as an Aries, how do you view failure?

I view failure as a stepping stone, my progress towards success. Without failure I would never understand the mechanics of what it takes 'to get there'. My thought process is, I think of an idea or task, I think of what it would take to make it work, I attempt it. If I fail, of course I am disappointed (mostly with myself), but I start thinking of different ways to attempt it again. And then I try again.

2. If you had to choose one, what do you think makes an individual's life more difficult? Their interpretation of negative events or obstacles, difficult circumstances, or their environment.

It's a mix of interpretation of negative events and difficult circumstances. I think how you perceive a negative event or obstacle affects how you deal with difficult circumstances. And vice versa.

3. As an Aries man/woman, what is man/womanhood to you?

I'm gender neutral so I'm not sure how to answer this lol.

4. As an Aries, what would be the one word you'd say that isn't in your vocabulary?

Defeat and dependence.

5. As an Aries, which of the following do you have more difficulty saying to another individual (particularly in person): "I'm sorry," or, "I love you"?

"I love you". I think they're only appropriate for certain individuals. In my case, I grew up in an environment/culture where professions of love were deemed unnecessary, even amongst family members.
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