Feelings/emotions --> impact on everything
This topic was created in the Aries forum by Aries04 on Thursday, March 6, 2014 and has 47 replies.
Being an Aries impulsiveness and emotion are the strongest motivational factors for everyday life. When everything is fine with my s/o - life is beautiful and I feel empowered to do anything. When we fight however, I don't feel like doing anything but crawl into bed and be by myself all day. This can lead me to sabotaging my own life sometimes, which leads me to feeling unhappy and consequently mad and annoyed. This again annoys my partner and a vicious circle is created..
Can anyone relate? Any recommendations on literature, tips&tricks how to stay centered?
Can anyone relate? Any recommendations on literature, tips&tricks how to stay centered?
Three questions:
1) What is your s/o sign?
2) Does this happen often?
3) Is this a pattern in your relationship?
1) What is your s/o sign?
2) Does this happen often?
3) Is this a pattern in your relationship?
He's a Capricorn, but the problem is not him. It's me.. since the answer to your third question reads: it's a pattern in my life no matter whom I'm with. People I'm romantically involved with just have such an impact on me (Venus in Pisces), that I can't seem to be happy long as my relationship isn't going great.
Posted by Aries04
Being an Aries impulsiveness and emotion are the strongest motivational factors for everyday life. When everything is fine with my s/o - life is beautiful and I feel empowered to do anything. When we fight however, I don't feel like doing anything but crawl into bed and be by myself all day. This can lead me to sabotaging my own life sometimes, which leads me to feeling unhappy and consequently mad and annoyed. This again annoys my partner and a vicious circle is created..
Can anyone relate? Any recommendations on literature, tips&tricks how to stay centered?
Omg this is soooo like me. My fucking emotions control everything and when my relationship takes a nosedive it affects everything else in my life. Out comes my self destruct button. It's really draining, and yes I completely agree that it creates a vicious circle. But for your own sanity you have to break the cycle; get off the damn roundabout.
I don't know about literature but talking with friends helps - guys as well as girls, in order to get an interpretation from someone that's not close to the situation. And definitely don't pounce on anything with a response you might easily regret. Walk away, breathe, then come back with a more measured response lol
Same thing always happens to me if I'm truly disappointed for any reason.
Only thing to really shake that drain is to find a new challenge.
Not a new relationship just a new goal or cause and get after it. It doesn't completely help but at least you can focus on something positive which will stimulate our attention and use all that energy that otherwise would be used analyzing everything you've ever done while you whine to everyone else who will listen.
Whining and laying on the couch all day feeling sorry for your self is fun too because even then we focus on ourselves and and what makes us special. Just can't stay like that too long. Too much still to claim and accomplish. Stay Up! Aries Zodiak Don
Only thing to really shake that drain is to find a new challenge.
Not a new relationship just a new goal or cause and get after it. It doesn't completely help but at least you can focus on something positive which will stimulate our attention and use all that energy that otherwise would be used analyzing everything you've ever done while you whine to everyone else who will listen.
Whining and laying on the couch all day feeling sorry for your self is fun too because even then we focus on ourselves and and what makes us special. Just can't stay like that too long. Too much still to claim and accomplish. Stay Up! Aries Zodiak Don
I've been through this and IME the more I thought about it the more I realized I was suppressing my emotions because I would think "I shouldn't be acting like this" or I shouldn't feel this way." For the longest time I was always emotional until I learned how to deal with it and this is what I did:
The first step to dealing with your emotions is accepting them for what they are. This helps if you are completely honest with yourself and the more brutally honest you are the easier it is to get to the root of your emotions. No matter how weak or "stupid" your honesty or emotions might sound you have to be open to them.
If you find it difficult being honest with yourself the best way to find the truth is by exploring ALL possible reason you feel the way you do.
The first step to dealing with your emotions is accepting them for what they are. This helps if you are completely honest with yourself and the more brutally honest you are the easier it is to get to the root of your emotions. No matter how weak or "stupid" your honesty or emotions might sound you have to be open to them.
If you find it difficult being honest with yourself the best way to find the truth is by exploring ALL possible reason you feel the way you do.
Lastly, you must confront the truth and be realistic about it! Meaning see it for what it is neither good or bad it just is what it is because at the end of the day we are all human and all susceptible to these emotions. Some are just better at handling it then others. The more you practice this the easier it is to understand yourself and define what you will and won't accept and it will be easier to not put yourself in situations that make you feel that way. Most importantly it helps you build mental strength and know yourself a little bit better.
At least that has what's help me cope with and understand my emotions. And honestly most of the time these emotions stem from insecurities. But it's ok! Because everyone has them but the more knowledgeable you are about yourself the easier it is to cope with situations that are not always ideal.
Good luck!
Good luck!
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^^^^Yeahhhh!!!
Whiskey will do too
Ever tried bulleit rye? Personally I like it better than jack only because Jack is a little too sweet for me
Whiskey will do too
Ever tried bulleit rye? Personally I like it better than jack only because Jack is a little too sweet for me
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Haha, I don't drink all that much, let alone whiskey.
Give me sweet wines any day.
Give me sweet wines any day.
Posted by JustBlaze
Same thing always happens to me if I'm truly disappointed for any reason.
Only thing to really shake that drain is to find a new challenge.
Not a new relationship just a new goal or cause and get after it. It doesn't completely help but at least you can focus on something positive which will stimulate our attention and use all that energy that otherwise would be used analyzing everything you've ever done while you whine to everyone else who will listen.
Whining and laying on the couch all day feeling sorry for your self is fun too because even then we focus on ourselves and and what makes us special. Just can't stay like that too long. Too much still to claim and accomplish. Stay Up! Aries Zodiak Don
Yup, but there are 2 problems in this: first, I tend to get disappointed more often than any "regular" person, because I tend do expect too much from people or situations and second, the distraction part is easier said than done to me.. You describe an internal motivation for finding a new challenge and I don't seem to be able to overcome my sadness in an effective manner. By talking to others I can get externally motivated to get my mind off of the matter for a short while, but that's about it.
It gets really bad when I have to work or do college related stuff - I don't get anything done it's crazy and frustrating. I always admired men in the way how they can put personal bs aside and completely focus on work. I don't want to be the person, who can only function when she's happy, because romantic life won't be peaches and cream all the time.
@ xtina
Great and wise advice, thanks a lot! You're right, fully understanding yourself is the root to happiness sometimes we just have to accept our feelings and emotions (especially as women) and don't feel ashamed for feeling how we feel, just understanding is sometimes enough.. I will work on that!
Great and wise advice, thanks a lot! You're right, fully understanding yourself is the root to happiness
sometimes we just have to accept our feelings and emotions (especially as women) and don't feel ashamed for feeling how we feel, just understanding is sometimes enough.. I will work on that!And LOOOOL @rockyroadicecream
That shit only makes it worse! Drunk texting your whole heart out, crying n shit.. Nice one though *champagne for the pain*
That shit only makes it worse! Drunk texting your whole heart out, crying n shit.. Nice one though
*champagne for the pain*
.I used to go through this also but and still do to some degree. With my venus and mars in Aries I love to like someone and when things don't go the way I want it, it sucks the energy out of me. I have learned to minimize it at least long enough to be productive and then when I have some down time, my gem sun and Virgo rising analyzes it. Lol! The reality is, you have to find your own inner happiness....everything else is only a bandaide.
Posted by Aries04Posted by JustBlaze
Same thing always happens to me if I'm truly disappointed for any reason.
Only thing to really shake that drain is to find a new challenge.
Not a new relationship just a new goal or cause and get after it. It doesn't completely help but at least you can focus on something positive which will stimulate our attention and use all that energy that otherwise would be used analyzing everything you've ever done while you whine to everyone else who will listen.
Whining and laying on the couch all day feeling sorry for your self is fun too because even then we focus on ourselves and and what makes us special. Just can't stay like that too long. Too much still to claim and accomplish. Stay Up! Aries Zodiak Don
Yup, but there are 2 problems in this: first, I tend to get disappointed more often than any "regular" person, because I tend do expect too much from people or situations and second, the distraction part is easier said than done to me.. You describe an internal motivation for finding a new challenge and I don't seem to be able to overcome my sadness in an effective manner. By talking to others I can get externally motivated to get my mind off of the matter for a short while, but that's about it.
It gets really bad when I have to work or do college related stuff - I don't get anything done it's crazy and frustrating. I always admired men in the way how they can put personal bs aside and completely focus on work. I don't want to be the person, who can only function when she's happy, because romantic life won't be peaches and cream all the time.click to expand
That is sooooo me too! Drives me nuts, you feel like doing nothing and just being depressed. I have noticed though once you let it go (its dead to me) I never go back. Its just hard for an Aries to let go on things sometimes.
Posted by Onephatkittykatt
.I used to go through this also but and still do to some degree. With my venus and mars in Aries I love to like someone and when things don't go the way I want it, it sucks the energy out of me. I have learned to minimize it at least long enough to be productive and then when I have some down time, my gem sun and Virgo rising analyzes it. Lol! The reality is, you have to find your own inner happiness....everything else is only a bandaide.
I can feel some of your pain too!
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Aries 12.27 Ascendant Capricorn 1.48
Moon Virgo 17.28 II Aquarius 15.30
Mercury Aries 28.41 III Aries 0.13
Venus Aries 18.49 R IV Taurus 2.22
Mars Pisces 10.20 V Taurus 25.11
Jupiter Taurus 29.44 VI Gemini 13.49
Saturn Leo 10.01 R VII Cancer 1.48
Uranus Scorpio 10.52 R VIII Leo 15.30
Neptune Sagittarius 16.05 R IX Libra 0.13
Pluto Libra 12.51 R Midheaven Scorpio 2.22
Lilith Taurus 27.41 XI Scorpio 25.11
Asc node Libra 24.19 XII Sagittarius 13.49
@ EmotionalAries:
I hate that it has to be black or white though.. I'm the same way too, once I moved on I can never go back. So either I'm madly in love and suffering when things go bad or I start to not care at all after a (what other might consider short) while.. I wished my feelings were not either all the way on or completely off, I would like to reach stability and balance within how I feel about life. It's either all grey or it's super bright ugh
I'm way past blaming others for my well-being, but our notorious "childlike behavior" comes to attack me every now and then. It's like two people are battling inside me - the young and the grown me. It takes soooo much energy to control myself, it's crazy.
I hate that it has to be black or white though.. I'm the same way too, once I moved on I can never go back. So either I'm madly in love and suffering when things go bad or I start to not care at all after a (what other might consider short) while.. I wished my feelings were not either all the way on or completely off, I would like to reach stability and balance within how I feel about life. It's either all grey or it's super bright ugh
I'm way past blaming others for my well-being, but our notorious "childlike behavior" comes to attack me every now and then. It's like two people are battling inside me - the young and the grown me. It takes soooo much energy to control myself, it's crazy.
You know I've never had that problem with fighting the child-like behavior in me. I've always embraced that part of me! Nothing wrong with holding on to that child within! I feel that is what keeps the spark in my relationships alive because I'm always that curious child trying to explore with my men... because you know how child-like they can be too! And instead of being that mature woman thats always their mother if you let that child side out at least once in a while you become their spicy lover again! 
Of course there needs to be a balance. There are times when its appropriate and inappropriate. You don't know how many times I see men trying to have fun with their women and their woman reprimand them. Mood killer much? I feel like thats the kiss of motherly death sometimes.
Everything is a balance lol... thats my Libra moon talking
Everything is a balance lol... thats my Libra moon talking
Posted by xtina
You know I've never had that problem with fighting the child-like behavior in me. I've always embraced that part of me! Nothing wrong with holding on to that child within! I feel that is what keeps the spark in my relationships alive because I'm always that curious child trying to explore with my men... because you know how child-like they can be too! And instead of being that mature woman thats always their mother if you let that child side out at least once in a while you become their spicy lover again!
Lol that's definitely true with the RIGHT men though. I've had experience with a Taurus and a Capricorn men being completely thrown off by this behavior, which made me feel stupid. You're so right however, it's best to accept, embrace and work with it, as it's a true part of us. Long as we learn to turn this behavior into spiciness instead of malicious tantrums we're good
You're so positive and radiate integrity, Xtina a true inspiration.
a true inspiration.Thank you Aries04! I appreciate you compliment .
Still a work in progress but I definitely started out with what I already mentioned above to you.
I wish you the best of luck
. Still a work in progress but I definitely started out with what I already mentioned above to you.
I wish you the best of luck
Posted by Aries04
@ EmotionalAries:
I hate that it has to be black or white though.. I'm the same way too, once I moved on I can never go back. So either I'm madly in love and suffering when things go bad or I start to not care at all after a (what other might consider short) while.. I wished my feelings were not either all the way on or completely off, I would like to reach stability and balance within how I feel about life. It's either all grey or it's super bright ugh
I'm way past blaming others for my well-being, but our notorious "childlike behavior" comes to attack me every now and then. It's like two people are battling inside me - the young and the grown me. It takes soooo much energy to control myself, it's crazy.
It is hard, always fighting your inner self. Very few signs understand an Aries, they look at us as (Control freaks, my way or the highway, Power and leading the world) but it seems they never take the time to get to know the inner Aries (playful, exciting, adventurer, loving, innocent) us. I think its cause whats on the outside, makes them fear us.
Some day I hope that when things are not going well, I can keep moving and not let it affect my emotions so much. I am working on it. It's really hard to tell your emotions to "grow up" when the rest of you is full grown......
Posted by Aries04Posted by xtina
You know I've never had that problem with fighting the child-like behavior in me. I've always embraced that part of me! Nothing wrong with holding on to that child within! I feel that is what keeps the spark in my relationships alive because I'm always that curious child trying to explore with my men... because you know how child-like they can be too! And instead of being that mature woman thats always their mother if you let that child side out at least once in a while you become their spicy lover again!
Lol that's definitely true with the RIGHT men though. I've had experience with a Taurus and a Capricorn men being completely thrown off by this behavior, which made me feel stupid. You're so right however, it's best to accept, embrace and work with it, as it's a true part of us. Long as we learn to turn this behavior into spiciness instead of malicious tantrums we're goodclick to expand
I've dated a lot of earth in my day... Virgo rising... and when I say a lot i mean two and when I say day I mean recently LOL.
Honestly, the way to get over that is seriously not to give a shit when they react like you're all weird. Cause you're not! They're just boring! LOL. Yeah, don't ever let a man make you feel bad or stupid about being yourself
@emotionalaries... I completely agree about the whole misunderstood thing. People don't take the time to get to know us Aries and sometimes they think what they see is what they get. But the sooner I let go of that bs of people not understanding (and for the better) the sooner I was able to be my fully beautiful and unapologetic self.
Yes, we are bossy, brash, and controlling. But we are also very compassionate and deep feeling creatures with big hearts
Yes, we are bossy, brash, and controlling. But we are also very compassionate and deep feeling creatures with big hearts
It seems like aries women have it tough in love. I find with me lately men just run when they get really close or do some really stupid shit and ruin the budding relationship. I'm am working on being an sweet evolved little ram but romantic relationships is the current hurtle.
EmocionalAries your planets are so diverse! I'm still learning what they mean but sag in nep is all we have in common!
Sun Aries
Moon Libra
Mercury Pisces
Venus Pisces
Mars Aries
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Libra
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Lilith Scorpio
but romantic relationships is the current hurtle. EmocionalAries your planets are so diverse! I'm still learning what they mean but sag in nep is all we have in common!
Sun Aries
Moon Libra
Mercury Pisces
Venus Pisces
Mars Aries
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Libra
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Lilith Scorpio
Posted by lcrc
It seems like aries women have it tough in love. I find with me lately men just run when they get really close or do some really stupid shit and ruin the budding relationship. I'm am working on being an sweet evolved little ram
EmocionalAries your planets are so diverse! I'm still learning what they mean but sag in nep is all we have in common!
Sun Aries
Moon Libra
Mercury Pisces
Venus Pisces
Mars Aries
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Libra
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Lilith Scorpio
I wish I knew more of what it means.....
I think we are looked at as selfish and complicated, when in reality we are very loving (to those in the inner circle) and very simple.
Posted by EmotionalAriesPosted by lcrc
It seems like aries women have it tough in love. I find with me lately men just run when they get really close or do some really stupid shit and ruin the budding relationship. I'm am working on being an sweet evolved little ram
EmocionalAries your planets are so diverse! I'm still learning what they mean but sag in nep is all we have in common!
Sun Aries
Moon Libra
Mercury Pisces
Venus Pisces
Mars Aries
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Libra
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Lilith Scorpio
I wish I knew more of what it means.....
I think we are looked at as selfish and complicated, when in reality we are very loving (to those in the inner circle) and very simple.click to expand
I wish I knew more of what it means.....
I think we are looked at as selfish and complicated, when in reality we are very loving (to those in the inner circle) and very simple.
still trying to figure it out and my 33rd birthday is this Friday! You??d think I would have a clue by now
Can only speak for myself but you might be similar, I've come to the conclusion I can??t do casual. Attachment happens quickly and I can??t date or relate to insensitive men. At all. There is no point and it would be a waste of time. So it??s important to control sex drive and emotions to weather the wait until you meet a good partner. That??s my weakness, I get a bit overheated and passionate and meet someone and then get attached hahaha. It??s all that Aries fire I guess! I'm now just working on improving my emotions, soul, and body. I play sports, started lifting weights and am pampering myself (nice hair style , get manicures and pedicures, revamp wardrobe, going on exotic holiday next week). Aries is a bit of a vain sign and rejection and heartbreak can hit the self-esteem hard.
JustBlaze said it well??_ a new challenge helps a lot. It??s the same with troubles at work, with difficult friends and family. Aries can get very overwhelmed and :??( thrash about and make a drama.
I don??t know maybe other signs particularly the guys have good dating advice for headstrong aries girls?
Posted by lcrcPosted by EmotionalAriesPosted by lcrc
It seems like aries women have it tough in love. I find with me lately men just run when they get really close or do some really stupid shit and ruin the budding relationship. I'm am working on being an sweet evolved little ram
EmocionalAries your planets are so diverse! I'm still learning what they mean but sag in nep is all we have in common!
Sun Aries
Moon Libra
Mercury Pisces
Venus Pisces
Mars Aries
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Libra
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Lilith Scorpio
I wish I knew more of what it means.....
I think we are looked at as selfish and complicated, when in reality we are very loving (to those in the inner circle) and very simple.
I wish I knew more of what it means.....
I think we are looked at as selfish and complicated, when in reality we are very loving (to those in the inner circle) and very simple.click to expand
still trying to figure it out and my 33rd birthday is this Friday! You??d think I would have a clue by now
Can only speak for myself but you might be similar, I've come to the conclusion I can??t do casual. Attachment happens quickly and I can??t date or relate to insensitive men. At all. There is no point and it would be a waste of time. So it??s important to control sex drive and emotions to weather the wait until you meet a good partner. That??s my weakness, I get a bit overheated and passionate and meet someone and then get attached hahaha. It??s all that Aries fire I guess! I'm now just working on improving my emotions, soul, and body. I play sports, started lifting weights and am pampering myself (nice hair style , get manicures and pedicures, revamp wardrobe, going on exotic holiday next week). Aries is a bit of a vain sign and rejection and heartbreak can hit the self-esteem hard.
JustBlaze said it well??_ a new challenge helps a lot. It??s the same with troubles at work, with difficult friends and family. Aries can get very overwhelmed and :??( thrash about and make a drama.
I don??t know maybe other signs particularly the guys have good dating advice for headstrong aries girls?
W
Posted by lcrcPosted by EmotionalAriesPosted by lcrc
It seems like aries women have it tough in love. I find with me lately men just run when they get really close or do some really stupid shit and ruin the budding relationship. I'm am working on being an sweet evolved little ram
EmocionalAries your planets are so diverse! I'm still learning what they mean but sag in nep is all we have in common!
Sun Aries
Moon Libra
Mercury Pisces
Venus Pisces
Mars Aries
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Libra
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Lilith Scorpio
I wish I knew more of what it means.....
I think we are looked at as selfish and complicated, when in reality we are very loving (to those in the inner circle) and very simple.
I wish I knew more of what it means.....
I think we are looked at as selfish and complicated, when in reality we are very loving (to those in the inner circle) and very simple.click to expand
still trying to figure it out and my 33rd birthday is this Friday! You??d think I would have a clue by now
Can only speak for myself but you might be similar, I've come to the conclusion I can??t do casual. Attachment happens quickly and I can??t date or relate to insensitive men. At all. There is no point and it would be a waste of time. So it??s important to control sex drive and emotions to weather the wait until you meet a good partner. That??s my weakness, I get a bit overheated and passionate and meet someone and then get attached hahaha. It??s all that Aries fire I guess! I'm now just working on improving my emotions, soul, and body. I play sports, started lifting weights and am pampering myself (nice hair style , get manicures and pedicures, revamp wardrobe, going on exotic holiday next week). Aries is a bit of a vain sign and rejection and heartbreak can hit the self-esteem hard.
JustBlaze said it well??_ a new challenge helps a lot. It??s the same with troubles at work, with difficult friends and family. Aries can get very overwhelmed and :??( thrash about and make a drama.
I don??t know maybe other signs particularly the guys have good dating advice for headstrong aries girls?
W
Posted by lcrcPosted by EmotionalAriesPosted by lcrc
It seems like aries women have it tough in love. I find with me lately men just run when they get really close or do some really stupid shit and ruin the budding relationship. I'm am working on being an sweet evolved little ram
EmocionalAries your planets are so diverse! I'm still learning what they mean but sag in nep is all we have in common!
Sun Aries
Moon Libra
Mercury Pisces
Venus Pisces
Mars Aries
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Libra
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Lilith Scorpio
I wish I knew more of what it means.....
I think we are looked at as selfish and complicated, when in reality we are very loving (to those in the inner circle) and very simple.
I wish I knew more of what it means.....
I think we are looked at as selfish and complicated, when in reality we are very loving (to those in the inner circle) and very simple.click to expand
still trying to figure it out and my 33rd birthday is this Friday! You??d think I would have a clue by now
Can only speak for myself but you might be similar, I've come to the conclusion I can??t do casual. Attachment happens quickly and I can??t date or relate to insensitive men. At all. There is no point and it would be a waste of time. So it??s important to control sex drive and emotions to weather the wait until you meet a good partner. That??s my weakness, I get a bit overheated and passionate and meet someone and then get attached hahaha. It??s all that Aries fire I guess! I'm now just working on improving my emotions, soul, and body. I play sports, started lifting weights and am pampering myself (nice hair style , get manicures and pedicures, revamp wardrobe, going on exotic holiday next week). Aries is a bit of a vain sign and rejection and heartbreak can hit the self-esteem hard.
JustBlaze said it well??_ a new challenge helps a lot. It??s the same with troubles at work, with difficult friends and family. Aries can get very overwhelmed and :??( thrash about and make a drama.
I don??t know maybe other signs particularly the guys have good dating advice for headstrong aries girls?
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Posted by lcrcPosted by EmotionalAriesPosted by lcrc
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still trying to figure it out and my 33rd birthday is this Friday! You??d think I would have a clue by now
Can only speak for myself but you might be similar, I've come to the conclusion I can??t do casual. Attachment happens quickly and I can??t date or relate to insensitive men. At all. There is no point and it would be a waste of time. So it??s important to control sex drive and emotions to weather the wait until you meet a good partner. That??s my weakness, I get a bit overheated and passionate and meet someone and then get attached hahaha. It??s all that Aries fire I guess! I'm now just working on improving my emotions, soul, and body. I play sports, started lifting weights and am pampering myself (nice hair style , get manicures and pedicures, revamp wardrobe, going on exotic holiday next week). Aries is a bit of a vain sign and rejection and heartbreak can hit the self-esteem hard.
JustBlaze said it well??_ a new challenge helps a lot. It??s the same with troubles at work, with difficult friends and family. Aries can get very overwhelmed and :??( thrash about and make a drama.
I don??t know maybe other signs particularly the guys have good dating advice for headstrong aries girls?
Hey we have the same Sun/Moon!
We Aries we like challenges and being winners. We are very competitive. Use that to your advantage. Look at dating as a game. The winner gets a lot in the end. What is the game you say? Well at least in dating it is he who cares the least gets to drive the train... and the more of a roller coaster you put them through the more fun they will have
I'm not saying to play mind games or to lead people on. No.
I'm saying be yourself but unpredictable.
How do you play unpredictable and still be yourself you might ask? It goes back to being not readily available because you got your own damn life to live. You love yourself too much to settle for less so that is why you have to make sure that the man you are dating will fight for you. If he doesn't... move on. Simple as that.
You let him fight for you by not always being there. Let him wonder of how you feel for him. Let him guess. Becauseclick to expand
Fuck damn this thing to hell
LOL
Heres what I put:
Hey we have the same Sun/Moon!
We Aries we like challenges and being winners. We are very competitive. Use that to your advantage. Look at dating as a game. The winner gets a lot in the end. What is the game you say? Well at least in dating it is he who cares the least gets to drive the train... and the more of a roller coaster you put them through the more fun they will have
I'm not saying to play mind games or to lead people on. No.
I'm saying be yourself but unpredictable.
How do you play unpredictable and still be yourself you might ask? It goes back to being not readily available because you got your own damn life to live. You love yourself too much to settle for less so that is why you have to make sure that the man you are dating will fight for you. If he doesn't... move on. Simple as that.
You let him fight for you by not always being there. Let him wonder of how you feel for him. Let him guess. Because you're life is too full and fulfilled to have him so if he wants to stay he's got to work for it
That's how I do it at least. And when you get to where I'm at man...it's like shooting fish in a barrel
LOL
Heres what I put:
Hey we have the same Sun/Moon!
We Aries we like challenges and being winners. We are very competitive. Use that to your advantage. Look at dating as a game. The winner gets a lot in the end. What is the game you say? Well at least in dating it is he who cares the least gets to drive the train... and the more of a roller coaster you put them through the more fun they will have
I'm not saying to play mind games or to lead people on. No.
I'm saying be yourself but unpredictable.
How do you play unpredictable and still be yourself you might ask? It goes back to being not readily available because you got your own damn life to live. You love yourself too much to settle for less so that is why you have to make sure that the man you are dating will fight for you. If he doesn't... move on. Simple as that.
You let him fight for you by not always being there. Let him wonder of how you feel for him. Let him guess. Because you're life is too full and fulfilled to have him so if he wants to stay he's got to work for it
That's how I do it at least. And when you get to where I'm at man...it's like shooting fish in a barrel
BTW that was my advice to ICRC in response to her asking "advice for headstrong aries girl"
Big picture: Love yourself and everything else WILL follow suit.
It works for me at least
It works for me at least
Posted by lcrc
Sun Aries
Moon Libra
Mercury Pisces
Venus Pisces
Mars Aries
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Libra
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Lilith Scorpio
You have the exact same birth chart as my fiance! Wow, lol, and he is an emotional rollercoaster.
And if you can that nice balance of strong woman who doesn't need you to girly girl who needs a strong man... you'll get em . You got it in you Libra Moon (charming womanly wiles)/ Aries sun (strong brash independent woman)
Read Why Men Love Bitches... by an Aries woman
. You got it in you Libra Moon (charming womanly wiles)/ Aries sun (strong brash independent woman) Read Why Men Love Bitches... by an Aries woman
Posted by JezeJasPosted by lcrc
Sun Aries
Moon Libra
Mercury Pisces
Venus Pisces
Mars Aries
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Libra
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Lilith Scorpio
You have the exact same birth chart as my fiance! Wow, lol, and he is an emotional rollercoaster.click to expand
Libra and Aries are opposites... one can't make up their mind the other can't stop making up their mind. LOL
Xtina that means we have the same sun/moon too as I will also be 33 on Friday the 21! I could learn a lot from you
Posted by xtina
Fuck damn this thing to hell
LOL
Heres what I put:
Hey we have the same Sun/Moon!
We Aries we like challenges and being winners. We are very competitive. Use that to your advantage. Look at dating as a game. The winner gets a lot in the end. What is the game you say? Well at least in dating it is he who cares the least gets to drive the train... and the more of a roller coaster you put them through the more fun they will have
I'm not saying to play mind games or to lead people on. No.
I'm saying be yourself but unpredictable.
How do you play unpredictable and still be yourself you might ask? It goes back to being not readily available because you got your own damn life to live. You love yourself too much to settle for less so that is why you have to make sure that the man you are dating will fight for you. If he doesn't... move on. Simple as that.
You let him fight for you by not always being there. Let him wonder of how you feel for him. Let him guess. Because you're life is too full and fulfilled to have him so if he wants to stay he's got to work for it
That's how I do it at least. And when you get to where I'm at man...it's like shooting fish in a barrel
xtina , My darling I wish it were that simple
I??m bored with games and competing. And when I??m not entirely available I??m told I??m too aloof or busy or cool. I love the book by sheri argov and I??m not surprised she??s an Aries but I don??t think all that applies to men in the UK over the age of 25. They want to be a hero or are very controlling and if you act all busy superwoman well what is he good for? Men here are very old-fashioned and prefer an easy life. There are 20 women to every average guy here so no man is going fight or work for you. He??ll just run off with a simple minded bimbo that keeps her mouth shut hahahaha! But I do 100% agree with you about loving yourself and NOT settling. Unfortunately I??ve never had a man fight for me??_ever. So I??ve always fought for myself. Maybe it??s my fault, maybe I??ve just not meet the right one yet. I??ll just keep working on being wonderful and a better person
eh?Posted by JezeJasPosted by lcrc
Sun Aries
Moon Libra
Mercury Pisces
Venus Pisces
Mars Aries
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Libra
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Lilith Scorpio
You have the exact same birth chart as my fiance! Wow, lol, and he is an emotional rollercoaster.click to expand
Oh lol! I bet he is, but in my case I??m only melodramatic with the men I love ie my Dad and a man I??m in love with. I either want to kill them or cover their face in kisses! Maybe your fianc? is the same but in reverse?
I see my post didnt work
lcrc - I do a makeover when I'm in a deppressed mode and need to do it for a change. I cut my hair off, change the color, start wearing different clothes....Its normally what I need to start fresh and rebalance my emotions.
I date a Leo and its a power struggle! lol
Hard to be c-chief for an Aries, but its the only sign that really brings out my girliness and lose some of the war god... lol
lcrc - I do a makeover when I'm in a deppressed mode and need to do it for a change. I cut my hair off, change the color, start wearing different clothes....Its normally what I need to start fresh and rebalance my emotions.
I date a Leo and its a power struggle! lol
Hard to be c-chief for an Aries, but its the only sign that really brings out my girliness and lose some of the war god... lol
Posted by lcrcPosted by JezeJasPosted by lcrc
Sun Aries
Moon Libra
Mercury Pisces
Venus Pisces
Mars Aries
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Libra
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Lilith Scorpio
You have the exact same birth chart as my fiance! Wow, lol, and he is an emotional rollercoaster.
Oh lol! I bet he is, but in my case I??m only melodramatic with the men I love ie my Dad and a man I??m in love with. I either want to kill them or cover their face in kisses! Maybe your fianc? is the same but in reverse?click to expand
Yeah. He seems pretty consistent with how he acts with his friends, but with me, one hour he'll be ignoring me, the next clinging to me, then griping to me about something, then ignoring me, then all over me...he is all over the place most days.
Posted by JezeJasPosted by lcrcPosted by JezeJasPosted by lcrc
Sun Aries
Moon Libra
Mercury Pisces
Venus Pisces
Mars Aries
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Libra
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Lilith Scorpio
You have the exact same birth chart as my fiance! Wow, lol, and he is an emotional rollercoaster.
Oh lol! I bet he is, but in my case I??m only melodramatic with the men I love ie my Dad and a man I??m in love with. I either want to kill them or cover their face in kisses! Maybe your fianc? is the same but in reverse?
Yeah. He seems pretty consistent with how he acts with his friends, but with me, one hour he'll be ignoring me, the next clinging to me, then griping to me about something, then ignoring me, then all over me...he is all over the place most days.click to expand
It's because he's madly in love with you darling
What did you do to the poor devil? X
This thread screems me...... I'm hoping this month balances me out
Posted by Aries04Posted by JustBlaze
Same thing always happens to me if I'm truly disappointed for any reason.
Only thing to really shake that drain is to find a new challenge.
Not a new relationship just a new goal or cause and get after it. It doesn't completely help but at least you can focus on something positive which will stimulate our attention and use all that energy that otherwise would be used analyzing everything you've ever done while you whine to everyone else who will listen.
Whining and laying on the couch all day feeling sorry for your self is fun too because even then we focus on ourselves and and what makes us special. Just can't stay like that too long. Too much still to claim and accomplish. Stay Up! Aries Zodiak Don
Yup, but there are 2 problems in this: first, I tend to get disappointed more often than any "regular" person, because I tend do expect too much from people or situations and second, the distraction part is easier said than done to me.. You describe an internal motivation for finding a new challenge and I don't seem to be able to overcome my sadness in an effective manner. By talking to others I can get externally motivated to get my mind off of the matter for a short while, but that's about it.
It gets really bad when I have to work or do college related stuff - I don't get anything done it's crazy and frustrating. I always admired men in the way how they can put personal bs aside and completely focus on work. I don't want to be the person, who can only function when she's happy, because romantic life won't be peaches and cream all the time.click to expand
Aries04
Your words are my feelings right now this entire post took the exact words out of my mouth. I hate it during my emos I can't focus on the task at hand. No offense but smoking Mary Jane always seems to give me that treetrunk it attitude to get inspired to move on and finish what I started. At my down times I focus on what's wrong with my life, and then I become aware of my thoughts and realize they are just lingering ideas one after another. Keeping active takes away the time too think and observe, when we really want to get things done.
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