fight for him?

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So i'm a scorpio and i met this aries man 6 months a go, we live in different countries, but once i was traveling to his town and i met him and we clicked instantly, we spent a lot of time skyping, calling each other and texting, he's really nice full of surprises person and really added value into my life, we both seamed to change each other's personality to be a better person without even asking, he came to visit me frequently and i did the same, he introduced me to his family and friends and they all liked me and thought that we are perfect for each other and he always says that he never met someone like me. The problem is that we are NOT official, he's not my boyfriend despite the fact that he is acting like it, and i'm not his girlfriend but we are defiantly more than friends, and it was fine for a while but now we both are hocked and we don't know wt the situation is. I don't have the right to feel jealous, ask him to devout his time for me, be around me, and show more feelings cuz we are not together. He made it really clear that don't want a LDR EVER cuz he had a bad experience before with his ex and he tries to avoid doing the same mistakes cuz he really got hurt. i can feel that he love me though he did say it but he tried to so many times. Now i Just feel frustrated!! we are not moving forward we are stuck and it's not going anywhere. he told me the other day that it will take him a while to trust me with his feeling and night consider a LBR, but i have to fight for him until he realize that we can go forward, that i need to have patient and fight to make him feel special and show him that i genuinely care about him which i'm doing right now but obviously for him that's not enough. it is so complicated and i don't know if i have the strength and power to fight over something that i really don't have. I really love him but i'm exhausted, i've never seen a guy that wants a girl to fight for him, is that normal or is he just making excesses? i tried to back off and pull myself out of this situation so many times but everytime i do that he comes running to me not to go away. he want me to stick around cuz he's life is better with me in it, but he's not welling to give me wt i want which is i think so selfish act of him. what i'm i doing !! and what should i do??

My friend has been going through the same thing and she continues to do the same thing and getting the same results. I tell her she's insane. He wants her to stay but he doesn't want to commit but obviously she's unsatisfied with their situation.

THREE years and she's stil with this guy and the status of their relationship is the same as it began... "friends" working towards a "commitment" because he need "proof" that he loves her. Trust me they are more like friends with benefits.

I would say to not waste your time. The only reason he is putting you through this i.e. getting ALL he wants and leaving you with NOTHING is because YOU allow it, you let him do it to you. You accept the love you think you deserve.

There are other ways to get what you want but you (just like my friend) seem WAY too attached to ever pull it off. I say leave. But if you STAY then remember YOU made that choice so don't blame him for your decision in the end. If you stay and remain unhappy you have only yourself to blame.

I mean this in the best way possible.

Good luck.

BTW, my friend, yeah, her and her guy are "playing" the role of girlfriend and boyfriend but they still tell everyone they're just friends ... nothing wrong with this especially if this is what you want. I do have another friend going through the same thing EXCEPT she does not want anything more. She does not need to relationship because she truly sees him as a friend with benefits. Which is completely ok. But she's HAPPY.

You and my Libra friend are NOT happy.

You can either stay in the same situation and hope it changes (like my friend) or you can move on and find someone that WILL give you what you want. And trust me there will be someone.

Nothing wrong with FBR BUT if you want more and you settle for less it ALWAYS makes room for worst treatment. Like my friend, he always comes home after work stressed and takes it out on her. She "talks" to him about it but he continues to do it *rolls eyes*... now THATS insane doing the same thing OVER and OVER expecting a different result ever time god.

Posted by xtina
I tell her she's insane.

Ah the Arian tact..how I missed it 😄

All I saw is "I'm a scorpio" and thought, "Just... put the dick down and walk away. It ain't gonna work."

Dude's clearly not ready for a relationship if he's still letting his past affect any future potential relationships. You shouldn't have to put your life on hold while he decides when he's ready. It's incredibly selfish of him to expect you to wait it out while he figures out his issues. And you're incredibly dumb to even want to wait around. I know emotions make us do stupid things, but you clearly both want different things. He says a lot of bs that makes you think otherwise, but if he was completely sure about you, he wouldn't even be waffling.

Relationships are something that add to your life, not complicate it. Relationships are not therapy, which is what a lot of people treat it as. As soon as women realize that relationships aren't meant to be therapy, I think the sooner they won't allow themselves to fall into this crap where they get stuck because now they invested so much, emotionally, to an emotionally unavailable man.

You did it to yourself, honey. You need to figure out what to do and what's best for your well being, because this guy isn't thinking about you here, he's thinking about himself and his wants.

^^^Rocky nailed this. Nothing left for me to say.

...or respect you.

Seriously, people who live as doormats get no respect, tbh.

An Aries will never settle for someone they don't respect.