Friends to Feelings?

This topic was created in the Aries forum by borednbeautiful on Saturday, July 1, 2023 and has 50 replies.
Hey dxp friends & lovers 😍

How’s everyone doing this pretty chill July night?

Do you think it’s possible for an Aries male to develop love out of friendship? Given there’s sexual chemistry, but neither party wants a relationship right now.

Just curious smile
I think generally “I don’t want a relationship right now” means “I don’t want a relationship with you right now”
Posted by nanochip
I think generally “I don’t want a relationship right now” means “I don’t want a relationship with you right now”
Yeah. That’s generally true. However, I kinda don’t want a relationship right now either. I want to take things slow with whoever new comes along…(because of a long & fucked up relationship with Leo ex, I am not quite ready yet).
Leo men ruining women’s interest in romance since 1999! smile
I think anything is possible.

Venus does play a role tho.

Posted by DMV
I think anything is possible.

Venus does play a role tho.


I am trying to take things slow and friendly.

I don’t know where his Venus is, but he is a March ♈️
Posted by IceStorm
I think it’s possible for anyone to catch feelings, but it can be emotionally dangerous to get carried away focusing too hard on the potential of something instead of staying grounded in the moment and focusing on what we actually have going on in the present moment.

That was a humbling lesson that I learned from dealing with the Pisces. 😅😂
Hi Storm, I finally realize it’s YOU after seeing your picture on the comments feed 🤪

You commented before but I had no idea who you were 🙂😂

Anyways, you are so right! After Leo ex, I barely trust any man anymore 🤨

I was mainly curious 👀

Friends might be better than lovers!

Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by DMV
I think anything is possible.
Venus does play a role tho.



I am trying to take things slow and friendly.
I don’t know where his Venus is, but he is a March ♈️
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Please don’t insult my or your own intelligence 🤔

You’re not taking things slow…you’re hedging your bets

Posted by DMV
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by DMV
I think anything is possible.
Venus does play a role tho.



I am trying to take things slow and friendly.
I don’t know where his Venus is, but he is a March ♈️



Please don’t insult my or your own intelligence 🤔


You’re not taking things slow…you’re hedging your bets

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I don’t have any bets. Would it be nice? Yes. Will it happen? Most likely not.

After Leo, I stopped believing in fairytales.

Posted by Eggroll
You dont want a relationship but you want to know if he’ll eventually fall in love with you by being in close proximity?
Neither one of us wants a relationship right now. I know that 100%

I am being very careful not to develop any feelings myself. Don’t know about him, which is why I was asking if it’s even possible.
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Posted by nanochip
I think generally “I don’t want a relationship right now” means “I don’t want a relationship with you right now”


Yeah. That’s generally true. However, I kinda don’t want a relationship right now either. I want to take things slow with whoever new comes along…(because of a long & fucked up relationship with Leo ex, I am not quite ready yet).
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You stay in contact with the leo and are never able to heal and move on! Do you think it’s time to cut contact permanently so you can?
Posted by nanochip
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by nanochip
I think generally “I don’t want a relationship right now” means “I don’t want a relationship with you right now”


Yeah. That’s generally true. However, I kinda don’t want a relationship right now either. I want to take things slow with whoever new comes along…(because of a long & fucked up relationship with Leo ex, I am not quite ready yet).



You stay in contact with the leo and are never able to heal and move on! Do you think it’s time to cut contact permanently so you can?
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Girl, I’m soooo ready to move on, in fact, I’ll be there soon. I feel it 🙏

However, there’s more to it. Another reason I’m not ready is because I might be moving again this year to a new country, so I am kinda limited in that aspect too. I don’t want long distance anything.
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Posted by nanochip
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Posted by nanochip
I think generally “I don’t want a relationship right now” means “I don’t want a relationship with you right now”


Yeah. That’s generally true. However, I kinda don’t want a relationship right now either. I want to take things slow with whoever new comes along…(because of a long & fucked up relationship with Leo ex, I am not quite ready yet).




You stay in contact with the leo and are never able to heal and move on! Do you think it’s time to cut contact permanently so you can?



Girl, I’m soooo ready to move on, in fact, I’ll be there soon. I feel it 🙏


However, there’s more to it. Another reason I’m not ready is because I might be moving again this year to a new country, so I am kinda limited in that aspect too. I don’t want long distance anything.
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Whaaaat, where are you off to next?? Yea, I get not wanting to date right now then.
Posted by borednbeautiful
Hey dxp friends & lovers 😍

How’s everyone doing this pretty chill July night?

Do you think it’s possible for an Aries male to develop love out of friendship? Given there’s sexual chemistry, but neither party wants a relationship right now.

Just curious
Aries men are the least likely to fall in love this way. They are pretty head on. And if they "accidentally" fall in love, they may be a little rough, mean for it.
Never works for me that way. Just usually if I can take it slow then they really are just a friend…. & definitely wasn’t that way with me & my ex husband ( Aries).
Posted by borednbeautiful
Hey dxp friends & lovers 😍

How’s everyone doing this pretty chill July night?

Do you think it’s possible for an Aries male to develop love out of friendship? Given there’s sexual chemistry, but neither party wants a relationship right now.

Just curious
I would assume absolutely not until this Ram tells it to your face.
Good. It sounds like I am safe then.

I’ll take the friendship and kinky sex while it lasts.
Posted by Melantho
Have two Aries exes and both didn't do friendship, also not after the relationship ended. I think I have encountered a few Aries now saying they don't like friendship with opposite side. But I guess anything is possible.

Wait, so you have a FWB situation now with the Aries? Or what? :O
Only platonic friendship dear smile We talk and hang out sometimes. Just enjoying getting to know each other.

Despite insane chemistry, we haven’t gone there. Yet!

He has a tons of female friends, he is actually pretty good with feminine energy. Is that weird or what? 🤨


P.S. He was raised by his mom and grandma. Dad was missing in the picture…
Welcome back 🤗

Aries are quite direct. If they start chasing you, you know they're interested.
Posted by Timone
Welcome back 🤗

Aries are quite direct. If they start chasing you, you know they're interested.
Thank you 🙏 Good to see you all again 😻

Eh, he chased me in the beginning. I declined his advances twice. I didn’t wanna get to know anyone at all…

Now it’s 50-50. But like I said, no expectations smile

As a Gemini, I am happy with friendships. Still not ready for dating after Leo fiasco 🙄
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by Timone
Welcome back 🤗

Aries are quite direct. If they start chasing you, you know they're interested.



Thank you 🙏 Good to see you all again 😻


Eh, he chased me in the beginning. I declined his advances twice. I didn’t wanna get to know anyone at all…

Now it’s 50-50. But like I said, no expectations smile

As a Gemini, I am happy with friendships. Still not ready for dating after Leo fiasco 🙄
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Do you want friendship only or a situationship? 😅 I would just do what I want and not worry so much about his motives as he's already said he doesn't want more.

Posted by Timone
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by Timone
Welcome back 🤗

Aries are quite direct. If they start chasing you, you know they're interested.




Thank you 🙏 Good to see you all again 😻


Eh, he chased me in the beginning. I declined his advances twice. I didn’t wanna get to know anyone at all…


Now it’s 50-50. But like I said, no expectations smile


As a Gemini, I am happy with friendships. Still not ready for dating after Leo fiasco 🙄



Do you want friendship only or a situationship? 😅 I would just do what I want and not worry so much about his motives as he's already said he doesn't want more.

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Yes, but sometimes people say they don’t want things and they happen anyway Winking

I like things to develop spontaneously and organically…especially in these matters of the heart 🥰

I kinda have bigger priorities right now in life, tbh.

I was just curious.
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.

I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.

Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.
There is chemistry, in fact we almost, well you know… 😊

But that might ruin everything, so no.

We have been good friends for 3 months now. I really do like his company. We talk about anything under the sun, we share deep secrets and thoughts, lots of fun adventures. He has Scorpio rising.

He has tons of female friends though. Is this common for Aries to be in tune with their feminine energy? He understands women very well!

Maybe because he was raised by a single mother.

Posted by Strobe
I think it's best if you become like a computer and use 1's and 0's, it is either yes or no.
The feelings, if you feel them are not always there on the other end, unless you are with someone already, there is nothing to lose. If there is self doubt, you are not ready and still not matured enough for a relationship.

No one is more fearsome and free than when they have nothing to lose.

Go get it!
Nah, I am a Gemini woman. I am not gonna go get an Aries man. Especially, when I am not sure of his feelings.

And I kept mine in check, so it’s all good.

Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.

I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.

Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.
This post here.

If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.

To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.

But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)

Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
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Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.


There is chemistry, in fact we almost, well you know… 😊
But that might ruin everything, so no.
We have been good friends for 3 months now. I really do like his company. We talk about anything under the sun, we share deep secrets and thoughts, lots of fun adventures. He has Scorpio rising.
He has tons of female friends though. Is this common for Aries to be in tune with their feminine energy? He understands women very well!
Maybe because he was raised by a single mother.

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Astrologically it is connected to Pluto aspecting the Sun usually.

As a Sun trine Pluto my father was absent as a father, this is metaphorically where they are in your life but are not the father role so was raised by a selfish person (Rejected).

Or for real where the father passed away or a break up happened in the early life of a person.

In the end Pluto will grant us the ability to not hold back on life, but we were never given the nurturance from a father in life.

Scorpio rising could help explain this as well the ruler of the Aries Sun is the first house and Mars.


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Well, what kinda worries me is that he doesn’t see importance of father at all. He said even if he had a kid, he doesn’t see it necessarily necessary to be in their life.

And he is pro abortion, I am against.

Funny thing is, my father was an Aries and kinda emotionally absent. But I still see importance of father in life. I think it damages a person when a father is missing 😬
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Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.


This post here.

If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.

To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.

But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)

Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
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Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.

Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.

I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.

I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
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Posted by Melantho
Have two Aries exes and both didn't do friendship, also not after the relationship ended. I think I have encountered a few Aries now saying they don't like friendship with opposite side. But I guess anything is possible.
Wait, so you have a FWB situation now with the Aries? Or what? :O


Only platonic friendship dear We talk and hang out sometimes. Just enjoying getting to know each other.
Despite insane chemistry, we haven’t gone there. Yet!
He has a tons of female friends, he is actually pretty good with feminine energy. Is that weird or what? 🤨

P.S. He was raised by his mom and grandma. Dad was missing in the picture…
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Wouldn't think about it too much. If you are both enjoying eachothers time and company it's all that matters now right? Move with the flow of the process.


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Yep, just go with the flow. I didn’t expect we would still be friends to this day, but here we are.

I appreciate the friendship, although male-female friendships can be a weird territory.
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Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



There is chemistry, in fact we almost, well you know… 😊
But that might ruin everything, so no.
We have been good friends for 3 months now. I really do like his company. We talk about anything under the sun, we share deep secrets and thoughts, lots of fun adventures. He has Scorpio rising.
He has tons of female friends though. Is this common for Aries to be in tune with their feminine energy? He understands women very well!
Maybe because he was raised by a single mother.
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Astrologically it is connected to Pluto aspecting the Sun usually.
As a Sun trine Pluto my father was absent as a father, this is metaphorically where they are in your life but are not the father role so was raised by a selfish person (Rejected).
Or for real where the father passed away or a break up happened in the early life of a person.
In the end Pluto will grant us the ability to not hold back on life, but we were never given the nurturance from a father in life.
Scorpio rising could help explain this as well the ruler of the Aries Sun is the first house and Mars.



Well, what kinda worries me is that he doesn’t see importance of father at all. He said even if he had a kid, he doesn’t see it necessarily necessary to be in their life.
And he is pro abortion, I am against.

Funny thing is, my father was an Aries and kinda emotionally absent. But I still see importance of father in life. I think it damages a person when a father is missing 😬
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It would help if we had his chart to work with.
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I don’t know, he has been secretive with the actual birth info. We only met recently. I know he is a March ♈️

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Posted by Timone
Welcome back 🤗

Aries are quite direct. If they start chasing you, you know they're interested.




Thank you 🙏 Good to see you all again 😻



Eh, he chased me in the beginning. I declined his advances twice. I didn’t wanna get to know anyone at all…


Now it’s 50-50. But like I said, no expectations smile


As a Gemini, I am happy with friendships. Still not ready for dating after Leo fiasco 🙄




Do you want friendship only or a situationship? 😅 I would just do what I want and not worry so much about his motives as he's already said he doesn't want more.




Yes, but sometimes people say they don’t want things and they happen anyway Winking

I like things to develop spontaneously and organically…especially in these matters of the heart 🥰


I kinda have bigger priorities right now in life, tbh.

I was just curious.
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Yeh don't overthink it. If it happens it happens.
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Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.


This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
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Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.

I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
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I see.

Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.

Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway? smile

Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?

As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?

Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"

And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right? smile

He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.

Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.

You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw smile

I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax smile
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
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Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
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I see.

Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.

Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?

Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?

As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?

Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"

And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?

He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.

Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.

You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw

I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
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Wisdom here Ram👍

You could be Dxp’s agony uncle 😄
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
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Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
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I see.

Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.

Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?

Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?

As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?

Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"

And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?

He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.

Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.

You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw

I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
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Thank you, those are some great advices! I truly appreciate it 🙏

I think we are both a bit scared. Should I step back a little bit? Whenever I ask him about something, he says how about you, you go first.

I feel like he is hiding something, but we all do.

There’s been a lot of trauma in his poor life, lot of pain. He has mental health issues. I just don’t know if I can resolve it when I have my own stuff to deal with.

Like you said, I have work to do on myself. Romance and love can wait. I do care about him smile

And find him very sexy and I know that I turn him on too.

Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
click to expand



Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
click to expand


I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
click to expand

Thank you, those are some great advices! I truly appreciate it 🙏

I think we are both a bit scared. Should I step back a little bit? Whenever I ask him about something, he says how about you, you go first.
I feel like he is hiding something, but we all do.
There’s been a lot of trauma in his poor life, lot of pain. He has mental health issues. I just don’t know if I can resolve it when I have my own stuff to deal with.

Like you said, I have work to do on myself. Romance and love can wait. I do care about him
And find him very sexy and I know that I turn him on too.

click to expand
The man who taught me the most about myself was a sexxxy ram. The sex was the thing that almost broke me but healed me ultimately…..he taught me how to be single and to let go of my neediness and for that I’m very grateful 🙏
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
click to expand



Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
click to expand


I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
click to expand

Thank you, those are some great advices! I truly appreciate it 🙏

I think we are both a bit scared. Should I step back a little bit? Whenever I ask him about something, he says how about you, you go first.
I feel like he is hiding something, but we all do.
There’s been a lot of trauma in his poor life, lot of pain. He has mental health issues. I just don’t know if I can resolve it when I have my own stuff to deal with.

Like you said, I have work to do on myself. Romance and love can wait. I do care about him
And find him very sexy and I know that I turn him on too.




The man who taught me the most about myself was a sexxxy ram. The sex was the thing that almost broke me but healed me ultimately…..he taught me how to be single and to let go of my neediness and for that I’m very grateful 🙏
click to expand


Oh I think you may have mentioned that before? That’s very interesting. Although they are not conventionally handsome like a Leo man is, they are raw and sexy men…

I can’t explain it, they just are. I would say very masculine 🔥

How did he teach you that lesson though? How did you end up letting go?

Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
click to expand



Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
click to expand


I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
click to expand

Wisdom here Ram👍

You could be Dxp’s agony uncle 😄
click to expand
Dxp Agony Uncle 😖

God damn it, this is all I am worth of 😭 I am getting demoted in here...to Uncle...😭

haha Big Grin
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
click to expand



Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
click to expand


I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
click to expand

Wisdom here Ram👍

You could be Dxp’s agony uncle 😄



Dxp Agony Uncle 😖


God damn it, this is all I am worth of 😭 I am getting demoted in here...to Uncle...😭


haha Big Grin
click to expand
Hey, Aries guys have wisdom. Too often women see them as sex objects only, but you guys have other qualities too 🥰
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
click to expand



Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
click to expand


I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
click to expand

Thank you, those are some great advices! I truly appreciate it 🙏

I think we are both a bit scared. Should I step back a little bit? Whenever I ask him about something, he says how about you, you go first.
I feel like he is hiding something, but we all do.
There’s been a lot of trauma in his poor life, lot of pain. He has mental health issues. I just don’t know if I can resolve it when I have my own stuff to deal with.

Like you said, I have work to do on myself. Romance and love can wait. I do care about him
And find him very sexy and I know that I turn him on too.

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I don't think you should step back, you just should be yourself smile

Tbh I think he is afraid of you and your re-action when it comes to something "more".Did something happened that made him feel like this (besides saying that you only wanted to be friends with him lol) ?

I think he wont open up until you do, that's my best bet. He seems very defensive...

But I also think he is into you. That seems like a given.

And why don't you see this in another way ? Why instead of you trying to help him, why don't you help each other ? smile

This is how you build a very solid foundation.

Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
click to expand



Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
click to expand


I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
click to expand

Wisdom here Ram👍

You could be Dxp’s agony uncle 😄



Dxp Agony Uncle 😖


God damn it, this is all I am worth of 😭 I am getting demoted in here...to Uncle...😭


haha Big Grin
click to expand
I shall rename you so ….. relationship expert 😄

Is that better?

How are you?
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
click to expand



Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
click to expand


I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
click to expand

Thank you, those are some great advices! I truly appreciate it 🙏

I think we are both a bit scared. Should I step back a little bit? Whenever I ask him about something, he says how about you, you go first.
I feel like he is hiding something, but we all do.
There’s been a lot of trauma in his poor life, lot of pain. He has mental health issues. I just don’t know if I can resolve it when I have my own stuff to deal with.

Like you said, I have work to do on myself. Romance and love can wait. I do care about him
And find him very sexy and I know that I turn him on too.





The man who taught me the most about myself was a sexxxy ram. The sex was the thing that almost broke me but healed me ultimately…..he taught me how to be single and to let go of my neediness and for that I’m very grateful 🙏




Oh I think you may have mentioned that before? That’s very interesting. Although they are not conventionally handsome like a Leo man is, they are raw and sexy men…

I can’t explain it, they just are. I would say very masculine 🔥


How did he teach you that lesson though? How did you end up letting go?

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I became addicted to him, it was very difficult and unhealthy.

Ended up letting go because I realized the relationship was going nowhere. A very good psycotherapist, a shaman healer and good friends helped me through. I now don’t need sex or the need to be desired to make me feel good.

I’ll never forget him ~ so many sex sessions ~ any time, any place, any damn where, we were so hot 🥵 together 🤣😆
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Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
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Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
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I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
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Thank you, those are some great advices! I truly appreciate it 🙏

I think we are both a bit scared. Should I step back a little bit? Whenever I ask him about something, he says how about you, you go first.
I feel like he is hiding something, but we all do.
There’s been a lot of trauma in his poor life, lot of pain. He has mental health issues. I just don’t know if I can resolve it when I have my own stuff to deal with.

Like you said, I have work to do on myself. Romance and love can wait. I do care about him
And find him very sexy and I know that I turn him on too.




I don't think you should step back, you just should be yourself smile


Tbh I think he is afraid of you and your re-action when it comes to something "more".Did something happened that made him feel like this (besides saying that you only wanted to be friends with him lol) ?


I think he wont open up until you do, that's my best bet. He seems very defensive...


But I also think he is into you. That seems like a given.


And why don't you see this in another way ? Why instead of you trying to help him, why don't you help each other ? smile


This is how you build a very solid foundation.

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Okay then, I will just be myself. I hope that Gemini in me doesn’t drive him crazy and doesn’t drive him away 😝

He already told me I need a feminine and passive man because I am “take charge type of a person”. This is due to strong Leo influence in my chart. I think my energy is too much for him, at times.

He also told me he doesn’t want a relationship and wants a friendship right now. He is sometimes inconsistent.

The reason I wanted to step back a bit is because I want my feelings preserved and protected. So maybe not talking and hanging as much.

We will see how it goes. Aries men are fun Winking

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Posted by IamTheRam
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Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
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Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
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I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
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Wisdom here Ram👍
You could be Dxp’s agony uncle 😄


Dxp Agony Uncle 😖

God damn it, this is all I am worth of 😭 I am getting demoted in here...to Uncle...😭

haha
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Hey, Aries guys have wisdom. Too often women see them as sex objects only, but you guys have other qualities too 🥰
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Sorry, just saw this quote as I am not getting Notifications on it.

Oh..if only that was the case lol...that's like the dream lol

It would have made my life so much easier at some points Tongue
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Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
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Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
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I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
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Wisdom here Ram👍
You could be Dxp’s agony uncle 😄


Dxp Agony Uncle 😖

God damn it, this is all I am worth of 😭 I am getting demoted in here...to Uncle...😭

haha
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I shall rename you so ….. relationship expert 😄
Is that better?
How are you?
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Now that is something I can get behind off hehe

Doing fine, I guess smile

How about you and your son ?
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Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
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Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
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I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
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Wisdom here Ram👍
You could be Dxp’s agony uncle 😄


Dxp Agony Uncle 😖
God damn it, this is all I am worth of 😭 I am getting demoted in here...to Uncle...😭
haha
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I shall rename you so ….. relationship expert 😄
Is that better?
How are you?
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Now that is something I can get behind off hehe

Doing fine, I guess

How about you and your son ?
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That’s good smile

Doing fine thanks…we’re both looking for homes…him over the pond …. Me here. He’s flying over tomorrow for a few days so it’ll be lovely to see him❤️.

How’s Portugal? We were there just before the pandemic, in Lisbon, gorgeous city, lovely people, very friendly, quite like the Irish ☘️
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
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Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
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I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
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Wisdom here Ram👍
You could be Dxp’s agony uncle 😄


Dxp Agony Uncle 😖

God damn it, this is all I am worth of 😭 I am getting demoted in here...to Uncle...😭

haha
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Hey, Aries guys have wisdom. Too often women see them as sex objects only, but you guys have other qualities too 🥰



Sorry, just saw this quote as I am not getting Notifications on it.


Oh..if only that was the case lol...that's like the dream lol


It would have made my life so much easier at some points Tongue
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I admit I am the first one who didn’t see it. But then I realized all fire sign men hold great wisdom and depth. We all focus on sex appeal and fun and actions, but you guys are also mentally capable, not just physically.

I am glad as a Gemini to bring out that aspect of you to the surface.

I also believe Aries men are big softies inside. A bit naive, even timid, romantic and warm.

Aries men don’t get enough love on these boards ☺️🥰
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
click to expand



Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
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I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
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Thank you, those are some great advices! I truly appreciate it 🙏
I think we are both a bit scared. Should I step back a little bit? Whenever I ask him about something, he says how about you, you go first.
I feel like he is hiding something, but we all do.
There’s been a lot of trauma in his poor life, lot of pain. He has mental health issues. I just don’t know if I can resolve it when I have my own stuff to deal with.
Like you said, I have work to do on myself. Romance and love can wait. I do care about him
And find him very sexy and I know that I turn him on too.


I don't think you should step back, you just should be yourself

Tbh I think he is afraid of you and your re-action when it comes to something "more".Did something happened that made him feel like this (besides saying that you only wanted to be friends with him lol) ?

I think he wont open up until you do, that's my best bet. He seems very defensive...

But I also think he is into you. That seems like a given.

And why don't you see this in another way ? Why instead of you trying to help him, why don't you help each other ?

This is how you build a very solid foundation.
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Okay then, I will just be myself. I hope that Gemini in me doesn’t drive him crazy and doesn’t drive him away 😝
He already told me I need a feminine and passive man because I am “take charge type of a person”. This is due to strong Leo influence in my chart. I think my energy is too much for him, at times.

He also told me he doesn’t want a relationship and wants a friendship right now. He is sometimes inconsistent.

The reason I wanted to step back a bit is because I want my feelings preserved and protected. So maybe not talking and hanging as much.

We will see how it goes. Aries men are fun

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Well, after what you said of that friends thingy, I don't know what you would expect lol I can tell you that after that, I would make you crawl for it...lol I would be ruthless, especially If I had feelings for you.

It is what it is, you hurt his ego..that was not a good move hehe

And being crazy is exactly the right move lol And he will like your domineering attitude. Above all he will value uniqueness in you. And if it means you are worth it (depending on what that Aries want), he will take it.

Being boring and beautiful is not the way to go hehe ^^

Above all be yourself. Try to open a bit more smile

And it's very likely that you will have to bend first (in terms of feelings) if you want something out of him. Don't expect him to make that first move after all the situation (unless you fuck his brains out...that would def also work haha) ^^

Just be yourself smile
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Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
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Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
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I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
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Thank you, those are some great advices! I truly appreciate it 🙏
I think we are both a bit scared. Should I step back a little bit? Whenever I ask him about something, he says how about you, you go first.
I feel like he is hiding something, but we all do.
There’s been a lot of trauma in his poor life, lot of pain. He has mental health issues. I just don’t know if I can resolve it when I have my own stuff to deal with.
Like you said, I have work to do on myself. Romance and love can wait. I do care about him
And find him very sexy and I know that I turn him on too.


I don't think you should step back, you just should be yourself

Tbh I think he is afraid of you and your re-action when it comes to something "more".Did something happened that made him feel like this (besides saying that you only wanted to be friends with him lol) ?

I think he wont open up until you do, that's my best bet. He seems very defensive...

But I also think he is into you. That seems like a given.

And why don't you see this in another way ? Why instead of you trying to help him, why don't you help each other ?

This is how you build a very solid foundation.
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Okay then, I will just be myself. I hope that Gemini in me doesn’t drive him crazy and doesn’t drive him away 😝
He already told me I need a feminine and passive man because I am “take charge type of a person”. This is due to strong Leo influence in my chart. I think my energy is too much for him, at times.

He also told me he doesn’t want a relationship and wants a friendship right now. He is sometimes inconsistent.

The reason I wanted to step back a bit is because I want my feelings preserved and protected. So maybe not talking and hanging as much.

We will see how it goes. Aries men are fun




Well, after what you said of that friends thingy, I don't know what you would expect lol I can tell you that after that, I would make you crawl for it...lol I would be ruthless, especially If I had feelings for you.


It is what it is, you hurt his ego..that was not a good move hehe


And being crazy is exactly the right move lol And he will like your domineering attitude. Above all he will value uniqueness in you. And if it means you are worth it (depending on what that Aries want), he will take it.


Being boring and beautiful is not the way to go hehe ^^


Above all be yourself. Try to open a bit more smile


And it's very likely that you will have to bend first (in terms of feelings) if you want something out of him. Don't expect him to make that first move after all the situation (unless you fuck his brains out...that would def also work haha) ^^


Just be yourself smile
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Thank you! We shall see…

He also needs to make an effort, not just me. Like I said, sometimes he seems distant and inconsistent. But since we are friends, I don’t care as much. We do laugh a lottttt together 😂😂

Aries men have crazy sense of humor 🤣

Don’t even get me started on his sexual perversions. Aries men are kinky!!! 🔥

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Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
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Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
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I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
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Wisdom here Ram👍
You could be Dxp’s agony uncle 😄



Dxp Agony Uncle 😖
God damn it, this is all I am worth of 😭 I am getting demoted in here...to Uncle...😭
haha
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I shall rename you so ….. relationship expert 😄
Is that better?
How are you?
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Now that is something I can get behind off hehe
Doing fine, I guess
How about you and your son ?
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That’s good

Doing fine thanks…we’re both looking for homes…him over the pond …. Me here. He’s flying over tomorrow for a few days so it’ll be lovely to see him❤️.

How’s Portugal? We were there just before the pandemic, in Lisbon, gorgeous city, lovely people, very friendly, quite like the Irish ☘️
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But to live together in another place? That seems like a fun move for you 2 Hehe nice that you will be with him soon smile

Well Portugal as been...hot...very hot lol It's always above 30's lately and dry...a nightmare.

I didn't knew you went to Lisbon ! Yes, I guess the people are similar smile I hope the trip it was worth the price ! And that you had fun hehe
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Posted by alexscaries
I think there's a time frame on these things remember good single men, don't stay single forever.
I think the second factor is I know people say how persistent Aries is, but if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere we give up.
Third is I think regardless of sign, I think someone saying "let's be friends" means "I like you, but don't find you sexually attractive". I personally would put them on the backburner and date other people.



This post here.
If you say to an Aries things like "let's be freinds", don't expect him to nurture any romantic feelings for you. I mean, for us (and possibly any male sign with self respect) it means you are not into him. So might as well just stick it to what it is rather then having a possible heartbreak and be/feel like a looser.
To answer your question, yes it is possible, infact I think this is the best way to snatch a Fire sign male for long term (to be freinds first). I mean, when the balls gets unblue, it's a must for him to feel like you are above all, his best freind rather then a drag.
But I also think you are doing many mistakes, and above all, sending the wrong message to him (given what Alex wrote)
Did you say at any point that you were looking for something serious and didn't just want have fun and see how things go?
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Well, we talked about the concept of soulmates. Not putting a label on it or paper on it. He said he enjoys time spent and that we get along great.
Sometimes we banter and playfully insult each other. Sometimes he acts a bit of a jerk. Sometimes I’m drama and he doesn’t seem into it like a Leo would be, he says he hasn’t gotten the nerves for it.
I agree that it’s best to snatch a fire sign through friendship. I’m a Gemini, so I don’t mind.
I don’t have high hopes. I think he has some feelings but hiding it, but probably not huge feelings.
click to expand



I see.
Reading your posts here I can already see what the issue is. First of all, i think you have to work out on your own self.
Let me ask you this, even if he said that he had romantic feelings for you (and they were true) , would you believe it ? Would you feel more relaxed ? Would you not try to find another "excuse" on why all of it was going to fail anyway?
Are you waiting for him to step up so that you can try to step in also from another angle?
As for the feelings. What type of feelings are you looking for in him towards you ? Friendship? Romance? Love?
Let me give you a tip, aim for Friendship and Love, this 2 can always grow an prosper just in day by day situations and will always prove more valuable in life. Romance tends to dry up quickly, and it's kinda of a hit or miss thing right of the bat (given the situation, and I think this one will be very hard to get from him as of now, after you said you only saw him as a friend). I would never be romantic towards you after something like that. "The magic spell is already broken"
And you can always find romance in a movie or book, right?
He is clearly on a defensive stance towards you, I don't think he will do anything that will weaken him. He will tend to always show up as a jerk, because at the end, this makes him "strong" in your eyes.
Aries generally hate to feel weak. Look at his father situation, for me, I see that as a clearly protection from something that made him feel really bad in the past. See it for what it is.
You need to know how to disarm him, so you can see what he is hiding. The playfull bantering is a really good sign btw
I think he is into you, but I also think that you will probably ruin this up if you don't ease up and just.. Relax
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Wisdom here Ram👍
You could be Dxp’s agony uncle 😄



Dxp Agony Uncle 😖
God damn it, this is all I am worth of 😭 I am getting demoted in here...to Uncle...😭
haha
click to expand



I shall rename you so ….. relationship expert 😄
Is that better?
How are you?
click to expand


Now that is something I can get behind off hehe
Doing fine, I guess
How about you and your son ?
click to expand

That’s good

Doing fine thanks…we’re both looking for homes…him over the pond …. Me here. He’s flying over tomorrow for a few days so it’ll be lovely to see him❤️.

How’s Portugal? We were there just before the pandemic, in Lisbon, gorgeous city, lovely people, very friendly, quite like the Irish ☘️



But to live together in another place? That seems like a fun move for you 2 Hehe nice that you will be with him soon smile


Well Portugal as been...hot...very hot lol It's always above 30's lately and dry...a nightmare.


I didn't knew you went to Lisbon ! Yes, I guess the people are similar smile I hope the trip it was worth the price ! And that you had fun hehe
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Oh no….he’s in London and I’m in Ireland …. we couldn’t live together 😂. He’s coming for a holiday

Yes loved Portugal, but it was 33°…I was melting. It was very much worth the cost and we’d great fun 😄

How do ye stand that heat?!