Going Solo

How many of you Aries women go out alone? I am not talking about on your lunch break or shopping..lol not even the movies, I am talking about going out alone at night downtown or something like that. I am dating a Cap who pretty much wants to stay home when I am with him and I don't have girlfriends that want to hang out like I want. My two best friends are out of town and the women here are either married, homebodies, or don't invite me along..So if I want to enjoy the night life I have to do it alone. I will admit I am frightened, I don't want to be spotted alone and kidnapped, but I am tired of not going out and missing venues that are going on this summer because I don't have anyone to go with. Please share your experiences.... Thank you.

I do this quite frequently as well. I've gone to see plays/orchestras by myself at night. Most people like to go into restaurants in groups (especially at night) but I'm not reluctant about going in by myself (last week I went into a korean barbecue place and ate by myself) My friends can't believe that a woman will go into a restaurant alone at night and just sit there and eat without feeling uncomfortable but I honestly don't see what the big deal is. I'm hungry and too lazy to prepare dinner for myself (I live alone. If I had guests, it would be different). I don't care if the restaurant is filled with couples who are on dates. I will sit there for an hour or two without feeling uncomfortable and just mind my own business lol All my grocery shoppings are done at night too and I sometimes go into bookstores that are open really late and just browse around. My boyfriend is usually very busy with work so I find ways to entertain myself.

Obviously I try not to go into rough neighborhoods during night time. But I once took a college night course in a rather frightening part of town and was really scared while waiting at the bus stop lol There were a lot of drug addicts roaming around mumbling strange things...

Yep. I go out alone. I am single and my friends are all partnered up - that's just the way it goes.

I do wonder if guys find it weird, like I am prowling for a one nighter when I am by myself but can't let that bother me toooo much. Ok it bothers me a bit.

If you are frightened I suggest you try a bit of boxing just for confidence.
I find it really relaxing and great exercise.

I was bashed rather badly (domestically) so I did Krav Maga. And I so look forward to meeting that sorry POS in a dark alley one night.....

So maybe look into a local gym where you can do a martial art or some boxing or both. You might even make a gal pal to go out on the town with?


Sorry I am not there, I would take you out - we would have a blast!!

Posted by Brittannie

There were a lot of drug addicts roaming around mumbling strange things...

Hey - how do you know that wasn't just me roaming around mumbling strange things to myself??

yeah my aries bff goes out alone all the time.

I do it too.. Not clubbing but I go to bars, where I know the staff sit down and talk to bartender..

I dunno how people perceive it, but guys do think you are looking for a "fun night"
I just don't have that many friends here.. And the ones I have sometimes can't go
So I learned to do things by myself or not do them..
I have zero family here in the states, and about 7 friends here, I know more people but nah it's not the same..
So I always think the same. I'm hungry. I'm lazy to cook. And eating is a natural necessity can't really judge someone is eating alone lol!

Im a sag with Aries asc.
Mercury Sagittarius
Venus Sagittarius
Mars Scorpio
Jupiter Aquarius
Saturn Sagittarius
Uranus Sagittarius
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio

Posted by chicksag
I do it too.. Not clubbing but I go to bars, where I know the staff sit down and talk to bartender..

So I always think the same. I'm hungry. I'm lazy to cook. And eating is a natural necessity can't really judge someone is eating alone lol!

Im a sag with Aries asc.
Mercury Sagittarius
Venus Sagittarius
Mars Scorpio
Jupiter Aquarius
Saturn Sagittarius
Uranus Sagittarius
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio

This has nothing to do with the thread but I have a friend who is 45 (Saggie) who still eats at Mom's and drops her washing off and THEN goes home to her house!! It's insane.


****I have been refused a table once when I tried to take myself out for dinner.......if they only knew how much I could eat and drink😢
Their loss.
Yay for Taco Bell!!

".......if they only knew how much I could eat and drink"

lol

Luckily my gf shares most of my interests so isn't an issue. But, before she came along I got used to doing everything alone. This started very young for me. I was mature for my age and did everything "first". Though I might have liked company I wasn't going to wait around forever for people to catch up.
I never went clubbing alone (don't care for it), I'd go swimming, bikeriding, skiing by myself. It was somewhat lonely at times...but overall a good experience.
I understand your hesitation to go out alone as a single woman, though.

I remember in college we were supposed to be in groups of 2 to do a project, but there were only 11 of us so I grabbed a set of equipment and just got going by myself.

Later during lunch a couple of the guys from my class overheard the lecturer (guest lecturer) talking to our principal and making the comment that I was a "loner" (because I had the balls and common sense to just get stuck in instead of whining that I wasn't in a pair😕)


The guys pissed themselves laughing telling me about it. What a douche.

🙂

Hahaha! Yaaaay! You ladies make me so proud! You do what you need to do and want to do! I'm the same! I go everywhere by myself! Restaurants, parties, overseas!!!
My philosophy is basically: if I had to wait for someone to do everything I want to do with, I would never go anywhere or do anything!
But I'm pickin up what you girls are putting down! Everyone is ball and chained to someone else and I find it reaaaaallllyyyyyy frustrating not going out and being social!
I never thought about guys thinking a solo lady is up for a fun night... But then again... Most of the time I am passively prowling! And other times, blatantly! Haha (I have Leo moon and scorp rising... What did you expect! Haha)
It doesn't bug me at all! As long as they don't think I'm desperate and can't get any! I'm there cuz I want to be social, meet new people, dance, drink, see what's going on in the world ya know!!—
I'm probably more worried that I'll miss a good time if I stay home than I am about what people think of me while I'm out!

I don't go out to clubs or bars alone, but I do like to go out and have dinner, movies, shopping, plays, etc??_I will even go out of town alone. The night life??_..ummmm not to thrilled at that idea for safety reasons. There are crazy people where I live so no to that one, but I will meet my friends if I want to do the night life. I will just wait until I can go with a friend or find friends that I can run with since the people around me are just too busy and not interested.

Missed you @Love!!
I thought about you everytime I tried to access the site while it was down!
I even thought about what would happen if they couldn't recover it. I was very sad at the thought that we might be lost to each other forever! Haha
Totes glad it's back up!

Hey Twin!

I was kind of happy the site went down. All the people on here that was attacking each other like wild animals was really amazing and freaking disgusting in my opinion. I guess the breather kind of help. DXP down for a week, lol yea ok! 😉

Never had a thought that we would be lost...🙂

Was I in attack mode? Haha... I do get quite snappy on here sometimes!
Was it only a week? It felt like it was longer!

What you been up to?
I have been going postal at gym over the last month and a half! Like last year and the first few months of this year, I was really sedentary. Like worse than I've ever been in my life, but only because I was so broke I couldn't afford to do anything! Even buy fuel for my car sometimes! I'm so grateful I had my family to catch me when I fell down and came back from overseas in such a shell shocked state! I don't know how I would have ended up without them! They were truly my salvation in that regard!
But now!!! I'm gyming four days a week and sometimes i do two classes a day. Been loving yoga!! I'm getting my flexibility back! I love being bendy! Haha.
They're startig boot camp at the end of this month so I'm gonna go hard with that! 'my' Leo sexgod told me on Sunday he might be coming to visit me over December so now I have additional motivation to get into shape! He's been overseas for a while. I'm quite intimidated by the thought of being naked with him again after being so lazy and out of shape for the last year! And he has a perfect body! Not one bit of fat on him and he's got a nice athletic, stocky build! I can't be feeling insecure with jiggly bits that werent there last time he saw me.

Anyway... Enough with random senseless rambling from me! Tell me how you have been and where you are at in your space at the moment. You can IM me if you don't want to say anything in front of everyone else!

xxx

Oh yes! I remember now! There was that crazy pregnant chick I was taunting! And she was just going off on everyone cus she thought we all wanted her man!
It was a bit shameful!

Posted by lotuslily
Hahaha! Yaaaay! You ladies make me so proud! You do what you need to do and want to do! I'm the same! I go everywhere by myself! Restaurants, parties, overseas!!!
My philosophy is basically: if I had to wait for someone to do everything I want to do with, I would never go anywhere or do anything!
But I'm pickin up what you girls are putting down! Everyone is ball and chained to someone else and I find it reaaaaallllyyyyyy frustrating not going out and being social!
I never thought about guys thinking a solo lady is up for a fun night... But then again... Most of the time I am passively prowling! And other times, blatantly! Haha (I have Leo moon and scorp rising... What did you expect! Haha)
It doesn't bug me at all! As long as they don't think I'm desperate and can't get any! I'm there cuz I want to be social, meet new people, dance, drink, see what's going on in the world ya know!!—
I'm probably more worried that I'll miss a good time if I stay home than I am about what people think of me while I'm out!

"....if I had to wait for someone to do everything I want to do with, I would never go anywhere or do anything..."


That's what I'm talking about😉

and LOL at the passive prowling!!

Posted by Love366
Hey Twin!

I was kind of happy the site went down. All the people on here that was attacking each other like wild animals was really amazing and freaking disgusting in my opinion. I guess the breather kind of help. DXP down for a week, lol yea ok! 😉

Never had a thought that we would be lost...🙂

Who was attacking? I miss everything.....

To answer the initial question, yes, I am an Aries, and yes I do lots of things on my own, from actually living alone to going out for food - often! - doing the shopping, most sports activities like riding my bike or swimming or simply taking a walk... More often than not I have my headphones on and listen to my favourite music, but I have to admit, on the rare occasions when I didn't have music to protect me from the outside world I did hear quite a lot of rude comments, mostly from men, once or twice from girls or women too.
Thing is, as it's been said before on this thread, there are so many things I love doing - I just love living life in general - and I do get picky about whose company I actually enjoy - that I end up doing many of the things I like simply by myself. Now, night life is not included in that, but mostly for safety reasons and because, in all honesty, it's easier to find a girl friend who'd enjoy going out to a club with me than finding someone who's in the mood for some bike riding or swimming or whatnot...
If I was to give you any advice, Aries415 that would be to talk to your partner and see if you can reach some compromise, like maybe he'd be willing to take you out once a month or so in exchange for something he wants... I obviously don't know any details about your relationship, but chances are good he'd at least be willing to talk about it and search for a solution together.
Alternatively, you could sign up for various classes or courses or daytime social events and try to make friends there. You never know what that could give 🙂

Yes I do all the time, I remember going to lunch alone one day and when I told my Cap friend she looked like she felt sorry for me, I had to laugh. I live alone, my last two jobs I worked I worked alone most of the time and if I feel like doing something and none of my friends are up for it, ill do by myself life is too short to be waiting on folks. Im lucky to have a large group of female friends so im happy that I have a choice if I dont want to be alone, most of the time. But for me alone time is imperative to my sanity.