Have you ever fell for a friend's man?

This topic was created in the Aries forum by Jardsi on Wednesday, June 29, 2016 and has 43 replies.
Has this ever happened to anybody?

I'm not talking about betraying your friend and sleeping with their boyfriend, that's terrible, but have you ever had feelings for them?

I was wondering how somebody should deal with something like this?

I have to think of reasons to not hang out with them and the excuses are getting pretty lame.
...bit of a predicament.
NEVER! I have respect for myself, her, and him! If I see a man and he's cute! I immediately look at his left ring finger. If I see a ring, again, I RESPECT myself, his wife, and him. He's taken!

Hug cyber hug!

Love,

Eva
I can imagine how tough that is for you Jardsi and agree that it's best that you only hang out with your female friend, if you can manage that.

Are there opportunities to just be one-on-one with your female friend? I know that some people when they couple up stop spending time with their friends separately, which isn't good. If that's the case, you could tell her you miss the one-to-one time and ask to do something together again.

Even in cases where there aren't feelings like this going on, it can sometimes feel awkward to be a kind of third wheel when hanging out with a couple. So that's a legit reason to not hang out with a couple.

The closest I came to what you describe is when a guy I felt some attraction to asked my best friend out instead. But I didn't know the guy that well so it wasn't particularly hurtful, then I started dating someone else around the same time, which solved the problem 100% .



Posted by CopperDove
I can imagine how tough that is for you Jardsi and agree that it's best that you only hang out with your female friend, if you can manage that.

Are there opportunities to just be one-on-one with your female friend? I know that some people when they couple up stop spending time with their friends separately, which isn't good. If that's the case, you could tell her you miss the one-to-one time and ask to do something together again.

Even in cases where there aren't feelings like this going on, it can sometimes feel awkward to be a kind of third wheel when hanging out with a couple. So that's a legit reason to not hang out with a couple.

The closest I came to what you describe is when a guy I felt some attraction to asked my best friend out instead. But I didn't know the guy that well so it wasn't particularly hurtful, then I started dating someone else around the same time, which solved the problem 100% .




The problem is they're both equally my friends, I met them both around the same time when they weren't dating, shortly after I met them they started dating and I became closer to both of them, unfortunately I became a little more close to the guy and now I have this problem. So, he also writes to me and asks me to hang out.


Also I feel like he acts inappropriately around me. It makes it uncomfortable for me.

I think all I can do is stay away from them. Ugh... They live together so it's difficult to see them separately.


Yes, it might be that you have to stay away from both of them, for now anyway. I guess it's possible one of them might ask you why you keep turning down visits but I can understand why it would be awkward to tell them exactly why.

If you're really close to the female friend, and don't want to bail from seeing her, the best you could do is to ask for a girl's night" or whatever you want to call it (I don't like calling women who aren't teenagers girls, but you know what I mean, I'm sure, lol). It's normal to have a night like that sometimes so maybe she'd be keen to have just time with a female friend without her boyfriend.

By inappropriately, with how he acts, what does he do? Do you mean he does things that show interest in you as more than a friend? Whatever he's doing that's bothering you, you probably need to tell him you're uncomfortable and to stop. Hopefully that will make him stop.
Posted by CopperDove

Yes, it might be that you have to stay away from both of them, for now anyway. I guess it's possible one of them might ask you why you keep turning down visits but I can understand why it would be awkward to tell them exactly why. The best you could do is try to go out with just your female friend alone - tell you you think it would be nice to just have a "girl's night" or whatever you want to call it (I don't like calling women who aren't teenagers girls, but you know what I mean, I'm sure, lol). It's normal to have a night like that sometimes so maybe she'd be keen.

By inappropriately, with how he acts, what does he do? Do you mean he does things that show interest in you as more than a friend?
Maybe I will invite her out, just her, but I feel like that would just make me feel guilty for having those feelings.... but maybe that's a good thing. I just feel like she might find out just from looking at me, my face gives away so much, all the time haha.

Well, me and him have always got along extremely well, we tease each other all the time, it's just constant back and forth banter... but it started to become more regular, now he does things like poking me when other people are unaware, he has to touch me constantly, he can't walk passed me without doing something to get my attention. The thing is I'm not sure if this has always happened but I'm only noticing it now because I have feelings? Maybe I'm reading it wrong. Either way, it makes me feel anxious being around him. I've actually left their house earlier a couple of times because I couldn't hack it.

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and then you ask why libraqueen is paranoid Tongue
heh?


It depends on what you're comfortable with in terms of spending time with her. There is also a danger of you feeling envy of her because she's with the person you're attracted to so the friendship could become very compromised.

I could handle seeing my good friend with the guy I felt some attraction to, but my feelings weren't strong about him in the first place, and then I was dating someone so there was no issue at all. Also my interest in the guy dropped a lot when he chose her.

Some people are more physical with joking around and it doesn't mean anything more than that, but hard to say with him. Whatever he means by it, it's making you anxious and that isn't okay for you at all, so you can ask him to please not do it because it's uncomfortable (you don't have to say more than that - no means no kind of thing, and hopefully he'll respect that). But for now staying away from both of them might be the best for you, then trying a girl's night out maybe at least once if it feels okay at some point.

It's a hard situation to be in, I can imagine! Hopefully you'll start to feel better and clearer about it, particularly if you stay away from them for longer than you have so far.

Posted by CopperDove

It depends on what you're comfortable with in terms of spending time with her. There is also a danger of you feeling envy of her because she's with the person you're attracted to so the friendship could become very compromised.

I could handle seeing my good friend with the guy I felt some attraction to, but my feelings weren't strong about him in the first place, and then I was dating someone so there was no issue at all. Also my interest in the guy dropped a lot when he chose her.

Some people are more physical with joking around and it doesn't mean anything more than that, but hard to say with him. Whatever he means by it, it's making you anxious and that isn't okay for you at all, so you can ask him to please not do it because it's uncomfortable (you don't have to say more than that - no means no kind of thing, and hopefully he'll respect that). But for now staying away from both of them might be the best for you, then trying a girl's night out maybe at least once if it feels okay at some point.

It's a hard situation to be in, I can imagine! Hopefully you'll start to feel better and clearer about it, particularly if you stay away from them for longer than you have so far.

I don't want to cause drama by mentioning something to him. Because I know he will question it, and wont let it go... and then if he says something to her, jesus... she's already a little dramatic as it is, she's a Leo.

Eep!

Thanks for your help, I'll try staying away for a while longer, maybe spend more time with her. smile
Hell no. But i have fallen for the friends of a guy i was dating.
Posted by Jardsi
Also I feel like he acts inappropriately around me. It makes it uncomfortable for me.

I think all I can do is stay away from them. Ugh... They live together so it's difficult to see them separately.
Ok. This may sound harsh. But your doing something to attract him.

Turn your sexy all the way down.

Be a good friend
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Posted by Jardsi
Also I feel like he acts inappropriately around me. It makes it uncomfortable for me.

I think all I can do is stay away from them. Ugh... They live together so it's difficult to see them separately.
Ok. This may sound harsh. But your doing something to attract him.

Turn your sexy all the way down.

Be a good friend
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My 'sexy' is non-existent. Believe me, I've done nothing but attempt to avoid him for the last few weeks.

Posted by Jardsi
Posted by CopperDove

It depends on what you're comfortable with in terms of spending time with her. There is also a danger of you feeling envy of her because she's with the person you're attracted to so the friendship could become very compromised.

I could handle seeing my good friend with the guy I felt some attraction to, but my feelings weren't strong about him in the first place, and then I was dating someone so there was no issue at all. Also my interest in the guy dropped a lot when he chose her.

Some people are more physical with joking around and it doesn't mean anything more than that, but hard to say with him. Whatever he means by it, it's making you anxious and that isn't okay for you at all, so you can ask him to please not do it because it's uncomfortable (you don't have to say more than that - no means no kind of thing, and hopefully he'll respect that). But for now staying away from both of them might be the best for you, then trying a girl's night out maybe at least once if it feels okay at some point.

It's a hard situation to be in, I can imagine! Hopefully you'll start to feel better and clearer about it, particularly if you stay away from them for longer than you have so far.

I don't want to cause drama by mentioning something to him. Because I know he will question it, and wont let it go... and then if he says something to her, jesus... she's already a little dramatic as it is, she's a Leo.

Eep!

Thanks for your help, I'll try staying away for a while longer, maybe spend more time with her. smile
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Ah, okay! Then staying away indeed seems to be your best option for now. Anything else could make you feel worse. It's too bad that you're having to deal with this, but good that you're trying to do the right thing. smile

Thank goodness, I have not been in this situation because I don't know how I'd feel about it. I'm polite, but I have never gone out of my way to befriend other women's men.
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Posted by Jardsi
Also I feel like he acts inappropriately around me. It makes it uncomfortable for me.

I think all I can do is stay away from them. Ugh... They live together so it's difficult to see them separately.
Ok. This may sound harsh. But your doing something to attract him.

Turn your sexy all the way down.

Be a good friend
My 'sexy' is non-existent. Believe me, I've done nothing but attempt to avoid him for the last few weeks.

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Obviously not everything if youre writing here.

Her man with you is really turning you on. Enough so that you feel gulity.

Not guilty enough to stop that freight train of i want your man.

You fed into the energy completely ignoring your friend and disrespecting her relationship.

Just tell youre friend so she can see who you both really are and she cant make the decision to 86 you both.

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Posted by Jardsi
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Posted by Jardsi
Also I feel like he acts inappropriately around me. It makes it uncomfortable for me.

I think all I can do is stay away from them. Ugh... They live together so it's difficult to see them separately.
Ok. This may sound harsh. But your doing something to attract him.

Turn your sexy all the way down.

Be a good friend
My 'sexy' is non-existent. Believe me, I've done nothing but attempt to avoid him for the last few weeks.



Obviously not everything if youre writing here.

Her man with you is really turning you on. Enough so that you feel gulity.

Not guilty enough to stop that freight train of i want your man.

You fed into the energy completely ignoring your friend and disrespecting her relationship.

Just tell youre friend so she can see who you both really are and she cant make the decision to 86 you both.

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Oh shut up. She hasn't even done anything with this guy, how has she disrespected their relationship? Because she has a crush on him? Big whoop. I don't see a problem, op, as long as you don't act on these feelings. Isolate yourself from him and you'll soon find someone else, I'm sure.
Posted by AriesLove
Just stop acting! You know you want the man and it doesn't matter if it's your friends man. You'd probably sleep with him if he made the proposal to you.

I don't care how sexy he is, he's been sleeping with your friend. That's turn off #1.

If he's making any kind of advances or acting inappropriately towards you he's probably thinking "I can have them both." That's turn off #2

You met them both at the same time, if he wanted you he would've went after you and not her....right.

That's turn off #3

Stop fantasizing over this fool and find your own man. There's plenty!


HI........What she said ^^^^^

Posted by starwars
yuck no...im that friend who keep an eye on them to see if they're gonna hurt my friend or not ?


Protective mode...how my bffs are with me and I with them.






Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Also I feel like he acts inappropriately around me. It makes it uncomfortable for me.

I think all I can do is stay away from them. Ugh... They live together so it's difficult to see them separately.
Ok. This may sound harsh. But your doing something to attract him.

Turn your sexy all the way down.

Be a good friend
My 'sexy' is non-existent. Believe me, I've done nothing but attempt to avoid him for the last few weeks.



Obviously not everything if youre writing here.

Her man with you is really turning you on. Enough so that you feel gulity.

Not guilty enough to stop that freight train of i want your man.

You fed into the energy completely ignoring your friend and disrespecting her relationship.

Just tell youre friend so she can see who you both really are and she cant make the decision to 86 you both.

Oh shut up. She hasn't even done anything with this guy, how has she disrespected their relationship? Because she has a crush on him? Big whoop. I don't see a problem, op, as long as you don't act on these feelings. Isolate yourself from him and you'll soon find someone else, I'm sure.
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Girl or boy bye.

the poster admitted that there was inappropriate touching going on while no one was looking that he would initiate and she accepted.

But guess what ???

Did she tell her "friend".......................................uh no she didn't.

Sad when you think about. The poster and the guy are both foul as fuck.

She's no friend

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Also I feel like he acts inappropriately around me. It makes it uncomfortable for me.

I think all I can do is stay away from them. Ugh... They live together so it's difficult to see them separately.
Ok. This may sound harsh. But your doing something to attract him.

Turn your sexy all the way down.

Be a good friend
My 'sexy' is non-existent. Believe me, I've done nothing but attempt to avoid him for the last few weeks.



Obviously not everything if youre writing here.

Her man with you is really turning you on. Enough so that you feel gulity.

Not guilty enough to stop that freight train of i want your man.

You fed into the energy completely ignoring your friend and disrespecting her relationship.

Just tell youre friend so she can see who you both really are and she cant make the decision to 86 you both.

Oh shut up. She hasn't even done anything with this guy, how has she disrespected their relationship? Because she has a crush on him? Big whoop. I don't see a problem, op, as long as you don't act on these feelings. Isolate yourself from him and you'll soon find someone else, I'm sure.
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Oooo i hit a nerve.

Its more than a crush. She wouldnt be wasting her time writing.here if it was some fly by night joe.

But he ain't.
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Posted by AriesLove
Just stop acting! You know you want the man and it doesn't matter if it's your friends man. You'd probably sleep with him if he made the proposal to you.

I don't care how sexy he is, he's been sleeping with your friend. That's turn off #1.

If he's making any kind of advances or acting inappropriately towards you he's probably thinking "I can have them both." That's turn off #2

You met them both at the same time, if he wanted you he would've went after you and not her....right.

That's turn off #3

Stop fantasizing over this fool and find your own man. There's plenty!


HI........What she said ^^^^^

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Ditto

Posted by happyface1
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Also I feel like he acts inappropriately around me. It makes it uncomfortable for me.

I think all I can do is stay away from them. Ugh... They live together so it's difficult to see them separately.
Ok. This may sound harsh. But your doing something to attract him.

Turn your sexy all the way down.

Be a good friend
My 'sexy' is non-existent. Believe me, I've done nothing but attempt to avoid him for the last few weeks.



Obviously not everything if youre writing here.

Her man with you is really turning you on. Enough so that you feel gulity.

Not guilty enough to stop that freight train of i want your man.

You fed into the energy completely ignoring your friend and disrespecting her relationship.

Just tell youre friend so she can see who you both really are and she cant make the decision to 86 you both.

Oh shut up. She hasn't even done anything with this guy, how has she disrespected their relationship? Because she has a crush on him? Big whoop. I don't see a problem, op, as long as you don't act on these feelings. Isolate yourself from him and you'll soon find someone else, I'm sure.


Girl or boy bye.

the poster admitted that there was inappropriate touching going on while no one was looking that he would initiate and she accepted.

But guess what ???

Did she tell her "friend".......................................uh no she didn't.

Sad when you think about. The poster and the guy are both foul as fuck.

She's no friend

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Second that. Some people ignore the hard facts right in front of them.

Just a crush.my ass
Im actually surprised by your response AriesIntrovert16.

Tad disappointed you would cosign on such behavior.

What if your friend and your aqua.crush. were poking each other behind your back?

Youd smack the taste right out her mouth.

Posted by Shadowcat
No. Generally I find all of my friends men to be unattractive because they immediately become an annoying brother lol.


I think that way too lol...it's like they're kind of family now for as long as it lasts...they're like automatically a lil brother or cousin or something.

Posted by happyface1
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Also I feel like he acts inappropriately around me. It makes it uncomfortable for me.

I think all I can do is stay away from them. Ugh... They live together so it's difficult to see them separately.
Ok. This may sound harsh. But your doing something to attract him.

Turn your sexy all the way down.

Be a good friend
My 'sexy' is non-existent. Believe me, I've done nothing but attempt to avoid him for the last few weeks.



Obviously not everything if youre writing here.

Her man with you is really turning you on. Enough so that you feel gulity.

Not guilty enough to stop that freight train of i want your man.

You fed into the energy completely ignoring your friend and disrespecting her relationship.

Just tell youre friend so she can see who you both really are and she cant make the decision to 86 you both.

Oh shut up. She hasn't even done anything with this guy, how has she disrespected their relationship? Because she has a crush on him? Big whoop. I don't see a problem, op, as long as you don't act on these feelings. Isolate yourself from him and you'll soon find someone else, I'm sure.


Girl or boy bye.

the poster admitted that there was inappropriate touching going on while no one was looking that he would initiate and she accepted.

But guess what ???

Did she tell her "friend".......................................uh no she didn't.

Sad when you think about. The poster and the guy are both foul as fuck.

She's no friend

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"He pokes me when he walks by" "ahahsndnsnjxnduebdndu INAPPROPIATE TOUCHING!! You're a bad FRIenD!!!!"

Get a grip.

Posted by DMV
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Also I feel like he acts inappropriately around me. It makes it uncomfortable for me.

I think all I can do is stay away from them. Ugh... They live together so it's difficult to see them separately.
Ok. This may sound harsh. But your doing something to attract him.

Turn your sexy all the way down.

Be a good friend
My 'sexy' is non-existent. Believe me, I've done nothing but attempt to avoid him for the last few weeks.



Obviously not everything if youre writing here.

Her man with you is really turning you on. Enough so that you feel gulity.

Not guilty enough to stop that freight train of i want your man.

You fed into the energy completely ignoring your friend and disrespecting her relationship.

Just tell youre friend so she can see who you both really are and she cant make the decision to 86 you both.

Oh shut up. She hasn't even done anything with this guy, how has she disrespected their relationship? Because she has a crush on him? Big whoop. I don't see a problem, op, as long as you don't act on these feelings. Isolate yourself from him and you'll soon find someone else, I'm sure.
Oooo i hit a nerve.

Its more than a crush. She wouldnt be wasting her time writing.here if it was some fly by night joe.

But he ain't.
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No, you didn't. You just made a bunch of wild and stupid assumptions. "Her man with you is really turning you on"?!?!? Like what, where did you get that from?

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Posted by happyface1
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Also I feel like he acts inappropriately around me. It makes it uncomfortable for me.

I think all I can do is stay away from them. Ugh... They live together so it's difficult to see them separately.
Ok. This may sound harsh. But your doing something to attract him.

Turn your sexy all the way down.

Be a good friend
My 'sexy' is non-existent. Believe me, I've done nothing but attempt to avoid him for the last few weeks.



Obviously not everything if youre writing here.

Her man with you is really turning you on. Enough so that you feel gulity.

Not guilty enough to stop that freight train of i want your man.

You fed into the energy completely ignoring your friend and disrespecting her relationship.

Just tell youre friend so she can see who you both really are and she cant make the decision to 86 you both.

Oh shut up. She hasn't even done anything with this guy, how has she disrespected their relationship? Because she has a crush on him? Big whoop. I don't see a problem, op, as long as you don't act on these feelings. Isolate yourself from him and you'll soon find someone else, I'm sure.


Girl or boy bye.

the poster admitted that there was inappropriate touching going on while no one was looking that he would initiate and she accepted.

But guess what ???

Did she tell her "friend".......................................uh no she didn't.

Sad when you think about. The poster and the guy are both foul as fuck.

She's no friend

"He pokes me when he walks by" "ahahsndnsnjxnduebdndu INAPPROPIATE TOUCHING!! You're a bad FRIenD!!!!"

Get a grip.

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Gonna need for you to get a grip on English. K
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Im actually surprised by your response AriesIntrovert16.

Tad disappointed you would cosign on such behavior.

What if your friend and your aqua.crush. were poking each other behind your back?

Youd smack the taste right out her mouth.

I'm not cosigning on her behavior.. Behavior-wise, she hasn't done anything yet. She agreed that she should stay away from him, and I believe she will. You can't stop other people from liking someone you're with. As long as that bitch doesn't try to cross that line with him, I don't see a problem with my friend feeling giddy around my man.

And I believe you're thinking of the wrong Aries, I don't have an aqua bf.

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Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Posted by happyface1
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Also I feel like he acts inappropriately around me. It makes it uncomfortable for me.

I think all I can do is stay away from them. Ugh... They live together so it's difficult to see them separately.
Ok. This may sound harsh. But your doing something to attract him.

Turn your sexy all the way down.

Be a good friend
My 'sexy' is non-existent. Believe me, I've done nothing but attempt to avoid him for the last few weeks.



Obviously not everything if youre writing here.

Her man with you is really turning you on. Enough so that you feel gulity.

Not guilty enough to stop that freight train of i want your man.

You fed into the energy completely ignoring your friend and disrespecting her relationship.

Just tell youre friend so she can see who you both really are and she cant make the decision to 86 you both.

Oh shut up. She hasn't even done anything with this guy, how has she disrespected their relationship? Because she has a crush on him? Big whoop. I don't see a problem, op, as long as you don't act on these feelings. Isolate yourself from him and you'll soon find someone else, I'm sure.


Girl or boy bye.

the poster admitted that there was inappropriate touching going on while no one was looking that he would initiate and she accepted.

But guess what ???

Did she tell her "friend".......................................uh no she didn't.

Sad when you think about. The poster and the guy are both foul as fuck.

She's no friend

"He pokes me when he walks by" "ahahsndnsnjxnduebdndu INAPPROPIATE TOUCHING!! You're a bad FRIenD!!!!"

Get a grip.



Gonna need for you to get a grip on English. K
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Good one. Maybe you should get a grip on your reasoning.

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Posted by happyface1
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Posted by happyface1
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Posted by DMV
Posted by Jardsi
Also I feel like he acts inappropriately around me. It makes it uncomfortable for me.

I think all I can do is stay away from them. Ugh... They live together so it's difficult to see them separately.
Ok. This may sound harsh. But your doing something to attract him.

Turn your sexy all the way down.

Be a good friend
My 'sexy' is non-existent. Believe me, I've done nothing but attempt to avoid him for the last few weeks.



Obviously not everything if youre writing here.

Her man with you is really turning you on. Enough so that you feel gulity.

Not guilty enough to stop that freight train of i want your man.

You fed into the energy completely ignoring your friend and disrespecting her relationship.

Just tell youre friend so she can see who you both really are and she cant make the decision to 86 you both.

Oh shut up. She hasn't even done anything with this guy, how has she disrespected their relationship? Because she has a crush on him? Big whoop. I don't see a problem, op, as long as you don't act on these feelings. Isolate yourself from him and you'll soon find someone else, I'm sure.


Girl or boy bye.

the poster admitted that there was inappropriate touching going on while no one was looking that he would initiate and she accepted.

But guess what ???

Did she tell her "friend".......................................uh no she didn't.

Sad when you think about. The poster and the guy are both foul as fuck.

She's no friend

"He pokes me when he walks by" "ahahsndnsnjxnduebdndu INAPPROPIATE TOUCHING!! You're a bad FRIenD!!!!"

Get a grip.



Gonna need for you to get a grip on English. K
Good one. Maybe you should get a grip on your reasoning.

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Got a grip on it and rollin with it.

To each their own. You have your thoughts on the matter. I have mine.
Posted by happyface1
Posted by AriesLove
Just stop acting! You know you want the man and it doesn't matter if it's your friends man. You'd probably sleep with him if he made the proposal to you.

I don't care how sexy he is, he's been sleeping with your friend. That's turn off #1.

If he's making any kind of advances or acting inappropriately towards you he's probably thinking "I can have them both." That's turn off #2

You met them both at the same time, if he wanted you he would've went after you and not her....right.

That's turn off #3

Stop fantasizing over this fool and find your own man. There's plenty!


HI........What she said ^^^^^

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He senses, that she is in love with him and making amends..... he pities her, because the OP´s love is obvious to him and he feels guilty for neglecting her....... OP, just stay away from them..... He senses your love, believe me

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Posted by starwars
yuck no...im that friend who keep an eye on them to see if they're gonna hurt my friend or not ?


Protective mode...how my bffs are with me and I with them.






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the same with me, I can be very protective, I can be very harsh, if my bff´s boyfriend is flirting with me or tries to touch me.... he would be deadsmile no way I would encounter in the "back and forth banter" what the OP mentions she has with him...... no way!!
thinking about it, this back and forth banter and allowing him to touch you is something unforgivable to me, who needs enemies with friends like you, OP....... sorry to say, just stay away from them, if you can´t handle him or your emotions....

and remember: no banter, no touching, dont engage in this boys actions....... and another thing: if he is doing this to her, he will do it to you, if you were together.......
Work on your willpower?

It's strange to me that people allow their emotions to go there. When I find out someone is taken, they get filed into the "no way in hell" category and feelings won't develop. It's just not an option in my mind and it's never been an issue.

I'd suggest trying to mentally get yourself out of this rut, as strange as it sounds.
I also have too much mental power over that… I have been in situations where the bf made me uncomfortable though. I stayed away for a long time because I know how that BS gets twisted.
Posted by Pandora101
thinking about it, this back and forth banter and allowing him to touch you is something unforgivable to me, who needs enemies with friends like you, OP....... sorry to say, just stay away from them, if you can´t handle him or your emotions....

and remember: no banter, no touching, dont engage in this boys actions....... and another thing: if he is doing this to her, he will do it to you, if you were together.......
Its just not the friend thing to do.

No matter, this seems like a challenge to her and she will in no time really cross the line.
Well, thanks for your replies.

Yes I feel guilty for having these feelings, and I'm in the process of trying to forget them. I never planned for this to happen, and it's never happened before.

I think he sees me as a potential good friend and so he's trying to be pally with me, but for me, my feelings went in a different direction.

Just to clear things up the whole 'touching' thing sounds a little bit wrong, it's more a kinda of, sisterly brotherly thing, he does things like poking me in the side and slapping me round the face quite a lot (playfully), or ruffling my hair.. but for me it's inappropriate because obviously I have these feelings for him, and it happens often. Although, he never does it openly when she is around, which is worrying.

I haven't seen them in a while now because I've been avoiding them, he did write to me the other day asking where I was and I ignored it.

I'm not trying to be a dick, unfortunately I'm clearly not as in control of my feelings as you all seem to be.

-shrugs-
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Posted by Jardsi
Well, thanks for your replies.

Yes I feel guilty for having these feelings, and I'm in the process of trying to forget them. I never planned for this to happen, and it's never happened before.

I think he sees me as a potential good friend and so he's trying to be pally with me, but for me, my feelings went in a different direction.

Just to clear things up the whole 'touching' thing sounds a little bit wrong, it's more a kinda of, sisterly brotherly thing, he does things like poking me in the side and slapping me round the face quite a lot (playfully), or ruffling my hair.. but for me it's inappropriate because obviously I have these feelings for him, and it happens often. Although, he never does it openly when she is around, which is worrying.

I haven't seen them in a while now because I've been avoiding them, he did write to me the other day asking where I was and I ignored it.

I'm not trying to be a dick, unfortunately I'm clearly not as in control of my feelings as you all seem to be.

-shrugs-


You need to tell him to chill. You aren't interested and you respect your friend. Period

But I doubt that you will because you are FAKE like most females that's why I don't keep them around.

Lonely heffa

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did you just sign yourself off as a lonely heffa?wow.


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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Work on your willpower?

It's strange to me that people allow their emotions to go there. When I find out someone is taken, they get filed into the "no way in hell" category and feelings won't develop. It's just not an option in my mind and it's never been an issue.

I'd suggest trying to mentally get yourself out of this rut, as strange as it sounds.
Really like this! I admire strong will and boundaries, very respectable

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The only time it's been tricky is if he gets taken after initial feelings develop. It's a bit harder to reverse out of it, but I eventually get there.

Posted by AriesLove
Posted by Jardsi
Well, thanks for your replies.

Yes I feel guilty for having these feelings, and I'm in the process of trying to forget them. I never planned for this to happen, and it's never happened before.

I think he sees me as a potential good friend and so he's trying to be pally with me, but for me, my feelings went in a different direction.

Just to clear things up the whole 'touching' thing sounds a little bit wrong, it's more a kinda of, sisterly brotherly thing, he does things like poking me in the side and slapping me round the face quite a lot (playfully), or ruffling my hair.. but for me it's inappropriate because obviously I have these feelings for him, and it happens often. Although, he never does it openly when she is around, which is worrying.

I haven't seen them in a while now because I've been avoiding them, he did write to me the other day asking where I was and I ignored it.

I'm not trying to be a dick, unfortunately I'm clearly not as in control of my feelings as you all seem to be.

-shrugs-


You need to tell him to chill. You aren't interested and you respect your friend. Period

But I doubt that you will because you are FAKE like most females that's why I don't keep them around.

Lonely heffa

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Aren't you just the insecure little twatwaffle? I'm sorry your culture harbors such trashy behavior and has clearly damaged your psyche, but not every female is like that honey bunch. Get over yourself. "Insecure and psycho bitch" trumps "fake" any day.
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by AriesLove
Posted by Jardsi
Well, thanks for your replies.

Yes I feel guilty for having these feelings, and I'm in the process of trying to forget them. I never planned for this to happen, and it's never happened before.

I think he sees me as a potential good friend and so he's trying to be pally with me, but for me, my feelings went in a different direction.

Just to clear things up the whole 'touching' thing sounds a little bit wrong, it's more a kinda of, sisterly brotherly thing, he does things like poking me in the side and slapping me round the face quite a lot (playfully), or ruffling my hair.. but for me it's inappropriate because obviously I have these feelings for him, and it happens often. Although, he never does it openly when she is around, which is worrying.

I haven't seen them in a while now because I've been avoiding them, he did write to me the other day asking where I was and I ignored it.

I'm not trying to be a dick, unfortunately I'm clearly not as in control of my feelings as you all seem to be.

-shrugs-


You need to tell him to chill. You aren't interested and you respect your friend. Period

But I doubt that you will because you are FAKE like most females that's why I don't keep them around.

Lonely heffa

Aren't you just the insecure little twatwaffle? I'm sorry your culture harbors such trashy behavior and has clearly damaged your psyche, but not every female is like that honey bunch. Get over yourself. "Insecure and psycho bitch" trumps "fake" any day.
Damn well you just proved me different...NOT!

Fake means jealous, petty, selfish, unworthy, gossipy, sneaky, spiteful, tricking, naive bishes like this one.

So put all trust in another human being and have a hoard of unhealthy insecure "lonely heffas" like this one that you obviously need to survive in your culture and I'll keep drama free without having to go psycho on an insecure Bish.

I'll never get over myself but nice try.

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You just described yourself, you dumb child.