Heartbroken Aries

If an aries becomes heartbroken, how do they handle it?

They cry... And they might revisit old places that remind them of the person/thing that broke their hearts. But eventually, they will bounce back, rather quickly. Possibly find something else to throw themselves into.

Well that's just what some might do.. Others might take a while to move on.. My Venus is in Taurus so I get stuck on people.

I am an aries, and completely heartbroken.

It's pain that I have never felt before and feel like my Hearst in a thousand pieces.

I can't eat, I can't sleep and am crying all day everyday. In front of my kids, in front of my friends and family. I am just a mess!

It's been 9 days and every day I seem to be getting worse. Any advice?

Posted by SugarAries
Aww I'm sorry 😢 do you wanna tell us what happened?

I know it's hard but you have to try and keep yourself busy. You have to find some way to keep your mind off of what's hurting you. Listen to upbeat music. Go on a bike ride. Is there anyone that can put you in a good mood? There's always one of my friends that can put things in perspective for me. I hope you have that person.

Thanks Sugararies

It's a long story, and I posted on the relationship forum. Nothing like a man to break our hearts! I just have never felt so much pain like it. I actually felt physically broken and crying so much I was sick and i have been struggling to breath? But us aries are strong and I know deep down at some point this will get easier.

It's just ten days in now, and every day is getting harder? I have my kids so I am trying so hard right now to keep my shit together and need to be the strong Arian woman that is deep down in our roots.

It's just killing me, deep down inside and I need to start to feel better 😢

I can relate. I'm pretty devastated about a recently broken relationship myself. I'm not sure if all Aries are like this, but I usually don't let people get close enough to cause damage if/when we part, except when my marriage ended and now.

I'd expected to be devastated for a while for the former, but have been struck dumbfounded by the depth of love and loss I feel for my recent breakup because I'd worked especially hard not to fall in love with him.

When we fall in love, apparently even when we try not to, we go all in.

Past relationships I've been sad about a breakup, but bounced back fairly quickly.

The general rule for healing is that you will likely grieve the loss for roughly half the amount of time you were together.

I was with my ex for about 6 years and looking back id say i didnt let anyone back in my heart for about 3 yrs, when this new guy came along.
its been a month since our end that I've been sobbing nonstop over the new one, heart wrenching mournful wailing I'd no idea I'd be feeling at this loss, but the more I let it out, I think the better it gets.

I don't like people to see me cry so I'll hold it in as long and as much as I can until I'm by myself. If someone catches me I tend to get a little mad, but its important to have a strong social support system to help through deep grief or you might head into a brain chemical downward spiral.

Force yourself to eat and schedules, keep busy with people around you all the time. Exercise as much as you can, every day at least a little, to try and get the positive chemicals flowing again. It's a neurological addiction and sometimes its like a junkie going through chemical withdrawal. It physically hurts the heart, increasing stroke and other poor health maladies.

Ten days is fine, 2wks it starts to taper, past 5wks and there may be clinical depression concerns.

This is what I know and am trying. Maybe it'll help? Right now I'm still deep in the pain and going through the motions and putting on the fake smile so I don't let it affect my son more than is absolutely necessary.

When I say past 5wks, I mean when you feel the majority of stuff here still past then:

can't eat, sleep or focus/decide
crying unexpectedly all the time
Irritability/anxiety more than typical and ever present
Loss of interest in things that used to make you happy, sex, your kids, work, hobbies, etc
Hopelessness, worthlessness, blame, and general unhappiness

Suicidal thinking is a huge red flag though that shouldn't be ignored as a signal for you to see someone to help you get through it.

Aww Anni, I really do feel for you!

We can't stop ourselves falling or even how hard and deep it is.

I must say I have decided now that I actually don't want to be with him anymore anyway. I think I didn't want it to end and I wanted it to work so badly and that's what messed my head up. But now I feel so much stronger and I think this is an aries thing.

When we decide no, that's it, I'm done. We mean it and from that moment onwards we don't look back.

Even this afternoon he has tried to ring me but I am moving on and looking to the future now. I am sleeping better and slowly my appetite is returning!

Let me know how your doing!

I have handled it pretty good before bouncing back faster than I thought I would. That's when I was younger....but the last time my heart was broken it just hasn't been healed the same or just yet.

I've lost hope in love and good men tho. I keep meeting abusive assholes who keep trying to break my spirit. I just don't understand what people get out of hurting others? I just want to to get away from all men. They scare me. Maybe after my saturn return I can date again. But I just can take anymore shit from any guys right now. I'm broken.

Posted by starlover
(((((hugs))))) to all that feel broken 😢

Does my aries moon qualify me to get part of that hug? =)

Get stabby.

HAHAHAHAHA. US? HEARTBROKEN?!

Hey Sug - Taurus Ascen / Merc in Pisces / Mars in Sag. Are we still twins? 😉

Ahhh - so you're probably even more liberated/whimsical than I am!

I read that as "lubricated/whimsical."

Is there *truly* a difference?

I don't get heartbroken I get even. I do not show people my sadness, I show them my revenge . I'm young I absorb my sadness in unhealthy/healthy ways. I either become so productive, I start achieving things. I accomplish goals. I work out and go to the gym.

or I self destruct. Abuse alcohol....party a lot. And that stop all of those things together.

Posted by jdugan
Is there *truly* a difference?

lol

Posted by Lurverlurver
Aww Anni, I really do feel for you!

We can't stop ourselves falling or even how hard and deep it is.

I must say I have decided now that I actually don't want to be with him anymore anyway. I think I didn't want it to end and I wanted it to work so badly and that's what messed my head up. But now I feel so much stronger and I think this is an aries thing.

When we decide no, that's it, I'm done. We mean it and from that moment onwards we don't look back.

Even this afternoon he has tried to ring me but I am moving on and looking to the future now. I am sleeping better and slowly my appetite is returning!

Let me know how your doing!

Yes, when we decide it's over, we shut it down, turn it off, throw it away and truly move on. No game playing and wishy washy-ness. It comes back in waves sometimes, but we push through and work hard to maintain the resolve.

I don't know why I still am not letting go so quickly, but I am emotionally better. I only cry a little and maybe every couple of days and it's not so intense anymore. I ran an obstacle course the other day and felt like I was eating up life again as I haven't done in years. I'm sorting through what I can, to take the good from what was. Family and some of my friends are telling me he's rebounding and being influenced by the new girl he's with and will return to me when he realizes how good we were together, but the images are seeping into my mind making me less desirous of the future I thought we were planning together. Realizing this effect I started peeking at facebook pics of them so I could further speed up the moving on process.

I really don't like this pining business as it makes me feel weak and pathetic. I like feeling untouched by breakups and strong. I'm sure I can find someone new to love me and I don't lack for suitors, I simply lack desire in being with anyone but him. Sigh, maybe I ate too much dark chocolate and watched too many romantic or victorian movies when I was younger, bleh. Feeling like a hopeless romantic sucks (when you're not in a romance). 🙂

At any rate, I'm smiling and things are better. I'm returning to the person I was before both long-term relationships ate up a decade and a half of my life. I'm still better for having gotten a great kid from the first and a reminder of what tenderness and ease of friendship can bring in a relationship. I wan

I want to regret falling in love "against my will", but it was the most loving and accepting relationship I've ever felt and I don't regret the way he knocked down my walls and left blessed memories there inside my heart to cherish always. That still overshadows his flaws for me right now. I'm sure that'll change in time.

And... Yes, I may cement that wall up again, but at least he reminded me of what I was missing in my life, helped me through some really tough stuff, and taught me what good love can look like, for the most part.

I think it's the final stage of grief (acceptance) & I'm almost there; then its just nostalgia after that.


How are you and your kids doing? better?