How could I be more assertive like Aries?
This topic was created in the Aries forum by buddhachris on Sunday, May 26, 2013 and has 8 replies.
At school, I was chosen to be student body Secretary. At our first student body meeting, I noticed that mostly everyone is a senior, a jock, or someone popular. I have a small group of friends and I'm a little introverted at first. Since I have to coordinate all the activities at my school, I obviously need to be more outgoing and direct. How could I quit being so mellow & shy, and start being a leader who people look up to? I know you Aries people are good at this stuff.
i think, in order to be a leader you need to first and foremost gain the respect of the people you're trying to lead. cuz nobody will listen to someone they don't respect so that's definitely number 1. you also need to be an inspiring figure that they feel comfortable putting their trust into. i found this great article.
How to Get and Keep Respect ??? 4 Practices
I believe one thing people want in life is respect. We want to feel valued, listened to, and called upon to do ordinary and extraordinary things. It is about self-worth, and it is about using our talents.
Respect is such a simple thing in concept. In practice, since other people are involved, respect gets more complicated. Self-interests are mixed in, so emotions and actions impact us in unexpected or adverse ways.
We cannot get distracted from who we really are and who we really want to be. After all, respect begins with self-respect, and this is the starting point in how to get and keep respect.
Practice 1: Engage self-respect.
We need to take care of ourselves first, meaning we need to:
??Expand our mind through learning and reading
??Improve our bodies through exercise and healthy eating
??Refresh our spirit through practices to center our soul and keep us on a purpose-filled path
Self-respect puts substance on our presence. It is not a one-time activity. It is a continuous flow of self-enhancement, self-awareness, and self-empowerment.
The point is self-respect needs to be at the core of how we gain respect in our community, workplace, family, and other places of interaction. Self-respect, however, is not arrogance. Arrogance rarely, if ever, inspires respect.
Practice 2: Exhibit strong humility.
Humility denotes self-confidence coupled with an understanding of place. By place, I mean we are not above others or certain standards. We hold ourselves accountable to a higher calling.
Humility is strength in who we are and what we are called to do while always being aware of how we fit into the world and support others around us. Yes, a long way to simply say ???If you want respect, don??t put yourself above others in an inappropriate or superior way.??
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???Consider replacing the weak image of humility with a picture of its authentic strengths. Tapping others?? talents shows your confidence. Hearing others?? opinions expands your view. Celebrating the whole instead of yourself extends your reach.??
I believe one thing people want in life is respect. We want to feel valued, listened to, and called upon to do ordinary and extraordinary things. It is about self-worth, and it is about using our talents.
Respect is such a simple thing in concept. In practice, since other people are involved, respect gets more complicated. Self-interests are mixed in, so emotions and actions impact us in unexpected or adverse ways.
We cannot get distracted from who we really are and who we really want to be. After all, respect begins with self-respect, and this is the starting point in how to get and keep respect.
Practice 1: Engage self-respect.
We need to take care of ourselves first, meaning we need to:
??Expand our mind through learning and reading
??Improve our bodies through exercise and healthy eating
??Refresh our spirit through practices to center our soul and keep us on a purpose-filled path
Self-respect puts substance on our presence. It is not a one-time activity. It is a continuous flow of self-enhancement, self-awareness, and self-empowerment.
The point is self-respect needs to be at the core of how we gain respect in our community, workplace, family, and other places of interaction. Self-respect, however, is not arrogance. Arrogance rarely, if ever, inspires respect.
Practice 2: Exhibit strong humility.
Humility denotes self-confidence coupled with an understanding of place. By place, I mean we are not above others or certain standards. We hold ourselves accountable to a higher calling.
Humility is strength in who we are and what we are called to do while always being aware of how we fit into the world and support others around us. Yes, a long way to simply say ???If you want respect, don??t put yourself above others in an inappropriate or superior way.??
???
???Consider replacing the weak image of humility with a picture of its authentic strengths. Tapping others?? talents shows your confidence. Hearing others?? opinions expands your view. Celebrating the whole instead of yourself extends your reach.??
Practice 3: Be active in our real life community.
To gain and retain respect, we need to act. Respect is about doing good works and inspiring others. It is not about recognition; it is about helping out and lifting up others. Our actions will really determine what level of respect we have.
Our actions may include:
??Mentoring others in the workplace or mentor kids who don??t have a father (see The Mentoring Project)
??Volunteering at school
??Getting involved in a community project
??Starting a leadership group to raise insights
??Smiling and engaging people in conversations
??Doing something positive often!
Being active translates into doing more than the minimum at home, work, and community. Respect gains more traction and staying power when our work is demonstrated more fully in more places.
Practice 4: Make good, reputable choices in what we say and do.
Our choices reflect an image, and the image is truly us. It may be like a shadow as described by Lolly Daskal, which ???lead us back to our purpose??_?? Our choices need to align with our purpose in living and leading.
The choices we make include the ones illustrating how we approach life and the ones made in the heat of a moment. In both, people will see our character in our life-long and split-second choices. Integrity in our choices will generate deeper respect.
A way to think of these four practices for getting and keeping respect can center on four core questions:
??Who are we? Leads to self-respect.
??How do we do things? Embraces humility.
??What do we do? Incorporates purpose-filled actions.
??Why do we do things? Inspires solid, positive big and small choices.
Each practice is intertwined. Good choices lead to stronger self-respect. Humility leads to strength in service and a more engaged community. The web of respect begins to extend, capturing the attention of others to weave their own threads of respect.
What practices do you embrace to get and keep respect?
To gain and retain respect, we need to act. Respect is about doing good works and inspiring others. It is not about recognition; it is about helping out and lifting up others. Our actions will really determine what level of respect we have.
Our actions may include:
??Mentoring others in the workplace or mentor kids who don??t have a father (see The Mentoring Project)
??Volunteering at school
??Getting involved in a community project
??Starting a leadership group to raise insights
??Smiling and engaging people in conversations
??Doing something positive often!
Being active translates into doing more than the minimum at home, work, and community. Respect gains more traction and staying power when our work is demonstrated more fully in more places.
Practice 4: Make good, reputable choices in what we say and do.
Our choices reflect an image, and the image is truly us. It may be like a shadow as described by Lolly Daskal, which ???lead us back to our purpose??_?? Our choices need to align with our purpose in living and leading.
The choices we make include the ones illustrating how we approach life and the ones made in the heat of a moment. In both, people will see our character in our life-long and split-second choices. Integrity in our choices will generate deeper respect.
A way to think of these four practices for getting and keeping respect can center on four core questions:
??Who are we? Leads to self-respect.
??How do we do things? Embraces humility.
??What do we do? Incorporates purpose-filled actions.
??Why do we do things? Inspires solid, positive big and small choices.
Each practice is intertwined. Good choices lead to stronger self-respect. Humility leads to strength in service and a more engaged community. The web of respect begins to extend, capturing the attention of others to weave their own threads of respect.
What practices do you embrace to get and keep respect?
also if you were specifically chosen for that position, that means you already have people looking up to you and believing in you. they chose you cuz they think you can and will do a good job 
I'm so thankful my mother is an Aries. She comes across like the boldest, most confident woman alive. She has definitely rubbed off on me...
If you want to look like a leader : ACT like it.
Even if you feel ridiculous, carry yourself like you was born to lead. Growing up I practiced this & everyone around me thought I was. Once you ACT like it, you start to become it...You start to believe it. Then once you believe it your peers will too.
Secondly, stop caring what others think. That's all shyness really is! You fear how you will come across to others. Don't think, just do! You have to have an attitude that you KNOW you are accepted & loved.
Lastly, join groups or clubs. That way you get to social on a larger scale. Put yourself out there.
If you want to look like a leader : ACT like it.
Even if you feel ridiculous, carry yourself like you was born to lead. Growing up I practiced this & everyone around me thought I was. Once you ACT like it, you start to become it...You start to believe it. Then once you believe it your peers will too.
Secondly, stop caring what others think. That's all shyness really is! You fear how you will come across to others. Don't think, just do! You have to have an attitude that you KNOW you are accepted & loved.
Lastly, join groups or clubs. That way you get to social on a larger scale. Put yourself out there.
Let's be honest: Aries people believe in the 'FAKE IT UNTIL YA MAKE IT' - we aren't as bold as we appear, but since we're so good at convincing ourselves that we are, we also fool other people in the process. ;P
^^ LOL!!
Rapunzel gots it... when you start acting like it, becomes what you make of it.
Rapunzel gots it... when you start acting like it, becomes what you make of it.
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