How do I get out of this 'cycle'? Aries trait?

Hello. I posted in the past about a Sagittarius that I"ve been dealing with for over 2 months now. Up until a few days ago I really liked him and wanted to be with him as much as I could. He is really into me and I was loving every second of it... then something happened... and I don't know what or why!!! It's really bugging me, though. All of a sudden I just want to be by myself... I'm feeling smothered and I want time for ME. I found him incredibly attractive in every way and all of a sudden I feel like he has too many 'faults' I didn't 'see' before... It even got so bad that I didn't even find him physically attractive last time I was there. We've gone past dating and are now in an exclusive, committed relationship. I don't want to end things because I know myself and this seems to happen almost every time I get into a serious relationship with someone... eventually I get over it and can continue the relationship nicely but when I"m at this 'stage' I don't even want to talk to him!!! Last night I wanted to stay home and he insisted I come over... so I begrudgingly went... I think that made it worse for me. He then started to ask me if I didn't want to spend time with him or if I didn't enjoy spending time with him anymore which made me feel very smothered and questioned. I understand completely where he is coming from because I would feel the same way if it were the other way around. I really don't want to go over tonight, I need a couple of days to assess this situation and stop being so damn 'picky' and annoyingly judgemental... but I don't want to hurt his feelings or tell him how I'm feeling because it's my problem, not his... I need to see if this is a 'phase' or if I'm really not that into him anymore... then I can honestly communicate with him.
My question is... is this normal behaviour for Aries women?? Is this something I should 'wait out' or approach with him? How would a Sagittarius male act towards me if I ask for a few days to myself? Any advice is greatly appreciated!!!!!!!!!

i'm leo but have aries moon and rising. I don't usually stick around for more than a couple weeks. I want the whole family thing but i can't even have a semi-long term relationship. I think it's too easy to see what you don't like to talk yourself out of falling for someone so that they never have the power to hurt you. or maybe your expectations are too high. maybe try the space thing... tell him not to contact you or anything for a week or so and see if he's on your mind or not. if he's not...then... NEXT!

Ooooo I had an Aries friend like this.
She's confusing to me. She's single to this day and always wondering why. Um....

She had this great Cancer guy who came to me for advice about her. I told him she liked to be spoiled. So he was really great and sent her flowers at work. He was really cute too 🙂 A really great catch. He had tons of girls after him but he only had eyes for her.
She was into him for awhile but randomly dumped him. I felt so sorry for him. He did every thing right! He was really hurt about it. He'd call me and cry (which was really uncomfortable for me). I thought he was great but she was my friend so I was loyal to her first ya know?
Anyway after him she dated this jerk that treated her like dirt but she was so into him!! It's the chase I guess. She called me crying because the jerk went on a vacation and invited his ex to go with him (he was suppose to be with my girl). I asked her why she let Cancer go and she said he was "too nice" and not much of a challange.
You Aries chicks are fun as hell but I'm glad I don't have to date you!! LOL You gals are a challange to keep on your toes!! 🙂

the aries men are like this too ,everything can be going along nicely then they just dissapear
i think they like the thrill of the chase ,or the getting back together after an absence
i also think they dissapear to think about things

I do the same thing too. It's almost as if we want to be loved and respected and appreciated, but once we get it; we gotta move on to the next person. We love that challenge! You gotta give in a little bit but still be that one we gotta chase after.
People need to learn not to give us your all, once we got it, it's nothing else left. Leave a little bit for the imagination...

Same problem but yet I'm dealing with Gem for the past year...

Strange I went thru that with a handsome Libra 4 years ago. I'm now trying to get with him again.

most of them do return back again,like they put you on hold in the background,especially if they know you love or care deeply for them
i think if they see your loyalty to them it's safe to dissapear
aries men are known for having more than one woman,then when they get tired of one they go back to the other
the question is ,if you allow them to do that it will keep happening.
i am a leo and have attracted a lot of aries men,in the beginning i made each one chase after me,but once i fell for them ,they were off and they all came back again .
i give second chances but after that its usually no more ,i try to understand them,think out of the box.
the last one i was involved in dissapeared in november its his birthday today but i won't be ringing or texting him,
which will surprise him because he'll be expecting it.
i also had this problem with female aries friends,but i think its immature and childish ,a way to get attention.

If I didn't know any better. I'd think I was on the Gemini forum.

Well I had an Aries to do me the same way. She said we were getting to close and she didn't know how to handle it. She was gone, no call, no text. Then out of the blue she called to check on me, we are friends to this day. It's been a year of off and on friendship, because she said I'm the only one that pushes her buttons. I'm the only one that gets her so mad, I told her that's because you love me. She's not the emotional type but she said I do and you know I do. So we still go out to dinner, do family things with her kids, argue like enemies, and laugh like lovers together but NOTHING SEXUAL. But I find myself having to play this come here, now go away game. It use to drive me crazy, now I just chill until she's ready or there's something I really want to do with her. So you Aries women are great, because there's no uncertainty when you are really into someone.

I asked her why she let Cancer go and she said he was "too nice" and not much of a challange.
You Aries chicks are fun as hell but I'm glad I don't have to date you!! LOL You gals are a challange to keep on your toes!!

LOLOLOLOL! Only nov_scorp will say that 😛
It's all in the head so quite easy if aries is into you, if they're not into you, forget it... i read something about aries a while ago 'natives of this sign can be your dream come true or your worse nightmare' and the funny thing about that is aries doesn't particularly care what you think or how you view them eitherway...

Frankly, I'm quite comfortable with my alone times 🙂 😢

PS: I don't like people that are too nice - makes me very uncomfortable... like they're trying to sell something about themselves - just can't put my head around it - usually turns out to be true from my experience

enjoying alone times or extreme independence makes it hard to see yourself in a partnership... and unrestricted partnership is the greatest test for aries natives... so to original question, getting out of the cycle is letting your guard down... can you do this?

I dont know how many times this has happened to me. I was actually dating a Sag, who is now my best friend. We had an off and on relationship, but although I knew he would make me happy and do anything for me, I felt unsatisfied, clustered, and confused most of the time. The more we were together the more I saw things I didn't like, and because I didnt talk about them, it just got worse. I would have to say it wasn't until we were friends that we actually spoke about things that happened in our relationship, things I didn't like. Truth is it is very hard for me to come out and deal with my emotions, I am just as scared as anyone else, but instead of showing it, i hide and run away. When I finally felt like I could come out of my shell emotionally, he did or said something that would make me run back inside. Its our fear that holds up back. But although I love him to death!!, he's just not the one for me and i would be settling by being with him, and i couldn't do that to him. No I have a wonderful Aquarius boyfriend that completely understands me, even when no words are spoken. We see the world differently but some how or another complete each other. He knows what to say to reassure me at those times when I just don't know, and strong enough to give me my space to figure things out, or just to breathe!!!!.... Measure things up, what exactly don't you like, what bugs you, and don't be afraid to tell him. If he is the one, then give him and yourself a chance. You'll never know unless you try. But don't just settle because he's a great guy. I've always dated wonderful men, the "great guy", but although they were great guy's they weren't the "right guy". (at least not for me). Sometimes I have moments when I'm aggregated and just want to fly away, but I tell my guy to not let me.. all he tells me is that "he isn't going anywhere, and he'll never let me go"... (and it calms me down, and instead of wanting to run away, i want to run towards him)

Because Aries tend to jump into relationships. If you take longer to really get to know the other person on a friendship level first then you discover incompatabilities way ahead of time before anyone (hopefully) gets hurt.

Waiting also leaves you more time to think & dream about the person and the possibilities so it is much more fulfilling when you finally get together.

also aries woman like to do the chasing......