How To Deal With Selfish Ish?

Aries if you have any clarity, you realize at times that you are selfish.
What is the best way to get you to be on even terms? To realize you are selfish.
It seems you all respect power, and with my girlfriend, I have asserted myself harshly and been respected.
But I realize this is not sustainable because you all get knocked over, rebuild, and attack again.
What is a sustainable way to manage the Arian lack of perception and selfishness.

Posted by sikkario

What is a sustainable way to manage the Arian lack of perception and selfishness.

LOL!! lack of perception and selfishness can mean anything, need more information than this...

I take her out, but she hasn't offered to make me dinner lately.
I fear she'll to come expect luxuries for granted because I often act chivalrous and want to provide for her.
She misinterprets me, thinking that perhaps I want her to buy me things, when in fact I would rather her prepare me a meal when she's at my house.

She'll only have sex when she wants to, and sometimes she'll want to but she just want's to be stubborn because she is self-conscious or something. She told me this and I'll have a hard time reading her because it times she more or less wants me to force her as bad as that sounds. She likes conflict, and I have trouble reading when she wants conflict and when she's just not up to it.

Further, she won't do little things that I do to her that I know she enjoys to me, simple stuff like licking eachothers ears and what-not. I find this to be the definition of selfish and it really pisses me off.

She's apprehensive about felatio until I basically force it upon her and then she becomes enthusiastic.
I enjoy providing the reciprocal for her but she never asks for it, and I do it when I want to.

For some background information, I'm a September 6th Virgo and she is an April 19th Aries Taurus, apparently for her year however, Taurus was the sun sign of April 19th. My Moon is Libra, and hers is Aries, my Venus is Libra, and hers is Aries.
We have attraction synastry in every regard. I also took her Virginity.

I suppose what bothers me, is that she seems very silent and docile at times, but then she wants me to be aggressive and be in conflict with her. I am capable of this, but it also frightens me, because I do not want to hurt her.

She's expressed her desire for a long term relationship with me, and I mean like -LONG-TERM- but I know if my physical needs aren't met, that it won't be possible. Especially considering I go far out of my way to meet all her others needs.

What do you guys think? I'm thinking talking to her about it and then being prepared to play dominant alpha male to hold up the new institution.

I can deal with the conflict dynamic, I just need to learn to read her better...perhaps tho there is no reading, perhaps Aries just likes a guy to be a Lion and always be in struggle with him in every single situation...hmm?

I'll get it to you.
All I remember off the top is.
Sun Virgo
Moon Libra
Venus Libra
Mars Capricorn

and hers
Sun Taurus (Aries?)
Moon Aries
Venus Aries
Mars Cancer

I think we're walking the lines of compatibility. Cuspin' hard as I like to call it. Because Taurus was the Sun Sign when she was born for April 19th, howver, even if it were Aries only, she would be very close to Taurus and our other synastries are in super high attraction levels.
We can't keep our hands off eachother.
And yes, Arian warmth is something I've never experienced in my life. It is like a warmer more intense Taurus affection, or a stable trustworthy Pisces passion.
Aries warmth and affectionate is so brave and substantial, it seems trustworthy. It's the first time I've seen a girl so impassioned and had no doubt of it's sincerity or fear of it.
Her fire, has awakened my own quiet dormant Virgo passion, to the point where she's overwhelmed by the force and presence that comes from my lack of composure. I hardly ever lose control, but with her I do, and she is in awe of it because I am so bottled up and she knows it only pours for her.

You said you took her virginity. That makes her new to everything. You can't expect her to throw down like a porn star buddy man. Doesn't work that way. And if she's naturally shy you have to work on that one too.