How to get an Aries man to come back after a breakup?

This topic was created in the Aries Men forum by Cancerleo91 on Thursday, August 9, 2018 and has 34 replies.
His signs

Sun: Aries

Moon: Aries

Rising: Taurus

Venus: Pisces

Mars: Scorpio


Ok so we have been doing good but I am a cancer/Leo cusp sign so I get the bad mood swings and last weekend I had a bad one. I’m super stressed because of stuff at work, my ex and my child support, and just a lot of stuff going on.. I asked my Aries man for reassurance and honestly I just wanted to be held. He couldn’t do it.. I don’t think he understood what I was asking for? Idk but he ended up just asking me to take him home which made me feel super rejected after already feeling depressed and so I got upset and when we got into the car I said “I don’t think this is going to work.. you and me” I was trying to say “it’s not going to work if you can’t provide me with the small amount of emotional support I ask for every once in a while (because I typically do not need it very often. Most of the time my Leo personality is in the front so I like space and doing activities and having fun)” but before I could get the last part out, my Aries guy reacted to the first part only and completely blew up!! loke started yelling, almost cried.. threaten to call the cops on me.. told me to stay away from his children. Then his daughter got in the car and he loudly told her I broke up with him, to which I replied I didn’t break up I was trying to talk to you, and then he said “well I’m breaking up with you” and threw a few fuck you’s my way. So we ended there. I’m miserable. I tried to text a few times to explain my side and apologize. All were ignored so I left him alone. He then asked me to bring him some of his stuff 2 days later so I did. When I got there he looked sad and asked if I wanted to still get the kids together one day and hang out. I told him sure, he also asked to hug me and I let him. And then I left. I left him a note with his stuff with another apology letting him know that I’m not perfect but how I reacted to my stress was wrong and that I’m going to start some therapy to deal with my past stuff so I won’t make statements that try to end things so quickly anymore.. I recognize that in my moods I can become self destructive but I didn’t want to end our relationship. He didn’t respond to me at all that day or the next. Then he texted me today asking for me to come over with my son and he would have his son there so we could try the hanging out thing.


Does this mean we are getting back together? Am I just his friend now?


Uhggff


My signs:

Sun: Leo/cancer cusp

Moon: Capricorn

Rising: Aquarius

Venus: Virgo

Mars: Virgo

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I will say that I am giving him space only replying when he reaches out now. I just don’t want to end up just being friends and I’m wondering if he hooked up with people when we were apart? I don’t want to think about it but it’s creeping in.
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Girl, let him stew for a while. Aries men blow up and need time to their self and then he'll be back. Just stay busy and don't be a pushover for him because he will lose respect for you. He'll be back with his tail tucked between his legs. Go out and make him wonder who you're hooking up with!
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WTH is wrong with him?


Was he stressed as well?
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Break was about 5 days ago. Also he cancelled the hangout for today.
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Posted by Cancerleo91

Break was about 5 days ago. Also he cancelled the hangout for today.
Did he say why?
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OP, you said something like he is not really into sex, now he is not giving you emotional support...


what are his qualities, again?


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Posted by Pandora101

OP, you said something like he is not really into sex, now he is not giving you emotional support...


what are his qualities, again?


Well all the typical Aries qualities. Spontaneous, loving, he is quite kind in his gestures to me, child like in a cute way, creative, never boring, etc
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Posted by bmoon8

Are you a Leo or Cancer? You are either one or the other. You are not two signs. You can check on astro.com


I wouldn't give anymore apologies... what's done is done. I don't think he would have been with another girl so fast, so don't let your insecurities get the better of you.


If you want to know if you're just friends or not, ask him when he brings up hanging out again.

Most people would say there is no such thing as astrology in general and yet here we are. I believe in chaos and I recognize thy I have the traits of both since I was born right in the middle of cancer and leo. So yes I am both whether you believe it or not.
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Update: he texted me.. told me he missed me and was sorry for canceling our day yesterday. He essentially didn’t want to label us anymore so I couldn’t figure out what he wanted via text but We finally got to hang out and it was really fun and good and I could tell he did miss it a lot, and he was conflicted. Eventually he told me he needed to talk to me about us, and he has feelings I can tell but he also said we will just see if we enjoy each other’s time. He’s trying to figure out the situation and why it turned out the way it did but he doesn’t understand and I think he’s super hesitant to fully get back with me? After hanging out his 2 daughters asked to spend the night with me and I thought he was going to cry.. he seemed really happy about it. And when we left he hugged me right and told me he loved me and I apologized to him again and told him I would never do it and he said “I know” or something like that and then I left. I texted him when I made it home that I loved him but he ignored it.. I’m so confused.
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Posted by bmoon8

Posted by Cancerleo91

Posted by bmoon8

Are you a Leo or Cancer? You are either one or the other. You are not two signs. You can check on astro.com


I wouldn't give anymore apologies... what's done is done. I don't think he would have been with another girl so fast, so don't let your insecurities get the better of you.


If you want to know if you're just friends or not, ask him when he brings up hanging out again.

Most people would say there is no such thing as astrology in general and yet here we are. I believe in chaos and I recognize thy I have the traits of both since I was born right in the middle of cancer and leo. So yes I am both whether you believe it or not.
Your sun sign is at a certain degree when you are born. For example, my sun is 4 degrees Aries, so I am an Aries. Your sun cannot be both signs. A sun sign ends at 29 degrees and another sun sign starts at 0 degrees.


If you are a Cancer.. Aries is not the best match for you. Cancer is very sensitive and cries a lot. They also give up on relationships easily. An Aries will run over your sensitivities.
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Look up cusp signs. That is what I am, sun sign if Leo but because I am so close to cancer sign (July 23) I also get some cancer traits.
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Posted by bmoon8

Posted by Cancerleo91

Posted by bmoon8

Are you a Leo or Cancer? You are either one or the other. You are not two signs. You can check on astro.com


I wouldn't give anymore apologies... what's done is done. I don't think he would have been with another girl so fast, so don't let your insecurities get the better of you.


If you want to know if you're just friends or not, ask him when he brings up hanging out again.

Most people would say there is no such thing as astrology in general and yet here we are. I believe in chaos and I recognize thy I have the traits of both since I was born right in the middle of cancer and leo. So yes I am both whether you believe it or not.
Your sun sign is at a certain degree when you are born. For example, my sun is 4 degrees Aries, so I am an Aries. Your sun cannot be both signs. A sun sign ends at 29 degrees and another sun sign starts at 0 degrees.


If you are a Cancer.. Aries is not the best match for you. Cancer is very sensitive and cries a lot. They also give up on relationships easily. An Aries will run over your sensitivities.
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Now lookgirl, I appreciate you.. your feedback is awesome but I’m gonna need you to stop telling me your opinions on this as if they are facts. If they are not, if you have not heard of chap signs and the traits that go to them that does not mean they aren’t real. Obviously I’ve done my research on this which is why I have information on it. But again, July 23 is a leo however I do not match all the leo traits. I have a lot of cancer traits in my sun sign as well which i realize is because my bday is on that birthday. A lot of times I oscillate between being like a leo and being like a cancer and it helps me to be more nurturing than the typical leo while also being less sensitive than the typical cancer. I’m able to look outside of myself more than the typical leo, while also enjoying having attention and being bold which is unlike the cancer. I do get mood swings but I do not cry all the time.
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Posted by Cancerleo91

Posted by bmoon8

Posted by Cancerleo91

Posted by bmoon8

Are you a Leo or Cancer? You are either one or the other. You are not two signs. You can check on astro.com


I wouldn't give anymore apologies... what's done is done. I don't think he would have been with another girl so fast, so don't let your insecurities get the better of you.


If you want to know if you're just friends or not, ask him when he brings up hanging out again.

Most people would say there is no such thing as astrology in general and yet here we are. I believe in chaos and I recognize thy I have the traits of both since I was born right in the middle of cancer and leo. So yes I am both whether you believe it or not.
Your sun sign is at a certain degree when you are born. For example, my sun is 4 degrees Aries, so I am an Aries. Your sun cannot be both signs. A sun sign ends at 29 degrees and another sun sign starts at 0 degrees.


If you are a Cancer.. Aries is not the best match for you. Cancer is very sensitive and cries a lot. They also give up on relationships easily. An Aries will run over your sensitivities.
Now lookgirl, I appreciate you.. your feedback is awesome but I’m gonna need you to stop telling me your opinions on this as if they are facts. If they are not, if you have not heard of chap signs and the traits that go to them that does not mean they aren’t real. Obviously I’ve done my research on this which is why I have information on it. But again, July 23 is a leo however I do not match all the leo traits. I have a lot of cancer traits in my sun sign as well which i realize is because my bday is on that birthday. A lot of times I oscillate between being like a leo and being like a cancer and it helps me to be more nurturing than the typical leo while also being less sensitive than the typical cancer. I’m able to look outside of myself more than the typical leo, while also enjoying having attention and being bold which is unlike the cancer. I do get mood swings but I do not cry all the time.
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Cusp* not chap lol
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Another update!!!!!!


After hanging out with his kids I dropped them off and he hugged me for like 5 mins straight and kissed my neck and apologized for it lol and then as we were ending the hug we both mutually kissed and he said “this is just a friendly peck” and I said ok I’ll see you later, as we have plans to hangout tonight. Of course I don’t want to be just friends, I feel so much chemistry between us so I know we r not just friends but I am letting him take his time on whatever he is feeling about us..
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What is that crap about Cancers being too sensitive and cry all the time? My Mom is a Cancer and I had hardly ever seen her cry and she isn’t sensitive at all! She doesn’t give a damn and does what she wants...some of you just pulling shit out of your ass...
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@cancerleo91


Listen doll, I do hope that your Aries will pull his head out of his ass and see a clear picture of who you are and appreciate his kids likes you...

However...wtf is his problem on such a small issue you had?

‘Just a friendly peck?’ - that would make me go nasty!!!

I am boiling in my own shit but it’s only continuing because he never ever said anything or done anything to make me mad or upset! I don’t know how we managing it but we just do! I know if I slip - he will be gone. Though I am crazy bitch otherwise!

Apparently he knows his shit and behaving so I won’t go beserk...


I wish you all possible best but I don’t like his shitty ‘favors’ like ignoring your heartfelt text and treating you like if he caught you naked in bed with someone else...


Maybe you need to let him have it?

Sometimes it works!

Just saying. Hope you’ll have all you want and this ‘sensitive’ man will just realize what he is having and what he might lose. Hugs
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Posted by Gemitati

@cancerleo91


Listen doll, I do hope that your Aries will pull his head out of his ass and see a clear picture of who you are and appreciate his kids likes you...

However...wtf is his problem on such a small issue you had?

‘Just a friendly peck?’ - that would make me go nasty!!!

I am boiling in my own shit but it’s only continuing because he never ever said anything or done anything to make me mad or upset! I don’t know how we managing it but we just do! I know if I slip - he will be gone. Though I am crazy bitch otherwise!

Apparently he knows his shit and behaving so I won’t go beserk...


I wish you all possible best but I don’t like his shitty ‘favors’ like ignoring your heartfelt text and treating you like if he caught you naked in bed with someone else...


Maybe you need to let him have it?

Sometimes it works!

Just saying. Hope you’ll have all you want and this ‘sensitive’ man will just realize what he is having and what he might lose. Hugs
Yeah it confused me frustrated me. Uhg. It’s so hard finding the delicate balance he needs because he is super needy right now, and I have to make sure all my words make the perfect sense for the “equation” in his mind to work out and him to accept us again. He’s scared to jump back in with me.. that’s something I can tell.
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Posted by Waterbearerwearer

@cancerleo91 Aries as you can see haaaate being called out.

Their quasi false egos can’t deal



You’re beautiful mama. Stand your ground and be fearless in pursuits.

He won’t go anywhere if you hold the fort but if you chase and apologise for shit that isn’t yours to own then you’ll be miserable and confused.

Much like now


I’d move on if I were you. Life isn’t for stressing.

Ps you’re very pretty no short of good men to placate your needs.
Thank you smile I have been holding my side down and just owning my part in things while acknowledging he has his own shit to own. I will just keep focusing on my happiness if it will be with him great if not I will not wait for him if he doesn’t see I’m still good for him.
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Next update. We hung out and talked more. He was more emotional as he was talking but made it clear that.. me almost leaving basically destroyed Him because he was beginning to invest everything into us, his kids, his home life, big decisions.. and for it to end so sud
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and for it to end so suddenly scared him ALOT. He didn’t understand why we didn’t stop the arguement before it ended and basically told me had I said different words to de escalate things we would have never gotten to the end part and he’s afraid of jumping back in and us getting to that place again.. I’m trying so hard to just show him that I learned from this and that I wouldn’t make this mistake again but also trying to help him see that love is a risk and it’s emotional and things can’t be controlled that way. It’s so hard and then he asked me to give him time to decide if he wants to take the risk and that just pissed me off because I am a freakin good woman!! Why do you need time to decide to be with me?? So I told him this upset me but whatever and was heading out to leave and he stopped me and kissed me and told me he loves me and that he would make sure everything works out for everyone and went back inside and I went home.. so I just feel stupid lol I have no idea wtf to do at this point and I’m sick of trying to convince him to be with me. I have no idea If the I love you and kiss meant that we are good now? Wtf.. I’m gonna see him tomorrow morning so idk. Uhg.
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Posted by bmoon8

Posted by Cancerleo91

Posted by bmoon8

Posted by Cancerleo91

Posted by bmoon8

Are you a Leo or Cancer? You are either one or the other. You are not two signs. You can check on astro.com


I wouldn't give anymore apologies... what's done is done. I don't think he would have been with another girl so fast, so don't let your insecurities get the better of you.


If you want to know if you're just friends or not, ask him when he brings up hanging out again.

Most people would say there is no such thing as astrology in general and yet here we are. I believe in chaos and I recognize thy I have the traits of both since I was born right in the middle of cancer and leo. So yes I am both whether you believe it or not.
Your sun sign is at a certain degree when you are born. For example, my sun is 4 degrees Aries, so I am an Aries. Your sun cannot be both signs. A sun sign ends at 29 degrees and another sun sign starts at 0 degrees.


If you are a Cancer.. Aries is not the best match for you. Cancer is very sensitive and cries a lot. They also give up on relationships easily. An Aries will run over your sensitivities.
Now lookgirl, I appreciate you.. your feedback is awesome but I’m gonna need you to stop telling me your opinions on this as if they are facts. If they are not, if you have not heard of chap signs and the traits that go to them that does not mean they aren’t real. Obviously I’ve done my research on this which is why I have information on it. But again, July 23 is a leo however I do not match all the leo traits. I have a lot of cancer traits in my sun sign as well which i realize is because my bday is on that birthday. A lot of times I oscillate between being like a leo and being like a cancer and it helps me to be more nurturing than the typical leo while also being less sensitive than the typical cancer. I’m able to look outside of myself more than the typical leo, while also enjoying having attention and being bold which is unlike the cancer. I do get mood swings but I do not cry all the time.
People assume that Hitler is an Aries. He was born on the Aries/Taurus cusp, but he is actually a Taurus when it comes down to it. His sun is at 0 degrees Taurus.


I am not sharing opinions as facts, I am just speaking the truth. No one can be two different signs. You are either one or the other based on when you were born. Check your chart, it will tell you.


So you're a Leo. Whatever you're doing, it's working to get the Aries back. You shouldn't have to do too much to get him back. Good luck!
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Well my birth chart shows leo so technically I am leo. I still have some cancer traits. Lol I’ll leave it as an agree to disagree.. but I appreciate all the info you have given me.
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Posted by FantamRooster

Your posts seem to indicate that it has been one struggle after another with you two pretty much from the beginning of the relationship. Are you sure you really should be focusing on getting him back? It's possible to love someone you just aren't compatible with. Sometimes you have to let it go.


True but I don’t give up easily. There’s been a lot of good in the relationship, albeit with the struggle. I feel it’s worth fighting for. But trust me, if we continue and I get to the point where I no longer see the value, it will be over.. no trying no caring no nothing.
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Sorry to hear that cancer/Leo hope things get better
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Welp last update. He slept with 2 people while I was trying to get back with him.
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What a complete and utter bstard
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Posted by JanMayMarry

Posted by Cancerleo91

Welp last update. He slept with 2 people while I was trying to get back with him.
Wow! Where did you get that info from?


That's fucked up!
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He’s trying to get back with me now. Feels guilty wanted to let me know
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You can't go back!!!
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Posted by Cancerleo91

Posted by JanMayMarry

Posted by Cancerleo91

Welp last update. He slept with 2 people while I was trying to get back with him.
Wow! Where did you get that info from?


That's fucked up!


He’s trying to get back with me now. Feels guilty wanted to let me know
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Did he say "it didn't mean anything". Lol.


I've heard quite a lot of men say that 😳


Women talk with their friends and men go to have sex with women they don't love....


Pathetic...I'd ignore him, he sounds weak...


Jfc
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Girl, pick up your pride and DON'T TAKE HIM BACK. I'd be afraid of catching an STD from that one.
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It might be a test


Aries like to do that sometimes. Walk!!!


No contact, and be nonchalant when he contacts u. I think Aries has a strong dislike for doormats.


If he tries super hard to get you back....maybe see if it was true


If not at least you know he didn’t value the relationship as much as you did


Cyber hugs 🤗
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I attempted to forgive him and get back together with him, but then he started making everything about him and saying how he felt "demoted" in the relationship.. and wondering if a fresh start would be easier. I was pissed lol so I broke up with him this morning and told him we can be friends and that I was going to date other people.
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Aries ppl don't do well with other ppls emotions it's overwhelming and draining we yell, throw tantrums basically childish behavior at that point we need space because we're a fire sign our anger is a raging fire fulled inside of us that some of us don't know how to calm so we say crazy things we don't mean some things can be really hurtful but we don't mean what we say out if anger wait for him to calm down he will come back around. When he does don't question your relationship status he will let you know for now allow him to make amends in his own way don't push him for an answer either he may leave and not turn back when he's ready to talk listen. For now just look at it as a friendship bc that's what any relationship is based off of we vaule friendships more then any relationship we can have.
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Unfortunately it is all about us Aries we don't always think of the others feelings however if you listen to what they have to say first then you talk their more inclined to listen.
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Next update.. a lot happened. So after the whole breaking up and sleeping with 2 people thing, we managed to get through that because in my heart he didn't cheat. The fight led to us breaking up and (those sneaky bitches) saw him become vulnerable and made their move quickly. Whatever. He needed comfort they provided it. He missed me after that and he was honest when he told me what happened. Ok. Then he felt like because I forgave him of that, I must only be with him to hurt him and that's why he kept saying a fresh start would be easier because he was paranoid on my intentions and felt "demoted" in the relationship, I broke up with him when he said that, and we managed to get back together to talk things out and he told me he understands if I only want friendship but that he wants more than that.. he told me why he loves me and that he will not stop loving me and trying to be with me until we are no longer breathing, but he won't "fight" for me, he will let me make the decision I want and respect it. I decided to give the relationship another chance. From that point we have been really good. We are working on how we communicate and have been talking a lot more.. mainly him talking and me listening because he has a lot of ideas on how to make us better communication wise.. and he knows the communication part is why we broke up in the first place and doesn't want us to end up there again. We also have made steps to moving in together, he is moving really slow in the process as I think it scares him to completely let go of himself and put himself fully in the relationship, also he needs freedom.. so he is also keeping his other place for now. In 2 months I let him know I would need him to pay rent at this new place with me or I would get a roommate and he said within 2 months he should be good with it. We both like our own space and we both aren't rushing the other for anything other than spending time together and making sure the time is good. Idk. I'll let you guys know if more happens and I always welcome your thoughts on stuff. Dating Aries men is complicated.. they are tough lol I've seen him have multiple tantrums and he definitely reminds me of a vulnerable child at times.. he also still demands to lead.. and I've had to switch roles with him a lot.. from being dominant to submissive constantly. I challenge him a lot but after I challenge him I hear him out it's a weird balance.
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