I need advice on Aries men

Hi there. Im a Virgo. and I really like this Aries dude. I guess we have been dating since August? But he wont make me his Girlfriend. But he wants to see me everyday and I sleep over every night and whatever. And when I ask him about making me his girlfriend he just says he cant. Sometimes its because im not fearless enough for him. and other times he says its because hes just fucked up with relationships. Also he constantly travels back and forth from here to LA. He tells me he loves me..but I know he doesn't mean IN love with me. but recently I got mad at him and simply just didn't talk to him for one whole day. he didn't talk to me either but when I finally saw him he said " I really like you" almost like " i like you " means more than the I love yous..you can feel it in his voice and his energy..anyway. I think I should just be patient. And wait for him. he doesn't need to know that. obviously I think it would scare him away if he knew I was waiting for him. I mean I REALLY like him and the thought of someone else is just so disgusting... he likes me to but hes going to run around all over the place doing his own things...sometimes it hurts me really badly to think im just not THE perfect girl for him..but then he says something or does something out of nowhere that I didn't ask for thats so sweet...it lures me back in...But just wondering what your thoughts are. should I wait around??

i KNOW! that's the hard part... I have tried to do just that. move on and not speak to him..but then he texts me all like..I miss you. and " I hope you talk to me one day" and I sit there and ignore him. But he plants this seed the grows in my thoughts..and I cant help but talk to him again. Sometimes Im convinced that why would I throw away something so amazing? all for a title? and then all of a sudden that title means everything to me..its a horrible sometimes..BUt damnit..hes in LA now..and I miss him. Maybe that's why im being so nice about him right now.

I want him to fall in love with me so badly..because true love for an Aries man is so pure and perfect..like they are perfectionist when it comes to really loving someone. and they don't settle for less..and if he could love me like that I would feel perfect in everything else...

wow that sounded crazy...

Posted by orkdoop
I want him to fall in love with me so badly..because true love for an Aries man is so pure and perfect..like they are perfectionist when it comes to really loving someone. and they don't settle for less..and if he could love me like that I would feel perfect in everything else...

wow that sounded crazy...

It's true their love is perfect when they are really in love. As my boyfriend put it, "If an Aries doesn't feel he has found his soulmate/other half he will always keep one eye open and options available." If you're not it, then you're not it and there is nothing that can be done. You can offer him the chase but eventually when Aries get what they want, they don't want it anymore. It feels like there has to be a balance between the chase and being truly in love. I think they work best with very independent women but also women with a "damsel in distress" appeal to them. Thing with Aries men is that they can't seem to quite grasp that their perfect woman may be nonexistent lol. It seems like they expect an airbrush model with complete perfection in every possible aspect, who also happens to be a virgin and a wh*re. When they realise that their princess has a lot of flaws, they are turned off. It's weird. I sometimes feel like Aries in love is a fantasy for awhile and then they snap back to reality. Yet, leaving you really confused to what you did wrong. And leaving you with promises they thought they could keep. Best thing is when they are "drunk in love" it's best for you to keep grounded. If he isn't going anywhere with you, realise that there are more Arian fish in the sea and you could be some Aries "perfect love" one day. If an Aries really wants you in his future and cannot be without you, he will let you know in every possible way.

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Posted by orkdoop

If he isn't going anywhere with you, realise that there are more Arian fish in the sea and you could be some Aries "perfect love" one day. If an Aries really wants you in his future and cannot be without you, he will let you know in every possible way.

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That's it in a nutshell

I wonder if I should just stop texting him..not that I text him very much...but just let him fade away? but if he doesn't leave me alone..I don't know if ill be able to ignore him..

its sucks..because its isnt like..he DOESNT like me. ya know? but, you all ARE right, why WOULD I want to be with him. Its confusing because we dont see other people..

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
you can be with him, just dont expect it to be a bf-gf type of relationship, maybe just accept it for what it is and see how things develop. Have peace with it instead of pushing for your own will.

yeah I think thats what I have been telling myself to do. and Its better this way because he still talks to me every single day. he doesnt really talk to any one as much as me...so that in itself is good.

I dont know. I guess I shall enjoy it while it is here. I think Aries women and men are extremely different. same with Virgo women and Men. its like..Virgo men kind of like control..and Aries women are like, really outgoing and get angry REALLY fast. so..they are not controllable..BUT Virgo women are kind of servants and quiet (at least I am) and Aries men always do what they want and need babying. so it kind of works...anyway...

BUT get this....he is a Aries with Moon in Scorpio..and im a Virgo with moon in Scorpio...he is like ...a gentile Aries(as gentile as Aries can be anyway)..anyone know anything or anyone who is Aries with Scorpio moon?

i am an Aries guy and often feel misunderstood and labeled something more sinister than who I am. When I care for someone, I pour an AMAZING amount of myself into that person, wanting to be a passionate friend, passionate listener, passionate mate, to the point I get confused as to why I have to say words at all. I feel like I have shown who I am and what I can be, and social contracts seem like boxes that don't do justice to what more we can be/do. I want nothing more than a soul mate and someone to pour my passions into, but once it becomes some complicated adult- style contract, I feel like I have to be someone I am not, or do things on some schedule and I am expected that day forward to be perfect, rational, reliable, predictable, I just am like wow, that job seems too demanding and I won't have anytime to be a hero, or have fun with that person, or who knows what.

Not afraid of any contracts or understandings, I just want them to be TRUE understandings, not something someone else does that we go along with for the ride, like because its tradition.

I personally think this Aries in your life is ethical and wants to be honest, and wants what he feels to be true love before saying I love you and not lie and have to work them self out of a broken heart of their own doing, either theirs or yours.

Don't be afraid to be blunt with the person, and don't take their answer the wrong way. Doesn't mean they don't care for you, it could just mean they don't know how to express it so simply as "I love you", it sometimes doesn't feel like it expresses exactly how much we care or what we love about that person.