Posted by Gobshite
What's hilarious is that you both saw the Aries flaw in each other but not in yourselves...
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
What did you say to her? That's the real question.
You claim you "wisely diffused" the situation while conveniently leaving out exactly what you said to her.
Tell exactly what went down and don't sugarcoat the story to make yourself look like the reasonable one.
Posted by Gooober
She didnt like that you tried to diffuse. Its like you didnt take her seriously enough to argue with her. Shes weak though lol.
Posted by AriesFireKnightPosted by Gooober
She didnt like that you tried to diffuse. Its like you didnt take her seriously enough to argue with her. Shes weak though lol.
Now that you've said that, I really argued with her a little bit, but I saw, and I known that she is an emotional person (but i wasn't expecting that for sure) so when I saw that the disscution was turning into a fight I tried to switch the subject because i wanted to keep all that light and fun. first i tried an obvious switch that she denied wanthing to continue the arrgument, but belive me it was enough... so i used a little bit of my psichologycal skills and drained her focus towards herself, then succesfully changing the subject of the conversation.
The next time I wasn't acted so wisley and... well... You have the whole situation described step by step (for a request) in one of my above replyes.click to expand
Posted by GoooberPosted by AriesFireKnightPosted by Gooober
She didnt like that you tried to diffuse. Its like you didnt take her seriously enough to argue with her. Shes weak though lol.
Now that you've said that, I really argued with her a little bit, but I saw, and I known that she is an emotional person (but i wasn't expecting that for sure) so when I saw that the disscution was turning into a fight I tried to switch the subject because i wanted to keep all that light and fun. first i tried an obvious switch that she denied wanthing to continue the arrgument, but belive me it was enough... so i used a little bit of my psichologycal skills and drained her focus towards herself, then succesfully changing the subject of the conversation.
The next time I wasn't acted so wisley and... well... You have the whole situation described step by step (for a request) in one of my above replyes.
Well, like Alicia said, I dont have all the details so idk who was wrong.click to expand
Posted by AriesFireKnightPosted by GoooberPosted by AriesFireKnightPosted by Gooober
She didnt like that you tried to diffuse. Its like you didnt take her seriously enough to argue with her. Shes weak though lol.
Now that you've said that, I really argued with her a little bit, but I saw, and I known that she is an emotional person (but i wasn't expecting that for sure) so when I saw that the disscution was turning into a fight I tried to switch the subject because i wanted to keep all that light and fun. first i tried an obvious switch that she denied wanthing to continue the arrgument, but belive me it was enough... so i used a little bit of my psichologycal skills and drained her focus towards herself, then succesfully changing the subject of the conversation.
The next time I wasn't acted so wisley and... well... You have the whole situation described step by step (for a request) in one of my above replyes.
Well, like Alicia said, I dont have all the details so idk who was wrong.
i gave Alicia all the detalis she asked for... look upwardsclick to expand
Posted by xtina
Regardless of what you meant REMEMBER she took it the opposite of it. And that still matters.
Again put yourself in HER shoes.
My biggest learning exp this year you get what you give. And if you give half ass you will get half ass.
Posted by starloverPosted by mission
Now I know why people think I'm an idiot when I tell them I'm an Aries male.
I was with one for five years....he has sun, merc and venus in Aries
He openly admitted to me that he just didn't know how to empathise with others, only with himself
Hope that helps the OP understand a little more and as the lady above said *put yourself in her shoes*
Can you do that?click to expand
Posted by AriesFireKnight
Ok, guys, I was texting this aries girl, I set up all things nice and smooth, the conversation was at some point start to increase in intensity, we started to argue in a friendly manner, then she really got into it, so I wisley defused the bomb changing smoothly to another subject, then she started to argue about one drawing and stuff, I let her had this one too (all of this in a goofy manner) and lastly I told her that is her point (1-0) but for future points she "should read more philosophy to match with my level"...
the conversation that was friendly and flirty and stuff got a total shift... She told me that I was arrogant and to treetrunk off literally.
I mean... Dafuq... What I did wrong?
I tought it was a joke at first so I told her that persons that like me, like me as I am and understand why I say what I say
She said "Ok. Bye" and in that moment i knew that anything I said will be just "Seen"... So I had 2 options withc I thinked about almost 5 minutes:
1. leave her message to be the last message and treat her with a seen too int this way keeping somehow of a dominant status
2. considering it was a serious situation following her reaction, to apologise in a wise manner placing me as the underdog at the end, but acting like a gentleman
After 5 minutes, I choosed the 2nd option, so I said:
"Jokes aside, sorry if I said something rude, It wont be the first timein my texting history."
Then a "Good night" that she didn't even bothered to mark as Seen.
What to do now?
My idea is that I should act as marvellous I can, in my best disposition in the same time ignoring her completly, somehow showing her that i don't even care. Then after a while to make another step to test the waters at least.
Man, I'm an aries man to, but i didn't expected that raging hell fire
Posted by starloverPosted by mission
Now I know why people think I'm an idiot when I tell them I'm an Aries male.
I was with one for five years....he has sun, merc and venus in Aries
He openly admitted to me that he just didn't know how to empathise with others, only with himself
Hope that helps the OP understand a little more and as the lady above said *put yourself in her shoes*
Can you do that?click to expand
Posted by AriesFireKnightPosted by xtina
Regardless of what you meant REMEMBER she took it the opposite of it. And that still matters.
Again put yourself in HER shoes.
My biggest learning exp this year you get what you give. And if you give half ass you will get half ass.
thanks xtina, you're the best :3
I laughed like mad at that comedy central gag xD and I guess this is how things worked out for me at least yesterday... I want to clarify some things and the vision I have for the sitation right now.
First of all, I initiated the conversation showing her my ongoing work at a novel, and beside the fact that I wanted to have some kind of direct contact with her, I really wanted a clear review of my work. I didn't forced a conversation in any means, we were booth filling the gaps and asking questions, things were flowing naturally. She wanted to talk via text and, she took the conversation where she went comfortable to do so (again I didn't forced any topic)... I have no doubt about it. She seems to be more comfortable with this kind of comunication, because in the real world she is more inhibited around me, or I don't know... The truth is that we didn't had the chance to talk often or in an convenient environment, even if I tried to approach her this way too and she seemed responsive.
Second of all, from what I saw she got offensive because we argued about some stuff and I have strong, well argumented and founded points of view for things that I belive in. I took the challange and it seems that I pretty much beat her at her own game, because i saw that the arguments were turning sharper even if it was a friendly disscution. I realised that she is very hard headed and emotionally unstable (things that remembered me about my inner self before I found my own center of gravity in myself, not in others) and for this reason I tried as I said to avoid the situations that became to risky. As I saw her thirst for proving herself right is huge, so when I standed my ground she probably thinked that I tried to dominate her. And that explained the manner that she exploded at that almost harmless remark, taking it personally.
And here is the reason for I would never apologise more that I already did: She tried to hurt me after saying me to "fuuck off", in a manner that she would treat a piece of trash. I didn't meant to insult her, but she did mean it afterwards, even if now we are just two persons that were not even friends. It is totally rude to say that to a guy that you don't even know, in almost any given circumstances. I didn't felt offended or hurt in any way, but i realised that I shouldn't accept that insult and just beg for forgivness. I just apologised in a simple manner telling her that I feel sorryclick to expand
Posted by AriesFireKnightPosted by starloverPosted by mission
Now I know why people think I'm an idiot when I tell them I'm an Aries male.
I was with one for five years....he has sun, merc and venus in Aries
He openly admitted to me that he just didn't know how to empathise with others, only with himself
Hope that helps the OP understand a little more and as the lady above said *put yourself in her shoes*
Can you do that?
For God's sake, I did apologised and now I'm leaving her space to get over it. I just don't want to beg for anything because I'M NOT desperate.
I just told her that " for a further she should read more philosophy to match my level" ... Ok, I understand that looking from one angle it sounds arrogant... But, for God's sake, it just scratched her ego a little bit. It was a friendly conversation, we talked about Hubba Bubba and what we liked to do in our childhoods, use some logic, why would want to insult her out of the blue????
One thing I can say for sure, I wont show up wiht flowers and chocolate at her door because of this nonsense, if this is what you're expecting.click to expand
Posted by xtina
I see. I didn't know this tidbit of information. But I'm an Aries I have no patience so honestly I only read your initial post and commented from there 😂.
That being said, it sounds like she just might be immature then. Then your way of dealing with it is best. But I would be wary about giving her another chance. Personally, I wouldn't give her another chance but that's just me I prefer mature people. If she's treating you like this now who knows how she'll be in the future. People tend to put their best foot forward in the beginning.
I'm not 100% sure though it's hard to say with only having your side of the story. So it's totally your call. You could probably best tell, more so than anyone here, what was really going on. Good luck!
Posted by xtinaPosted by AriesFireKnightPosted by starloverPosted by mission
Now I know why people think I'm an idiot when I tell them I'm an Aries male.
I was with one for five years....he has sun, merc and venus in Aries
He openly admitted to me that he just didn't know how to empathise with others, only with himself
Hope that helps the OP understand a little more and as the lady above said *put yourself in her shoes*
Can you do that?
For God's sake, I did apologised and now I'm leaving her space to get over it. I just don't want to beg for anything because I'M NOT desperate.
I just told her that " for a further she should read more philosophy to match my level" ... Ok, I understand that looking from one angle it sounds arrogant... But, for God's sake, it just scratched her ego a little bit. It was a friendly conversation, we talked about Hubba Bubba and what we liked to do in our childhoods, use some logic, why would want to insult her out of the blue????
One thing I can say for sure, I wont show up wiht flowers and chocolate at her door because of this nonsense, if this is what you're expecting.
Hhmmm... Apologizing and then condescendingly saying she needs to brush up on philosophy totally negates your apology FYI. Only saying because that's something I'd do and had to be told by my libra friend 😂😂😂
But I agree showing up with flowers will make her lose respect for you.click to expand
Posted by starloverPosted by AriesFireKnightPosted by starloverPosted by mission
Now I know why people think I'm an idiot when I tell them I'm an Aries male.
I was with one for five years....he has sun, merc and venus in Aries
He openly admitted to me that he just didn't know how to empathise with others, only with himself
Hope that helps the OP understand a little more and as the lady above said *put yourself in her shoes*
Can you do that?
For God's sake, I did apologised and now I'm leaving her space to get over it. I just don't want to beg for anything because I'M NOT desperate.
I just told her that " for a further she should read more philosophy to match my level" ... Ok, I understand that looking from one angle it sounds arrogant... But, for God's sake, it just scratched her ego a little bit. It was a friendly conversation, we talked about Hubba Bubba and what we liked to do in our childhoods, use some logic, why would want to insult her out of the blue????
One thing I can say for sure, I wont show up wiht flowers and chocolate at her door because of this nonsense, if this is what you're expecting.
I am not expecting anything ~~ just sharing my experiences with an Aries man i knew
Putting yourself in someone else's shoes doesn't have to entail flowers and chocs......ii never said that
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