I need help , this is what I wrote her , hoping she will finally get it, should I send it? Or no
This topic was created in the Aries forum by the_fool on Sunday, June 11, 2017 and has 16 replies.
You know since the day I meet you , I knew I was going to be with you . The moment I heard your voice and looked into your eyes , I had a flash of everything that we where going to do , you made feel like I was the luckiest man on earth , I didn't have a worry in the world. We had some really good times together, the pictures tell the story, the more time I spent with you the more you became my queen, all I wanted to do was spoil you and make you feel on top of the world. Every time I saw you or talked to you my heart skipped a beat Simply amazing!
Now I been telling you this and I am sure that you get bored of me repeating myself , I just didn't want to be like everyone else , after a month or so just stop telling you how wonderful you are , I wanted you to remember that you found a guy who loved you every day. Look what I am saying is that , out of what you called smothering I , called trying to show you that you are loved deeply, that May of not of been the right thing todo, but I didn't want you to feel any other way , I wanted you to feel loved . I know your an independent women and I know that some of the things we did where just boring. I thought I was doing things right. Loving you , telling you how beautiful you are , and showing you that you where the girl of my dreams and I admired you. I wasn't trying to take away from you your independence I was trying to give you a new world to live in, well I guess that backfired on me ,
For months I did the best I could to keep you happy ,I know we had a bad month, but actually it's a month I rather just forget about,
What I don't understand is that you have a guy who loved you , took care of you and the family, who came at any time you wanted or needed. One who Did his best to never say no, one who tried to give you adventure. One who never judged you.
You walk away as if you never knew who I was , you said you loved me and wanted to be with me , and you just needed some space and time to clear your mind, I didn't bother you , I respected your wishes and I gave you my word about what I would do , and not do .
What am I suppose to do? I can't just pretend that we had nothing , I can't pretend you don't exist, how I am to just stop caring or loving you.
This really hurts a lot , I thought we would of at least try to work this out and come to an understanding of boundaries and space needed in our relationship to be stronger , I thought at least we could of taken the time to understand what was need in our relationship, so that this would not happen again,
But how are we supposed too fix this if your not even willing to give the guy you said you loved a chance,
You made your point , I don't know how many time I have to tell you I get it , I know what needs to be done, but it will never happen if you don't even give me the time of day , each day I think about all of this ,and the more I realize this shit hurts , you ignoring me and not even willing to talk,
Look I want to keep my heart open for you , but lately I am finding it very difficult to maintain ,because I get nothing in return , and I can't keep loving you with nothing,
I will always love you and you know that I will always be here if you need me.
It hurts to much that I can't be with you at all, not even for a day or for us to even talk
All I wanted was for us to work this out even if it took time at least I knew we where moving forward.
I am sorry but I can't love you anymore, I will always care and support you , but this shit hurts way to much to continue on,
If you love me the way you said you did , then you would at least try to fix this or at least take one day out of the week to fix our relationship,
I have said and done all I can , you know how I feel , now it's up to you .
Now I been telling you this and I am sure that you get bored of me repeating myself , I just didn't want to be like everyone else , after a month or so just stop telling you how wonderful you are , I wanted you to remember that you found a guy who loved you every day. Look what I am saying is that , out of what you called smothering I , called trying to show you that you are loved deeply, that May of not of been the right thing todo, but I didn't want you to feel any other way , I wanted you to feel loved . I know your an independent women and I know that some of the things we did where just boring. I thought I was doing things right. Loving you , telling you how beautiful you are , and showing you that you where the girl of my dreams and I admired you. I wasn't trying to take away from you your independence I was trying to give you a new world to live in, well I guess that backfired on me ,
For months I did the best I could to keep you happy ,I know we had a bad month, but actually it's a month I rather just forget about,
What I don't understand is that you have a guy who loved you , took care of you and the family, who came at any time you wanted or needed. One who Did his best to never say no, one who tried to give you adventure. One who never judged you.
You walk away as if you never knew who I was , you said you loved me and wanted to be with me , and you just needed some space and time to clear your mind, I didn't bother you , I respected your wishes and I gave you my word about what I would do , and not do .
What am I suppose to do? I can't just pretend that we had nothing , I can't pretend you don't exist, how I am to just stop caring or loving you.
This really hurts a lot , I thought we would of at least try to work this out and come to an understanding of boundaries and space needed in our relationship to be stronger , I thought at least we could of taken the time to understand what was need in our relationship, so that this would not happen again,
But how are we supposed too fix this if your not even willing to give the guy you said you loved a chance,
You made your point , I don't know how many time I have to tell you I get it , I know what needs to be done, but it will never happen if you don't even give me the time of day , each day I think about all of this ,and the more I realize this shit hurts , you ignoring me and not even willing to talk,
Look I want to keep my heart open for you , but lately I am finding it very difficult to maintain ,because I get nothing in return , and I can't keep loving you with nothing,
I will always love you and you know that I will always be here if you need me.
It hurts to much that I can't be with you at all, not even for a day or for us to even talk
All I wanted was for us to work this out even if it took time at least I knew we where moving forward.
I am sorry but I can't love you anymore, I will always care and support you , but this shit hurts way to much to continue on,
If you love me the way you said you did , then you would at least try to fix this or at least take one day out of the week to fix our relationship,
I have said and done all I can , you know how I feel , now it's up to you .
I would really really think about it, you need to be 100% sure. And don't expect any response from her on this. How will you feel when she doesn't respond?
There's an old saying "when emotion runs high, logic runs low" and you are clearly emotional, I would definitely wait until the logic kicks in. You could ruin any chance of being with her. I don't know the history, I don't know her or what sign she is or how long you were together. But a guy needs to keep the mystery, you need to show respect for yourself, you need to show that you can't be controlled so easily, that she has so much control over your feelings. you can't assume that she doesn't have love, why does she not have love for herself? Why the hell can you fix it? Just take a step back and think about what you're doing. I know us Aries get carried away with passion, but this type of message, does it ever work? You need to show that what you have is valuable, your time and who you are, you don’t do that by giving it away like it’s free, like it’s some sort of pointless free sample being thrown at you by some guy in a street. Girls don’t want something every girl can have, so easily obtained.
Perhaps maybe, depending on what’s happened, you can text her in two month’s time, when things have calmed down, get talking about something “casually” that you did together, like “I’ve just seen blah blah, it reminded me of you” and then try and get her to act like “why did we even break-up again?” .. but you have to realise, that this message you’ve written throws away any chance of “casually” getting back together.
There's an old saying "when emotion runs high, logic runs low" and you are clearly emotional, I would definitely wait until the logic kicks in. You could ruin any chance of being with her. I don't know the history, I don't know her or what sign she is or how long you were together. But a guy needs to keep the mystery, you need to show respect for yourself, you need to show that you can't be controlled so easily, that she has so much control over your feelings. you can't assume that she doesn't have love, why does she not have love for herself? Why the hell can you fix it? Just take a step back and think about what you're doing. I know us Aries get carried away with passion, but this type of message, does it ever work? You need to show that what you have is valuable, your time and who you are, you don’t do that by giving it away like it’s free, like it’s some sort of pointless free sample being thrown at you by some guy in a street. Girls don’t want something every girl can have, so easily obtained.
Perhaps maybe, depending on what’s happened, you can text her in two month’s time, when things have calmed down, get talking about something “casually” that you did together, like “I’ve just seen blah blah, it reminded me of you” and then try and get her to act like “why did we even break-up again?” .. but you have to realise, that this message you’ve written throws away any chance of “casually” getting back together.
Sounds like you recieved the Aries vanish.
If the Aries just took of its prob them that feels you did something wrong and has closed you out. But a lot of times this is a good sign that there done even if they really do love you. I agree with the person before me your taking a huge chance of really messing it up with a long message if this person isn't on the same level. You are better of waiting for what you feel is a good time and just try a simple reach out and see what happens before you end up hurt more trust me. I have a bad habit of doing this to others as well.
Aries can cut people off like no other.
If the Aries just took of its prob them that feels you did something wrong and has closed you out. But a lot of times this is a good sign that there done even if they really do love you. I agree with the person before me your taking a huge chance of really messing it up with a long message if this person isn't on the same level. You are better of waiting for what you feel is a good time and just try a simple reach out and see what happens before you end up hurt more trust me. I have a bad habit of doing this to others as well.
Aries can cut people off like no other.
No....wait a while..read it again and see how you feel
Remove this line:
I will always love you and you know that I will always be here if you need me.
And this part:
I am sorry but I can't love you anymore, I will always care and support you ...
They're inconsistent/contradictory statements,
the way they're placed... bmoon8 saw this, too.
Point is made without them.
I will always love you and you know that I will always be here if you need me.
And this part:
I am sorry but I can't love you anymore, I will always care and support you ...
They're inconsistent/contradictory statements,
the way they're placed... bmoon8 saw this, too.
Point is made without them.
Posted by MontgomeryInstant block or ignore with just this line.
Remove this line:
I am sorry but I can't love you anymore, I will always care and support you ...
Posted by MontgomeryI have to disagree with this. They're contradictory, but it's also absolutely true to life and experience. There isn't one person who's been in this situation that hasn't felt emotions that were in opposition, and that includes the person for whom this letter is written. It's absolutely genuine, and you can never lose when you go with what's real. The benefit of that is, even if she is angry with him, she'll be able to recognize those thoughts and feelings she's reading, which might make the anger abate and she could find her way through her it.
Remove this line:
I will always love you and you know that I will always be here if you need me.
And this part:
I am sorry but I can't love you anymore, I will always care and support you ...
They're inconsistent/contradictory statements,
the way they're placed... bmoon8 saw this, too.
Point is made without them.
OP, you need to give yourself a few days. Write down your thoughts, then read them after a few hours. Do that for a couple of days. Then write it out again. You'll go through a natural revision process if you do it that way over the course of a few days.
Good luck to you.
Posted by tizianiGood point.
I would go with @Montgomery to edit your stuff because she knows how to make the white space do more talking than what is actually written, and that's powerful.
Classic Venusian-doublespacing mind trick.
Mock me at your own peril.
Couldn't finish reading it. Too emotionally messy and cringe worthy.
Show up in person if you have something to say. In order to be taken seriously things need to happen face to face. Otherwise its just empty words without intent.
Show up in person if you have something to say. In order to be taken seriously things need to happen face to face. Otherwise its just empty words without intent.
You know, since the day I meet you I knew I was going to be with you. The moment I heard your voice and looked into your eyes I had a flash of everything we were going to do. You made feel like I was the luckiest man on earth and I didn't have a care in the world. We had some really good times together, the pictures tell the story, the more time I spent with you the more you became my queen, all I wanted to do was spoil you, and make you feel like you were on top of the world! Every time I saw you or talked to you my heart skipped a beat...simply amazing! Now I been telling you this and I am sure that you get bored of my repeating myself; I just didn't want to be like everyone else. After a month or so I couldn't stop telling you how wonderful you are, I wanted you to remember that you found a guy who loved you every day. Look, what I am saying is that, out of what you called smothering, I call it "Showing you that you are deeply loved". This may not be the right thing to say, but I didn't want you to feel any other way; I wanted you to feel loved. I know you're an independent woman and I know that some of the things we did was boring. I thought I was doing things right -- loving you, telling you how beautiful you are, showing you that you are the girl of my dreams, and I adore you. I wasn't trying to take away from your independence -- I was trying to give you a new world to live in, and well, I guess that backfired on me. For months I did the best I could to keep you happy. I know we had a bad month, but actually it's a month I'd rather forget about. What I don't understand is that you have a guy who loves you, took care of you and the family, who came at any time you wanted, or needed; one who did his best to never say no. One who tried to give you an adventure, one who never judged you. You walked away as if you never knew who I was. You said you loved me, wanted to be with me, and you just needed some space and time to clear your mind. I didn't bother you. I respected your wishes and I gave you my word about what I would do/and not do. What am I suppose to do? I can't just pretend that we had nothing. I can't pretend you didn't exist. How do I stop caring or loving you? This really hurts allot. I thought we would of at least tried to work this out and come to an understanding of boundaries and space needed in our relationship to be stronger. I thought at least we could of taken the time to understand what was needed in our relationship; so that this would not happen again. But how are we supposed to fix this if you're not even willing to give the guy you said you loved a chance? You made your point. I don't know how many times I have to tell you -- I get it. I know what needs to be done, but it will never happen if you don't even give me the time of day. Each day I think about all of this and the more I realize this butter hurts. You're ignoring me and not even willing to talk to me. I want to keep my heart open to you, but lately I am finding it very difficult to maintain it because I get nothing in return, and I can't keep loving you with nothing in return. I will always love you and you know that I will always be here if you need me. It hurts too much that I can't be with you at all, not even for a day or for us to even talk. All I wanted was for us to work this out even if it meant for us to move forward or go our separate ways. I am sorry but I can't love you anymore. I will always care and support you, but this butter hurts way too much to continue on. If you love me the way you said you did, then you would at least try to fix this, or at least take one day out of the week to fix our relationship. I have said and done all I can; you know how I feel, now it's up to you.
I AM AN ADMIN ASSISTANT for the Army; I have proofread this....send this to her. I am a romantic woman at heart. Good luck and keep us posted.
cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
I AM AN ADMIN ASSISTANT for the Army; I have proofread this....send this to her. I am a romantic woman at heart. Good luck and keep us posted.
cyber hugs! Love,
Eva
I wouldn't take this serious at all.. if u must give her a letter, make it short & sweet or Tell her in person
Omg!! You scare me!! You make it all look complicated n scary???
Posted by tizianiBlank paper has most white spaces.
I would go with @Montgomery to edit your stuff because she knows how to make the white space do more talking than what is actually written, and that's powerful.
Did you mean just send her blank page?
At least she can use it for something...
Posted by EvatheDivaNo spaces? ?
You know, since the day I meet you I knew I was going to be with you. The moment I heard your voice and looked into your eyes I had a flash of everything we were going to do. You made feel like I was the luckiest man on earth and I didn't have a care in the world. We had some really good times together, the pictures tell the story, the more time I spent with you the more you became my queen, all I wanted to do was spoil you, and make you feel like you were on top of the world! Every time I saw you or talked to you my heart skipped a beat...simply amazing! Now I been telling you this and I am sure that you get bored of my repeating myself; I just didn't want to be like everyone else. After a month or so I couldn't stop telling you how wonderful you are, I wanted you to remember that you found a guy who loved you every day. Look, what I am saying is that, out of what you called smothering, I call it "Showing you that you are deeply loved". This may not be the right thing to say, but I didn't want you to feel any other way; I wanted you to feel loved. I know you're an independent woman and I know that some of the things we did was boring. I thought I was doing things right -- loving you, telling you how beautiful you are, showing you that you are the girl of my dreams, and I adore you. I wasn't trying to take away from your independence -- I was trying to give you a new world to live in, and well, I guess that backfired on me. For months I did the best I could to keep you happy. I know we had a bad month, but actually it's a month I'd rather forget about. What I don't understand is that you have a guy who loves you, took care of you and the family, who came at any time you wanted, or needed; one who did his best to never say no. One who tried to give you an adventure, one who never judged you. You walked away as if you never knew who I was. You said you loved me, wanted to be with me, and you just needed some space and time to clear your mind. I didn't bother you. I respected your wishes and I gave you my word about what I would do/and not do. What am I suppose to do? I can't just pretend that we had nothing. I can't pretend you didn't exist. How do I stop caring or loving you? This really hurts allot. I thought we would of at least tried to work this out and come to an understanding of boundaries and space needed in our relationship to be stronger. I thought at least we could of taken the time to understand what was needed in our relationship; so that this would not happen again. But how are we supposed to fix this if you're not even willing to give the guy you said you loved a chance? You made your point. I don't know how many times I have to tell you -- I get it. I know what needs to be done, but it will never happen if you don't even give me the time of day. Each day I think about all of this and the more I realize this butter hurts. You're ignoring me and not even willing to talk to me. I want to keep my heart open to you, but lately I am finding it very difficult to maintain it because I get nothing in return, and I can't keep loving you with nothing in return. I will always love you and you know that I will always be here if you need me. It hurts too much that I can't be with you at all, not even for a day or for us to even talk. All I wanted was for us to work this out even if it meant for us to move forward or go our separate ways. I am sorry but I can't love you anymore. I will always care and support you, but this butter hurts way too much to continue on. If you love me the way you said you did, then you would at least try to fix this, or at least take one day out of the week to fix our relationship. I have said and done all I can; you know how I feel, now it's up to you.
I AM AN ADMIN ASSISTANT for the Army; I have proofread this....send this to her. I am a romantic woman at heart. Good luck and keep us posted.
Love,
Eva
I am not romantic but I do write crap like that. Except I always make accent on something sexually explicit so I know men don't take 'your body next to mine' lightly.
This wall of text is boring and 'I can't love you' is a death to future alltogether.
It needs to be re-written into passionate, non boring way. I thought I read same stuff 4 times. She probably would be like OMG!!!
I just wasted time I can't get back!!!
Letters are good. But they have to be good!
Best of luck and cool down dear.
This wall of text is boring and 'I can't love you' is a death to future alltogether.
It needs to be re-written into passionate, non boring way. I thought I read same stuff 4 times. She probably would be like OMG!!!
I just wasted time I can't get back!!!
Letters are good. But they have to be good!
Best of luck and cool down dear.
Posted by GemitatiNope. You don't want her to pause or take a break. She will read it straight thru. You don't want her to lose her attention.Posted by EvatheDivaNo spaces? ?
You know, since the day I meet you I knew I was going to be with you. The moment I heard your voice and looked into your eyes I had a flash of everything we were going to do. You made feel like I was the luckiest man on earth and I didn't have a care in the world. We had some really good times together, the pictures tell the story, the more time I spent with you the more you became my queen, all I wanted to do was spoil you, and make you feel like you were on top of the world! Every time I saw you or talked to you my heart skipped a beat...simply amazing! Now I been telling you this and I am sure that you get bored of my repeating myself; I just didn't want to be like everyone else. After a month or so I couldn't stop telling you how wonderful you are, I wanted you to remember that you found a guy who loved you every day. Look, what I am saying is that, out of what you called smothering, I call it "Showing you that you are deeply loved". This may not be the right thing to say, but I didn't want you to feel any other way; I wanted you to feel loved. I know you're an independent woman and I know that some of the things we did was boring. I thought I was doing things right -- loving you, telling you how beautiful you are, showing you that you are the girl of my dreams, and I adore you. I wasn't trying to take away from your independence -- I was trying to give you a new world to live in, and well, I guess that backfired on me. For months I did the best I could to keep you happy. I know we had a bad month, but actually it's a month I'd rather forget about. What I don't understand is that you have a guy who loves you, took care of you and the family, who came at any time you wanted, or needed; one who did his best to never say no. One who tried to give you an adventure, one who never judged you. You walked away as if you never knew who I was. You said you loved me, wanted to be with me, and you just needed some space and time to clear your mind. I didn't bother you. I respected your wishes and I gave you my word about what I would do/and not do. What am I suppose to do? I can't just pretend that we had nothing. I can't pretend you didn't exist. How do I stop caring or loving you? This really hurts allot. I thought we would of at least tried to work this out and come to an understanding of boundaries and space needed in our relationship to be stronger. I thought at least we could of taken the time to understand what was needed in our relationship; so that this would not happen again. But how are we supposed to fix this if you're not even willing to give the guy you said you loved a chance? You made your point. I don't know how many times I have to tell you -- I get it. I know what needs to be done, but it will never happen if you don't even give me the time of day. Each day I think about all of this and the more I realize this butter hurts. You're ignoring me and not even willing to talk to me. I want to keep my heart open to you, but lately I am finding it very difficult to maintain it because I get nothing in return, and I can't keep loving you with nothing in return. I will always love you and you know that I will always be here if you need me. It hurts too much that I can't be with you at all, not even for a day or for us to even talk. All I wanted was for us to work this out even if it meant for us to move forward or go our separate ways. I am sorry but I can't love you anymore. I will always care and support you, but this butter hurts way too much to continue on. If you love me the way you said you did, then you would at least try to fix this, or at least take one day out of the week to fix our relationship. I have said and done all I can; you know how I feel, now it's up to you.
I AM AN ADMIN ASSISTANT for the Army; I have proofread this....send this to her. I am a romantic woman at heart. Good luck and keep us posted.
Love,
Evaclick to expand
cyber hugs! Love,
Eva
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