just being friends with aries guys

This topic was created in the Aries forum by ariesfire1980 on Sunday, March 9, 2008 and has 7 replies.
One thing I've noticed about myself and other aries guys that, more than any other sign, is that we seem to possess an innate ability to change the character of a relationship with a female to one of friendship after an attempt at a romantic relationship fails. I think its because aries people don't harbour emotions or dwell on the past. We move on; when we're done with a relationship its over, we don't think about it; we're off to our next conquest so to speak with another person. As such, I've found that if there is something tangible in the prospect of a frienship with a girl I tried to date, I easily make that transition. In all my relationships, I've only had one in which I am not still friends with today. I haven't seen this though with female aries, perhaps its in part due to the differences between men and women and the emotional world of the female mind that makes it not the case with females. I've found though that when women I've tried to date realize that I am completely comfortable with and able to change the character of our relationship to one of friendship, they seem to go with it and some of my best non-romantic friendships I have today are with girls that I once attempted to get involved with romantically. Has anyone else found this to be the case?
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Hi AF80-
Female Arien here - I completely understand and agree with what you have said in regards to the Ariens nature to transistion from relationships to great friendships. Most of my best guy pals now, were men that I, at one time were in a previous relationship with. Sometimes we just make better friends with some than lovers.
I love the ability of not harboring ill feelings and letting go to move on. It serves us well. Winking
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It is also a Libra trait to stay friends with ex-lovers.
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i think it is, when you find the one you (truly) want to spend the rest of your life with. Just knowing you once loved all these ex's, and still want to stay friends, says it all, and shows in some capacity they are still important to you. (..history and memories are still there, nothing changes that.) i really don't think it's condusive to starting fresh with someone else, either. Better to find new friends, with each other. I think this is when you truly love someone; to be unselfish and selfless. Consideration for the other person, first. A true mark of maturity.. Love shouldn't be about conquests and ego's and holding onto past ex's.. *it should solely be about living in the moment with that *One* special person. Looking ahead together, never back..
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Absolutely mystic!
It truly is a sign of maturity to be able to be "friends" with those who we once were in an inclusive relationship with. Each person whom I have been with has touched my soul, changed me in some way (for the better Winking) there is no way that I can not continue to share my life with them in some fashion. Now, if they choose to exclude me from their life's path, that too is okay. It is what it is.
One of my past relationships was with a Virgo - he is engaged but he and I hang out quite a bit - he has become one of my bestest pals! We may not have been meant to be a "couple" but ...wow, our friendship is awesome! ya just never know Winking

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Right on Freebird!
I don't really get why people pretend the people they loved no longer matter
or worse are mean to them and hate them just because the relationship didn't work out as they wanted
them too. The person still has all the great qualities that you came to
love about them, even if in the end the relationship didn't work for one or both of you. Obviously you liked them enough to get naked with them and spend time with them, just because it didn't work out doesn't mean that they are evil. Just incompatible.
I worry more about people that cut off the exs.
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I am a Cancer and was in a relationship with an Aries for almost 7 years. I did realize that the relationship was not going anywhere and seem to become dry and immobile so I just wanted to be friends. Because of the possessiveness, arrogance,unstable emotions, self- centered portrayal to cover up insecurities, anger that stems from a conversation about roses in order to evade having to express unexpressed feelings of confusion with this sign there was no need for me to even want to continue to be friends. Due to my true love and concern for him I did say that we can remain friends and and that was not on his agenda. I honestly think signs are generalized and often fall short of the true person. I was assume that is why they are not to be believed. Because everyone is equipped with one or more of these personalities, or traits to use as a defense to deal with life or people as it is encountered.I said that to say this. Most people generally have a way of dealing with friendships or relationships and I believe that if you truly love a person and choose to remain friends with them after the relationship is over is basically disrespectful to the person that you choose to get involved with and a little self-centered. Each person you are with takes a piece of you with them and if you hold on to all these relationships it is because they define who you are. If one feels complete without people there would be no need to wallow in the past.
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