Losing interest

Hi all. Do you also lose interest quickly when you like someone but they take to long to make a move?I also seem to not get the interest back once it is gone doesnt mattet how hard the other petson try to get me to fall for them again?

No, I hang on to people for a long time because I get pretty fixated on certain people which is really unhealthy.. But I also have Venus in Taurus... Actually, the opposite seems to happen to me quite a lot. I like someone and take a while to open up and then they lose interest in me. It sucks. When you find the right one, they will understand.

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
No, I hang on to people for a long time because I get pretty fixated on certain people which is really unhealthy.. But I also have Venus in Taurus... Actually, the opposite seems to happen to me quite a lot. I like someone and take a while to open up and then they lose interest in me. It sucks. When you find the right one, they will understand.

I have the same venus and I go through the same thing...I hate it

i get really stuck on a person

I am an areis sun/virgo moon. I generally have a hard time moving on. I still got feelings for a guy that the relationship ened months ago. lol.. I mean they are not intense but we live so 2 blocks from each othere and are friends. I hold him in high reguard, as the relationship eneded because of other people. I also have a bunch of exes that will not exit my life.. idk know why, they are annoying, perhaps I keep them there, just so they are constantly reminded that they ain"t ever gonna get back with me.. Always like to have a couple on the back burner. My ex husband.. cut him off like I never knew him, but the relationship was over for me for the last year we were together, tried to make it work, like beating a dead horse! But yes, in general, I have a hard time letting go. I still have friends, guys that I liked in high school in my life, somehow, leading them on. I am probably messed up for that because its an ego boost for me. its wrong, I know... But if I love someone I love with all my heart, and it really is forever.

but to answer the question, if i really like /love someone, I can pine away for ever. aries is all about the chase. my prob is losing interest after the conquer.

Yes, if things are not straight forward from the beginning, I go to the next chase. A perfect example of hell would be the "patience" required to date Capricorns or Taurus women. No sex in the world can worth all the wasted time, you gotta think that way LOL
Cancers got on my nerves too because they don't talk what they like when you answer.
Libras, Sagitarius and Aquarius seems to be the most straight forward from what I saw 😄

Yeah but this is the hard part about Aries

If you have the impulsiveness & bravery to fall in love quickly, they may lose interest b/c you're not enough of a "challenge."

But if you move too slowly or are a challenge a day longer than they wanted you to, then they suddenly lose interest b/c you're TOO much of a challenge

So it seems this can sometimes be a double-edged sword that Aries bring on themselves.

People are not puppets that you can pull on 1 minute when you want them to be a specific way, then go judge or lose interest in them 2 days later for that very same thing.

I'm not saying that Aries are wrong for not liking a slow pace, nor are they wrong for not liking a fast pace! Just saying that Aries should really figure out what they want b/c they might realize that what they want are 2 conflicting things!! You can't want a girl who moves fast, but then be turned off by the girl who moves fast, at the same time!!

You can't want a challenge, then be turned off by a challenge at the same time!! DAMN

Kry, we are not all like that. Don't sterotype. If you read any of the responses you would see that it is the exact opposite with some of us.

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Posted by AriesIntrovert16
No, I hang on to people for a long time because I get pretty fixated on certain people which is really unhealthy.. But I also have Venus in Taurus... Actually, the opposite seems to happen to me quite a lot. I like someone and take a while to open up and then they lose interest in me. It sucks. When you find the right one, they will understand.

I have the same venus and I go through the same thing...I hate it

i get really stuck on a person

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Ditto. I hate this placement. Like she said, by the time I open up to them or the idea of a relationship with them, they're bailing. It suxors.

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Kry, we are not all like that. Don't sterotype. If you read any of the responses you would see that it is the exact opposite with some of us.

I think she's just responding to dude up there.

I kinda agree with both, though. I've lost patience with those who move far too slow. It's not about the rush, it's just feeling like I'm being jerked around by these "slow" assholes. The reality is that they aren't slow, it's that they clearly aren't dating material if it takes them THAT long to decide if they want you or not.

Astrology out the window, when someone takes forever realizing where they stand, if they want to be with you, etc, then that shit clearly isn't working and they aren't "the one" so it's time to move on. I don't understand why people perpetuate the whole "OH THINGS ARE SLOW MOVING WITH THESE INDIVIDUALS." Well they can slow move all they want. Life isn't going to slow down because they can't get their shit together and go after what they want.

I have Venus in Taurus, so I don't necessarily move too fast when it comes to this stuff. But it sure as hell doesn't take me eons like some do. It just tells me they're interested, but not enough to figure their shit out now. I also don't do that chasing shit that people stereotype Aries into doing. I did that a lot when I was much younger, but it doesn't really work in my favor so I stopped bothering. Too often, guys just take advantage of women when they do that anyway.

Yes I was responding to 1 particular person/comment.

I understand that for some a slow pace is annoying. But a slow pace doesn't necessarily mean that something is wrong with the person

Some people feel that those who rush or move fast are just desperate or that they're investing too much too soon before even fully getting to know the person. I'm sure the people who prefer a more fast pace would disagree with that too

There's a difference b/w someone who is moving dreadfully slow b/c they have commitment issues vs. a person who is moving slow b/c they value getting to know someone fully before signing their name on the dotted line. A lot of happily married couples can attest to the fact that when they 1st met, they took it slow. Nothing wrong with that

We live in a society where people want INSTANT gratification. When they want something, they want it now or never. We lack patience. People are in it for the "title" & not to actually get to know the person for who they are (which actually takes a lot of time!)

If anything, I think those who take it more slowly tend to have longer lasting & more fulfilling relationships than the people who are constantly rushing or moving fast. It's like relax, you've got the rest of your life! Slow it down some lol If that person is truly interested in you, a slow pace won't change that, nor does a fast pace necessarily mean that someone is really into you; hell some people aggressively chase & "go fast" with EVERYONE they have a crush on b/c it's just how/who they are vs. it being reflective of how they actually feel about the other person

I feel that the rush of the butterflies, the falling is such a spectacular feeling, once that feeling is no longer there, for what ever reason, it is hard to stay interested. I am learning that, it is ok to go slower and to enjoy it, rather than rushing it. TRYING;p

Posted by raerae2one8
I feel that the rush of the butterflies, the falling is such a spectacular feeling, once that feeling is no longer there, for what ever reason, it is hard to stay interested. I am learning that, it is ok to go slower and to enjoy it, rather than rushing it. TRYING;p

Exactly. I get it. Everybody wants all the butterflies & that "up in the clouds" feeling(s) to be a part of their soul mate love story. They want to be able to look back & say we jumped right in b/c we know from the moment we met that we were meant for each other. Sounds great & this does happen sometimes!

BUT, don't discount or being non-accepting of love just b/c some love stories don't start out that fast or that way.

If you notice, the couples that have broken up & that try to rekindle things later usually take it SLOW when trying to get back together. They usually realize that they probably rushed in the beginning & that maybe there is something to everybody saying to take it slow. So they take it slow & restart the process all over again. The couples who do this have a higher chance of getting back together & actually staying together! lol So if it's healthy for 2 people who already love each other to take it slow, why wouldn't it also be healthy for 2 people who barely know each other yet to take it slow?!