My Aries girl is ignoring my calls

This topic was created in the Aries forum by Princely on Wednesday, April 1, 2020 and has 24 replies.
I'm with this Aries girl, coincidentally, today 1st April is her birthday. We've been together for 3 months now. She's a student, who stayed around my area before she had issues with her aunt and moved to her school area, about 30mins drive from where I stay.

Whenever I tell her to come to my place, she gives me excuses of "she don't want her aunt to see her around the area". She came to my place the first time, a month after she left for school, stayed for 2 hours and rushed home, that she can't sleep over. I agreed.

Days later, she texted me on WhatsApp that she wants a break up that it seems I'm too much in love with her and she can't cope. Actually I love her very very much. I had a talk with her, and told her not to make brash decisions that we can take it slow and I won't bother her too much, she accepted and we continued the relationship.

Weeks later, she started ignoring my calls for days. When she finally picked up after two days went by without me calling, I asked her what the issue is, she said she's been going thru some personal issues, that she just needed her alone time. I accepted. I then invited her over, she came this last Saturday, we talked a bit, she prepared food, after we ate, kissed, she said she'll be going.

Just 3 hours of spending time with me in the house after weeks of not seeing eachother, I was mad, but i

didn't want to hold her against her wish.

Since then she only answered my calls on Sunday. From Monday till today Wednesday, she hasn't answered or returned my calls. Ignores my calls and texts, even last night

Today is her birthday, I sent her a text, she hasn't replied either on phone or facebook.

What do you guys think this is all about. She's lost her both parents and only grew up with her aunt.
I just wish I find strength to stop calling her
Its a hard situation.

Delete her number and forget it. She has moved on and has new friends and situations available. Nothing you can do but let time fill in the space.
She's ignoring you because she doesn't want a relationship with you. Doesn't matter the reason.

When someone in a relationship convinces someone, who wants to end it, to stay in that relationship, it only gets worse. Hence her ignoring you. Let her go. Sorry.
You sound like a sweetheart, poor thing.

I don’t think she’s into like that. Fall back, don’t call her and give her what she wants. She might come back. Either way start preparing yourself to move on. It sucks I know.
Posted by Princely

Days later, she texted me on WhatsApp that she wants a break up that it seems I'm too much in love with her and she can't cope.
Next time when someone you claim to care about tells you what they want or in this case don't want, give them the base respect of accepting that they know their own mind.

This isn't about the aunt or personal issues. Those are excuses she's given because you can't take no for an answer. And she's not good with confrontation so her only option is to fade to black.
What do her dead parents have to do with this?
She's not into you.

You sound clingy af. Based on your post history, you're too clingy and freak girls out easily with your intensity there.

You also sound manipulative. I don't think you love HER, just love the idea of being in a relationship. The fact you talked her out of breaking up with you is just emotional manipulation. She knows what she wants. You just don't think she knows and because you're fixated on YOUR feelings of what YOU want, you talked her out of breaking up.

Not cool.

Neither is her lack of being direct (aside from the obvious "I want to break up." Can't get any more direct than that).

Move on for the both your sake.
Posted by Princely

I'm with this Aries girl, coincidentally, today 1st April is her birthday. We've been together for 3 months now. She's a student, who stayed around my area before she had issues with her aunt and moved to her school area, about 30mins drive from where I stay.

Whenever I tell her to come to my place, she gives me excuses of "she don't want her aunt to see her around the area". She came to my place the first time, a month after she left for school, stayed for 2 hours and rushed home, that she can't sleep over. I agreed.

Days later, she texted me on WhatsApp that she wants a break up that it seems I'm too much in love with her and she can't cope. Actually I love her very very much. I had a talk with her, and told her not to make brash decisions that we can take it slow and I won't bother her too much, she accepted and we continued the relationship.

Weeks later, she started ignoring my calls for days. When she finally picked up after two days went by without me calling, I asked her what the issue is, she said she's been going thru some personal issues, that she just needed her alone time. I accepted. I then invited her over, she came this last Saturday, we talked a bit, she prepared food, after we ate, kissed, she said she'll be going.

Just 3 hours of spending time with me in the house after weeks of not seeing eachother, I was mad, but i

didn't want to hold her against her wish.

Since then she only answered my calls on Sunday. From Monday till today Wednesday, she hasn't answered or returned my calls. Ignores my calls and texts, even last night

Today is her birthday, I sent her a text, she hasn't replied either on phone or facebook.

What do you guys think this is all about. She's lost her both parents and only grew up with her aunt.

She doesn’t like you like that, and she’s probably interested in some one else more. Cut your looses and move on, we all deal with heart aches. Don’t take it too personal, best way to get over her is to date around “a lot and find some one else, after some times. If she try’s to come back later on, it won’t be because she all of a sudden fell in love with you, it’s because she’s having issues with a person she really loves and needs cheap attention from you. The more you try and call, the more you turn her stomach and make her want to vomit. But here’s the catch, you can do waaaay better then somebody who doesn’t answer your calls or try’s to break up with you and is unwilling to spend real time with you also gives you a lame excuse to why she can’t do this or that. Do yourself a favor stop trying love her and just try and have sex with her. Get some and vamp, turn on player mode. Don’t be a sucker for love dude.

Sorry if I was blunt.
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Posted by rockyroadicecream

She's not into you.

You sound clingy af. Based on your post history, you're too clingy and freak girls out easily with your intensity there.

You also sound manipulative. I don't think you love HER, just love the idea of being in a relationship. The fact you talked her out of breaking up with you is just emotional manipulation. She knows what she wants. You just don't think she knows and because you're fixated on YOUR feelings of what YOU want, you talked her out of breaking up.

Not cool.

Neither is her lack of being direct (aside from the obvious "I want to break up." Can't get any more direct than that).

Move on for the both your sake.


I read his topic postings yesterday after my post and look at all of the titles. It’s a recurring issue he’s been having for the past few years with different women. Diving in too fast and falling in love too fast then the women getting creeped out.
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Yeeep. I noticed the same thing. He's the issue here, not the girls.
Posted by Gobby

Thinking about it now, whenever this happened to me it was with a fire sign.

Young fire sign women are usually the most selfish bitches you'll ever come across. Seek someone with either an earth or water sun...


You should try reading his history.

He moves really fast and is clingy af. Also, claiming to love with someone that quickly? Yikes.

He was still entertaining a Gem woman a month before the Aries, and the Gem tells him she doesn't want anything serious. Some time lapses and it comes to them going out again and he tells her he wants marriage if she goes out with him. Then he's flabbergasted that she bailed.

She was clear in what she wanted and he insisted on what he wanted instead, trying to manipulate her into getting what he wants.

Here, she was clear in wanting to split, but again, he insisted on what HE wanted.

Dude's an emotional wreck and sounds a lot like an inept "nice guy." She may not be innocent either, but he's definitely not deserving of the go to sympathy bit of "women are bitches" bit here. He's highly manipulative in both scenarios. He's more focused on his wants and needs and wants to disregard theirs completely. That type of behavior indicates he's just viewing women as a prize to get to fulfill his wants and to hell with what they want.

Regardess of sign, most women, with any sense of self worth, would head for the hills. This behavior is so insanely off putting.
Posted by bmoon8

She’s ghosting you. Stop contacting her altogether. Break your damn phone if that is what it takes.


Lmaooo
Posted by Gobby

Thinking about it now, whenever this happened to me it was with a fire sign.

Young fire sign women are usually the most selfish bitches you'll ever come across. Seek someone with either an earth or water sun...
I’m starting to find you pathetic, you’re the one who acts like a bitch.


I don't know if this changes anything, but I got two texts from her today. One, a "thank you" message from her as reply on Facebook as I wished her a happy birthday yesterday.

Second one was another text this evening in quote "Good evening sir

Welcome to April

I pray that God shall do the extra-ordinary for you , you shall be safe from the pandemic.Stay safe."

I've never received this kind of text or any "new month text" from her before now.

I haven't called her since then.

Does these text messages count for anything?
Posted by Princely

I don't know if this changes anything, but I got two texts from her today. One, a "thank you" message from her as reply on Facebook as I wished her a happy birthday yesterday.

Second one was another text this evening in quote "Good evening sir

Welcome to April

I pray that God shall do the extra-ordinary for you , you shall be safe from the pandemic.Stay safe."

I've never received this kind of text or any "new month text" from her before now.

I haven't called her since then.

Does these text messages count for anything?


Call her and ask her if she’s okay, clear the air...
Posted by bkbella86
Posted by Gobby

Thinking about it now, whenever this happened to me it was with a fire sign.

Young fire sign women are usually the most selfish bitches you'll ever come across. Seek someone with either an earth or water sun...


I’m starting to find you pathetic, you’re the one who acts like a bitch.
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Yup.

Its always the woman who is the crazy psycho and reason his relationships don't work out.

Calling someone selfish because they no longer want to be with you is just lol worthy.
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Posted by Princely

I don't know if this changes anything, but I got two texts from her today. One, a "thank you" message from her as reply on Facebook as I wished her a happy birthday yesterday.

Second one was another text this evening in quote "Good evening sir

Welcome to April

I pray that God shall do the extra-ordinary for you , you shall be safe from the pandemic.Stay safe."

I've never received this kind of text or any "new month text" from her before now.

I haven't called her since then.

Does these text messages count for anything?


Call her and ask her if she’s okay, clear the air...
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I wouldn't give him that advice. He's going to call and fuck this up even further. He just needs to leave it alone.

He's trying to hard in reading into her texts too. Dude is clinging to scraps.
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Posted by Tenpxd
Posted by Princely

I don't know if this changes anything, but I got two texts from her today. One, a "thank you" message from her as reply on Facebook as I wished her a happy birthday yesterday.

Second one was another text this evening in quote "Good evening sir

Welcome to April

I pray that God shall do the extra-ordinary for you , you shall be safe from the pandemic.Stay safe."

I've never received this kind of text or any "new month text" from her before now.

I haven't called her since then.

Does these text messages count for anything?


Call her and ask her if she’s okay, clear the air...


I wouldn't give him that advice. He's going to call and fuck this up even further. He just needs to leave it alone.

He's trying to hard in reading into her texts too. Dude is clinging to scraps.
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Communication is key.
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by Tenpxd
Posted by Princely

I don't know if this changes anything, but I got two texts from her today. One, a "thank you" message from her as reply on Facebook as I wished her a happy birthday yesterday.

Second one was another text this evening in quote "Good evening sir

Welcome to April

I pray that God shall do the extra-ordinary for you , you shall be safe from the pandemic.Stay safe."

I've never received this kind of text or any "new month text" from her before now.

I haven't called her since then.

Does these text messages count for anything?


Call her and ask her if she’s okay, clear the air...


I wouldn't give him that advice. He's going to call and fuck this up even further. He just needs to leave it alone.

He's trying to hard in reading into her texts too. Dude is clinging to scraps.


Communication is key.
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Only when it's mutually listened to. It's obviously not. She's trying to remain friendly with him and he's treating it as a green light to continue to try to manipulate her.
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Posted by Princely

I don't know if this changes anything, but I got two texts from her today. One, a "thank you" message from her as reply on Facebook as I wished her a happy birthday yesterday.

Second one was another text this evening in quote "Good evening sir

Welcome to April

I pray that God shall do the extra-ordinary for you , you shall be safe from the pandemic.Stay safe."

I've never received this kind of text or any "new month text" from her before now.

I haven't called her since then.

Does these text messages count for anything?


Call her and ask her if she’s okay, clear the air...


I wouldn't give him that advice. He's going to call and fuck this up even further. He just needs to leave it alone.

He's trying to hard in reading into her texts too. Dude is clinging to scraps.


Communication is key.


Only when it's mutually listened to. It's obviously not. She's trying to remain friendly with him and he's treating it as a green light to continue to try to manipulate her.
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There’s 3 sides to a story we only see his version.

Adults should be able to just call talk ask communicate and clear the air.
Instead of just hearing what she is saying...you should be listening to what she's saying.

Different things.
Posted by Princely

I don't know if this changes anything, but I got two texts from her today. One, a "thank you" message from her as reply on Facebook as I wished her a happy birthday yesterday.

Second one was another text this evening in quote "Good evening sir

Welcome to April

I pray that God shall do the extra-ordinary for you , you shall be safe from the pandemic.Stay safe."

I've never received this kind of text or any "new month text" from her before now.

I haven't called her since then.

Does these text messages count for anything?
No.

She's being civil. These are trying times for everyone, and obviously she does care about you, BUT that does not equate to romantic connection (read the part where you say she wanted a breakup).

If you continue reading too much into stuff she says and does, I can assure you that you will no longer see or hear from her ever again.



Posted by CuddleBug1288

Instead of just hearing what she is saying...you should be listening to what she's saying.

Different things.
A lot of people hear but don't listen.

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Posted by Princely

I don't know if this changes anything, but I got two texts from her today. One, a "thank you" message from her as reply on Facebook as I wished her a happy birthday yesterday.

Second one was another text this evening in quote "Good evening sir

Welcome to April

I pray that God shall do the extra-ordinary for you , you shall be safe from the pandemic.Stay safe."

I've never received this kind of text or any "new month text" from her before now.

I haven't called her since then. Does these text messages count for anything?

No.

She's being civil. These are trying times for everyone, and obviously she does care about you, BUT that does not equate to romantic connection (read the part where you say she wanted a breakup).

If you continue reading too much into stuff she says and does, I can assure you that you will no longer see or hear from her ever again.

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