Need some help understanding this please :(

This topic was created in the Aries forum by Gemini772 on Sunday, April 21, 2013 and has 18 replies.
It's a chart of the man that i like..he told me that he liked me but then ignores me...He made 26 in april 1st and I gave him a gift at midnight (and he told me that he would be together in the same day but never said nothing till yesterday). So he called me yesterday at 5am a little drunk to ask me to go be with him (I think for sex) and I didnt go and ignored some of his calls...I later sent him a text message saying that i dont want to play games and be just a part of his collection..didnt respond. Well, I'm confused...and I think that he is back for is ex (in the day of his birthday, and that's why he didnt say anything)..so...I dont know what he wants for me...
Sun Aries 11.29
Moon Taurus 20.28
Mercury Pisces 14.28
Venus Pisces 4.52
Mars Taurus 27.22
Jupiter Aries 7.13
Saturn Sagittarius 21.10 R
Uranus Sagittarius 26.44 R
Neptune Capricorn 7.59
Pluto Scorpio 9.19 R
Lilith Cancer 14.28
Asc node Aries 11.35

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He's 26 and..
He calls you for a bootie call at 5 in the morning.
He ignores you after expressing you're more than just a bootie call.
You think he's still dabbling with his ex.
What does he want from you? Nothing more than just your bootie.. To call that iz.
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Posted by greengemini
Posted by antonarnia
He's 26 and..
He calls you for a bootie call at 5 in the morning.
He ignores you after expressing you're more than just a bootie call.
You think he's still dabbling with his ex.
What does he want from you? Nothing more than just your bootie.. To call that iz.


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So true, just wants a bootie call...
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Thank u for your answers
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Posted by Geminivixen
What's with these Aries men having us weak? Uuuughhhh.. But I have them weaker.. That's why they back off hehe Tongue


Lol I wish I could do that...he makes me weak for sure xD, but it kinda makes me sad because in one hand I think that I deserve better but I do like him...I want him back but I dont even know what he is doing...
Looking foward for better times...with or without this guy...
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Posted by xxnightbynight
This is where your first issue lies:
you think you deserve better. Don't think. KNOW!! Once YOU know that you really do deserve better... you will see how quickly he sees it too. Winking


thank you, i really deserve better. I just keep wasting my time with this fools and dont know why..but i'm a gemini, i just cant help it
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I'm failing to see WHY you like this guy. You've yet to list anything attractive about him.
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
I'm failing to see WHY you like this guy. You've yet to list anything attractive about him.


Lol I know, but I'm going to explain as I did on the other post that I have in the aries section. So I met him in February at a club, and he felt atracted to me (I was not so much into him but I thought he had style and was a little bit cute lol), well I was kinda drunk and gave him my number wich I normally dont do. Then, he asked me to go out, we had dinner and it was a lot of fun, but he was moving too fast, and in about 2 weeks he already asked me 3 times to date him, and I said no everytime because I was not ready to commit with someone that I meet in just 2 weeks. I was always sincere with him, and he told me that he liked the fact that I dont do everything he wants. I always shared my goals for life with him, and what my objectives are. But when I had sex with him, things started to go down...this was before 2/3 weeks after I known him, sooner or not I wanted, he wanted and I liked it lol, but before he had tried a lot of times to go to bed with me. Time went by and he started to get distant and he told me straight up that he was with his ex and a friend of his ex...none of us know the existing of each other. My hearth fell down and I was really said, and he explained that he was in love with me but since I was never available to him (he called me so late everytime, what did he wnt me to do? I live with my parents, they would kill me, truste me, and I expalined that to him, although I went see him a couple of times when it was very late) he started to back off....I felt bad and started to call him more, because it was always him. And I did that on his birthday, he was so happy to receive a gift, and then told me we would be together later....and the rest u already know...and he called 20 days after his birthday like nothing happen, and since he was drunk, he was linda agressive, so I dind answered his calls...sorry if it is too long..
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So you pretty much dated a guy for friendship while you knew he was into you. Had sex with him and only after he decided to leave did you actually want him. Then you started acting like a girlfriend.
And now it's all a mess with confused emotions.
I agree with xxnightbynight, you are acting the way you do because it was how you valued your self-worth, he probably made you feel good. What you should have done is decide for yourself if you were in love with the guy and act on it or tell him to stop acting like he is wooing you. Cut all contact if he cannot keep it at a friends only level.
And when befriending guys remember this: "He is not a girlfriend with a dick on it."
Sex means you are now either his girlfriend or a booty call in his mind. Both can be a problem if you think otherwise.
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Well I always wanted to date him since i was getting to know him better but i thought that 2 weeks was to soon for that, u know...so i like him and now things are a little awkward and i dont know how he feels right now. I feel that i failed..but he in the other hand show me different feelings. He was kinda agressive in the last time that we spoke so i ignored him...he made me feel good and i apreciated it snd thank him everytime. So i bought a gift for him on his birthday to kinda thank for everything and i told him that i admire him a lot. I'm a mess and dont know what to do..maybe i should really step back..its sad but if he wants to play je can do it with other girls that he knows..
Thank u for all ur answers, u guys are helping me a lot smile)
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Posted by Gemini772
Posted by rockyroadicecream
I'm failing to see WHY you like this guy. You've yet to list anything attractive about him.


Lol I know, but I'm going to explain as I did on the other post that I have in the aries section. So I met him in February at a club, and he felt atracted to me (I was not so much into him but I thought he had style and was a little bit cute lol), well I was kinda drunk and gave him my number wich I normally dont do. Then, he asked me to go out, we had dinner and it was a lot of fun, but he was moving too fast, and in about 2 weeks he already asked me 3 times to date him, and I said no everytime because I was not ready to commit with someone that I meet in just 2 weeks. I was always sincere with him, and he told me that he liked the fact that I dont do everything he wants. I always shared my goals for life with him, and what my objectives are. But when I had sex with him, things started to go down...this was before 2/3 weeks after I known him, sooner or not I wanted, he wanted and I liked it lol, but before he had tried a lot of times to go to bed with me. Time went by and he started to get distant and he told me straight up that he was with his ex and a friend of his ex...none of us know the existing of each other. My hearth fell down and I was really said, and he explained that he was in love with me but since I was never available to him (he called me so late everytime, what did he wnt me to do? I live with my parents, they would kill me, truste me, and I expalined that to him, although I went see him a couple of times when it was very late) he started to back off....I felt bad and started to call him more, because it was always him. And I did that on his birthday, he was so happy to receive a gift, and then told me we would be together later....and the rest u already know...and he called 20 days after his birthday like nothing happen, and since he was drunk, he was linda agressive, so I dind answered his calls...sorry if it is too long..
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My question was rhetorical. The history doesn't matter. What matters is how he's acting now, and it's not nice or attractive.
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Posted by Gemini772
Well I always wanted to date him since i was getting to know him better but i thought that 2 weeks was to soon for that, u know...so i like him and now things are a little awkward and i dont know how he feels right now. I feel that i failed..but he in the other hand show me different feelings. He was kinda agressive in the last time that we spoke so i ignored him...he made me feel good and i apreciated it snd thank him everytime. So i bought a gift for him on his birthday to kinda thank for everything and i told him that i admire him a lot. I'm a mess and dont know what to do..maybe i should really step back..its sad but if he wants to play je can do it with other girls that he knows..


Sorry, but that sounds like changing your mind afterwards. If you really liked him then 2 weeks wouldn't have been too soon.
You feel like you failed and now you are trying to make sense of it and win back his approval so he can make you feel good again.
That's normal. Everyone, both men and women do that. It's the girls yelling "But I love him!" and the boys complaining about being "friendzoned". Being aggressive is one way for guys to deal with rejection.
You don't have to feel guilty or sorry for that. If he can't deal with it then neither should you.
Just cut your losses and move on.
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Its easier said than done lol but i'm going to move on...at least try. I would like to start over with him..but i guess that is almost impossible now...i didnt accept him as a bf because I thouht that we could give a little more time just to know each other a little more. I dont know if i'm explaining this the right way cuz my english is not so good also but i think u had the point. Maybe i'm seeing this story in a wrong way, so your help was definitly good for me. To have other points of view...I felt good with him yes, but I was willing to make an effort to make him happy too. But since he is an aries i dont wanted to show that i'm interested because i thought they would run away..so..i'm confused
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Posted by Geminivixen
As a Gemini we move on FAST.. I'm honestly surprised your still on this man.. I literally just moved out of my Ex Aries house 4 weeks ago.. and Now I am dating a NEW Aries guy and we can't get enough of each other. Yeah, I miss my ex and I moved on fast but I am a Gemini I am capable of doing that and I don't like to SOB.. YOU need to stop this and stop being confused. When a Aries man wants you he will claim you. Common my fellow Gemini get your flirtatious attitude going and find a new fling and move forward with life. He is and you should do. My ex did and so did I smile Everything happens for a reason at least the next man that appreciates you for who you are will be well worth it and that is probably why you and this Aries man are not working out because it's not your destiny hehe something or somebody else is Tongue



Well I sure dont move fast when I like someone, because I have moon in scorpio and rising in taurus :/, soo...its hard lol. But I just feel the need to try with him you know...I think that its just a big confusion now and I want things to be good...but I dont know what to do or how to approach him without him feeling the need to run away from me..
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I totally lost faith in this relationship Crying..i asked him to go on a trip with me and he said to go and be with him that night, so, he didnt respond directly and then I asked "do u want to go or not?" he told me "I dont know", I asked if he wanted to bribg somebody and he started to ignire me...2 days passed and i sent a text asking him to go out that night and he ignored that too...well...i guess i was forgotten. I did this to try and star over with him...i guess i'm not so lucky when it comes to aries guys..thank u for all your advise
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Posted by starlover
.....sounds like you had a lucky escape!


yeah..i guess..
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Posted by starlover
and now you have found the strength to detach from him, you will find yourself a real man
instead of a silly baby boy~~well done! smile


I hope so..its sad but I know that I'll find the strenght to move on smile. Thank you for your support
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