not all aries men are straight forward and honest!

This topic was created in the Aries forum by lovelivelife11 on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 and has 18 replies.
if an aries guy doesn't like me or want to be with me would he tell me? if it's not working out would he say so? if a relationship is not what he's looking for would he say so? this aries guy i'm dealing with is not being straight forward and honest with me. sometimes he shows me he likes me and sometimes he doesn't. i've told him once or twice basically if he's just looking for a one night stand then i'm not the person for him and i never gotten a response back from him. i've went off on him twice because i've heard that he messes with other girls besides myself and i've asked him if he was messing around with other girls and i've never gotten an answer, i told him i wanted to know because i don't want to be waisting my time with him, if he's messing around with other girls while he's messing with me. he knows i'm not that kind of girl. i just want to cut off all communication from him, stop talking to him and stop messing around with him. i really don't know what i should do if he doesn't want me why won't he tell me? i want to know so i can move on??? he has a leo moon and a cancer rising if that has anything to do with it.
i'm a cancer with an aries moon and i'm straightforward, i try to be.....
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can someone give me some advice? Sad
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You aren't really telling us a lot, but my sense is that he really isn't being very honest with you.
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I think he doesn't know how to speak about the situation.
And it could be that he isn't that mature about knowing that much about himself or how to operate in the world of dating.
Aries men aren't great communicators in some situations. I am an Aries man and I have a hard time telling people things that might hurt their feelings. Especially if I know that they seem sensitive type of people. Sometimes I don't want to deal with telling someone things that seem a sensitive issue for the other person. Obviously I overcome this as an Aries tend to prevail in situations where action is required, but nonetheless these things happen.
I would say you shouldn't remain interested with a guy who has signs of being flaky or doesn't seem able to date at the current time.
Nobody is perfect and nobody is asking you to be perfect. Not every guy you are gonna meet is going to be a total successful match for you and when it comes to a guy you might like physically and/or like the way he carries himself, it still has to be a situation where you both feel like you should date in order for it to go forward.
I am glad you are up front about your standards, and it seems like this guy isn't interested in a relationship and doesn't want to say anything that would put a damper on his perception of life etc.
Good luck.
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I have the same proble with the Aries guy I like... He doesn't say what he wants he is ok on telling and dieting with every girl but with me he is shy and he holds it back... I honestly think he does that bc he actually likes you and is afraid of rejection... But then again I can't understand Aries.. Mine messes around with every girl and we will have lol disagreements but he will always come back it's like a drug we Rey to get away but we reallyxant I'm on the same boat
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Posted by lovelivelife11
if an aries guy doesn't like me or want to be with me would he tell me? if it's not working out would he say so? if a relationship is not what he's looking for would he say so? this aries guy i'm dealing with is not being straight forward and honest with me. sometimes he shows me he likes me and sometimes he doesn't. i've told him once or twice basically if he's just looking for a one night stand then i'm not the person for him and i never gotten a response back from him. i've went off on him twice because i've heard that he messes with other girls besides myself and i've asked him if he was messing around with other girls and i've never gotten an answer, i told him i wanted to know because i don't want to be waisting my time with him, if he's messing around with other girls while he's messing with me. he knows i'm not that kind of girl. i just want to cut off all communication from him, stop talking to him and stop messing around with him. i really don't know what i should do if he doesn't want me why won't he tell me? i want to know so i can move on??? he has a leo moon and a cancer rising if that has anything to do with it.
i'm a cancer with an aries moon and i'm straightforward, i try to be.....


All signs point to he's a player. Sometimes you won't always get your answer from the person and you have to move on yourself.
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Posted by escorpianas
I have the same proble with the Aries guy I like... He doesn't say what he wants he is ok on telling and dieting with every girl but with me he is shy and he holds it back... I honestly think he does that bc he actually likes you and is afraid of rejection... But then again I can't understand Aries.. Mine messes around with every girl and we will have lol disagreements but he will always come back it's like a drug we Rey to get away but we reallyxant I'm on the same boat



with me my aries guy is shy and he holds back he does that same thing and that makes me think he does like me. he always come back to me. i just recently talked him about his personal financial problems he's having, he lost everything and now he has to start from scratch and i felt weird talking to him about it because i know i can't help him at this moment but i will be able to, and i know he may not feel comfortable talking about it. but anywho the only reason why i'm sticking with him is because i know he's having problems and he's going through some things and i want to be there for him.
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Posted by lovelivelife11
Posted by escorpianas
I have the same proble with the Aries guy I like... He doesn't say what he wants he is ok on telling and dieting with every girl but with me he is shy and he holds it back... I honestly think he does that bc he actually likes you and is afraid of rejection... But then again I can't understand Aries.. Mine messes around with every girl and we will have lol disagreements but he will always come back it's like a drug we Rey to get away but we reallyxant I'm on the same boat



with me my aries guy is shy and he holds back he does that same thing and that makes me think he does like me. he always come back to me. i just recently talked him about his personal financial problems he's having, he lost everything and now he has to start from scratch and i felt weird talking to him about it because i know i can't help him at this moment but i will be able to, and i know he may not feel comfortable talking about it. but anywho the only reason why i'm sticking with him is because i know he's having problems and he's going through some things and i want to be there for him.
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i always wanted him to open up to me and tell me what's going on in his life and he just told me a little but he didn't tell me how he felt about it but still it's one step towards him expressing himself to me....maybe....i guess....i think he's becoming more comfortable with talking to me about his personal problems. i know aries men some of them don't like talking about their personal problems and they deal with them in their own way and they'll act as if everything is ok when it's not.
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Posted by impresswho
Posted by lovelivelife11
if an aries guy doesn't like me or want to be with me would he tell me? if it's not working out would he say so? if a relationship is not what he's looking for would he say so? this aries guy i'm dealing with is not being straight forward and honest with me. sometimes he shows me he likes me and sometimes he doesn't. i've told him once or twice basically if he's just looking for a one night stand then i'm not the person for him and i never gotten a response back from him. i've went off on him twice because i've heard that he messes with other girls besides myself and i've asked him if he was messing around with other girls and i've never gotten an answer, i told him i wanted to know because i don't want to be waisting my time with him, if he's messing around with other girls while he's messing with me. he knows i'm not that kind of girl. i just want to cut off all communication from him, stop talking to him and stop messing around with him. i really don't know what i should do if he doesn't want me why won't he tell me? i want to know so i can move on??? he has a leo moon and a cancer rising if that has anything to do with it.
i'm a cancer with an aries moon and i'm straightforward, i try to be.....


Actions sometimes speaks louder than words. His words (pretty much nothing) and actions (none) are speaking volumes when you ask certain questions.
When does he speak to you? It seems like when you ask him certain questions he shuts down, when does he open up?

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he's never opened up to me but i talked to my brother about it and he said maybe he's afraid of saying the wrong thing to me and losing me or maybe he's just being a player.....but whenever he's around me he acts a little shy. like a few days after i had the argument with him about him messing around with other girls i went to pick him up and take him a few places and he acted as if he was afraid to talk to me lol, it's probably because he didn't ever think i would ever get mad at him like i did...he knows me as being a little shy and quiet but he's never seen my dark side lol ...i guess *shrugs*
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Posted by impresswho
Posted by lovelivelife11
if an aries guy doesn't like me or want to be with me would he tell me? if it's not working out would he say so? if a relationship is not what he's looking for would he say so? this aries guy i'm dealing with is not being straight forward and honest with me. sometimes he shows me he likes me and sometimes he doesn't. i've told him once or twice basically if he's just looking for a one night stand then i'm not the person for him and i never gotten a response back from him. i've went off on him twice because i've heard that he messes with other girls besides myself and i've asked him if he was messing around with other girls and i've never gotten an answer, i told him i wanted to know because i don't want to be waisting my time with him, if he's messing around with other girls while he's messing with me. he knows i'm not that kind of girl. i just want to cut off all communication from him, stop talking to him and stop messing around with him. i really don't know what i should do if he doesn't want me why won't he tell me? i want to know so i can move on??? he has a leo moon and a cancer rising if that has anything to do with it.
i'm a cancer with an aries moon and i'm straightforward, i try to be.....


Actions sometimes speaks louder than words. His words (pretty much nothing) and actions (none) are speaking volumes when you ask certain questions.
When does he speak to you? It seems like when you ask him certain questions he shuts down, when does he open up?

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he's never opened up to me about how he felt about me he's told at the beginning when we first started talking that he really liked me and that i was his girl....
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my aries guy is shy and he holds back he does that same thing and that makes me think he does like me. he always come back to me. i just recently talked him about his personal financial problems he's having, he lost everything and now he has to start from scratch and i felt weird talking to him about it because i know i can't help him at this moment but i will be able to, and i know he may not feel comfortable talking about it. but anywho the only reason why i'm sticking with him is because i know he's having problems and he's going through some things and i want to be there for him.
i always wanted him to open up to me and tell me what's going on in his life and he just told me a little but he didn't tell me how he felt about it but still it's one step towards him expressing himself to me....maybe....i guess....i think he's becoming more comfortable with talking to me about his personal problems. i know aries men some of them don't like talking about their personal problems and they deal with them in their own way and they'll act as if everything is ok when it's not.
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yep see my situation is still very similar to yours im a scorpio so i can read people very well but his its like i can read it but im never sure...he did used to say cute stuff at the begining and he came too strong but me being a scorpio i study people and take it slow...and told him we should just be friends i think he took it to the heart..but he always said you were the one that chose to be my friend i couldnt control it like he was hurt.. well... i would dissapear and give him the hot and cold treatment not on purpose but bc im scared of getting hurt... we wouldnt speak for awhile but he would be back... and now he is with this girl just started seeing her a few days ago and he post pictures of em and what not..this time i think he is in love...butttt what i dont get it is that yesterday he invited me to go to this bar bc all of his friends adore me... so he invited me..we usually go there every thursday..but his girl was there too..and most of the times he is the one that comes and says hi to me..yesterday he saw me but pretended he didnt...and i could tell he was nervous..then i saw him and gave him a hug.. but what i dont get it is iof we are gonna be just friends if he invited me there as a friend.. why cant he face me and say hi to me... its like he is to nervous to act himself around me,....and the reason why he wont open up too much is because aries hate weak people and they despise the thought of looking weak
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Posted by heroic_guy
I think he doesn't know how to speak about the situation.
And it could be that he isn't that mature about knowing that much about himself or how to operate in the world of dating.
Aries men aren't great communicators in some situations. I am an Aries man and I have a hard time telling people things that might hurt their feelings. Especially if I know that they seem sensitive type of people. Sometimes I don't want to deal with telling someone things that seem a sensitive issue for the other person. Obviously I overcome this as an Aries tend to prevail in situations where action is required, but nonetheless these things happen.
I would say you shouldn't remain interested with a guy who has signs of being flaky or doesn't seem able to date at the current time.
Nobody is perfect and nobody is asking you to be perfect. Not every guy you are gonna meet is going to be a total successful match for you and when it comes to a guy you might like physically and/or like the way he carries himself, it still has to be a situation where you both feel like you should date in order for it to go forward.
I am glad you are up front about your standards, and it seems like this guy isn't interested in a relationship and doesn't want to say anything that would put a damper on his perception of life etc.
Good luck.



thanks!....and yes i know he's not perfect and we've been dating for a couple months if all he wanted was that one thing he would have been left me a long time ago but he's sticking with me for some reason maybe because he actually does like me i'm sure he's not going to stick around if he wasn't interested...i know that if an aries is bored he will move on to the next thing...
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Posted by escorpianas
yep see my situation is still very similar to yours im a scorpio so i can read people very well but his its like i can read it but im never sure...he did used to say cute stuff at the begining and he came too strong but me being a scorpio i study people and take it slow...and told him we should just be friends i think he took it to the heart..but he always said you were the one that chose to be my friend i couldnt control it like he was hurt.. well... i would dissapear and give him the hot and cold treatment not on purpose but bc im scared of getting hurt... we wouldnt speak for awhile but he would be back... and now he is with this girl just started seeing her a few days ago and he post pictures of em and what not..this time i think he is in love...butttt what i dont get it is that yesterday he invited me to go to this bar bc all of his friends adore me... so he invited me..we usually go there every thursday..but his girl was there too..and most of the times he is the one that comes and says hi to me..yesterday he saw me but pretended he didnt...and i could tell he was nervous..then i saw him and gave him a hug.. but what i dont get it is iof we are gonna be just friends if he invited me there as a friend.. why cant he face me and say hi to me... its like he is to nervous to act himself around me,....and the reason why he wont open up too much is because aries hate weak people and they despise the thought of looking weak


I wouldn??t look too deep into things right now. He has a girl that he is seeing so looking too deep is only going to confuse you. I would take him at face value right now.
Just curious, does it say anywhere on fb that they are dating exclusively?

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no it doesnt thanks for looking that way... i guess i should start worring when its actually real...
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I think you should disregard everything everyone said and listen here, you put pressure on him, get him alone in the room and ask him a straight forward question, "do you asshole mess with other girls" if he does not answer - slap him and ask the question again, then ask him whether he wants to date or not, if he hesitates - slap him again tell him that he is wasting your time not answering, and just overall start controlling him, you should become dominant, he seems to be like a winy b??tch, would be good if he got an aquarius gf, though be the dominant one, control him, because what he does is he just goes with the flow, so get the b??tch on the leash if you really want him.
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Posted by KingOfAries
I think you should disregard everything everyone said and listen here, you put pressure on him, get him alone in the room and ask him a straight forward question, "do you asshole mess with other girls" if he does not answer - slap him and ask the question again, then ask him whether he wants to date or not, if he hesitates - slap him again tell him that he is wasting your time not answering, and just overall start controlling him, you should become dominant, he seems to be like a winy b??tch, would be good if he got an aquarius gf, though be the dominant one, control him, because what he does is he just goes with the flow, so get the b??tch on the leash if you really want him.



BAHAHAHA BEST ADVICE SO FAR...WITHOUT A DOUBT,...
HAHA YOURE THE BEST...
AND I DONT KNOW HE SEEMS LIKE TO BE CONTROLED EVEN THO HE PRETENDS HE DOESNT LOL
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Posted by starlover
Jeeeez should it really be this difficult to get a bloke in your life...
...move on to the next more mature one girl, after slapping him!
You probably deserve so much better!



Not many dateable ones out here starlover. pickins are thin
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