Pisces Female and Aries Male

Sorry but this is long...
Picture This!??_. Adult learning classroom setting over the summer. I met this Aries dude, 32. He pursued me from the very first day of class. At first I said no but eventually said yes to a study date. He showed up to the first one but could barely stay on topic, we ended up at dinner. The next couple weeks he would chase, stand me up, pay me a lot of attention and I ignored him because of the game playing. I was dating a few people so I never called and never looked for him. If he stood me up, I??d ignore it because it felt out of sight/out of mind. But he was persistent/inconsistent. We went to lunch together every day during classes.

He told me from day one, he will not chase me. By the end of our first month of interaction; I got rid of everyone else. He said he wanted going long term so let's take things slow and he wanted to be cautious. He is very caring and sensitive. He talks about wanting to be married and cries at the drop of wedding scenes in a movie. He has these moments, where he genuinely lets me in and he expresses his fears. Even fears about me, he says he thinks I may run when he stops chasing. He talks about his feeling of inadequacy not from infidelity but from interpersonal skills. He says —I'm not the best boyfriend?? I am an attractive, honest, open and independent Pisces with more than sufficient attention from men so I'm used to being chased. When it came to sex, I initiated it. When it came to spending time; I initiated it. And when our children met; it was at a cooking class I set up for them.

Our connection is AMAZING. He told me he loved soon after we met but I now realize he has a few problems with words; he uses the wrong ones! As he got to know me he gave me the pet name —my white tiger??. He told me I was not like anyone else. He tells me most men would kill to be with a woman and mother like me. I'm used to hearing men talk to me like this but it is so different when he does it. He is worshipped by just about everyone he meets, male and female. I dubbed him Mr. Ambivalence and admitted I'm was not sure why the gravitational pull to him was so strong. I have deleted him from my fb account, which he took as rejection but I felt he was getting to know me without any real risk or investment. Once we did not speak for 3 weeks because he stood me up. When we did eventually speak he was full of remorse and humility. Threw me off guard!

I had written a thank you note for Than

I had written a thank you note for Thanksgiving. He was making sincere effort, phone calls were happing, he was responsive to texts and we spent more time relaxed together. As soon as I wrote him the thank you card; he stood me up with good reason but without notice. I usually don't say anything when does this. What is the point of arguing with someone who knows they??re wrong?

He seems to be all vulnerable during sex. He asked me if I love him. I was honest when I replied that I was afraid of him. He talks about our married life during sex.

Now 6 months since meeting, I love the asshole. Now I'm not in love picking wedding dresses but I love him as a person. Because we are still simply dating; I continue to date other people. He does too and to be honest I told him, —If he could find someone better than me? Good Luck??

Just before he went on a 5 day cruise all alone, we had conversation where he told me sometimes he feels like the bad guy. I took it as manipulation because he is non communicative and he wants to maintain the relationship. I jokingly admitting writing him a —4 Page letter; sorry for Aaliyah reference??. I praised all of his characters and essentially told him I was ready for more. I described our adventurous life together raising our children while having adventures and living happily outside the box. He dared me to send it to him and I did. His response? Invite me daughters and I to participate more with his daughter. He went on the cruise and has been back since Saturday and I have not heard from him.

He has had this letter for over 10 days. How can he not say anything or even reach out to me since he came home? WTH? IDK what to do but sit in the corner and wait

Posted by sixshadesofhell
I don't know, livictori, I really don't.
But this sentence "He says 'I'm not the best boyfriend'" is a big fat red flag for me right there.
"The first time people show (tell) you who they are, believe them."

I don't think he's dating "material". It more sounds you will be in charge of upholding/ bulding up his self-confidence when in fact the word says it right there: SELF-confidence, the confidence of your m*ther f*cking self, to quote Kat Williams :-)

I don't think he is ready yet for a mature relationship, if he starts out like this. I mean he should really get himself sorted out and solve his problems before he asks others to take care of his.

And there is the truth I did not want! thanks

my intuition from day one was that's THE ONE. it's pissed me off ever since. Basically he is not ready but will be worth it in the end. I just don't think I should have to wait for ANYTHING. The other thing is I can't figure him out all of the way. I usually can sum people up in seconds. I know he has been hurt by several people but I remind him, I am not those people

Posted by livictori
my intuition from day one was that's THE ONE.

Yet you talked about keeping him at bay due to game playing.

I think he's really fucked up emotionally.

no, I only know he was born in NYC like me and his birth date.

Posted by Damnata

Posted by livictori
my intuition from day one was that's THE ONE.

Yet you talked about keeping him at bay due to game playing.

I think he's really fucked up emotionally.

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I really think you are right

Im a Pisces with an Aries man and I can tell you he is the love of my life! Ya he is possessive of me but I love that! He is my best friend and I cannot ever imagine my life without him in it! Truth is this is the man of my dreams! Goodluck to you as I know Pisces and Aries can be a perfect match I am living it and can not imagine my life without this sexy gorgeous blue eyed babe who is full of life and energy!