Posted by Flavia
Any other Aries have a Pisces mom? Mine has been pretty sentimental lately. We have become closer since my father passed away and she has been the reason I push so hard in my past. How do you interact? What are common challenges you have had?
ally have a Pisces kid too, they are just a bit young for me to ask them about our relationship so thank you for this.
Posted by lotuslily
I have a Pisces mother and she drives me bananas! a) she's an irrational alcoholic, so most of what comes out of her mouth is abusive and absolute bullshit, b) she's manipulative and interferes in other people's lives, and c) she tries to force her opinion on other people.
Today she called me a demonic child and I told her to go screw herself.
Not a good relationship.
lotuslily: my mom and I had some rough spots. We had a lot of your b&c in my experience, it literally took a lot of patience and sending positivity, then stepping completely away for things to take the course we are on now.
Posted by TimeStandsStill
My mum is a Pisces (February 23). She cries easily lol Like when something touches her heart and stuff.
TimeStandsStill: movies make my mom like that unlike nothing else!!click to expand
Posted by koi
lotuslily, that's awful for you to have to go through .
I want to say something, but I don't know what. I'm just a stranger on the internet and this is your actual life and no words of mine can fix your mom's problem. I'm sure you've done and do all you can to deal with that situation. I know it's hard when it's your mom flinging horrible things in your face, but when you step out of those bad, bad moments, and your (rightful) anger turns to sadness, please try to remember that was the disease speaking.
I'm not saying alcohol can be an excuse for everything. You mention other faults of hers which seem inherent to her personality and she's your mom so you would know.
I guess I just want to acknowledge what you wrote and let you know I hope things get better or at least easier to deal with or that you can come to terms with the difficult card life dealt you.
Posted by koi
TimeStandsStill & Flavia, lol. I'm feeling busted in the name of all sentimental Pisces cinephiles.
But you guys better beware, we rub off! In recent years, my mom who always prided herself on never shedding a tear on behalf of sentimental schmuck (or really, anything) has been getting almost worse than me!!! It's really too adorable, because she'll be weeping in front of the TV and getting mad that she can't quite contain her emotions like she used to, simultaneously.
Keep that in mind, guys : for every time you tease us about our sensitivity, you're really just stocking up on tears for an adorable enraged sniffling session at some point in future. Not that us Pisces mind patting your backs and bringing you tissues and cups of tea
I think my mom being that way made me better at expressing my emotion
My little fish has more bravado then I did t that age. My grandma says the kid is just like my mom was as a child so I am glad to have her. They do love hugs! And reasonable conversation with make believe stories do us wonders!
Posted by lotuslily
Thanks Koi.
I actually go to therapy and speak to a shrink about my mother often, and she said I have to face the reality that I no longer have a mother. She never used to be like this. She was an outstanding mother when we were growing up, but as soon as we were all old enough and she found herself without anything to do, she derailed. My other siblings say the same thing about my mother too... they all know this woman is not 'our mother' anymore. It's her body, but it sure isn't her spirit or soul. That person is long gone. Even my dad knows it.
Posted by incandescentcancerEmpty nest syndrome, her life was centered around you and she no longer feels useful. I have a good idea because I have a lot of difficulties holding a conversation with my mother. I try very hard but it's too difficult to be honest and this happened since I moved out of home a decade ago.
Why is too difficult? Does she seem closed off to it? When I started going for therapy, part of my homework was to write a letter to my mom explaining what I felt regarding her and how I felt about her and what I wanted from her. I then had to read it (I had to take a tranq before... I was so nervous because I had to tell her outright I didn't like the person my mother had left behind and that I missed my 'mommy'... I knew that some of what I had to say was going to hurt her, but it opened her eyes to how her drinking affects us all. She still drinks... but she is trying hard to improve so I give her kudos for that. You could maybe do the same thing, be brave! Another thing my therapist suggested was spending time with my mother alone, doing things... not just visiting at home. Like going out and having fun. We both have turns choosing what we're going to do, so that it's not just one person's idea of fun... I almost throttled her when she told me she wanted me to go to the ladies fellowship at her church as our one 'fun' day! But we've done some cool things together... we went to this Moroccan cooking lesson which was a lot of fun!
You could maybe try that too. Then you could both get to know each other again, finding out what interests you both and experiencing why the other finds joy in it.click to expand
Posted by lotuslily
@IC: I know you Cancer boys adore your mothers, so it must be very hard for you to feel like you've lost her a bit. I'm sorry you've had to go through that