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This topic was created in the Aries forum by chanel360 on Thursday, April 7, 2011 and has 13 replies.
Ok I'm back...you guys probably don't want to hear from me but I need to know.I did'nt speak to my Aries man for 4 days..he called me after 4 days and said 'why have'nt I heard from you in 4 days'....I told him I was thinking,so I ended up telling him the reasons why I felt things were not going right..thinking that he would care but He broke up with me...Then today he calls and says he was thinking about me and still loves me..and he was talking about things that went wrong and he also wants to see me..What should I make of this? I love him still too but don't want to be vulnerable...
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Posted by chanel360
Ok I'm back...you guys probably don't want to hear from me but I need to know.I did'nt speak to my Aries man for 4 days..he called me after 4 days and said 'why have'nt I heard from you in 4 days'....I told him I was thinking,so I ended up telling him the reasons why I felt things were not going right..thinking that he would care but He broke up with me...Then today he calls and says he was thinking about me and still loves me..and he was talking about things that went wrong and he also wants to see me..What should I make of this? I love him still too but don't want to be vulnerable...



aye yi yi.... dear one... i think you already know what to make of this. true, you might feel you love him; that doesn't mean you two should be together. your not wanting to be vulnerable seals your own coffin. you have to be vulnerable to let love in, but you should be careful about who you are vulnerable with. he's already proven he is not up to the task.
mark my words: he treated you meanly (from your other threads). he broke up with you. you are teaching him how to treat you.
love doesn't always mean you should be with that person.
xoj
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I wish Aries could slow down with the love/romance/relationship stuff.
Even sometimes I wish my life was in slow-motion rather than a constant blur of things going on.
I rush to love within my heart as an Aries. Always have had that about me, but I can take the fallout. I really wish for you chanel360 for a feeling that you didn't have to go back to him fast, or feel like saying you can be friends and take it slow would help you both. He might be bossy and pushy so I don't know how he would take your suggestions to mind.
On that note, I think you have to keep your options open if you don't necessarily want to be with him, I don't want you to constantly feel hurt by this guy, and yes those we love can do a lot of hurt to us, and it is okay not to be with the one we love.
Relationships are great, but you have to personally be okay with your world first, then be ready for hopping on that merry-go-round, because you know how things can turn out good and bad, and we want the best for you.
Good luck!
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If you want love to work, you have to work at it. However, chanel, you don't seem too clear about what you want.
You waited for him to break up with you which he did and now he's back. So did you really want to break up? Are you both mature enough to discuss things calmly and arrive at an understanding?
I've dated a lot of Libra women and what always ended it for me was I never really felt a fierce love or devotion from them. You are like boats adrift with no rudder. For fire signs we need (don't mean to speak for Aries, let me know if I'm wrong) you to be completely engaged in the relationship. Make up your mind if you want him or not and tell him. If you can't be strong and know your own mind, then move along.
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Gee Thanks...

Posted by amethyst2002
You already have been by allowing him to treat you like he did before. He's pulling this shit because he knows he can sway you to come back.

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For some reason my heart is telling me to take this time for me...Honestly at this time being with someone else would'nt even feel right at this point.Yes he has bad points but his good points are just as strong.I've honestly never been with a man that I've made love and war with..I know it sounds crazy!lol


Posted by heroic_guy
I wish Aries could slow down with the love/romance/relationship stuff.
I really wish for you chanel360 for a feeling that you didn't have to go back to him fast, or feel like saying you can be friends and take it slow would help you both. He might be bossy and pushy so I don't know how he would take your suggestions to mind.
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You're right I secretly deep down guess I did'nt want it to be over but did want him to see his ways and Ego.."Boats adrift with no rudder"...ummm I have been guilty of being awfully flighty but mostly all the planets in my chart are fire...Aries rising..moon in leo..venus in leo...jupiter in aries and so on..So I'm pretty devoted,hot and passionate! So..I agree with that halfway.
Thank You



Posted by Jonleo
If you want love to work, you have to work at it. However, chanel, you don't seem too clear about what you want.
You waited for him to break up with you which he did and now he's back. So did you really want to break up? Are you both mature enough to discuss things calmly and arrive at an understanding?
I've dated a lot of Libra women and what always ended it for me was I never really felt a fierce love or devotion from them. You are like boats adrift with no rudder. For fire signs we need (don't mean to speak for Aries, let me know if I'm wrong) you to be completely engaged in the relationship. Make up your mind if you want him or not and tell him. If you can't be strong and know your own mind, then move along.

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..It may sound stupid but thinks he broke up impulsively...I love him but am taking my time. Thanks


Posted by cappiebelle
Posted by chanel360
Ok I'm back...you guys probably don't want to hear from me but I need to know.I did'nt speak to my Aries man for 4 days..he called me after 4 days and said 'why have'nt I heard from you in 4 days'....I told him I was thinking,so I ended up telling him the reasons why I felt things were not going right..thinking that he would care but He broke up with me...Then today he calls and says he was thinking about me and still loves me..and he was talking about things that went wrong and he also wants to see me..What should I make of this? I love him still too but don't want to be vulnerable...



aye yi yi.... dear one... i think you already know what to make of this. true, you might feel you love him; that doesn't mean you two should be together. your not wanting to be vulnerable seals your own coffin. you have to be vulnerable to let love in, but you should be careful about who you are vulnerable with. he's already proven he is not up to the task.
mark my words: he treated you meanly (from your other threads). he broke up with you. you are teaching him how to treat you.
love doesn't always mean you should be with that person.
xoj
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advice and laid it all on the line...He does not want it to be over..Thank you....It seems he's opening up more..





Posted by ImpressMe
Posted by chanel360
Ok I'm back...you guys probably don't want to hear from me but I need to know.I did'nt speak to my Aries man for 4 days..he called me after 4 days and said 'why have'nt I heard from you in 4 days'....I told him I was thinking,so I ended up telling him the reasons why I felt things were not going right..thinking that he would care but He broke up with me...Then today he calls and says he was thinking about me and still loves me..and he was talking about things that went wrong and he also wants to see me..What should I make of this? I love him still too but don't want to be vulnerable...


He broke up with you impulsively and now he wants to see you. I think you should go and see him.
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Lol..I even tried to read him the post from Heroic Guy cause he seems like a stable Aries man...but his attentions went else where in the room..I just thought from Aries to Aries he might've got the point..lol
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Heroic Guy..You're my fav..
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You are exactly right...I said I was goin to take this time to "do me" and keep options open....We are back talking but I'm willing to keep it open.







Posted by starlover
I was talking to my friend recently, she is a very well known astrologer
here. She said Aries dont fair well in relationship because they are people
that stand alone..they need to put themselves first and need to go off and
do the pioneering thing. they also dont take well to the dramas often arising
in relationship. They burn out quickly and are often onto the next thing
I am with one but he lives overseas and its not a conventional relationship,
we have little time to get bored of each other
Chanel, maybe you take your time and dont make this man too much of a focus
in your life, do other things, get more hobbies, make more friends and fit him
in when it suits you, rather than the other way around
Good luck
x

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It's cool Rafail..I think a lot of Libra women are misunderstood all the time...Yesterday he called and we laid it all on the table...That's one thing I love about Aries..You guys can be so sweet and captivating..WHEN U WANT TO,lol..How is it going with your situation?

Posted by Rafail
Chanel I'm sorry I misjudged you. I think he should have been more understanding with you.

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