question regrading aries man
This topic was created in the Aries forum by vwomen on Thursday, December 20, 2007 and has 7 replies.
why is it necessary for aries man to keep in touch and stay friends with an ex. I am a virgo female. I was involved with an aries man, in a long distance relationship. Well he decided to end it, because we did not really get along. But he wanted to stay in touch and remain friends. In the begining i was hesitant, but i agreed to it. When he found out that i might be interested in someone else, then he suddenly wanted to go on vacation with me. I told him that i did not appreciate what he does, only to be interested in me because someone else was. He sends me a mean email saying how he does not care who i talk, etc...Well i emailed him back telling him how i do not really like his mean email. After all this he still wants to talk on the phone to solve the problem. My question is why is it necessary for him to be friends with me if he does not care for me. When i am done with someone i never insist on being friends, I like to move completely.
He has done it in the past too. I happen to run in to him at an event and he saw me talking to another guy, and ofcourse all of the suden he wanted me to call him. we don't live in the same city. The other thing is everytime we talk on the phone, he is still trying to change me, always telling me i should do this and that. Very annoying. I still do not get if he has no interest in me, why care?
I guess i will just move on completely since i do not want to waste my time trying to figure him out.
"My question is why is it necessary for him to be friends with me if he does not care for me. When i am done with someone i never insist on being friends, I like to move completely."
It sounds to me that the problem here is that you're not understanding the Aries, vwomen, which of course is the reason why you came here to inquire.
Maybe I can shed some light on this for you, from my perspective, of course, as I observe the Ram. Everybody has different needs, and one of the Rams needs is to have a sense of companionship with most everybody, in different ways, depending on the terms of the relationship. Eventhough, you two have ended your relationship, for whatever reasons .. because he is an Aries, he STILL needs to have some sort of relations with you. He will most every person in his life.
Because you have turned your back completely is the reason why he continues to reach out to you. I realize that for you, once you're over a person .. you completely switch them off and I'm not saying that's a bad thing .. simply, that it's not in the Aries nature to be able to do this.
In your mind .. when you're finished with someone, they are no longer worth any other form of relations with you, for you said, "When i am done with someone i never insist on being friends" .. which means, you want them on your terms only. It's your life and that's ok .. but, Aries people NEED attention and affection of friends as well. They are people people and find enjoyment in life by having numerous people in their circle.
"He sends me a mean email saying how he does not care who i talk, etc...Well i emailed him back telling him how i do not really like his mean email. After all this he still wants to talk on the phone to solve the problem."
He sends an email saying he doesn't care about other people you talk to (assuming this means men) .. to me, it sounds pretty planotic (not obssessive/possessive). You shoot one back, saying that he's being mean? Yet, he still wants to resolve the problem and you can't understand why.
What I see the problem being that he wants to resolve .. he wants to be your friend, but, to you, either he cares about you on the intimate level or nothing at all.
Perhaps, if you tried just being his friend and not writing him off completely as a person, then you might be able to see him as a person, instead of failed relationship.
Anyway, I hope that helped you to understand him a little better
It sounds to me that the problem here is that you're not understanding the Aries, vwomen, which of course is the reason why you came here to inquire.
Maybe I can shed some light on this for you, from my perspective, of course, as I observe the Ram. Everybody has different needs, and one of the Rams needs is to have a sense of companionship with most everybody, in different ways, depending on the terms of the relationship. Eventhough, you two have ended your relationship, for whatever reasons .. because he is an Aries, he STILL needs to have some sort of relations with you. He will most every person in his life.
Because you have turned your back completely is the reason why he continues to reach out to you. I realize that for you, once you're over a person .. you completely switch them off and I'm not saying that's a bad thing .. simply, that it's not in the Aries nature to be able to do this.
In your mind .. when you're finished with someone, they are no longer worth any other form of relations with you, for you said, "When i am done with someone i never insist on being friends" .. which means, you want them on your terms only. It's your life and that's ok .. but, Aries people NEED attention and affection of friends as well. They are people people and find enjoyment in life by having numerous people in their circle.
"He sends me a mean email saying how he does not care who i talk, etc...Well i emailed him back telling him how i do not really like his mean email. After all this he still wants to talk on the phone to solve the problem."
He sends an email saying he doesn't care about other people you talk to (assuming this means men) .. to me, it sounds pretty planotic (not obssessive/possessive). You shoot one back, saying that he's being mean? Yet, he still wants to resolve the problem and you can't understand why.
What I see the problem being that he wants to resolve .. he wants to be your friend, but, to you, either he cares about you on the intimate level or nothing at all.
Perhaps, if you tried just being his friend and not writing him off completely as a person, then you might be able to see him as a person, instead of failed relationship.
Anyway, I hope that helped you to understand him a little better
"I still do not get if he has no interest in me, why care?"
Does this mean .. interest in being in love with you?
Maybe he cares because you are a person he wants in his life.
What's wrong with that?
Does this mean .. interest in being in love with you?
Maybe he cares because you are a person he wants in his life.
What's wrong with that?
p-angel, thanks for you comments. I was ok with me being friends with him for a while, but then couple of times, he wanted to hang out after he finds out that i might be interested in other guys. For me that is sending a mixed signals. That is when i realized that the best thing to do is to not keep in touch.
yeah, that is what i thought. He did do the same things when we were together too. He would show more interest in me when he sees or imagines that other men were interested in me. Boy, I will never be able to figure an aries man. It was one of the most difficult relationship I have ever experienced in mylife, at the same time, it was an interesting one.
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