Sex......and Aries
This topic was created in the Aries forum by Krazy Libra on Saturday, December 8, 2007 and has 15 replies.
Ok.....need some advice. What is the best way to bring up sex with an Aries guy? Everytime I mention anything remotely sexual he goes quiet....so I need some advice on what to say to aries men that they find impossible to ignore
You're too easy .. make him chase !!!
Most men are like this, not just Aries .. if you're appearing eager to have sex, then he's likely processing this as you being loose and just ready to give up the kitty.
He wants to be special .. make him work for it.
Most men are like this, not just Aries .. if you're appearing eager to have sex, then he's likely processing this as you being loose and just ready to give up the kitty.
He wants to be special .. make him work for it.
Wow P-Angel you're on a roll tonight huh? Frustrated at something? I wouldn't really call waiting almost 3 months easy, nor would I call going on 2 trips and getting double beds easy, nor would I call sleeping in the same bed and just talking all not easy.
I asked for advice because I didn't want to just walk in, jump on him, and as a result look easy.... so to that I will say Thank you but....Next. Now does anyone have any advice???
I asked for advice because I didn't want to just walk in, jump on him, and as a result look easy.... so to that I will say Thank you but....Next. Now does anyone have any advice???
just talking all not* easy.
*night
*night
Oh, when I answered this, I hadn't realized it was the same person who was being emotionally needy on the other thread. Now I understand from a different light.
Not really frustrated at the moment ... if it starts raining before I get some outside chores done, then a little irritation might set in .. but, thanks for asking. However, you are frustrated because you can't get an apology for your feelings of HATRED (caps for you) of irritation, and now you can't get laid by him ...
You know, Aries operates from the soul and it appears that you are operating from the egos desire of dominance/control. Can they get controlling? Yes, but it comes from a place of wanting things to be positive for the love of what their heart and soul says to them .. it doesn't come from a place of their egos always having to be fufilled .. perhaps, if you stepped down from your high horse, you might be able to recognize a man standing there trying to live every day from this inner love of life, rather than trying to play catch up to your expectations of what you want him to be, rather than who he is.
Perhaps, if you tried to love him as simply and free as he loves .. then he would want to make love to you, to show you how much. If your man doesn't want to make love to you after 3 months .. then instead of trying to force or seduce the issue .. you should stop to ponder "why".
Why does he not want to .. is what you should be thinking, instead of what should you do to make him do it.
Not really frustrated at the moment ... if it starts raining before I get some outside chores done, then a little irritation might set in .. but, thanks for asking. However, you are frustrated because you can't get an apology for your feelings of HATRED (caps for you) of irritation, and now you can't get laid by him ...
You know, Aries operates from the soul and it appears that you are operating from the egos desire of dominance/control. Can they get controlling? Yes, but it comes from a place of wanting things to be positive for the love of what their heart and soul says to them .. it doesn't come from a place of their egos always having to be fufilled .. perhaps, if you stepped down from your high horse, you might be able to recognize a man standing there trying to live every day from this inner love of life, rather than trying to play catch up to your expectations of what you want him to be, rather than who he is.
Perhaps, if you tried to love him as simply and free as he loves .. then he would want to make love to you, to show you how much. If your man doesn't want to make love to you after 3 months .. then instead of trying to force or seduce the issue .. you should stop to ponder "why".
Why does he not want to .. is what you should be thinking, instead of what should you do to make him do it.
All in favor of P-Angel's opinion, raise their hand. *raises hand*
Because if you read my other thread our relationship developed out of a tragedy therefore it is hard for both of us to take that next step. Our situation is unique which is hard for many to understand.....I simply wanted to find a way to bring up the topic without alarming him because I know it's coming to that. I know that he is having a lot of questions on his end so I was simply trying to find the most comfortable way to bring it up so that he would feel at ease because there is tension in the air.
This has been a tough and horrible year (year and a half for him) for the both of us however I know that despite all of that we fell in love with each other. If this makes me emotionally needy than so be it. You would be to if you lost the love of your life to medical malpractice 11 months ago and thought that you would never find love again. It is for this reason that I do not want to do anything at all to lose this relationship! Hopes this helps you see the situation from my point of view!
This has been a tough and horrible year (year and a half for him) for the both of us however I know that despite all of that we fell in love with each other. If this makes me emotionally needy than so be it. You would be to if you lost the love of your life to medical malpractice 11 months ago and thought that you would never find love again. It is for this reason that I do not want to do anything at all to lose this relationship! Hopes this helps you see the situation from my point of view!
Perhaps, if you tried to love him as simply and free as he loves .. then he would want to make love to you, to show you how much. If your man doesn't want to make love to you after 3 months .. then instead of trying to force or seduce the issue .. you should stop to ponder "why".
Because I was someone he was very close to girlfriend and am extremely close to his family and he doesnt want to screw up that relationship and he feels guilty.....understand?
Because I was someone he was very close to girlfriend and am extremely close to his family and he doesnt want to screw up that relationship and he feels guilty.....understand?
Don't bring it up and don't force it.
If there's sexual tension between you he feels it too. But since there are other circumstances he may not be sure about crossing that line yet.
Also, if you put *any* pressure on him he will probably back off completely.
Let him move at his own pace.
Talk, be friendly and affectionate, cuddle.
When it gets to that point and he's ready to move forward then things will move forward.
If you force it, you'll just be a lay.
Just my $ .02.
If there's sexual tension between you he feels it too. But since there are other circumstances he may not be sure about crossing that line yet.
Also, if you put *any* pressure on him he will probably back off completely.
Let him move at his own pace.
Talk, be friendly and affectionate, cuddle.
When it gets to that point and he's ready to move forward then things will move forward.
If you force it, you'll just be a lay.
Just my $ .02.
Thanks leo/virgo. I don't want to scare him. We are both pretty blunt however I don't think anyone that he's dated has been. It puzzles me because he will bring up something sexual and then when I respond or say something back....he gets shy. I think that he is used to girls that go "Oh my gosh I can't believe you just said that tee hee hee" and I'm like bring it on lol...well not like that but you get my drift.
I know what you mean.
Hate to generalize but -
Seems like some guys(not necessarily Aries) will test a woman to see how bold and sexual she will be. If she's very bold & sexual he'll put her into a certain category. If she's more reserved and "ladylike" then she's in another category.
Maybe he's still trying to see which category to put you in?
Hate to generalize but -
Seems like some guys(not necessarily Aries) will test a woman to see how bold and sexual she will be. If she's very bold & sexual he'll put her into a certain category. If she's more reserved and "ladylike" then she's in another category.
Maybe he's still trying to see which category to put you in?
no I don't think that's it. That is a totally new side of me that he has never seen. He's known me for about a year and in that time. He has seen me act very professional, studious, etc...it is only recently that he has seen my silly side or anything sexual. So he knows that that is not something that comes out for everyone and it takes awhile for me to feel comfortable enough to say something like that......
I really think he's having a tug of war in his mind. Or he really was not expecting me to say something like that back. I think it caught him off guard because he is used to being the one that says things like that and making the girl blush....I did just didn't tell him that.
I really think he's having a tug of war in his mind. Or he really was not expecting me to say something like that back. I think it caught him off guard because he is used to being the one that says things like that and making the girl blush....I did just didn't tell him that.
Thank you! I think the life lessons that I have learned this year have made me take the frame of mind that life is short so live each day to the fullest and live in each moment like it's your last. I try not to step on his toes and let him take the lead which is why i responded in the same manner that he made the comment....that's why Im so puzzled that now he's silent....lol because he brought it up. I have had a different aries experience altogether lol. Our 'thing' just kind of happened...we literally looked up one day and said whoa when did I fall for you?????? So when it comes to me he really is not being the normal aries.
Yeah that was this week.....which made him call me. He's a good person and has been through a lot but I'll be damn if I continue to do this back and forth.
"I haven't known an Aries man who didn't want to initiate SEX
except my Aries brother!"
Eeeewwwwwww .. way too much information
except my Aries brother!"
Eeeewwwwwww .. way too much information
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