Someone explain this to me...........

Ok... My husband is an Aries and I'm a Cap. He gets mad at me over the stupidest sh $ t. Yesterday he was made because I stayed home from work and didn't call him all day because I was sick and took a tylanol PM and went to sleep. I've learned to ignore him when he's mad at me (is this right?)because when I keep asking him what's wrong he gets bugged out. So I ignore him in hopes that today will be better. Well.... I text him on the way to work this morning (my usual routine)and say i love you hope you have a good day. Any way we go back and fourth for a while then I tell him "i've got something for you sexy" and he texts me back and says thathe thinks i'm bi polar... WHAT THE FU@K— WHat does that mean? Just because i'm not trying to argue with him? I don't get you guys (ARIES) you say you dont like to argue but then you're so sensitive that you get all sad and mad over nothing. I don't know what to do anymore. I just want to be happy and not argue or be mad for long periods of time, but it's like this guy wants to be mad for days.... what do I do—

Erm, I can imagine it gets tiresome...You can't win either way..if you argue theres a danger you might say something to hurt them and if you don't argue you get the same treatment...Thats why I choose to argue..and then walk away when I can't be bothered with it anymore..

lol @ bi-polar (sorry that was just so random)...do you ever argue back or like a cappy your quite passive? I know as a Scorpio when I want an argument, I expect the person to actually argue back otherwise whats the point..need to stir things up a bit you know..

dont bring it up for a while, he will get over it.....we usually dont stay mad for long time unless you have a moon in scorpio like me lol, and have tendencies to hold grudges just a little wee to long hahaha

Well Morals, I used to argue back but little arguments would turn into full blown wars so I just keep quiet now and after a little while i'll act like nothings wrong and hope that he will too, but it's just getting old now. I feel like from day to day it's either hot or cold with us. One day we'll be really happy then the next someone's pissed off. Don't gt me wrong I love him to death and I have no plans on splitting but my kindness gets taken for weakness. I think i'm to nice

class act, i used to get bothered by him holding grudges for like a week at a time but now i just say fu*k it and go about my business. He usually comes around once he realizes that I could care less. Why is it you guys don't open up about things and instead you chose to be quiet and ignore? He never tells me why he's mad..not even after it's blown over. I just wish i knew what to do to show him that i love him, but i don't know what he expects from me.

Nothing will ever be good enough...just love yourself, I think you love him enough...and he should know it, if he doesn't, thats his problem..stand your ground..

Yeah Gemini, that's what i'm doing now...only I can't leave for a while because we are married and we live together with our kids...but i left on sat. night and went to my girlfriends house. I've been ignoring him. I asked him if he wanted to talk yesterday and he said "NO" real nasty like so I just went about my business. Have no idea what's wrong, but i'm tired of the silence and I'm ready to bolt my dam& self.

NEVER ignore an Aries! We'd rather fight all day then be ignored. I don't blame you at all for not calling him when you were sick and sleeping, but what it really comes down to is he needs you to want him. He needs you to need him, we are problem solvers for other peoples problems even when they don't necessarily ask for it, so in his mind he should be the first person you call when you're sick. His anger isn't really anger but an inability to vocalize this to you, and an attempt to hide his vulnerability because deep down he is probably more sensitive than you will ever know.

"i've got something for you sexy" and he texts me back and says thathe thinks i'm bi polar... WHAT THE FU@K— WHat does that mean? Just because i'm not trying to argue with him?"
He's being irrational because he's more upset that you ignored him and doesnt feel needed. I'm not defending him, but believe it or not as an Aries it's evident that he cares. It's when he stops arguing that you will know that he's stopped caring. His "bugging out" is not a hint to leave him alone but actually a sign that he wants to open up to you but isn't sure how. Treat him with kindness, keep asking him questions, and don't be afraid to point out how irrational he is being in a very nice way and he will turn around. Like say "it seems like your upset, I don't like to see you upset because I care about you, but if you don't tell me why I can't do anything about it"- may take a few times but should work with time. Good luck!

Going after your posts I'd say that the relationship is quite one sided him being the problem.

He should appreciate your personality more, needs to understand you better. You have given the impression that you argue back (which could mean that you are not a passive person) although you could try Firegirl's approach instead of tuning out. He's probably one of those types that needs a lot of standing up to.

As another Aries, I have to back up what Firegirl said. To be ignored is a crime. I would think it's strange that in 1 day you go from being sick enough to stay home all day and then the next, 'feel sexy'. I wouldn't call it bipolar but that may be his way of saying, "Wtf?"

Firegirl, you hit the spot! All that you say I can understand. I never knew that ignoring him would hurt him, I just thought that I was giving him his space. I figured he wanted that. As far as the "Hey sexy I've got something for you" I was trying to cheer him up. I really didn't know he wanted me to feel like I needed him or that his anger could be that he can't express his self. You have got to comment on my new post cause it gets interesting. I would love your feed back.

I find it quite odd that there is a marriage involved without understanding over the most prominent moods .. it's expressed as though it's foreign and not knowing what to make of it.

Well as a Capy, I'm extremely independant and it's hard for me to show anyone that I need them. I have to consider his feelings and the same for him with me. He has to understand that it's hard for me and I have to understand that he needs that. Most men when they are angry and silent want to be left alone to figure things out. I'm not a bugaboo so I let you have your space if I feel it's needed for you to think. I assumed he wanted that, but I was wrong. I'm not claiming to know everyting...the whole relationship thing is terribly difficult for most all Caps. I'm learning how to Love and how not to.