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Mar 12, 2012Comments: 0 · Posts: 144 · Topics: 17
So--you've heard it. I was cheated on. My reaction upon finding out was surprising. I was very calm and reserved. I thought I would lash out, however, we never know until we're actually in the situation, blah, blah, blah. Now, as an Aries, loyalty is treetrunking huge.
This Taurus has pleaded and begged, and cried. Truly remorseful. Begged me to ask him any question, and has been treating me better than he ever has during our relationship. I'm astounded. He's sincerely a changed man. Now whether he will be my man again isn't of my concern.
I'm riding this out. I'm largely unaffected by his cheating, reasons are left to God, because I cannot explain it.
My questions is this: how many of my Aries have been cheated on and how did the relationship go afterward, assuming you didn't write that loser off?
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Oct 02, 2012Comments: 2 · Posts: 2726 · Topics: 31
He's a changed man, but for how long? Until you take him back?
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Oct 02, 2012Comments: 2 · Posts: 2726 · Topics: 31
Either way, I'm sorry you're going through this.
I can't offer any personal anecdotes, however.
I agree. Taurus men cannot let go of the "comfort and security" a stable relationship provides. They will cling on when they sense that it is being lost. After all , Taurus values stability the most.
This is not him being sorry for the cheating but him saving his security you provide in the relationship.
What is his other placements btw?
Moon, Venus and Mars?
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Jun 21, 2015Comments: 3 · Posts: 2104 · Topics: 89
my best friend who is Aries was cheated on a Taurus man. she prolonged the relationship another year. he cheated again.
he was a loser anyways. he never did shit besides sit on his ass and play video games. she'd clean up after him, make food for him, buy him gifts. meanwhile he's still playing on his computer becoming a fat lard (he really is fat now). he's a wreck, and im glad she left him. he was useless and still is to society. he dropped out of school. wrecked three cars drunk driving and his mom buys him new ones. he's...24 or 25. basically a deadweight. I'm sure no Taurus can be as horrible as he was. but he cheated again. I never liked him because once they got in a fight and I was there, and he took MY phone and wouldn't give it back. I'm like "ummm can I have my phone" he said no and continued to pull me into this weird fight that he started to begin with.
my friend is now dating a Gemini. thank god. he's a much more bearable human being. she was devastated over the Taurus though. she really did love him. he was different from when she first met him. he slowly turned into the lousy oaf he is today. it's a shame.
if you ever notice a downgrade, I'd just say move on. of course it's ALWAYS easier said than done. however, I'd hate to see anyone else suffer like my friend suffered. I was always disappointed when she'd get back with him. but I never cast judgment on her because I know I'd do the same. love is a powerful thing sometimes. even if it the demise of one of the two people involved.
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Dec 24, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 247 · Topics: 11
Never dated a Taurus, but I cannot stand Taurus men (ones I encounter) the biggest manipulator, user, phony, and opportunist person I've ever met was Taurus guy. I wouldn't doubt that he's buttering you up just to keep you around his finger. It's what I've seen them do.
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Mar 25, 2016Comments: 235 · Posts: 1112 · Topics: 19
Cheaters are cheaters ..doesn't matter the sign..perhaps some signs are more prone...perhaps not...
...the biggest predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour...
...seems like you have a small sample size in terms of time where he was not cheating on you since you haven't been together too too long...thinking a long marriage/union... ...be very cautious... ...he needs to earn your trust... and then some.
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Mar 12, 2012Comments: 0 · Posts: 144 · Topics: 17
They are for advice. Because for the first time, I've realized that my decisions aren't the best for me when I make them.
The absolutism in your reply of WILL leads me to understand you're more Taurean.
Hello fellow aries sister!
Please don't take him back! You deserve someone who values you and treats you with respect and is very into you and you only!
Taurus men are supposed to be the most loyal men in the zodiac, so if they cheat on you generally they weren't that into you, are over you, or that's their character ( and this zodiac sign is also the most stubborn and does not like to change!). And taurus men take forever to make decisions, so he definetly thought about cheating before he did it, which is way worse. ( I remember talking to a taurus guy for a few months, I felt the pace of getting to know him/and the relationship was like snail pace! But that's how taurus men are they want to make sure they really really like the woman they want to have a relationship with!)
If someone cheats on you never take them back immediately! Otherwise the cheater is getting off easy and may do it again! They need to get the message that you will not accept that kind of behavior and have standards!
If cheating happens during the dating phase, it usually better to just cut your loses and move on ( I mean dating is supposed to be the best part, if you cheat then maybe you just aren't into the person). If the relationship is several years old or maybe the couple has a child, I know it's not that easy to make a clean break and may not always be the best option, but still it will take lots of time and work to fix and create trust again, as well as for the cheater to change.
People can change but it takes time and reflection. The relationship needs to be 100% over right now, no checking up on each other or anything. Take like a year or two away from the relationship to focus on you, date other people after you heal, reflect etc. If you both are still thinking about each other then start a fresh relationship.
Don't know how long you guys have been dating, maybe not long? But I think your reaction says a lot too! Maybe you have other elements strongly affecting your chart, but generally some with dominant aries in their chart would be very angry and reactive if this happened to them. Maybe you aren't as into him as you think?
We Aries are great at smelling BS and eliminating/not putting up with it in most areas of life, but when it comes to love we're so naive and will forgive easily because of our big hearts. Sorry this happened to you
Also definitely ask him some questions, like what are things that made him unhappy in the relationship, that led him to cheat. People cheat because they are not getting something they need in the relationship. The healthy thing to do when one is unhappy is to communicate those feelings to their partner, not to go out and cheat. If he doesn't know why, then he hasn't changed, and will do it again when he feels unhappy and is only trying to get you back because he is selfish. A truly remorseful person will reflect and figure out why, awareness is important so that they won't do it again.
And you never know maybe such a conversation can be insight and make you aware of things you didn't know about how you are in relationships. Might be helpful for future relationships.
I an Aries woman who was married to a sag. He cheated but I would have not left him for that, he was becoming more violent and that was my limit. It took me 5 years to completely leave and heal.
I was in love with this Taurus man whine I was 16yrs and I decided to tell him last year as part of my personally healing journey. He liked me as well but the timing was never right. Just before I told him how I felt he started a relationship with a Leo woman. I decided to still get to know him slowly because I want to grow old with him but we can't be together right now. He is still recovering from multiple bad relationship where he was used by women. He has financial issues sorting out so I have decided to wait it out. Because us together for the long term is worth it.
Relationships are imperfect its finding someone to go through the ups and down with. I say stay with him. The same way you would want to be forgiven.