The Frustrating and Confusing Aries

I must say that my situation is a lot different than most. Since October I have been spending time with an Aries guy that I have known for awhile. When I am with him I feel this magnetic connection and vice versa....it's crazy we never saw it coming. We are like one in the same however lately things have taken a turn for the worse. This weekend I got so mad at him because he brought up his ex...well not just brought her up but was going to do something for her and asked my opinion. Well I had just spent the day trying to help him with a situation he is going through and I found it extremely insensitive that he would bring her up. As a result, I blew up (which I later apologized for 50 times or so it seemed)and it seemed we were ok. However on sunday we had another fight/issue. He blew his aries fuse and I was really hurt by it. I did not react like I normally do (I have a horrible temper) instead I turned the tables. I sent him a long email saying that i dont deserve how he has been treating me and i need him to work through his issues and let me know when the man that i care for returns it was not rude or abrasive but just stated how i felt and how he had been treating me.......I have heard nothing. Today I had to contact him for a business related issue....I kept it dry and business like which garnered no reaction from him. I need some advice because this is scaring me—? What does the aries silence mean?

he is very mad thats why he is silent, he doesnt want to say something that will hurt you or something that can not be taken back. he is probably very surprise by your outburst of jealousy and now he has to think it over. he told you that he was going to do something for his ex because he trust(ed) you....but when you blew up aand displayed your jealousy you could have just come out and accuse him of cheating , same thing really....you showed that you dont trust him. he could have just gone behind your back and do whatever he needed to do and you would never know, but we aries prefer to keep things out in the open with people we trust
if it was me i would not apologize because there is nothing to apologize for, in my opinion you have same damage control to do , dont wait to long or your aries can turn the silence into ice and it could be over for you two.
dont try to wait him out, you will lose the battle of stubbornness
good luck

Thank you. But we were never together....or at least I was never told that we were.I did apologize like 50 million times and sent him a card. I explained that I was not so much mad at him I just had a lot of stress going on. I thought that we had moved past that until Sunday he just got very irritated when I was trying to help him...tried to help him when I was sick! He blew up and said look I know what i need to do geez. So I said okay sorry to have bothered u! He opens my card I sent and then emails me asking if I can talk...I told him no because I was still at the hospital. I finally contacted him and he starts asking me how to do the same stuff he threw in my face when he said explicitly I know what I need to do, never asking how I was feeling (he knew I had been in the ER) So for me that was it. I sent him the email saying thanks for asking how I'm feeling and expressing how hurt I felt because lately he had not been the same person and ended the email by saying when the guy I know and care about comes back tell him to call me asap.....and I got nothing. That was pre-professional only emails. I thought me showing him that I meant what I said about him not being the same person would make him take a look at how he has been acting....I guess not huh? I guess I am more hurt that he thinks he can treat me anyway he feels like it.

Well our situation is unique in that we will always be around each other because I am very close to his family....We both have had a lot of mixed emotions as to whether or not we should proceed with this....so I am not sure if it is that he is done or contemplating. How do aries contemplate? Is it usually fast or do they weigh the pros and cons like virgos? I have no problem with him keeping communication with his ex..he is close to her child and I would never expect him to sever those ties because of me. However what I did mind was him not appreciating me and what I was doing to help him and instead of acknowledging that he asks me should he do her a favor...um hello what about me— That is why I got mad!

aries contemplating? i doubt it. im sure he is more of a yes or no person. my advice give him few days to him self and than return and to him and act like it never happened,this is the best way to get over rough water with aries. try to avoid long emotional emails or conversations...if he is not ready for them it could have adverse effect.
when it comes to relationships i as an aries do not weigh in pros and cons....first of all i would not be with anyone if they had even one con and 10pros to offset it, it must be perfect in my eyes or its not worth my time and i will break it off( maybe thats why all of my relationships lasts 6-8 months not counting the long 5year one)
yes aries can be somewhat selfish in the relation ship and fail to acknowledge some of the things you do...we aries prefer to be acknowledge and be appreciated its little harder for us to show the same....maybe because we always push on forward and do not turn back to see whats going on behind us, sometimes we get caught up with what we need/want to do it blinds us and than we are on the mission,
i wouldnt want to you to be helping me if you were not feeling well, in fact i would prefer to do it on my own just to prove that i can so i could hear "well done" lol
maybe thats why he blew up at you that he knows what he needs to do....lol

firestarter, lol
high five hehehe .....dang if we aries arent the same lol
one thing i dont agree with you is that I do hold grudges little longer than i should but thats because i want to teach the other person a lesson but than its gone like that on/off

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Maybe his concern is that he doesn't want to take the chance on losing your friendship versus getting romantically involved if things don't work out...

thats bunch of b.s lol dont sell us this politically correct balogna lol chances is what we live for, i would go for it in a heart beat if i felt the chemistry and how our friendship would end up if it didnt work out would be last thing on my mind....

Well like I said our situation is different......I don't want to elaborate but I will say that we met during a truly tragic and traumatic time for us both. He was extremely close to the man I was deeply in love with and lost tragically. That is where the mixed emotions come in..for both of us. I have said that no matter what happens the relationship I have with him and family will not change but I'm not sure if he believes that.

I do not want to really contact him after the email because to me that would be like laying down like a doormat and would defeat the purpose of the email in the first place. I care about him a lot but I will not be someone I am not....and that is a submissive person. He knows I am not like this and would know I was changing for him, therefore, would not be the person he fell for in the beginning. My fear is that he will not contact me or he will decide that it is not worth it. I am not asking for a ticker tape parade...just a little respect which to me is not asking a lot! I am asking to be treated in the same regard he treats his ex who cheated on him........

firestarter im ok, and im staying away from sagitt girls by choice.....not my choice but none the less, lol
i didnt have the pleasure of meeting any single sagitt girls, if i did i wouldnt be single right now, lol hehehehe
i think im going to take my self out of the game for a while, all this women are getting on my nerves, cancer is scared to do anything (turnoff) gemini is playing games on/off ( aggravating) libra is either scared of betraying her friend or just pret4ends to like me( not sure how i feel about this yet)
im tired of all this stupid games....why there arent any women out there who are not afraid?

or so it seems the way he treats his ex from my outside view....I have no idea about the behind the scenes!!!

class act.....it's the men that are afraid.......which I don't get I mean geesh....I wish they would grow up!!!

i wouldnt know anything about being afraid :-)
i always make the first step and move and it often backfires....its little different second time around with the same one if i decide to give it another shot after some time....

Well you are a rare one! Every man I have met has beat around the bush with his feelings and ultimately pissed me up with his slow-footedness!!!

( aggravating) libra is either scared of betraying her friend or just pret4ends to like me( not sure how i feel about this yet)


Probably scared of her friend's reaction if you dated her...we hate pissing people off and worse we hate being the ones that give them the news that pisses them off... and females are funny about men; whether you two were in a relationship or not! Two to three dates and you have a mark on your forehead saying OFF LIMITS WITHOUT MY PERMISSION! I will say that the libra is also waiting you out to see how you feel. I know that is what I do. Although I may like you if you never give me any indication you feel the same way I will just play along. So I would say decide if you like her or not and then you will have to make the first move because us indecisive libras will never do it!

what do you mean by wait me out? can you explain please?
could you look on the libra forum? i bumped up two older questions of mine about the libra female,
>> I would appreciate if you can voice your opinion on it

lol.......at least one of you aries does! When I say wait you out that means see if you will make the first move, bring up your feelings first, etc. I know that being I tend to be kind of hmmmm....dense when it comes to picking up signals from the opposite sex or I wouldn't say dense but so busy trying to find out whether or not he likes me that I miss the signs that he does (blame it on that good ole libra indecisiveness) that is why a lot of times you have to be blunt but not blunt with us libras....give us a definite sign that you are interested without being desperate so "we can decide" that you like us....notice I said we can decide lol......I guess to sum it up....u need to plant the seed and then water it!

which is what I dont understand because im blunt...like aries...not as blunt i dont alert him when I have to poop like he does me! However I am up front which is why I can't understand his hot and coldness. when we see each other it is like we have been together for years and when we dont well he has good days and bad days communicating with me

An Aries person is like a roller coaster, enjoy the ride.

roller coasters are for amusement parks......not everyday life