torn between the 2..aries man-sag lover???help me!

This topic was created in the Aries forum by SEXYARIES on Sunday, November 26, 2006 and has 3 replies.
so like i said before i'm in a aries-aries relationship(same year..2 days apart)..i have been with my aries guy going on 6yrs.now..we've had some really bad times.but usually end up back together..and we have a 3 yrs.old daughter..which we are both bery committed to..thing is i've been having very strong feelings on and off for my sag ex..we used to date when i was younger..so the feelings have been the same for the past 8 years..he is in another country..and sometiems i get real tempted and call him up just to reminisce on old times..or for some hot and heavy flirting and wisful thinking..he's come to the states a few times also but we haven't "hooked up"sexually but we do emotionally..i don't want to break up my home and i can't seem to get over him..and he never turns me down..he welcomes teh idea of us one day beign able to be together..but on the other hand..isn't making any serius moves about it..or challenging that i make any rushed decisions..my aries man is a handful..possesses all the negative traits that aries men are known for..but he is the best father..and really tries to make me happy..i don't want to let him go because we have our great times together..and i hate to feel like a failure at anything..even when it comes to my heart..and he on the other hand knows about my feelings for my ex..but i deny them to him..because he has a very irrational temper..he has cheated on me before with someone else but i had no desire to do the same..i don't know if it is because secretly i'm waiting for my reunion with my sag love..or because i'm hurt that he's cheated and i'm depressed..anyways..he always end up coming back to me because ..well i'm the greatest..and non of the thrills compare to me..but sometimes i wish he'd just go and never comes back..that way i can be hurt that he left..and maybe he'll let my sag have me since he did the leaving....i see no other way and its taking a toll on me..i've been sleeping with the same person for the past 6 yrs..could it be that i'm sexually deprived..(we do have sex a lot..but you get what i mean).i'm just not excited by my current situation anymore..i respect my aries guy..but i crave me some saggie..
thanks gem..the funny thing is i have done exactly that..ask for my space to sort out my feelings for sag..but we live together(young family)..and wel at the time sag was in another state ..we basically talked like everyday..its so tempting when he is so close..but when he's far away in the caribbean where he lives..i can mange and get by just thinking well at least my daughter is happy..and one day i'll know..personally i think i'm just waiting for my dauhter to get older because my decisions would affect her..and i do want to see what lies ahead//i've never been in a serious relationship other than with my aries man..and my sag.well he ws my childhood love i never let go..andwe had to live our separate lives..becasue of cicumstances..not we didn't want to be with each other..and aries was chasing me for a long time and i gave in to him..and now this is where its at.
and just thought i ight add ..that the 2 times he's cheated on me..where..from frustration of dealing with me lying about my feelings for my ex.the firt time he cheated after finding a letter i had written to my ex that i was late in mailing..and the second time was lying about him being in the same state (new york).as we were..and at that time he was in chicago..and he had a hard timem believing we didn't hook up(we didn't have sex..but we went out)..so you see its not all his fault..i think he loves me..but i just can't give him all the love he deserves becasue of this damm feelings i have for my sag ex,
go ahead say.///i'm bad...Sad
THANKS,,GEM,,Sad

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