Typical confused BS thread. Hit me with some quick input!
This topic was created in the Aries forum by heliumfiasco on Monday, July 16, 2018 and has 17 replies.
So, ive been hanging out with this Aries like literally 3 times a week for like 6 weeks. He's the one that just got out of an 11 year relationship end of April. I like him a lot!!!! But im respecting him and his situation. He needs time to heal, i get it. He flirts hardcore with me. Tells me that he is blown away by our connection (it genuinely is next level). That he finds me attractive. That i'm perfect.... its sweet. he checks in on me daily. Is just so amazing. However, he also has been clear that he is going to take time off dating. We go out every other day. Talk all day on the phone. Its a nice friendship. He rented a room for us at the casino next week. Just all around fun.
He has expressed he needs time be alone.... so I was telling him that i'm the opposite. I've been single for a year and a half. So, he tells me surely there is someone who I have in my phone, etc that I can hit up. I say no...but that there is a new guy at my work who seems nice that wants to take me out. His body demeanor changes... then he starts pointing out women at the bar, telling me about some girl that hit him up... texting me the next day asking how my "dating strategy" was going. Just like so blatantly jealous and trying to make me feel the same. I wouldn't give in to that. I started being playful back... Like "oh yeah, she is cute. I can be your wing man.... maybe we should move closer to the bar.etc".... I was not going to give in!!!! hahaha.
But as I drove home I realized I actually really like this dude. I want to be friends, I probably should be dating others..... but if I do like him and hope for something down the line... should I keep my personal affairs secret? Its so confusing because its like were dating but not. Its a very confusing dynamic.
He has expressed he needs time be alone.... so I was telling him that i'm the opposite. I've been single for a year and a half. So, he tells me surely there is someone who I have in my phone, etc that I can hit up. I say no...but that there is a new guy at my work who seems nice that wants to take me out. His body demeanor changes... then he starts pointing out women at the bar, telling me about some girl that hit him up... texting me the next day asking how my "dating strategy" was going. Just like so blatantly jealous and trying to make me feel the same. I wouldn't give in to that. I started being playful back... Like "oh yeah, she is cute. I can be your wing man.... maybe we should move closer to the bar.etc".... I was not going to give in!!!! hahaha.
But as I drove home I realized I actually really like this dude. I want to be friends, I probably should be dating others..... but if I do like him and hope for something down the line... should I keep my personal affairs secret? Its so confusing because its like were dating but not. Its a very confusing dynamic.
The test?
He’s being childish here. He’s telling you he wants to be alone and if you don’t have someone else to hit up, and then wants to act jealous when you do.
Even if this was a test as someone is suggesting, it’s lame and immature.
If you do like him that much, maybe just tell him honestly that you like him and would like to pursue something with him. If he hesitates then at least you tried, and can move on to maybe date someone that’s more mature.
Even if this was a test as someone is suggesting, it’s lame and immature.
If you do like him that much, maybe just tell him honestly that you like him and would like to pursue something with him. If he hesitates then at least you tried, and can move on to maybe date someone that’s more mature.
Posted by TotiOh yeah, totally! No ones mad. It was just a weird dynamic. Almost like the two of us were in an unspoken battle. haha. At the time im like "Okay were friends. You asked. I told you.".... But then im like is that bad? Should I not. Is that going to work against me down the road?!
You shouldn't have behaved as if you didn't care. You should have told him what you've just admitted here- that you like him a lot. Everything can be fixed. You two are friends. Talk to him.
Posted by Ariqua
It seems he was baiting you to answer a certain way and when you didn’t he got butthurt.
Now you’re both playing games with each other. 😁
Good luck.
For me personally, libras are hard to read so we do subtle things to get some type of reaction from you to know you’re interested in us...but it doesn’t work so we gradually resort to more and more drastic measures until we pretty much ruin our chances. Lol.
I hung out with a libra one summer. He was awesome. He invited/took me everywhere. We had pda all over the place. We had sex. But his face and emotions were stone cold. I just could not read him and I’m a libra moon. Even after the sex I wasn’t sure that he liked me. It was weird.
Why can’t yall stroke our ego a little bit? 🤣 and tell us you like us?
That makes so much sense! He was even telling me a stripper put her number in his phone... etc! It got nuts! All friendly.... I was laughing my ass off. It just was so obvious. But in my head, im like you keep saying you need a break so dont get jealous!!!!
Posted by RooSagicorn
Lol oh yeah he’s fishing for a reaction! My ex husband ( an Aries) has a girlfriend that started out as friends for over a year after I left him. It took forever for them to get together.. of course he & I were together for 20 years.
Anyway, your Aries is acting more interested than his words. Just tell him you like him already, but want to support him at this point. So what to do?
Yes! His words do not flow with any of his actions.
But to be fair I know he likes me... I think he feels like he HAS to take time, and he probably does. I just dont know if being upfront about my dating life (which is non existent right now BTW) will hurt me down the road.
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Put him in his place right now. Tell him no games lol because they live and love to test. He will respect you more when you call him out on it.
Posted by SuninLibra
Aries are very confusing to Libras, well mine was, all I know about them is you have to hint that you like them but don't say it its a turn off, they like to chase.
And also stand your ground, and be clear about what you want from him and don't sleep with him until you know exactly his intentions towards you. Good luck.
Then I'm doing fantastic! I've naturally been doing just that!!!
Whoever said this was a test is talking total BS! Guys very rarely test, that’s something instinctively women do and guys don’t usually like it, they don’t like testing or being tested.
100% yes keep the other guys secret, even your friends, keep them completely secret unless asked directly and avoid revealing anything if you can.
Women get turned on by guys that are in demand, it’s social proof to them, like the handbag all the women want, the woman wants to buy it. They’ve done experiments where they’ve proven men wearing a wedding ring are more attractive, it’s just social proof. This does not apply to men. Men do not find women in demand attractive.
But you did make a mistake acting like it was a joke, look you reward him with jokes and flirting if you like what he says. But my guess is he left the conversation confused and thinking you don’t care if he sees other women. All that should have been a mystery to him, you shouldn’t have responded at all if you couldn’t do it properly, joking was the wrong move. It might be ok, who knows.
You and other guys needs to be a complete mystery to him, how many other guys are chasing you needs to be a mystery, at the moment you just revealed all your cards and they are not good, you have no other love interests and no other guys chasing you? Just appears low value, you need to step it up. I think you should have said to him, that you’re the only women he needs now... something that shows a bit more confidence.
100% yes keep the other guys secret, even your friends, keep them completely secret unless asked directly and avoid revealing anything if you can.
Women get turned on by guys that are in demand, it’s social proof to them, like the handbag all the women want, the woman wants to buy it. They’ve done experiments where they’ve proven men wearing a wedding ring are more attractive, it’s just social proof. This does not apply to men. Men do not find women in demand attractive.
But you did make a mistake acting like it was a joke, look you reward him with jokes and flirting if you like what he says. But my guess is he left the conversation confused and thinking you don’t care if he sees other women. All that should have been a mystery to him, you shouldn’t have responded at all if you couldn’t do it properly, joking was the wrong move. It might be ok, who knows.
You and other guys needs to be a complete mystery to him, how many other guys are chasing you needs to be a mystery, at the moment you just revealed all your cards and they are not good, you have no other love interests and no other guys chasing you? Just appears low value, you need to step it up. I think you should have said to him, that you’re the only women he needs now... something that shows a bit more confidence.
I think it depends on your definition of tests, guys still look for evidence and ask questions and might say something but mean another, they may provoke, tease etc... but I don’t think they try to set up traps to test neediness, whether they will make a good parent, if they possess good instincts etc... they can’t do that. If they do it’s no way near the level a women does it, and it’s simply because men value looks more, whereas a women is attracted to more than looks, and has to test whether the guy is a jerk, if he’ll leave after having a baby, if he can provide etc... women actually need to know alot more in a relationship as a guy can walk away and have not wasted time, women actually can waste time with the wrong guy. Hmmz lol this should be another question as I’m not sure myself. Guys just assume a women is hot now and she will never change, which is rubbish but they never think that upfront, women test a guy to see if they are good long term and to see if he will become something special, but then the guy never changes.
Yeah, IDK. I think we both feel weird about the situation. Its evident he is attracted to me and likes me. Our chemistry is very strong. It's confusing because he keeps saying he wants to remain single a year. But then tells me how perfect he thinks I am. How attractive he thinks I am. That our connection is so intense that it freaks him out. ETC. Every time we hangout we end up talking somewhere for at least 4 hours. No joke.
So, I would love to allow him to know how I feel, but his actions confuse me.
I guess I'm going to keep my dating situation to myself... since I can definitely tell its awkward.
Yesterday was weird when we chatted.
So, I would love to allow him to know how I feel, but his actions confuse me.
I guess I'm going to keep my dating situation to myself... since I can definitely tell its awkward.
Yesterday was weird when we chatted.
This sounds a lot like the Aries I tried to deal with.
Than the one before that, though it was better.
I notice it's hard to get to the deep feelings with fire men. It was that way with my Leo at times.
But man, no one turns my heart on the way fire signs do
They are so fine ugh
Than the one before that, though it was better.
I notice it's hard to get to the deep feelings with fire men. It was that way with my Leo at times.
But man, no one turns my heart on the way fire signs do
They are so fine ughPosted by Arielle83
Oh ya I totally get where he’s at.
I left an 8 yr relationship January 2017, and for a yr I went hot and cold on pplcuz I wanted something, but not to commit. I wanted a casual thing, but these other ppl had been single and wanted more.
Only now have I been dating. Still not completely over the 8 yr thing.
They say it takes almost half the time of the relationship to move on. I’d believe it.
Totally! It took me almost 2 whole years to get over my ex completely. I thought Aries men moved on quicker than most though? I guess a sun sign really cant determine that though. haha Kind of silly to think so.
Posted by Sag898
This sounds a lot like the Aries I tried to deal with.
Than the one before that, though it was better.
I notice it's hard to get to the deep feelings with fire men. It was that way with my Leo at times.
But man, no one turns my heart on the way fire signs do
He's so damn sweet and on point. If he says "ill text you at 2pm" he texts at 1:59pm. If he says ill see you on Thursday he phones by noon that day to confirm. I mean just totally on the ball and respectful in that sense. Its so rare these days. I love that.
Posted by heliumfiascoI like the directness too! Good stuffPosted by Sag898
This sounds a lot like the Aries I tried to deal with.
Than the one before that, though it was better.
I notice it's hard to get to the deep feelings with fire men. It was that way with my Leo at times.
But man, no one turns my heart on the way fire signs do
He's so damn sweet and on point. If he says "ill text you at 2pm" he texts at 1:59pm. If he says ill see you on Thursday he phones by noon that day to confirm. I mean just totally on the ball and respectful in that sense. Its so rare these days. I love that.click to expand
Posted by Sag898Posted by heliumfiascoI like the directness too! Good stuffPosted by Sag898
This sounds a lot like the Aries I tried to deal with.
Than the one before that, though it was better.
I notice it's hard to get to the deep feelings with fire men. It was that way with my Leo at times.
But man, no one turns my heart on the way fire signs do
He's so damn sweet and on point. If he says "ill text you at 2pm" he texts at 1:59pm. If he says ill see you on Thursday he phones by noon that day to confirm. I mean just totally on the ball and respectful in that sense. Its so rare these days. I love that.click to expand
Yeah, I didnt realize how soothing that actually is.
Fingers crossed in the future we might be able to give it a shot!
Posted by heliumfiascoYeah good luck!Posted by Sag898Posted by heliumfiascoI like the directness too! Good stuffPosted by Sag898
This sounds a lot like the Aries I tried to deal with.
Than the one before that, though it was better.
I notice it's hard to get to the deep feelings with fire men. It was that way with my Leo at times.
But man, no one turns my heart on the way fire signs do
He's so damn sweet and on point. If he says "ill text you at 2pm" he texts at 1:59pm. If he says ill see you on Thursday he phones by noon that day to confirm. I mean just totally on the ball and respectful in that sense. Its so rare these days. I love that.
Yeah, I didnt realize how soothing that actually is.
Fingers crossed in the future we might be able to give it a shot!click to expand
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