what's going on with my aries guy??

Hi guys. I have posted in the Aquarius section as well, but I guess my fellow Aquarians are too lazy to speak today lol I'm an Aquarius girl dating an Aries guy. I will tell you my story and hope someone can help me out here. So at the beginning it was all perfect, he was very affectionate, showering me with love. After 2, 3 months or so I told him that there is a possibility that I will have to move town for a while because of work. I am still not sure if I will go or not and the other city is not that far anyways. But guys since I've told him that he's turned into a different person! He's much colder with me and stuff. I mean he is not cold, but comparing to the way he was before he's definitely changed. I was even reading our conversations yesterday and felt so sad when I reminded myself how he used to be. We still talk every day and a lot and see each other often but it's like he has this wall now. And I honestly think he does love me, he's just not showing it as much. He used to call me all these cute names, now rarely. I asked him why is he this way now, he said he wants things to go slow and doesn't know me that much and time will tell what will happen?! I don't know what to do. I am really affectionate and love to show my feelings but now I've kinda built this wall as well. So I'm not sure what to do next, but I don't really like how things are going now. Give me some advice pleasee haha he's rising sun is Gemini and moon in Scorpio (if that helps lol). Mine is Libra with the moon in Aries. Thanks guys!

It seems like he's slowly detaching himself from you so your absence won't hurt him as much when it actually happens. Self defens emotionally speaking maybe?

Aquarius here...

My suggestion is to never say anything about your plans unless you know for sure that your plans are definitely going through. You shot yourself in your own foot.

Nothing you can do now outside of letting him know the plans with your job fell through and you're no longer going out of town for work, other than that not much else to do.

But seriously? If I can't talk to my guy about my plans, whether they are going to happen or not, I don't want that kind of relationship. Why did I shot myself in the foot? Because I was being honest with him? We are both in our 30s, these stuff is appropriate for teenagers in my opinion. I just don't get it. Maybe I should just end it.

It's YOUR plans, until you definitively know what's going to happen it's best to exercise a bit of patience and not blabber on about what you're not sure about yet.

You came across unsure and insecure as if he should beg you to stay and begin planning his life with you around your job situation, that's not realistic.

Nothing wrong with what the Aries is doing. He's not going to invest himself in a woman that is going to leave, it's common sense.

No offense and I ask this with deep concern Feby...Why would you shoot yourself in the foot.

What I don't understand is why women (some of the women on DXP) are not using discernment about what/when to talk about personal situations and what to keep to ones self until there is a definitive answer to the issue that's going on.

Men are not women. A lot of men take what a woman says at face value which can mean distance being created. If I were you Feby or 29 I would not say anything about whatever is going on with me until I have a definitive answer/resolution to my situation.

If the relationship is less than 6 months old it's best to use discernment and stay away from situations that can create distance and emotional conflict.

It's so full of drama when a person says I'm (possibly) leaving that it would turn any man off. Why should a man be vulnerable and open with a woman he's attempting to get close to whose possibly leaving, it's a waste of time and energy on his part.

The failure to understand men, how men calculate, tick and compute within relationships can end a relationship really fast.

Actually I have to say I do agree with you. I do lack patience and I need to be more calculated I guess. It's just when I told him I wasn't trying to create drama, but I'm just very honest and naive a bit maybe. Anyways we have talked about it and things are going back to normal I think. He told me that he was just scared that I'm gonna leave him and that's why he was acting that way. We'll see what happens. But thanks girls xx