What's up with him?

This topic was created in the Aries forum by Gemini772 on Wednesday, June 5, 2013 and has 19 replies.
Well, here I am posting again about this aries guy. Just to short the story, for you that don't know, I met this aries guy that wanted to date me after one week of seeing each other, but I got scared because he was moving too fast and I told him no at first because it was too soon. So, time went by and I started to have feelings for him and I slept with him (in about 2/3 weeks of seeing each other). When that happen he started to ignored me and told me that he was sleeping with his ex and with a friend of his ex too (while he was with me!!). So I didnt wanna hear from him again but it was hard because I still wanted to be with him, I was in love.
So, now, we talk once in a while and I started to ignore him because he only calls me when he wants sex, and I told him that I dont want that and I told him to leave me alone because Im not a ho're to go to his home just to have sex and leave. I told him that I want someone to love. But he still calls me to ask me for sex! It's so repetitive, everyday he calls me to ask that. I yesterday, he called me to ask if I want to be with him and I said that I dont want to go to his home because I knew what he wanted. He said: yes I want that but you never give me that.And I said: ''If you know that I dont give you that, why are you still calling me??'' And he didnt respond to that and hung up because he had to do something...I really dont get it!
I like him but he doesnt have respect for me! Sometimes, I think that he calls to ask for sex but he actually doesnt mean that and just want to chat because its so repetitive...I dont know..what to you think about this? I'm confused :/
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and everytime I ingnore him or I say that I dont want to be just a pick up call, he calls me!! arghghh :/ weird!!
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Well he is certanly a player and Im not in love now but it was hard to leave him. He still calls me and deep down I wanted to think that he is sorry for what he done..but no. He is playing me...thank u so much for you advice, it has opened my eyes Big Grin
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Yes he really never said sorry..he is kinda childish so Im not going to continue talking with him. I spent a lot of time trying to figure out what was happening but I guess it was all in front of my eyes..Its sad. But I hope to find someone that really loves me and appreciates my presence smile
I was just trying to find some second thoughts about this. Take you all for your support.
Moving on! Big Grin **
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Glad you saw the light!
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lol.
What'd you expect when you banged him when he had you come over?
This is why older guys and younger girls should not be together. I told you this before, and look what's happening! He's taking advantage of you being young and stupid. He just sees you as something he can use. And he has succeeded!
Next time, when an ex pops back around, there's a reason. Usually sex is involved. If you say no, they will have more respect for you and/or back off. If you let him into your panties, he'll walk all over you.
The end.
Learn this and learn it fast because you're setting yourself up for more bullshit in the future. You're partly to blame for this situation because of the way you handled it all around.
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well, if you read the story I slept with him before I knew he was with his ex and so on. And at that time I didnt have reasons to say that he was palying me because he asked me to be his gf, introduced me to his mother and friens, he would call and after he done that I slept with him because I was starting to like him and I think its normal for someone to be intimate with the one you love. I would never guess that he would ignore me after that. Soon or not, we bought wanted and that its important, and I was kinda feeling bad too because he tried so many times to have sex and I didnt wanted because I was not prepared.
And I'm not saying it was all his fault because I unfortunatly let him play me. I was hoping he would change, but he didnt and now Im over him.
Thanks.
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Sorry I made a mistake on one sentence that I wrote or I didnt expalin well but when I met him he has no girlfriend but he was still manteining contact with his ex and a friend of his ex and I didnt knew that. I just discovered that after being sexual with him and he started to ignore me. I would never do that to someone!! I was in love at that time and I think that he was too but things started to change after the sex

Ps. sorry, my english is not so good
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Yes, that's exactly what happened and when I confronted him about that he said:'' well, at least I was honest'' -.-...ok.
Now I told him to leave me alone because I always make the role of stupid girl when I come to see him. I'm always the one to go see him and he never appreciates my company, wanting just sex and not taking me to see a movie or get something to drink..you know...I'm over and I'm sick of being used. I told him that and he immediatly asked me where were I and called but I didnt answer. He even said that he likes me...
I'm really sad that this turned out this way, I still like him but I know that its time to move on..I deserve so much better.
He's immature and doesnt know what he wants...I just wich he could tell me what he really thinks and maybe one day he'll grow and see what he has lost...maybe..but now I'm gonna move on.
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Gemini772 thats so typical moving too fast. You dont need it or want it, and he will end up asking asking questions and wanting to know why you wont give him a chance, and then he will blame for things he says etc, etc, etc,,,
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oh oh no, thats a big mistake!!! Now he thinks things are all going to go his way, which he will flatly deny but once this has happend there will be no stopping him. Im answering your message as i read every individual item youve wrote about, i.e i havent read it all yet, but going on your opening line, i can see where this will end up if you are not careful.
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typical
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omg this is just soooo typical, hanging up because he couldnt answer a question, he didnt even like being quizzed.
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You sound strong minded and that is a good trait to have at your young age. Whatever you do, do not let this guy in your life again. Of course its normal to want to be intimate with someone you find attractive and who seems to feel the same way towards you, but theres real love, and theres selfish love.
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Posted by elaine67
You sound strong minded and that is a good trait to have at your young age. Whatever you do, do not let this guy in your life again. Of course its normal to want to be intimate with someone you find attractive and who seems to feel the same way towards you, but theres real love, and theres selfish love.



Thank you for your reply...I guess in this case it was selfish love. He just wanted sex..never liked me and I was so stupid for believing in him. I hope I get lucky next time...tired of kissing frogs..
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I made the same mistake. I got together with an Aries 15 years older than me and he was still married, yea i know alarm bells. I unknowingly helped him out of his 'so called marriage' he called it, he had a reason to, me, thats what he told me. I often asked him if he was so unhappy why the hell didnt he get divorced sooner and his answer was always because it was easier not to. I couldnt understand him. I do now. We broke up a few times in the last 2/3 yrs, and on getting back together once, he said, now ive got a young g.f again; i didnt like that much but i brushed it off??!! Incidently it was 2 years ago that when we go back together, he admitted, well i said that i hadnt been with anyone else because i didnt want to and i said have you, he couldnt answer, the look on his face said it. I couldnt believe how he could. I asked him how he could and he didnt want to talk about it. He said it meant nothing to him, ha typical. What so she just showed a bit of interest in you and you couldnt help yourself??!! He said if he knew..... then he stopped, and i said if you knew what, if you knew that id come back you wouldnt have done it, is that it??!! He couldnt answer again and he didnt want to try. Now i know i hadnt seen him for about 6 months, but nevertheless, knowing that he actually did go with someone else, realy realy upset me, it is hard when you do still love the guy. One last thing, ive tried to end it more times and he begged me to stay. In the very end, feb of this year, not long after val day, he sent me very nasty hurtful texts, making comments on my family and what he thought my late mother would have said to me. That was the very last straw and i know dam well what he would have said in reply, 'you made me'.
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I think i was sucked in. We nearly got married!!! I could see the changes in him happening fast. My head has been in circles. I know he liked me, he just couldnt handle his feelings he had for me at his age he didnt know what to do with them, and it scared him, he told me this and i could see it. I said dont be theres no need. Arians dont do scared. It exposes them. Makes them feel vulnerable, insecure and its these feeling that brings out the nastiness in them. Then they have the gaul to blame you??!! We are better off out of it.
Take Care X






was feeling things he hadnt felt before, or in a long long time.
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Posted by elaine67
I think i was sucked in. We nearly got married!!! I could see the changes in him happening fast. My head has been in circles. I know he liked me, he just couldnt handle his feelings he had for me at his age he didnt know what to do with them, and it scared him, he told me this and i could see it. I said dont be theres no need. Arians dont do scared. It exposes them. Makes them feel vulnerable, insecure and its these feeling that brings out the nastiness in them. Then they have the gaul to blame you??!! We are better off out of it.
Take Care X






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OMG Sad, I'm sorry that you went trought that! He didnt have the right to do that to you! Yeah, I notice that he doenst open up so much and when we confront them they get pissed off...I dont get it. To be in a relationship you have to comunicate with your partner...
You deserve a lot better than this and I hope that now you'll find the right one for you! Thank u for sharing your storysmile, it helped a lot **
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